drivers license drama

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daligogh
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19 Years

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I just find this funny. I just got my license and my Aries can't even seem to keep a permit. I passed on the first go round and he failed 4 times. Contrary to this fact he drives very well, probably better than me. Even though I down played my getting my license he continued to criticize it and tell me it means nothing and women shouldn't be allowed to drive and I should just stick to public transportation. Then my friend gave me car and I insured it and he wants me to let him drive my car with no license and no permit. I told him no and he didn't speak to me for 5 days and when he finally did call me he wanted me to cosign for him to get a car!!!! Why would I cosign for a car for him (no permit,no license) when I didn't pay for my own car?! I'm wondering who would even sell him a car?..Since then he has told me I don't care about his feelings, If I loved him I'd help him. Somehow I don't see enabling a young fiery male to drive around New York city, unlicensed with some seedy insurance tag in his back window (from his hook up) as helping him. And as of now he just won't speak to me. Am I wrong? should I just cosign and watch him crash and burn when he gets pulled over....as driving my car is out of the question until he's properly licensed. What should I do?
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Freebird
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daligogh - I personally feel that you already know what to do but, if you need validation I will give it to you.

No, YOU are not wrong - he is trying to make you feel guilty by throwing the "you don't care about my feelings" card at you. Ignore this. Simply tell him that you do not take those type of trips (guilt).

No, do not cosign for him. Let him become a responsible man by allowing him to find his way or you may give him some ideas or suggestions on what he maybe able to do. Sure he will kick and scream - let him do it - for he does have the right to express his feelings in any way he desires/chooses - you however do not need to be around if you choose not to listen or be a part of his tantrums.

Let him become "properly licensed" like most adults do. Tough love? yes indeed! the best gift that you can give to someone that you care about...

Please do not think that you must do these things for him to keep him from walking away from you. If he is going to walk now because of this - he will walk later, it would just be a matter of time.

Trust your instincts dear one.
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P-Angel
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What a jerkoff .. little boy throwing temper tantrum.

If he isn't repsonsible enough to keep his drivers license, nor care whether his tags are legal .. then what's to make him care about paying the car loan back? I wouldn't blame you in your position .. if he defaults on the load, it's your butt paying back the money.

Screw that .... I would take the attitude of: Man up or get lost.