Aries man avoiding feelings (Page 2)

Posted by saggieheart

Posted by Arielle83

Posted by saggieheart

Posted by Arielle83

Posted by saggieheart

Posted by Sunmoonrising

Can you meet up with him and communicate through talking face to face. No games and just ask him outright what you need to say?

One thing I've learnt over time is to not text stuff. Either call or face to face. My aries isn't massive into texting and jokes about alot so based on that I would assume he wasn't keen on me but that's not the case at all. When we are together and chat it's much better and clearer. I also have cap moon so like to be very clear x

We live in separate countries so difficult. This is why I reached out to him again, made up my mind that if he felt the same we could work towards being properly together once and for all, it's so much clearer when we are

Oh is this a 90 day fiancé scenario?

Lol, yeah we see each other but not enough but to make it happen we need the talk

How many times u seen in each in person?

How far apart?

A three hour plane ride. We have seen each other about 20ish times in two years, for long weekends or weeks etc what fits in with holiday time

click to expand

Doesn’t it bother you that after 2 years you 2 are still being strangers?

I was seeing an Aries man for almost 5 years, different countries, it was a beautiful illusion that became a bit too real when the truth hit home

Still wouldn’t have missed it for the world

💜

Posted by MyStarsShine

I was seeing an Aries man for almost 5 years, different countries, it was a beautiful illusion that became a bit too real when the truth hit home

Still wouldn’t have missed it for the world

💜

Yeah it is, for two space loving people it seems ideal but sometimes there's too much space. I wasted about 10 years of my married life, don't think I could go five without some goal to aim for, maybe if I were younger!

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by saggieheart

Posted by Arielle83

Posted by saggieheart

Posted by Arielle83

Posted by saggieheart

Posted by Sunmoonrising

Can you meet up with him and communicate through talking face to face. No games and just ask him outright what you need to say?

One thing I've learnt over time is to not text stuff. Either call or face to face. My aries isn't massive into texting and jokes about alot so based on that I would assume he wasn't keen on me but that's not the case at all. When we are together and chat it's much better and clearer. I also have cap moon so like to be very clear x

We live in separate countries so difficult. This is why I reached out to him again, made up my mind that if he felt the same we could work towards being properly together once and for all, it's so much clearer when we are

Oh is this a 90 day fiancé scenario?

Lol, yeah we see each other but not enough but to make it happen we need the talk

How many times u seen in each in person?

How far apart?

A three hour plane ride. We have seen each other about 20ish times in two years, for long weekends or weeks etc what fits in with holiday time

Doesn’t it bother you that after 2 years you 2 are still being strangers?

click to expand

When we are together it's like the missing piece, the most comfortable place, the most passionate ride, we talk, we listen, we have fun experiences, he does little amazing things like once he drove me back to the airport and he was rushing but instead he took me to my favourite coffee shop and bought me coffee for my flight and chocolate and then proceeded full pelt to the airport. You are with an aries you know how they are, how that feels.

When we are apart we talk and Skype and then we get jealous and we fight and I can say some hurtful things when he goes into Avoidance mode, he says he just wants to be understood but at the end of the day we all want that

Posted by Sunmoonrising

Posted by saggieheart

Posted by Sunmoonrising

Can you meet up with him and communicate through talking face to face. No games and just ask him outright what you need to say?

One thing I've learnt over time is to not text stuff. Either call or face to face. My aries isn't massive into texting and jokes about alot so based on that I would assume he wasn't keen on me but that's not the case at all. When we are together and chat it's much better and clearer. I also have cap moon so like to be very clear x

We live in separate countries so difficult. This is why I reached out to him again, made up my mind that if he felt the same we could work towards being properly together once and for all, it's so much clearer when we are

Oh ok maybe that's why he's abit hesitate to move forward as you aren't in same countries. Those relationships aren't easy hun but it can work if you truly love each other.

click to expand

Yeah I'm willing

Posted by saggieheart

Posted by MyStarsShine

I was seeing an Aries man for almost 5 years, different countries, it was a beautiful illusion that became a bit too real when the truth hit home

Still wouldn’t have missed it for the world

💜

Yeah it is, for two space loving people it seems ideal but sometimes there's too much space. I wasted about 10 years of my married life, don't think I could go five without some goal to aim for, maybe if I were younger!

click to expand

The irony is when the LDR becomes a normal style rship, it often crumbles. I’ve seen that a few times. I guess the illusion is shattered by the mundanity and reality of every day life

Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.😬

Posted by saggieheart

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by saggieheart

Posted by Arielle83

Posted by saggieheart

Posted by Sunmoonrising

Posted by saggieheart

Posted by Sunmoonrising

Posted by saggieheart

Both I guess. I learned to be more attentive to him reading that Aries like to feel attention whereas im a saggie and we don't really feel that need, so we can seem cold and unconcerned, but I love this man to the bones and I made the effort. We are off at the moment and I'm struggling to get back in.

We both use social media and things were going so well, and I speak to many people across there and he can see, but I always keep it just friendly. One evening he was a bit off, so I questioned it and we fell out, him stating that I'm a smart woman, not like any other and I should know when he needs space or questions— I text him the next day, apologised for my side of the argument but nothing.

About a week later I posted a picture, I was out having drinks, he immediately started unfollowing everyone on his social media including me, then followed approx 100 women then unfollowed. I text him saying if you are looking for a reaction you now have it. I called him a p***k and told him that his behaviour will never win him any friends. No response.

Fast forward to New Year and I wished him well and I apologised for what I called him, I hate hurting anyone with my saggie fire unless they are despicable people and he is not.

Anyway we are talking again now, slowly, I know he respects me, he always tells me that, but I don't know where I stand with him, a friend, a lover, does he care for me.

I thought I would lay it out on the table for him, so that he had no uncertainty, but he will not do the same? 😔

I really mean this in a nice way but all this back and forth sounds a little immature. To get back in his good books just make him laugh. Nothing too heavy. Try not to win him over with anything over than talking heavy as such. Sounds a little bit like he's confused about how he feels. You know what aries are like, when they like someone they are very consistent. X

Yeah I've tried that tactic, and it works, then he backs off. It's frustrating when you want everything to happen yesterday!!

Does he have anyone else? I'm just wandering if it's worth asking him outright so you know where you stand more.

I know aries men are amazing and it's hard to let them go but talking and asking him could work. Maybe just be direct and tell him you want him lol

I asked him about an hour ago by text if he wanted to be together again, no response.

So I text saying it's your choice and your right not to want it, I then said I love you, good evening.

It's up to him now. I move on if not

Seems manipulative.

You ask him if he still wants to be with you, like he gets to speak for both of you.

Then you say “I love you”, even though he asked “does it matter?” when u wanted to know how he felt.

Why do you leave yourself waiting and being attentive towards him, when he blocks and adds random women out of spite?

Either you don’t think much of yourself, or you love the drama of walking on douchey eggshells.

I just put all his game playing down to his nature and need of attention / drama.

No I don't like drama myself, I walked on douche eggshells for years with my sulky ex husband

Aries and drama...not so much.

Probably depends on. Moon and other placements. Just whoop his ass and see what’s gonna happen. He is an ass anyway. So...what do you have to lose?

I don't have his specific time of birth but he as well as being an arse is:-

Sun aries

Moon libra

Merc pisces

Ven taurus

Mars leo

Jup virgo

Sat virgo

Ura scorpio

Nept sagg

Pluto libra

Lilith virgo

Asc leo

I am

Sag

Cap

Sag

Cap

Pisces

Sag

Gemini

Libra

Sag

Libra

Libra

Aquarius

click to expand

Yeoooo I dealt with an Aries with the exact same placements except mine was a Scorpio moon.

Whew... the game playing. I’m just gonna tell you right now that as sag as you are, this is going to get very boring to you soon. Yeah it’s a bit exciting to feel the rush of how he’ll have a temper tantrum but the avoidance of feelings and wishy washiness is about to get highly annoying.

Posted by saggieheart

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Lol omg this is WAY too much effort!!! When an Aries loves you, it like Gemitati says.

Tell you he loves you after 6 months and tells you they love you everyday.. well I guess it was mostly when we said bye for day ( leaving for work) when we were married.

They are selfish! And show their love by doing. You have to know they do and not question it! 😂😂 I’m actually serious on this. We were together 20 years. When an Aries loves you, they will always have your back.

As a saggie/cap Venus, you need someone you don’t question. If you question, then there are problems. ( I’m also saggie/cap venus)

Yeah some of his actions do show his love and he always says I'm not like other women as if I know it's there, I was the same with my ex husband, he was a capricorn by the way, he told me twice in 30 years he loved me, the day I gave birth, and the day I walked away, he showed it in his actions but at the end his actions were hostile. I know sometimes words can mean little like a man that professes to love his dog yet beats it, but sometimes when you're up against a wall of silence it's all you want to hear

click to expand

Ah especially with an experience with a Cap like that. I can understand the words mean something. I think really it needs to some words but actions too. Like a balance. Hardly any words would be rough.

So today I walked away from the social media site we met on, for many reasons, not just him, but to get my head back into shape again.

We had been speaking but it never returned to how it was. Its too much for me to wait anymore.

I messaged him and told him I was leaving, that I was no longer enamoured by the site, he asked me why and what trouble was I getting on there. I noticed that as we talked he unliked tweets that a woman had made, that were always a problem between us.

He told me I had a good heart and that he appreciated me.

I told him to contact me if he needed me and let me know how he is doing from time to time.

I am heart broken but I know it is needed and if he needs me he will contact me and if he does not then it can't be the end of the world.

I just wonder why he unliked all her tweets? Out of respect to me? To stop me leaving?

Posted by emeraldgem

@saggieheart - "Anyway we were joking about hearts and I told him he will always be in mine, which I think he liked, then I asked if I were in his. His response - does it matter?"

No one who truly cares about you would say this. EVER.

Word.

I wont say he was being disrespectful but hes being honest in his sarcasm. Hes a man who is simply not on the same page you are.