Hello, noobie here to ask a question

Is there any possible worst way to dump an Aries than through email(besides ignoring us altogether...grrr)? This happened with my Taurus ex a couple months ago and I just can't seem to let it go. I mean, I'm over the whole being dumped phase and I DON'T want her back, it's just like my ego can't seem to come to terms with that. Is it a control issue, like I should have been the first one to the punch or what?

I was also very close to her which makes it even harder(it was a yr and a half relationship.) Thanks for any advice in advance.

"emailing someone is a total cop out. having said that - it is hard to dump someone, especially if you have been close - still a bit gutless though"

Precisely. I don't think I have self-respect issues-I handled this a lot better than I thought I would. Sign of maturity I guess. Heh. It just bothers me that someone I shared so much with-laughter, tears, the whole nine- would just be so cold and callous. I want to be friends one day and she's told me she's sorry, but it's just so hard at this point.

"unless you're an earthy or watery ram, or she's a firey taurus, it probably would have been an uphill battle anyway"

'Tis true. Didn't know it then, but I do now. You know what they say about hindsight.

I have sent emails to others before AFTER I have explained to them many times that the relationship was no longer working for me. What I have learned is that sometimes, others do NOT listen to what is being said and for some, reading the words works best - they have time to let it soak in.

Also, when it is over, it is over why talk about it? Most likely issues have been discussed at an earlier time. There just comes a time when what ever method works works....and we cannot please everyone all the time in the way a relationship ends.

*I am not for just ending a relationship without communicating before hand. There does come a time when ..... it is over.

"I'm sure they argued about things earlier but Aries being Aries...it goes in one ear and out the other. When Taurus has finally had enough...she doesn't care how she tells you. She'll just simply burn you and walk away."

We really didn't argue that much, we were a pretty easygoing couple. When we did, it was pretty much about her trying to tell me what to do professionally with my life, like I don't know how to make my own decisions. She was bullheaded a lot of the times and always insisted that she knew what was best for me when I know what's really best for me. Suggestions, not demands, people. Not to say I haven't had a stubbourn streak myself, I'm sure that "in one ear out the other" stuff has rung true with me at one point or another lol.

At one point she was what I thought "the one", which makes it even harder to forget her. I wanted this more than anything. Guess I was living in a fairytale. As far as the whole getting an aries out of your system thing, I don't know. She's one of those people who doesn't exactly wear her heart on her sleeve(I'm just the opposite) so I can't tell how she's taking it really. I know the best thing to do is to cut her out of my life forever and just forget it. It's hard for me to be that cold but it seems like the only choice I have.

I'm definently not going to get back with her. I just can't risk the heartbreak again. Besides that, I know it's just plain wrong if I do.