aries men are confusing...

I've been dating an Aries guy since Christmas and it is slooooow going. I see him like once a month. When I asked him if he's just not that interested or if he wants to stop talking to me he says no and that he thinks I'm great, he just has a crazy work schedule and he's not used to being with someone who has a life and won't drop everything to hang out whenever he wants (like his last girlfriend apparently did). I really like him, when we are together we have a great time but I need to feel like he wants me, I do not chase guys. It just feels like it's going nowhere very slowly and I'm wasting my time. He says he's just shy and awkward with new people. He was in a relationship with the same girl for nine years on and off, but then again so was I so I understand. Should I be patient or is he "just not that into me?"

Don't know if it makes a difference but I'm a gemini, by the way.

Be clear & honest with him. If you're not satisfied, move on...don't waste your time being patient. If he's into you, he'll come running. I think especially with Aries, you need to show them how to treat you or else they'll just do their own thing. They can be self-centered like that. They need to understand what you need & how to go about it.

I'm a Gem seeing an Aries. On/off for almost two years - we were maneuvering the waters & ourselves, but now it's on. the fire is AFLAME & golly golly, it's HOT!

Yeah I have been very forthright in what I want from him. I don't sugar coat or bs anything in life. I told him that if and when he wants to see me he needs to let me know in advance, my time is valuable and I don't like being treated like a last resort. Every time I get kinda bossy with him and let him know that I can move on and we can just be friends no big deal, he's real quick to say that he wants to see me and he thinks I'm amazing, he's never been with someone like me before, so on... He said he's been kinda down the last few months and he just doesn't want to bring me down too. He said he feels like it's too soon to dump his problems on me. I reassured him that I'm here for him if he ever wants to talk, I'm a very empathetic person. I don't know what's going on with him but it's starting to feel like he just has an excuse for everything, but when I mention giving up on him because he's not showing that initiative with me he says he doesn't want that. I deserve better. Maybe it's a maturity issue..he just may not be ready.

Happy for you though! I think gems and aries have serious chemistry. I think that's why I'm hesitant to let it go 😢

thanks gem0! we've been through some rocky patches & weird situations to get where we're at. even though it's good, who knows what the future has in store. we've come to not have any expectations and love each other the best that we can..

he's got to resolve whatever issues he's got with himself before he can be ready for anybody else. i wouldn't wait for him. do you and do it well.

Solid advice. Thanks!