Aries man ignoring...?

I met this Aries guy a month ago, we immediately clicked in - I'm a Gemini girl

he was all after me, & I loved all the attention and the care I got from him, we talked and talked realizing how much we have in common... and loved how we both share the same openness and straightforward characters!

before meeting him my soul was really dull and empty, he had his way of igniting my soul back and made me feel so alive with him - feeling the REAL ME that I have lost over the years!

about 10 days ago I spoke to him and opened up on how I felt towards this, that he ignited me a lot and felt the my real self is back to me, without digging any deeper or telling him my personal life (I also have never ever mentioned anything about love or emotions with him, only on the personal and human level how I do feel thankful for him), he seemed touched by that & asked me to speak to him whenever I feel like I want to discuss more -- I told him i'll be fine and just need some of my me-time-alone for a while to get my balance back,,, he said sure he's understanding and asked me to let him know when I'm ready to speak again & wished me to be well!

after 2 days of no contact, I texted him about completely a normal daily topic and mentioned at the end that I missed by the way,, he read my message and never responded!

after 3 more days, I texted him again telling him that I might leave him alone these days for his own time and space, knowing that he is busy with his work and (me as a Gemini) when I get drifted and carried away I can easily become talkative and sometimes demanding and I don't want this for him right now, and we'll just talk later after his done with his business .. and again no response from him!

then I ended up after a day texting him if everything is ok with him? and that I won't text again anymore till I hear back from him - and again nothing I heard of him...

1. why is he suddenly ignoring me now like that? we didn't even have a fight, and he was so nice at the LAST thing I heard from him

2. I only asked for some me-time-alone and he was OK with it, only that I came back talking as normal as before and he started ignoring!! was this upsetting him somehow?

3. how do I deal with him in this case? I really want him back

you sound kinda psycho. all that talk about your soul being ignited and how perfect things are, then immediately after, wham, you want space?

the absolute fuck? id ignore you too.

There is something missing in your story OP.

Posted by nininono
haha... that cracked me up now!!

I just needed some time alone to comprehend what just happened,, i'm not to dive in head first, just needed my space and time to think and balance where i stand now, and i promised him that i'll back soon - and in fact i was back way too soon just after 2 days

i love how geminis laugh and never get offended by my bluntness. bless ur soul babe

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Posted by nininono
haha... that cracked me up now!!

I just needed some time alone to comprehend what just happened,, i'm not to dive in head first, just needed my space and time to think and balance where i stand now, and i promised him that i'll back soon - and in fact i was back way too soon just after 2 days

i love how geminis laugh and never get offended by my bluntness. bless ur soul babe

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lol,,, trust me as Geminis we are very open-minded and can accept what people might think of us, after all its their opinions against ours ... mind you, that was something he (my Aires) liked about me too, that I won't get offended by such blunt talking of his (sharing same honesty, and straightforwardness)

Posted by Ram416
There is something missing in your story OP.

whats that? and what do you mean?!

I agree with the posts already here. It's like your waiting by the phone for a message from him, that your entire happiness is dependent on him messaging you, and what's worse is you've effectively told him with your follow-up messages to him. I would ignore you too, it's the polite thing to do because you don't want to encourage this kind of behaviour by replying, get your feelings in check and keep busy with something else for now.

We've all been here at some point, just put it down to experience, remember to not be desperate next time. The problem is when people are emotional then make mistakes and that's what you've done, but it's happened to us all at some point, you're only human.

In term of getting him back, I don't know, unfortunately I think he would need to message you back and I don't know if he will. You would need to calm down to the point where it doesn't matter if he texts you back or not, and then message him, I would say at least one month from now, you really cant text again with this vibe, he'll pick up on it, it needs to be more casual.

Posted by nininono
1. why is he suddenly ignoring me now like that? we didn't even have a fight, and he was so nice at the LAST thing I heard from him

After 2 1/2 weeks you kinda laid it all out there which seems a bit soon. He made need some time to process how he feels after your declaration of feelings.

2. I only asked for some me-time-alone and he was OK with it, only that I came back talking as normal as before and he started ignoring!! was this upsetting him somehow?

Interesting how you term your ghosting as 'me-time-alone' while when he mirrors your behavior it's 'ignoring' you.

3. how do I deal with him in this case? I really want him back

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You need to relax and let him have some time.

you were an easy catch plus he called on your bs of pretending you were not really an easy catch with the 2 days of no contact.... he thinks you might just be all talk and no substance. bored the shit out of him already.