baffled by aries dude

hi.


let me preface this all by saying I am not sure entirely about my feelings for this aries dude even,but I did want perspective on a situation that happened to me this past weekend with an aries man.


Years ago(2004) I slept with the guy in question . He was hard to read , i was not sure i he liked me or just wanted this to be a sexual thing. He heard I told a mutual friend about us hooking up and got very angry and we didnt talk for close to a year.Then we became friends nothing more,but he was always a little awkward around me from that point on. We slept together once more in I think it was 2006.Turned out he had a girl he was also seeing at the time,not completely officially,but sorta. When he came on to me the second time I was bewildered since we hadn't had any sort of flirtation since the first time we got together AT ALL.He has since solidified his relationship with the other girl he was seeing and they live together.their relationship is loveless,but he respects her a great deal for her loyalty so he stays with her.seems pretty sad to me!

fast fwd to last weekend.

he came over to a mutual friends house to drop something off and he ended up hanging around. At first he was giving me advice on a relationship I had just gotten out of .He was being really nice and helpful and I was surprised since like i said our friendship has an awkwardness to it.We ended up cuddling(definitely something we don't ever do). At one point i went to the bathroom ,and when came back he switched moods and was like I GOT TO GO and took off .My friend told me while I was in the bathroom the dude was like ,"i have to leave ..if i stay here somethings going to happen .I don't know what I want , but I know I want her(me).But I have a girlfriend".

SAY WHAT?

today the friend who told me that wrote me she had spoken to the guy since the situation , and he said "

yeah, he was feeling pretty guilty about admitting his feelings to me, he said he was probably gonna hibernate for a while to avoid further situations like that one. crazy huh?!"

this is all catching me offguard. i guess theres nothing i really can do since he has a girlfriend anyways but ...I'm confused by this aries male behavior.

yep!
they are confusing

yep sounds like me
Im in similar situation right now
I have a g/f but there is another one i would like to be with, so for that reason i avoid getting us together because if we did i dont know if i could turn my charm/flirt off and it would lead into something where i would endup cheating on my current g/f that i respect and last thing i want to do is hurt her even though im not sure where our relation ship is going
so just give this guy time, he has to make a decision on his own what to do
I know that ive broken up with girls just so i can go out on a date or for drinks with another girl, and regardless if it worked out or not i never went back to th g/f i broken up with, so at this point im not sure if its the best thing to do, specially that my g/f hasnt really done anything bad. she is good to me and try to please me , sometimes even to hard, maybe its just to easy
I guess this guy is very attracted to you but im not sure why, is it because he knows he can not have you or tells him self he can not have you and thats why he is so attrtacted to you or he just doesnt want to break up with his g/f .....yet....or maybe he doesnt know how to do it yet cause he dont have a good reason ......yet......

i think us aries when it comes to love, maybe its just me prefer to love someone than to be loved?
dont get me wrong we do like to be loved, but sometimes im not sure if we see the love at face value...
when i split up with me longtime g/f after a while she told me dont worry you will find someone who will love you again....
I thought it was very condescending to me....right of way i thought to my self i know i will its not the problem, the problem is if "I"will be able to love someone again.....
and so far ive been right, 2 years 4 very short relations and i ended all of them , not even a spark of love on my part......likes yes, not wanting to hurt yes, promisses made yes,
its a tought world to live when you want to hold on to your morals :-)

I am seeing one and sometimes I don't know what is up. Wierd. I like him a lot but I being a water sign is more expressive and sensitive so I sort of have to feel him out on things, but he surprises me at times and just come out and say things and we really get off in some deep conversations.

caa's getting mush everywhere ! 😛

lv, he likes you but is in a committed relationship I think --- doesn't even want to emotionally cheat 🙂 let him hibernate...if he cheats on his gf, comes to you, he will prob cheat on you too - let him work it out...