how to make an aries guy crazy about you?

im a libra girl, im so used to quiet aquarius guys and i know how to attracted them but recently been involved with an aries and i dont know how to attract him?

They like to be in control & they do not pour their emotions out. They tend to be engulfed in their own lives sometimes, so I guess you can call them selfish. Don't be negative or too clingy

I treat my aries guy like he doesn't exist. They like their space. So have your own things going on in your life and don't bother him too much.

They are pretty fun and outgoing. Be open minded. Like moonincap786 said, they can be too honest at times. But don't take it personal.

Ha! @ImTheRam 😉

Just to chime in a little more @helpmepls

I wanted to share a personal experience that just happened with my Aries guy. This should further your need to know how to make them crazy about you. Learn a little about their interests and what topics they're knowledgeable on. This will give you an upper hand.

For example...my Aries guy is into tech stuff, like computers and gadgets...Well my MacBook started malfunctioning on me. I could've easily called Apple support but I wanted to play my cards a lil differently. I knew this would be the perfect moment to allow him to shine! Aries like being in front and helpful, especially to the woman they're dating!

I called him asking for help with restoring my laptop. I mean I could instantly tell from his voice he was ecstatic to help and it also gave me the chance to talk to him for a few secs without giving him the impression that I'm being needy. I made it seem like it was all about HIM! I missed him and this was the perfect disguise to be slightly clingy without him knowing! Tehehe!

It's a matter of choosing the right times to come to them. At least that's what I'm learning to do.

Posted by urbansophisticate
Ha! @ImTheRam 😉

Just to chime in a little more @helpmepls

I wanted to share a personal experience that just happened with my Aries guy. This should further your need to know how to make them crazy about you. Learn a little about their interests and what topics they're knowledgeable on. This will give you an upper hand.

For example...my Aries guy is into tech stuff, like computers and gadgets...Well my MacBook started malfunctioning on me. I could've easily called Apple support but I wanted to play my cards a lil differently. I knew this would be the perfect moment to allow him to shine! Aries like being in front and helpful, especially to the woman they're dating!

I called him asking for help with restoring my laptop. I mean I could instantly tell from his voice he was ecstatic to help and it also gave me the chance to talk to him for a few secs without giving him the impression that I'm being needy. I made it seem like it was all about HIM! I missed him and this was the perfect disguise to be slightly clingy without him knowing! Tehehe!

It's a matter of choosing the right times to come to them. At least that's what I'm learning to do.

nice! thanks girl! 🙂

Posted by AriesLady8
Be nonchalant. Funny. Charming. Act like he's not important. Have your own life. Be busy doing fun interesting things. Being aloof is good.

The like to chase but once they catch you they get bored and eventually leave so keep him on his toes and In a constant state of chasing u, catching you, then having to chase you again. He needs to feel like you're a prize he's won.

Libras are known for being passive aggressive. Chill on that. We hate that shit.

damn yeah i was being passive aggressive at one point and i noticed he was being distant then i got over it and acted like i didn't want him anymore then he started being clingy

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Posted by AriesLady8
Be nonchalant. Funny. Charming. Act like he's not important. Have your own life. Be busy doing fun interesting things. Being aloof is good.

The like to chase but once they catch you they get bored and eventually leave so keep him on his toes and In a constant state of chasing u, catching you, then having to chase you again. He needs to feel like you're a prize he's won.

Libras are known for being passive aggressive. Chill on that. We hate that shit.

damn yeah i was being passive aggressive at one point and i noticed he was being distant then i got over it and acted like i didn't want him anymore then he started being clingy

Sounds about right. You acting like you didn't care brought him back. We are def the type to notice something we don't like then become distant then totally disappear.

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i know this is probably more individual based, but are aries guys the type to be into many girls at once do you think?

Oh dear, the amount of times I’ve tried to get my head round the Libra woman’s way of thinking. The advice on here so far is ok, but what if you both play hard to get, or what if he isn’t noticing you, then how does acting like he doesn’t exist work?

Honestly, I think in general Aries guys can forget women very easily if the woman isn’t really there connecting with him, and there are other women about, so what are you going to do, wait for them to make their move and keep acting like he doesn’t exist? In general I think this tactic isn’t specific to Aries or guys and is usually bad advice. I’ve seen guys that do this, and they think it’s working, and then they are surprised that their love interest has run off with someone else.

Ask for help or advice – Aries like to encourage/motivate, and they are usually driven and work late, if you can show you are tough enough to deal with Aries in some way and independent, this is a bonus. So my go-to topic of conversation would be talking about “becoming the boss” or “starting your own business”.. saying you would like it someday, asking about whether you think you have enough motivation for it is something Aries can strongly relate to. Other topics would be talking about his last vacation and asking him to recommend places or tips, it’s giving advice, and is has very good jump off points for other conversations.

Talking about fitness or healthy eating may also be an amazing conversation topic (depending on what he’s into) Aries are perfectionist and like the find the “best” way of doing things, it also shows you’re interested in fitness and food, most Aries are into that too

Be tough – Aries want to know you are tough, because I think every Aries knows that he can be too aggressive or bossy at times, and they may regret it afterwards, showing you can be tough is good, because an Aries does not want to push you over and feel bad about it. Talking about your achievements could do this. And also Libras like a debate and Aries do too, Libras like to see the different viewpoints, but with Aries it’s more of a completion, he will try to “do one better”, ie. You may say something, and he will say something else trying to be better or prove he knows more, it’s difficult to describe but if he’s doing this, it’s a good sign and Aries do it with other fire signs all the time. Unfortunately you can’t win, because like a child Aries do not like losing, so you can end the debate with “agree to disagree” or “I’ll let you win this round”…like it was some sort of game, which is probably wasn’t. Don’t concede too early because you need to give him a challenge. To be honest Libras are great, they make men feel good and like debating, so I would do this.

Be vulnerable – it sounds like I am saying the opposite of the other point but I am not, somewhere on some level you have to show you are vulnerable to something, Aries will want to be the hero to the rescue. They don’t want to know every detail of your life, and they don’t want you to get too emotional, but something like saying you used to have a problem when you drank too much whisky or something, I’m not sure. Something possibly mysterious too, which you don’t explain but indicates you could need saving. Aries will pick up on this subconsciously and like you and may not know why.

If it sounds like he makes good money, then get him to pay for the dates, Aries are generous and have no problem with this, they like the traditional romantic courtship. The man does the asking out, the lady gives hints but leaves a bit of mystery, he will go for the chase.

My experience of Libras, and I know a few, is that the use what they have well, they might not be amazingly good looking (usually they are good looking), but they are charming, wear clothes well and have good smiles. Wear something feminine, nothing that says you’re easy, I think Libras usually get this right.

@ariesjo

Nice post! I agree with this entirely!

I do have a little concern. I tend to see the trend of playing hard to get with my aries. I think it allows him to chase me and have the challenge. Does this make him feel in charge? if I allow him to initiate the contact mostly or would that make him feel neglected if he's the one always initiating? I guess the only way of knowing would be to ask him but I'd like to hear your opinion.

aries do like their freedom and they do like to feel in charge so its like a catch 22 *scratches head

Posted by urbansophisticate
@ariesjo

Nice post! I agree with this entirely!

I do have a little concern. I tend to see the trend of playing hard to get with my aries. I think it allows him to chase me and have the challenge. Does this make him feel in charge? if I allow him to initiate the contact mostly or would that make him feel neglected if he's the one always initiating? I guess the only way of knowing would be to ask him but I'd like to hear your opinion.

aries do like their freedom and they do like to feel in charge so its like a catch 22 *scratches head

what are their moon signs (OP and Urban?) My recent fella is an aries with scorpio moon.... hard work🙂 always pretending something and want to get a reaction of me all the time 🙂 he is doing everything possible to get my reaction.... when I refuse to give a reaction to his overtly actions (like intense flirting with others) then I got accused of: you are too detached, no feelings..... when I do react to some situations (other than this) I got accused of everything else.... If I dont react, he accuses me of pretending I dont care and to say something....

but this must be his scorp moon..... they hate to be ignored, then they react overtly.... their ego is everything.... I dont think its a good thing to ignore for a long time...... you know, the ego thing

just be different somehow else, not by playing games, but stimulating his mind....

somebody said about the projects (what business we should go into?) and be genuine

try to be a mental challenge not fyzical challenge (fyzical challange is short lived, you never know if you like you for yourself...... unless you are prepared to be playing games all the time

@ariesjo thanks for such a long answer! i appreciate it

just in general, how does on exactly play 'hard to get' without coming off as completely not interested? i have a hard time balancing this and it bothers me

OP you should be yourself. If that does not attract somebody, then it is what it is.

With a Ram, if you project the image for a lure, and later he finds out that you're something else all together, you're going to be sorry.

And why settle for this kind of relationship anyway? Find somebody who wants you as is, not an illusion of you.

yeah @arieslove you're right, he's a man at the end of the day. They desire affection and have needs.

However, the intent behind ones actions is what differenciates game playing and playing hard to get.

i.e.: playing hard to get because I know he likes to be in control of things and lead the relationship. So I cater to those needs by being slightly dettached but my intentions are not to play games.

If an aries guy isn't too emotional but his cancer lady is, he will cater to those needs to satisfy her needs. That wouldn't be playing games. Give and take.

@ramofpeace thats true. It's a must you be yourself.

OP, I deliberately told my aries guy I am a needy person that likes constant reassurance and if he couldn't own up to those needs then we shouldn't move forward with anything. This has to be done at the beginning of the relationship in order to set boundaries and lay out what the two of you want. I believe he'll respect that and if he doesn't, like ram said, why want that type of relationship anyway.

Good day!

@arieslove

In my earlier post to the OP I mentioned that I am clingy and I recognize that as a negative trait and he does as well.

He did tell me once I call too much and I laid off. I also told him he's not attentive enough. We both learned to cater to the other for their own needs. It's not our normal behavior but we like each other and we want the other to be happy. Compromising! But don't look at it as bait. Baiting someone is when you only benefit from it or using the other.

@helpmepls You can be yourself and consequently make changes to yourself for the other person. Everyone on this board has done this at some point when liking someone. Only good changes though. It is not considered baiting or playing games. But because you want to get him to notice you, do be yourself and get to know him. Thats truly the only way. Once he notices you, then you can begin to understand him more personally and know how to cater to him as an individual and vice versa.

I think arieslove see it as bait or games because I'm aware that he responds well to certain behaviors. I think thats in our human nature. But in my case, I tailor my behavior to benefit us both and to strengthen my weak points.

Valid point nonetheless, just taken out of context.

@romzilla true, true!! hahaha! I tried calling it off, literally the guy chased me like hell.

No shitty advice, every one here told her the same thing you said, to show disinterest.

@arieslove you're still missing the point.

"Compromising is an agreement to respect one another"

- we both agreed what was okay and what is not okay

"He told you his issue, you said yours but according to you f-that I'll find a way around it."

-we both found a way around our weak points, he's more attentive, I'm less clingy

"but according to you f-that I'll find a way around it."

- yes, I found a more positive way to be clingy. For example, my story about allowing him to be the hero and fix my computer all awhile still getting an opportunity to talk to him. He feels extremely helpful at the end of the day, I feel content that I got to talk to him without blowing him up (my past behavior) Win win!

"You can't make anyone crazy for you."

- no you can not. You must be yourself

"They like you or don't and you investing too much time in it will only cause you to loose yourself and look like you're trying to hard."

- agree. You won't win. Do be yourself.

Yes you’re right, definitely. Aries are usually impulsive and rush in, they like the initial excitement of starting a new relationship (and I think Libras do too). The need for freedom comes a bit later, when the Aries is thinking whether he’s acted too quickly, you know that time when someone is thinking whether they are really “ready” for a commitment with that person. I wouldn’t worry too much about giving the Aries “space” as they like to move quick. Avoid imposing on his usual routine or anything that says commitment too soon and you’ll be ok. Aries tend to be impatient and because of this they deal with people who “know what they want” a lot better than people who are a bit uncertain about things. You want to let him know somehow that you expect him to do the chasing. I agree that you shouldn’t be the first to text or ask him out, it’s more about flirting and giving suggestions. And you also need to have a balance between being busy to show your time is high-value and still being available to be asked out.

I don’t think Aries commit easily but it’s what they ultimately want to do, they want to give themselves to love, and I think Libra has the best chance of getting this from an Aries. Once the initial excitement of the chase has died down, the mystery still needs to be there to keep it interesting, and Libra offers this because the energy is the opposite. Things always seem to stay romantic with a Libra. You will do things in a way Aries cannot, once he sees how you put the relationship first and not yourself, then he will start to do the same (it’s difficult to describe but it only happens with Libra).

I don’t want to go into game theory, but “playing dead” has a low chance of attracting the “right kind” of guy. What kind of guy thinks "no-contact" is potentially a good relationship?