Fivirgo15
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Aries I need help l love you but...
I would love to hear from you guys,
Thank you 😉
Thank you 😉
You messed up... that is coming from an Aries sun...
I am sorry... but yes... I would got to ends of the earth for a woman I truly love... I would fly around the world to see her once...
I am not quite as quick as he is... but if you loved him you should have jumped... good luck fixing it... He may take you back because hearts of fire don't die that quickly for an Aries...
Best of luck
PM
I am sorry... but yes... I would got to ends of the earth for a woman I truly love... I would fly around the world to see her once...
I am not quite as quick as he is... but if you loved him you should have jumped... good luck fixing it... He may take you back because hearts of fire don't die that quickly for an Aries...
Best of luck
PM
Virgo, you over calculated. The Aries put things in simple terms. We are direct.
We are also idealistic, "I would drive even further for the love of my life." But, how realistic is that?
Aries is known for moving quickly and moving on quickly. One reason is that we are simple, direct, uncomplicated. There's little to no mystery. And being this way makes it easy to move on. He told you he can't take the distance. He wanted to see you more than once a week.
Looks like the Aries felt that he did all he could.
You guys were at a decision point in the relationship and you could not agree.
We are also idealistic, "I would drive even further for the love of my life." But, how realistic is that?
Aries is known for moving quickly and moving on quickly. One reason is that we are simple, direct, uncomplicated. There's little to no mystery. And being this way makes it easy to move on. He told you he can't take the distance. He wanted to see you more than once a week.
Looks like the Aries felt that he did all he could.
You guys were at a decision point in the relationship and you could not agree.
Thanks PM,
Maybe it's not meant to be, the situation is complicated and I really can't move right now for him.
If it's true that Aries move on so quickly that means it wasn't true love than.
Maybe it's not meant to be, the situation is complicated and I really can't move right now for him.
If it's true that Aries move on so quickly that means it wasn't true love than.
I understand, I'm super realistic.
To me it's black and white.
You love someone you do whatever it takes to keep it going.
it's just hard to get used to it, everything changed in few days.
To me it's black and white.
You love someone you do whatever it takes to keep it going.
it's just hard to get used to it, everything changed in few days.
If you love someone and you do whatever it takes to keep it going; then, you would move in with him as he requested.
Posted by VenusAquarius
If you love someone and you do whatever it takes to keep it going; then, you would move in with him as he requested.
I respectfully disagree.
If the OP has certain values, morals or beliefs that make her want marriage before shacking then by all means she should stand her ground. I am sure she thought he would understand. Maybe her family wouldn't allow it. My father would not have permitted me to shack.
I guess the question here is what was the reaction or response to the wanting to be engaged statement you made?
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Posted by Nala13Posted by VenusAquarius
If you love someone and you do whatever it takes to keep it going; then, you would move in with him as he requested.
I respectfully disagree.
If the OP has certain values, morals or beliefs that make her want marriage before shacking then by all means she should stand her ground. I am sure she thought he would understand. Maybe her family wouldn't allow it. My father would not have permitted me to shack.
I guess the question here is what was the reaction or response to the wanting to be engaged statement you made?
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You are right Nala13,
I'm 30 years old and unfortunately I've made that mistake once and don't want to do it again.
He knew this since the beginning, I respect my family a lot and that wouldn't be ok with them.
After my statement he said that he thinks it's too soon and we don't know each other well for that.
Well for me I don't know him well enough to move in with him so I guess, we can't be together.
He told me, he's lost and doesn't know what to do.
This past 2 weeks have been bad for him I guess but it's not my fault
This past 2 weeks have been bad for him I guess but it's not my fault
Because he was turned down, it made him question your and his feelings in the relationship. He's possibly feeling like both of you are not in the same page as he thought ya'll were during those nine months. An Aries male, is a big blow to his ego; rejection. He was moving too quickly for you, while you were taking your time. Two different point of views in a relationship.
I would like to say, if a man loves a woman, he will understand, and if the woman loves him back, she will understand him too.
I would like to say, if a man loves a woman, he will understand, and if the woman loves him back, she will understand him too.
Posted by IridescenceMorpha
Because he was turned down, it made him question your and his feelings in the relationship. He's possibly feeling like both of you are not in the same page as he thought ya'll were during those nine months. An Aries male, is a big blow to his ego; rejection. He was moving too quickly for you, while you were taking your time. Two different point of views in a relationship.
I would like to say, if a man loves a woman, he will understand, and if the woman loves him back, she will understand him too.
You are very right.
Thank you
Thank you
Posted by Nala13Posted by VenusAquarius
If you love someone and you do whatever it takes to keep it going; then, you would move in with him as he requested.
I respectfully disagree.
If the OP has certain values, morals or beliefs that make her want marriage before shacking then by all means she should stand her ground.click to expand
This is not me principle or moral. It's the OP's.
It seems she may share her Aries' idealism.
You make a choice, for whatever reason, and what else is expected?
She said,
"You love someone you do whatever it takes to keep it going."
"You love someone you do whatever it takes to keep it going."
So Nala, you're respectfully disagreeing with the OP.
Posted by VenusAquarius
If you love someone and you do whatever it takes to keep it going; then, you would move in with him as he requested.
I am disagreeing with this statement. I do not believe you have to compromise your beliefs or values or "do whatever it takes to keep it going". If an engagement is what she wants before moving in, then she should wait on that regardless of what he "requested". What about her request? I think we as women settle more often than not because we are afraid of losing the man or afraid he will find someone else or leave us. So we change ourselves and what happens...things usually don't work out right anyway.
I think he was right for saying they are not ready for marriage and I think she is right for wanting a commitment first. Sometimes things just don't work out.
Oh trust me I did,
He makes a lot more than I do so I don't think that's the problem.
He has put a little more effort in the relationship for sure.
He makes a lot more than I do so I don't think that's the problem.
He has put a little more effort in the relationship for sure.
I don't believe "...you do whatever it takes to keep it going."
Posted by Nala13Posted by VenusAquarius
If you love someone and you do whatever it takes to keep it going; then, you would move in with him as he requested.
I am disagreeing with this statement. I do not believe you have to compromise your beliefs or values or "do whatever it takes to keep it going". If an engagement is what she wants before moving in, then she should wait on that regardless of what he "requested". What about her request? I think we as women settle more often than not because we are afraid of losing the man or afraid he will find someone else or leave us. So we change ourselves and what happens...things usually don't work out right anyway.
I think he was right for saying they are not ready for marriage and I think she is right for wanting a commitment first. Sometimes things just don't work out.click to expand
I think you are 100% right
Posted by Nala13Posted by VenusAquarius
If you love someone and you do whatever it takes to keep it going; then, you would move in with him as he requested.
I am disagreeing with this statement. I do not believe you have to compromise your beliefs or values or "do whatever it takes to keep it going". If an engagement is what she wants before moving in, then she should wait on that regardless of what he "requested". What about her request? I think we as women settle more often than not because we are afraid of losing the man or afraid he will find someone else or leave us. So we change ourselves and what happens...things usually don't work out right anyway.
I think he was right for saying they are not ready for marriage and I think she is right for wanting a commitment first. Sometimes things just don't work out.click to expand
And that's good for the OP to know. Perhaps she will feel more comfortable with her decision and stop wondering why it is over.
Posted by VenusAquarius
I don't believe "...you do whatever it takes to keep it going."
I'm sorry but this person knew since the beginning, and he was the one who wanted to still be with me, he said he understood and that he loved me. I don't know why he expected me to change my mind after 9 months.
I wanted to know if this is normal behavior for this sign.
If that's the case I'll be sure not to get involved with one in the future
If that's the case I'll be sure not to get involved with one in the future
Posted by Aleese76Posted by Nala13Posted by VenusAquarius
If you love someone and you do whatever it takes to keep it going; then, you would move in with him as he requested.
I am disagreeing with this statement. I do not believe you have to compromise your beliefs or values or "do whatever it takes to keep it going". If an engagement is what she wants before moving in, then she should wait on that regardless of what he "requested". What about her request? I think we as women settle more often than not because we are afraid of losing the man or afraid he will find someone else or leave us. So we change ourselves and what happens...things usually don't work out right anyway.
I think he was right for saying they are not ready for marriage and I think she is right for wanting a commitment first. Sometimes things just don't work out.
This is true too. My question was, did she do anything to alleviate the financial burden on him to meet him halfway on some things.... They stay 2 hours apart, so she could drive an hour, or if he drives there, she could pay for dinner, if he decides to do both, then, plan a say to drive to him....It will always take two to make something work. Honestly, if I had done what he did, I would have felt the same way.click to expand
I did, and as I said before he makes a lot more than me so I don't think that was the problem
Posted by Fivirgo15
I wanted to know if this is normal behavior for this sign.
If that's the case I'll be sure not to get involved with one in the future
When an Aries feels we have done our best, we will move on.
Had a Scorpio tell me he's never getting married but, wanted me to shack. No thanks, I moved on. I'm sure he wondered how I could let go like that. It pretty simple to me, he said "never."
No harm, no foul... different life style choices.
Posted by Aleese76Posted by Fivirgo15
I wanted to know if this is normal behavior for this sign.
If that's the case I'll be sure not to get involved with one in the future
I do not know much about the sign, but I am on a serious note with an Aries and we have discussed our future together. I think someone said that Aries move pretty quick, so I am not sure. Mine told me that I am his other whole, "because I will never be his half of anything" and I am not standing behind him, but walking beside him. I have dated other guys, but this one, for now anyway, connects with me emotionally, and I love that.click to expand
Like I said I really wish you the best,
My ex said all those things and talked about a family, kids,a dog, a house etc...
I knew his all family after a month and really wanted me to be in his future. I'm not sure what happened, but an argument wouldn't make disappeared If I love someone that much
Posted by Aleese76
I did, and as I said before he makes a lot more than me so I don't think that was the problem
In a man's mind, that could have been the problem, but then again, maybe not. Who knows his mindset, but him?? Just don't exclude yourself from one sign because of this. Every person is different, no matter the sign. There are a lot of things that can cultivate a person into who they are. My Aries saw his mother killed, so that is going to be something else for him, well, us to deal with. So, in essence, you may find another Aries who is just right for you.
JennGem taught me how to look it up by moons also, so maybe sneak and ask the next one his date of birth, time, and place and look him up. Then cross reference his moon with yours and check the compatibility.
I did that and me and my Aries are a perfect match. We will have arguments, as we both are stubborn, but we will also have a relaxing affect on each other.....JS
Thank you,
I will I know his but didn't check.
I wish you the best with your relationship 🙂
My problem is that we were maybe too compatible in bed!!! It's going to be hard to find that again 😛
Posted by Aleese76Posted by Fivirgo15Posted by Aleese76
I did, and as I said before he makes a lot more than me so I don't think that was the problem
Thank you,
I will I know his but didn't check.
I wish you the best with your relationship 🙂
My problem is that we were maybe too compatible in bed!!! It's going to be hard to find that again 😛
I made mine wait....I was like you, uninterested. What attracted me to him was his dancing.....OMG, he can dance....I stepped up to him to give him props on his dancing. He liked that I knew what I wanted. I asked for his number and gave him mine, with no intentions of calling him for a week. A day later, he started checking in with me....Where he was, what he was doing, etc...I didn't give two shits, because I wasn't interested.
And the love making.......(In a Shaquana voice)....Girl, Yes!!! LOL!! He makes love with his heart, not just his d----!!click to expand
Haha you are sooo right!!!
Never had a guy stair at my eyes that way wile.... You know lol
A women knows when it's sex or love
He may cut you off to get you out of his mind. Did you and him ever talk about your relationship before his request for you to move in? Didn't the distance come up? I think when a man loves a woman he will need to be with her, at least in close proximity. Hot Aries, well, yeah definitely.
Oh bull!
I can't believe some of you are making her feel bad for wanting a man to respect HER pace & what she's comfortable with! Her morals, her opinion & what she wants matters too! He's not suddenly some God all b/c he's an Aries
Had the tables been turned & had she been rushing him, people would attack her like crazy, telling her not to rush something that shouldn't be rushed!
If you're not comfortable moving in with him or engaging in marriage with him after less than a year, so what! If we were having this convo 10 years into it, that'd be different. But 1 year?! Oh come on! Clearly his love for her was NOT that strong b/c the minute she wants the relationship to be about her & her feelings for once, he's ready to run!
I get that he's an Aries & that Aries don't like to hold back & wait, BUT patience goes a long way & how silly of him to give her an ultimatum, as if her feelings are supposed to be exactly aligned with his at the exact same time. Again, had she been the 1 throwing a tantrum all b/c some guy isn't ready to move in with her in less than a year, guys AND girls would be over her azz, telling her that she's rushing & being selfish to threaten/actually call off a relationship for that.
I can't believe some of you are making her feel bad for wanting a man to respect HER pace & what she's comfortable with! Her morals, her opinion & what she wants matters too! He's not suddenly some God all b/c he's an Aries
Had the tables been turned & had she been rushing him, people would attack her like crazy, telling her not to rush something that shouldn't be rushed!
If you're not comfortable moving in with him or engaging in marriage with him after less than a year, so what! If we were having this convo 10 years into it, that'd be different. But 1 year?! Oh come on! Clearly his love for her was NOT that strong b/c the minute she wants the relationship to be about her & her feelings for once, he's ready to run!
I get that he's an Aries & that Aries don't like to hold back & wait, BUT patience goes a long way & how silly of him to give her an ultimatum, as if her feelings are supposed to be exactly aligned with his at the exact same time. Again, had she been the 1 throwing a tantrum all b/c some guy isn't ready to move in with her in less than a year, guys AND girls would be over her azz, telling her that she's rushing & being selfish to threaten/actually call off a relationship for that.
Gosh some adults act like children. They want instant gratification. And if they don't get what they want, when they want it, exactly how they want it, they throw tantrums & threaten to run!
How can you knock someone for not being ready to make a huuuuuuuge leap in a relationship when the 2 people have only been together for less than a year?!
What if she threatened to leave him all b/c he wasn't' ready to have kids just yet? Again, people would be all over her azz like white on rice, telling her that she's rushing! It wouldn't matter that she wants kids right now at this second. What people would pay the most attention to is the extreme reaction & aggression in her response all b/c he's choosing not to do something that would make him uncomfortable! So if he'd deserve that same respect if she was begging him to knock her up, for example, why can't she get the same respect in this particular situation?!
Normally when someone goes to that extreme to rush, they are most likely more in love with the concept of love/marriage than they are with the actual person!
This is why relationships/marriages fail! 2 people are so quick to give each other ultimatums & focus so much on the title, that they forget to actually take out enough time to get to know each other. Then when their marriage goes to hell in a hand basket, they want people to feel sorry for them. Bull.
Do things when YOU are ready. Yes, it will suck to the other person if your pace is slower than theirs, BUT if the foundation you've built with each other is truly set in stone, it will not completely shatter things to the point of no return. Hell, if anything, the fact that he was willing to cut her off all b/c she wasn't comfortable just YET (keyword) is even more reason to pump the brakes & take it slow!
How can you knock someone for not being ready to make a huuuuuuuge leap in a relationship when the 2 people have only been together for less than a year?!
What if she threatened to leave him all b/c he wasn't' ready to have kids just yet? Again, people would be all over her azz like white on rice, telling her that she's rushing! It wouldn't matter that she wants kids right now at this second. What people would pay the most attention to is the extreme reaction & aggression in her response all b/c he's choosing not to do something that would make him uncomfortable! So if he'd deserve that same respect if she was begging him to knock her up, for example, why can't she get the same respect in this particular situation?!
Normally when someone goes to that extreme to rush, they are most likely more in love with the concept of love/marriage than they are with the actual person!
This is why relationships/marriages fail! 2 people are so quick to give each other ultimatums & focus so much on the title, that they forget to actually take out enough time to get to know each other. Then when their marriage goes to hell in a hand basket, they want people to feel sorry for them. Bull.
Do things when YOU are ready. Yes, it will suck to the other person if your pace is slower than theirs, BUT if the foundation you've built with each other is truly set in stone, it will not completely shatter things to the point of no return. Hell, if anything, the fact that he was willing to cut her off all b/c she wasn't comfortable just YET (keyword) is even more reason to pump the brakes & take it slow!
It's hypocritical to say..."if you love someone and you do whatever it takes to keep it going" but, not be apply it equally to yourself.
Everyone's entitled to have whatever standards, morals, values,dreams etc. but when someone doesn't share your standards, morals, values, etc. why is there any blame involved? No one is to blame.
Then, to go on an ask...
"I wanted to know if this is normal behavior for this sign. If that's the case I'll be sure not to get involved with one in the future."
What behavior? Two people having different life style choices?
It's just that simple. According to the OP, the man said he can't take the distance.
As a mature woman, we have our standards, morals, values and we live with the benefits and the consequences without getting angry or blaming others for not sharing them, especially the ones that we feel we will not compromise for. Big girl panties.
I described a similar situation to the OP's. I did not whine or cry because it was my choice. I was not going to compromise and the relationship was over. I did not blame the Scorpio. It was just over. Deal breaker. We stayed friends. I did not wonder if this was normal behavior for Scorpios...acting totally devoid of my decision in the situation.
Everyone's entitled to have whatever standards, morals, values,dreams etc. but when someone doesn't share your standards, morals, values, etc. why is there any blame involved? No one is to blame.
Then, to go on an ask...
"I wanted to know if this is normal behavior for this sign. If that's the case I'll be sure not to get involved with one in the future."
What behavior? Two people having different life style choices?
It's just that simple. According to the OP, the man said he can't take the distance.
As a mature woman, we have our standards, morals, values and we live with the benefits and the consequences without getting angry or blaming others for not sharing them, especially the ones that we feel we will not compromise for. Big girl panties.
I described a similar situation to the OP's. I did not whine or cry because it was my choice. I was not going to compromise and the relationship was over. I did not blame the Scorpio. It was just over. Deal breaker. We stayed friends. I did not wonder if this was normal behavior for Scorpios...acting totally devoid of my decision in the situation.
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