I'm a Libra woman, confused by an Aries Man :(

anybody that is an aries guy out there? i was seeing an aries guy and i am a libra. we had so much connection and chemistry. we had an awesome sex, he even told me he had the best sex with me. one time we were going to meet up at a hotel but i got upset because he told me to be there early. so i was about 10 mins away from the hotel when he told me he never went and that he was having lunch with his room mate's mom. And that we would meet in like couple hours later. i didn't know what to do and where to go so i went back home. and it was like an hour away and plus with all the traffic, i was so frustrated. when i told him i wasn't sure if i would want to drive back, he got upset with me. but i felt bad because he got us a nice hotel and the plan was ruined. so i texted him i was sorry and i didn't mean to get upset, i only said i was rushing to be there and to be early cuz i was excited to see him. i was willing to go back but i thought i got him upset. he texted back that he was a bit mad, not at me but at the situation. and we can meet again another time.
couple days later he said he was sorry for being an ass that i didn't get him upset but he did. and my answer was 'its ok babe no worries, i'm sure it will work out better next time'. and that was it i never heard from him again.
is this a typical aries guy that would ignore or disappear on me? was he still mad at me? or he just wanted to forget about me and move on?
i tried to text him few times. i noticed that he doesn't have iphone anymore cuz when i send message, it was not blue anymore. i don't know if he changed his phone, lost his phone? or just ignoring me. i know he got an extremely busy schedule being a Resident Physician.
Help. i don't know what to do 😢

anybody that is an aries guy out there? i was seeing an aries guy and i am a libra. we had so much connection and chemistry. we had an awesome sex, he even told me he had the best sex with me. one time we were going to meet up at a hotel but i got upset because he told me to be there early. so i was about 10 mins away from the hotel when he told me he never went and that he was having lunch with his room mate's mom. And that we would meet in like couple hours later. i didn't know what to do and where to go so i went back home. and it was like an hour away and plus with all the traffic, i was so frustrated. when i told him i wasn't sure if i would want to drive back, he got upset with me. but i felt bad because he got us a nice hotel and the plan was ruined. so i texted him i was sorry and i didn't mean to get upset, i only said i was rushing to be there and to be early cuz i was excited to see him. i was willing to go back but i thought i got him upset. he texted back that he was a bit mad, not at me but at the situation. and we can meet again another time.
couple days later he said he was sorry for being an ass that i didn't get him upset but he did. and my answer was 'its ok babe no worries, i'm sure it will work out better next time'. and that was it i never heard from him again.
is this a typical aries guy that would ignore or disappear on me? was he still mad at me? or he just wanted to forget about me and move on?
i tried to text him few times. i noticed that he doesn't have iphone anymore cuz when i send message, it was not blue anymore. i don't know if he changed his phone, lost his phone? or just ignoring me. i know he got an extremely busy schedule being a Resident Physician.
Help. i don't know what to do 😢

I think you had the right to be upset, he wasted an hour of your time only to tell you he won't be there, and when you told him you won't go back it shows that you have respect for yourself, the fact that he got upset is just a way to manipulate you to do what he wants, you should've ignored this behaviour then but instead you were afraid to lose him so you apologised when he's the one who was supposed to apologise so he lost some respect for you. its ok we all have a moment of weakness ..I think now you should show him that you didn't even realise that he disappeared because you were too busy living your own life, so enjoy every minute, do the things you love, make your life amazing and he will want to come back and be a part of it .

Posted by rachel32
anybody that is an aries guy out there? i was seeing an aries guy and i am a libra. we had so much connection and chemistry. we had an awesome sex, he even told me he had the best sex with me. one time we were going to meet up at a hotel but i got upset because he told me to be there early. so i was about 10 mins away from the hotel when he told me he never went and that he was having lunch with his room mate's mom. And that we would meet in like couple hours later. i didn't know what to do and where to go so i went back home. and it was like an hour away and plus with all the traffic, i was so frustrated. when i told him i wasn't sure if i would want to drive back, he got upset with me. but i felt bad because he got us a nice hotel and the plan was ruined. so i texted him i was sorry and i didn't mean to get upset, i only said i was rushing to be there and to be early cuz i was excited to see him. i was willing to go back but i thought i got him upset. he texted back that he was a bit mad, not at me but at the situation. and we can meet again another time.
couple days later he said he was sorry for being an ass that i didn't get him upset but he did. and my answer was 'its ok babe no worries, i'm sure it will work out better next time'. and that was it i never heard from him again.
is this a typical aries guy that would ignore or disappear on me? was he still mad at me? or he just wanted to forget about me and move on?
i tried to text him few times. i noticed that he doesn't have iphone anymore cuz when i send message, it was not blue anymore. i don't know if he changed his phone, lost his phone? or just ignoring me. i know he got an extremely busy schedule being a Resident Physician.
Help. i don't know what to do 😢

btw I'm a libra / aries rising
aries men like a hard to get kinda woman they love a challenge and love to chase

thanks Lina7..... i'm really hoping that he will still contact me although it has been about 3 weeks now. why is that when u think u lose the guy is when u realize how much u like them and miss them.. that is now i feel. maybe he is doing this for purpose because i made him feel that it was really his fault and an ass and he is testing me if i would miss him. oh well.....

Posted by rachel32
thanks Lina7..... i'm really hoping that he will still contact me although it has been about 3 weeks now. why is that when u think u lose the guy is when u realize how much u like them and miss them.. that is now i feel. maybe he is doing this for purpose because i made him feel that it was really his fault and an ass and he is testing me if i would miss him. oh well.....

I hope he comes back and realise that you're a catch and if he didn't then he's stupid and you deserve someone who's smarter than that

anybody that is an aries guy out there? i was seeing an aries guy and i am a libra. we had so much connection and chemistry. we had an awesome sex, he even told me he had the best sex with me. one time we were going to meet up at a hotel but i got upset because he told me to be there early. so i was about 10 mins away from the hotel when he told me he never went and that he was having lunch with his room mate's mom. And that we would meet in like couple hours later. i didn't know what to do and where to go so i went back home. and it was like an hour away and plus with all the traffic, i was so frustrated. when i told him i wasn't sure if i would want to drive back, he got upset with me. but i felt bad because he got us a nice hotel and the plan was ruined. so i texted him i was sorry and i didn't mean to get upset, i only said i was rushing to be there and to be early cuz i was excited to see him. i was willing to go back but i thought i got him upset. he texted back that he was a bit mad, not at me but at the situation. and we can meet again another time.
couple days later he said he was sorry for being an ass that i didn't get him upset but he did. and my answer was 'its ok babe no worries, i'm sure it will work out better next time'. and that was it i never heard from him again.
is this a typical aries guy that would ignore or disappear on me? was he still mad at me? or he just wanted to forget about me and move on?
i tried to text him few times. i noticed that he doesn't have iphone anymore cuz when i send message, it was not blue anymore. i don't know if he changed his phone, lost his phone? or just ignoring me. i know he got an extremely busy schedule being a Resident Physician.
Help. i don't know what to do 😢

thanks again Lina7... i will stay positive and see what happens... if he does contact me then that's great... if not then i got my answer and i should move on, it his loss.... oh well...
have a great day to you....

Why are you reposting this here when someone already gave you an answer- one to which you took and thanked them for?

You're not looking for advice, you're seeking validation. That won't help you.

How long has it been since you have heard from him?

it has been about 3 weeks now. And i have heard that Aries would need their space or ignore u for quite some time. i'm just not sure if that's the case with him. i also don't know if i really made him feel like an ass or it was his fault and if that really affected his ego.

he's the kind of guy who likes to get the best hotel there is. and since he lives with a room mate, there was no way we could have fun like that. And no, we weren't exclusive. He did tell me that he really liked me and i told him i liked him too. And he even asked me before if i was looking for a serious boyfriend but I just got out of a LTR the week before he asked me so i wasn't sure if i wanted a boyfriend at that time.
he would always show me affection and we were really attracted to each other and we really had great chemistry.
About the room mate's mom, she is paying the rent or she is in charge of the apartment i guess. He actually moved from Minessotta and he is doing his residency at one of hospital in chicago.

thanks for the advice... just trying to understand how aries guys are and since he wouldn't tell me why he is ignoring me i guess that kinda explains it.

It's one thing to be legitimately busy, especially since you said he was doing a residency, but if a dude is into you, he'll find the time to get in touch. Three weeks is ridiculous.

I don't think he's "mad" but just being a douche.

Posted by rachel32
it has been about 3 weeks now. And i have heard that Aries would need their space or ignore u for quite some time. i'm just not sure if that's the case with him. i also don't know if i really made him feel like an ass or it was his fault and if that really affected his ego.

This is bullshit. Whoever told you this is an asshole.

You weren't exclusive but were banging? Now he's MIA because you wouldn't cater to his inconsideration?

Honey, the writing is on the wall. Sorry you got sucked in, but this is a hit it and quit it scenario. You proved to him that you won't tolerate his inconsideration and he's off to find something more convenient to bang. Guys like this are ones to just not bother with. Everything is fine and dandy until you put them in their place when they treat you with disrespect. If they disappear afterwards, that just tells you what kind of piece of shit they really are.

Keep it moving..Aries men are apparently like Libra men...very immature no matter the age. One thing I am almost certain about an Aries man is when he's really interested, he's not going to go 3 weeks without contacting you. The fact that you put him in his place about being inconsiderate of your time and the plans you guys made together made him realized he's not in control and as much as you like him you will not tolerate being inconsiderate. You made the right choice, so move on. When he really sits down and think about it and if he truly liked you, don't worry, he'll contact you because at the end of the day, all men like a strong woman that will not allow them to treat them any kinda way. And why did you even apologize to him? He was dead wrong. He should have contacted you and told you that he was going to be running a little late and to give him a few more hours before you can meet up. DO NOT CONTACT HIM ANYMORE!!!

IC don't know his age, but from the remark roomate and his friends mom I am guessing rather a young ram.
yWhen I was really "young and stupid" back in my mid-teenage yearsI did these things too. Starting something to disappear. Never meant to hurt anyone, but if the stress or clingyness outweigh my need for a happy bonding I flew. We don't like stressy situations early on.
I would shy away stupid as I was thinking it would spare them the agony of me actually telling what was up..I was just saving myself fcanrom dealing with it as it would make me feel bad..like a true coward:p And my constant pursuit for prince charming continued.

BUT THIS BEHAVIOUR from one miscommunication is not OK.
I felt that you have been badly treated and I feel for you!

A libra-aries can be fantastic really..REALLY!

How long did u see eachother before this?
Given the misunderstandings I take it wasn't so long in.

I also know libra girls may ponder alot and analyze and rewrite and rewrite the outcast for a text, checking with girlfriends or a sister to see if that would be ok to send..and what would be the appropriate smiley 😉 an endearing trait really, but not as effective if u stumble in your own fears of scaring him off.
The "damage" is done (not by u ofc)
So no need to be afraid of how he will take it or not.

Owe it to yourself to act on this, as either to contact him in a way u think he would respond to and just make your message clear.
Or do the thing ppl say..walk away, but I know the unresloved questions will haunt you.

Good luck 🙂

I delt with one of those little ram jokers for two years. We sort of grew up together.
He was chasing me for years, the minute I gave in and fell for him he started being distant. It was too hard for him to disappear like yours because our families are close and we’d always run into one another. Yes they will disappear but not just on their mate, on EVERYONE. So you can take it personal if you wish, or you can go live your life and be confident that he’ll be back. How you handle him when he returns is no loud outburst, or millions of questions on why he didn’t call or text. He dips to focus, and plan, and then execute and then he has time for all the other stuff (you). I will say when they really truly like you they will squeeze you in somehow, but I’m sorry to say you aren’t there yet. And your dealing with a man that will disappear on his own mother, so you are not exempt. They need their space like air to breath. Chasing him with text, and calls was a bad move. Speaking from experience.

The way to keep an Aries man hooked, is to give them just enough but not too much. He can never think he has you wrapped around his finger or he will walk all over you. These men, right along with Scorpio love…LOVE…a good chase. The chase wont work if they feel there’s nothing left to chase, however if you would’ve let him come after you after the whole hotel thing you’d probably still be dating him. Aries men live very fast pace lives; HOWEVER they ALWAYS make time for the girl they love if only just to see her face a few minutes, at least that’s how mines was. He told me he wanted to see me everyday, he didn’t care if it was only for five minutes, but he said very sternly “I never want to go more than a day without seeing you.” He was busy just like yours, our work schedule conflicted but like I said, once I gave in the chase was over and so was he.
Also, try doing your homework on them, some are guilty of having the princess and price fairytale idea on love. Everyone would love to think an Aries is black and white in terms of love, and that’s true once you have them, but when you think of a romance/ early dating stages with them think of how hard it was for the prince to get next to the princess. She’s not loud, she’s not mean, she’s dainty, a damsel and every man in the kingdom would love a chance at her. The Aries likes the smart and independent, gorgeous princess that everyone wants but cannot have.

I do understand the Aries sometimes disappear and do need their space. But how much time would they need? I haven't heard from him in like 3 weeks now. seems so long. i have a feeling i might still hear from him just don't know when and it is so hard to be hurting right now. the longer i don't talk to him and see him, the more i miss him.

i don't know... but for now i would like to hear from him and want some answers...

i'm 34 and he's 32. but really mature for his age and really smart which i admire him for that. i would love to have an alpha male in my life like Aries since i have always been with geminis. although i also love being with geminis, we do get along so well but we're both like easy going and undecisive sometimes.
About couple months before this happens...
the last time i texted him was this week....didn't hear from him... although many things can be the reason... might change his phone or number (i did notice he didn't have iphone anymore... not saying imessage any longer) so i'm to wait a little bit and my last option is to email him. he should be able to read it.
i just didn't want to be a pest trying to contact him constantly.
so we shall see.....

Posted by rachel32
I do understand the Aries sometimes disappear and do need their space. But how much time would they need? I haven't heard from him in like 3 weeks now. seems so long. i have a feeling i might still hear from him just don't know when and it is so hard to be hurting right now. the longer i don't talk to him and see him, the more i miss him.

WHO told you this??

Whoever said it is full of shit. Unless you're clingy and suffocating, Aries don't give a shit. They aren't like Libras who need tons o space when they have their epiphanies about who they're seeing. They aren't like water signs who pick and choose which mood they feel like being that day, hence needing space.

Aries don't "disappear" or "need space" with people who they are into. Whoever told you this is an asshole trying to give you answers that you want to hear.

Whatever happened to calling??

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Posted by rachel32
I do understand the Aries sometimes disappear and do need their space. But how much time would they need? I haven't heard from him in like 3 weeks now. seems so long. i have a feeling i might still hear from him just don't know when and it is so hard to be hurting right now. the longer i don't talk to him and see him, the more i miss him.

WHO told you this??

Whoever said it is full of shit. Unless you're clingy and suffocating, Aries don't give a shit. They aren't like Libras who need tons o space when they have their epiphanies about who they're seeing. They aren't like water signs who pick and choose which mood they feel like being that day, hence needing space.

Aries don't "disappear" or "need space" with people who they are into. Whoever told you this is an asshole trying to give you answers that you want to hear.

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Oh, we do. We just pretend to be busy enough that you never notice instead of just vanishing into thin air just when things seem to be there best like Libras

Wow..gemini and libra..must have been a lot of mumbling of unfinised thoughts and indesicion:p

Well aries and libra is a very good match in my opinion and experience.
Mars and Venus, yin and yang! Feminine libra knows hot to challenge and stimulate an aries lads mind aswell.

I think you should call..a message then 4 days in wait checking ur phone, or an email and the same thing.
I think he felt you saw him as someone who wasn't a man of his word, he needs to shine in your eyes for him to love the bonding you have. We shy away if people see us in a light we really didn't want to portray. Even if we caused it. He might felt dissapointed when his intentions was to sweep u away.
Maybe something so casual as FB message if u both are there, sometimes it takes the pressure away than a sms or email.
Casual message to check in, and then take it from there.
Also if he is allowed to assist you in helping you some way this might appeal him to respond. If he's good in math ask him to help you that etc etc.

I know this sounds silly, but the libra girls ao know has often found themself in a friends with benefit relationship when they wanted a real one. I think some libra girls feel like they need to demonstrate their independent friendly hang out personalities to not seem obsessive. But I think it can backfire being too OK about things. Not saying you are like that but it has been an issue with the libras I know..many times too. I find that saggitarius tend to find this as a good approach, but other signs might think you want a "good time" rather than love. Libras are known for their sexual openess too, and might be unclear to others to see what's what.
Maybe communicating actual feelings or determination would help if you get the chance.
Aries are suckers for compliments, but they really only hit home if you can appeal to all levels of his being, intellectual, moral, kindness, helpfulness, and looks. Aries boys need alot of reassurance regardless being the mixture of class clown and the brave hero:p

What was his last response to you?

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Posted by rachel32
I do understand the Aries sometimes disappear and do need their space. But how much time would they need? I haven't heard from him in like 3 weeks now. seems so long. i have a feeling i might still hear from him just don't know when and it is so hard to be hurting right now. the longer i don't talk to him and see him, the more i miss him.

WHO told you this??

Whoever said it is full of shit. Unless you're clingy and suffocating, Aries don't give a shit. They aren't like Libras who need tons o space when they have their epiphanies about who they're seeing. They aren't like water signs who pick and choose which mood they feel like being that day, hence needing space.

Aries don't "disappear" or "need space" with people who they are into. Whoever told you this is an asshole trying to give you answers that you want to hear.

Oh, we do. We just pretend to be busy enough that you never notice instead of just vanishing into thin air just when things seem to be there best like Libras

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I knew i was right. Rocky i told her this. I'm not full of shit, i've witnessed it. I have a Aries, sister, cousin, grandma and a guy that i've known since we were 5 years old, and another Aries man i've known for 2 years all do this. They lead very fast pace lives and when they do slow down sometimes they need their space from EVERYONE, to regroup, plan their next move and how to execute it. The only time they will allow you to be around is if you are not a very needy person that demands their attention during this time. If you can handle being in the same house but in two different rooms for days at a time, then they'll let you stay lol.

Posted by rachel32
i don't know... but for now i would like to hear from him and want some answers...

He’s not going to give you answers. If he does, it will be something along the lines of
“My bad, I been so busy trying to do this and that, planning this and that, blah blah blah.”
He will expect you to respect his space. If you throw a fit or get all pissy he’ll just think your tripping and being clingy. An Aries male is not one you can boss around. He expects you to have your own life outside of him. He wont’t bow down because you throw a fit of words, the way to get a change out of this man is by not being too available when he DOES call. He will want more. Sorry, it works every time I’ve done it. The one thing that didn’t work is when I started crying and whining over his little disappearing spells, but it was only because I fell in love.lol. If I knew then what I know now he’d probably still be chasing me. I have a water moon my emotions get the best of me at times.

And three weeks to you, is 3 days to him. Trust me, he does not realize it’s been that long. The Aries I’ve known since we were kids; he and I would go weeks, months, even years(when younger) in between speaking or seeing one another but when he saw me it was like he never left. He would look at me like he was seeing me for the first time, and would be all over me. Leave your mark, he won’t forget you. Respect his space, plus he’s not your man so he’s not required to see you again or talk to you again as harsh as that may be it is the harsh reality of dating. There are guys out there that will date you and give you a heads up if they don’t want it to continue, other guys just hope you’ll get the hint and go away. Not saying he’s doing that, but just thought you should get prepared if that is the case.

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Posted by rachel32
I do understand the Aries sometimes disappear and do need their space. But how much time would they need? I haven't heard from him in like 3 weeks now. seems so long. i have a feeling i might still hear from him just don't know when and it is so hard to be hurting right now. the longer i don't talk to him and see him, the more i miss him.

WHO told you this??

Whoever said it is full of shit. Unless you're clingy and suffocating, Aries don't give a shit. They aren't like Libras who need tons o space when they have their epiphanies about who they're seeing. They aren't like water signs who pick and choose which mood they feel like being that day, hence needing space.

Aries don't "disappear" or "need space" with people who they are into. Whoever told you this is an asshole trying to give you answers that you want to hear.

Oh, we do. We just pretend to be busy enough that you never notice instead of just vanishing into thin air just when things seem to be there best like Libras

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Maybe you do, but I don't and don't know of many who do that crap. Maybe get scatterbrained about returning calls/texts sometimes, but THREE weeks? Please, that's just rude.

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I knew i was right. Rocky i told her this. I'm not full of shit, i've witnessed it. I have a Aries, sister, cousin, grandma and a guy that i've known since we were 5 years old, and another Aries man i've known for 2 years all do this. They lead very fast pace lives and when they do slow down sometimes they need their space from EVERYONE, to regroup, plan their next move and how to execute it. The only time they will allow you to be around is if you are not a very needy person that demands their attention during this time. If you can handle being in the same house but in two different rooms for days at a time, then they'll let you stay lol.

Dear, when we're into someone, we don't go MIA for three weeks. Plain and simple, regardless of sign.

She's just clinging on because her vagina got attached. She either needs to confront him by way other than text or email (because she seems to be communicatively retarded) to see where she stands, or move on. They weren't even dating, just banging. Three weeks of no contact from someone like this isn't acceptable nor is it promising. Giving her false hope in saying "OH THEY NEED SPACE" is the biggest load of garbage anyone can spew at someone seeking insight to this type of situation.

This isn't about space. This is about lack of interest in her as an individual. Everyone gets busy, but when someone is into you, they don't let 3 weeks lapse like this, plain and simple. So no, you are not "right."

Don't do the female thing and tell her what she wants to hear. It doesn't do her any good.

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Posted by rachel32
i don't know... but for now i would like to hear from him and want some answers...

He’s not going to give you answers. If he does, it will be something along the lines of
“My bad, I been so busy trying to do this and that, planning this and that, blah blah blah.”

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Here you go again, false information.

Just stop. You're perpetuating the typical dating garbage that's highly false.

If dude is into her, she'd hear from him. I've known Aries dudes when they date. They don't do this when they're into a chick, but they DO do it with a chick they don't really give a shit about. Most guys who are into a chick don't do this, sorry. You're just making excuses for bad behavior.

This chick has posted this in 3 forums. Of all 3, this is the answer she NEEDS to hear.

Posted by Lina7
I think you had the right to be upset, he wasted an hour of your time only to tell you he won't be there, and when you told him you won't go back it shows that you have respect for yourself, the fact that he got upset is just a way to manipulate you to do what he wants, you should've ignored this behaviour then but instead you were afraid to lose him so you apologised when he's the one who was supposed to apologise so he lost some respect for you. its ok we all have a moment of weakness ..I think now you should show him that you didn't even realise that he disappeared because you were too busy living your own life, so enjoy every minute, do the things you love, make your life amazing and he will want to come back and be a part of it .

Posted by rachel32
one time we were going to meet up at a hotel but i got upset because he told me to be there early. so i was about 10 mins away from the hotel when he told me he never went and that he was having lunch with his room mate's mom. And that we would meet in like couple hours later. i didn't know what to do and where to go so i went back home. and it was like an hour away and plus with all the traffic, i was so frustrated. when i told him i wasn't sure if i would want to drive back, he got upset with me. but i felt bad because he got us a nice hotel and the plan was ruined.

I knew an Aries guy back in college that was so forward, direct and persistent in his pursuit, it would have taken a fire extinguisher just to chase him away. "Indirectness' is not their friend....They SEE, they WANT, they CONQUER!...and without shame, they will TELL you!

About the hotel... ...and the Roommate's mom?

If he has a roommate, then he doesn't live with his parents, he has a place of his own. Why a hotel? He's a resident Physician. They're scrapping for cash! Why spend when you don't have to?

Who has lunch with a Roommate's mother? I had to crack up at this one.
Roommate's mother = Mother in Law, or Future Mother in Law...or current girlfriend.

Enjoy the 'sex romp' memories and remove yourself from this equation.
If you stay on this path, you're definitely headed for heartbreak.

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Posted by rachel32
i don't know... but for now i would like to hear from him and want some answers...

He’s not going to give you answers. If he does, it will be something along the lines of
“My bad, I been so busy trying to do this and that, planning this and that, blah blah blah.”

Here you go again, false information.

Just stop. You're perpetuating the typical dating garbage that's highly false.

If dude is into her, she'd hear from him. I've known Aries dudes when they date. They don't do this when they're into a chick, but they DO do it with a chick they don't really give a shit about. Most guys who are into a chick don't do this, sorry. You're just making excuses for bad behavior.

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How was i supposed to know she posted it 3 times?? lol. And you gave her your advice i gave her mines, if you dont agree with it then so be it it's not your situation it's hers she can either take my advice or keep it pushing, or she can take yall advice curse him out, and still wound up having to keep pushing. Based on what your saying he only wanted screw her anyway, so he's not going to care she'll be popping off on him wasting her breath. But whatever. Good luck to the OP.

And like i said the Aries i know dont just dip or become too "busy" on just one person, but to everybody. Two i know in particualar will even turn their phones off for an entire day and say it was dead so people wont bother them.

I clearly said, i'm not saying this is the case with her Aries, i warned her that he could be just being a douche and calling it quits in which she should be prepared to move on, but you cant force a person to move on if she's not ready. It's easier to say what you would do when your not the one in the situation. All of us could agree that we wouldn't careless and say fuck him, she's not there yet...obviously if she posted it 3 times.

Posted by rachel32
so i texted him i was sorry and i didn't mean to get upset, i only said i was rushing to be there and to be early cuz i was excited to see him. i was willing to go back but i thought i got him upset. he texted back that he was a bit mad, not at me but at the situation. and we can meet again another time.
couple days later he said he was sorry for being an ass that i didn't get him upset but he did. and my answer was 'its ok babe no worries, i'm sure it will work out better next time'. and that was it i never heard from him again.
is this a typical aries guy that would ignore or disappear on me? was he still mad at me? or he just wanted to forget about me and move on?
i tried to text him few times. i noticed that he doesn't have iphone anymore cuz when i send message, it was not blue anymore. i don't know if he changed his phone, lost his phone? or just ignoring me. i know he got an extremely busy schedule being a Resident Physician.
Help. i don't know what to do 😢

@Lyse,

The OP never expressed anger. Ever.
She took a passive aggressive route, and apologized instead.
Even offered words of encouragement to support his fictitious story.

She has her hooks in him...
and is suffering from a poor case of hysterical blindness!

The OP seems very sweet, I hope she wakes up.

Yeaaaa, i'm gonna agree i would not have offered to drive back. lol.
I was just answering her question on whether it is uncommon for Aries males to disappear. I said yeah because i dont think they classify it as disappearing. Ones ive known do it to their own mothers, but thats just my take on it.

I just think if she's going to be pissed and go off like Rocky and them said she damn well better be ready to back it up. No apologizing and calling him "babe" once you blow your top, or he wont take her serious. It might be too late. Hell for all we know he just wanted to get laid.

his last response was "we should def meet another time. you didn't get me upset. I did...........i'm sorry for being an ass" and my response was "its ok babe no worries, i'm sure it will work out better next time". And that was it. And i just realized that i should've said more. i think i made him feel like it was really his fault (which part of it yes and part of it mine which i over reacted) and that it made him less of a man. But i never texted anything like i was yelling at him or blaming him. I even said sorry bc i felt so bad that i thought i got him upset.
So are you an aries? you said you shy away or perhaps disappear when you get disappointed about something you might have done wrong to someone?
But for how long though? And for my peace of mind... i will def try to contact him again just waiting for the right time, maybe wait a few weeks.

I think on our last text, i made him feel like he was wrong and decided to shy away and pretend to be busy and ignore me bc it made him feel less of a man. And this guy is that kind of macho guy or like the alpha male who always wants to be the leader or the boss in the situation and if they were proved that they were wrong is such huge insult to his ego. I don't know, that's just what i think might be the possible reason.

Posted by TaurusBull1977
If he has a roommate, then he doesn't live with his parents, he has a place of his own. Why a hotel? He's a resident Physician. They're scrapping for cash! Why spend when you don't have to?

Who has lunch with a Roommate's mother? I had to crack up at this one.
Roommate's mother = Mother in Law, or Future Mother in Law...or current girlfriend.

Enjoy the 'sex romp' memories and remove yourself from this equation.
If you stay on this path, you're definitely headed for heartbreak.

Good point! I didn't even think about that angle.

Posted by Lyse
How was i supposed to know she posted it 3 times?? lol. And you gave her your advice i gave her mines, if you dont agree with it then so be it it's not your situation it's hers she can either take my advice or keep it pushing, or she can take yall advice curse him out, and still wound up having to keep pushing. Based on what your saying he only wanted screw her anyway, so he's not going to care she'll be popping off on him wasting her breath. But whatever. Good luck to the OP.

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The reason I get so adamant about these things is that I'm immediately spotting something about the OP where they do NOT need to hear any sort of encouragement to stay in a crappy situation because they're here, clearly looking for reasons and excuses to stay. They know it's a crappy situation, but they need some validation telling them that it's okay. Their vaginas are doing all the thinking and it's not logical nor is it in their best interest.

When I see other users here, giving their 2 cents, encouraging that little weirdo inkling that they have, it's maddening because it's like omg nonono. That will NOT help an individual like this. It's like giving a drug addict a drug, as extreme of an analogy as that is. We've got too many women coming here, trying to keep themselves down in stupid situations and it's so frustrating when people are encouraging them to stick around by giving them tidbits of false hope.

In the long run, yeah, it is up to her what she decides to do. But you can't sit here and give a woman, who's DIGGING for reasons and excuses to cling on, reasons why it's okay that a dude went mia like he did.

Posted by rachel32
I think on our last text, i made him feel like he was wrong and decided to shy away and pretend to be busy and ignore me bc it made him feel less of a man. And this guy is that kind of macho guy or like the alpha male who always wants to be the leader or the boss in the situation and if they were proved that they were wrong is such huge insult to his ego. I don't know, that's just what i think might be the possible reason.

No.

What the fuck is your problem? Why are you making so stupid fuck excuses for his behavior?

Please, explain your logic here. You seriously need to read what you're writing to us. You're sounding more delusional and nutty, dear.

You said so yourself- you two weren't exclusive. Just banging. So what gives with all this stupid drama you're creating in your head?

I am an aries, with an aries brother aswell 🙂

I wouldn't wait too long tbh.
And I wouldn't approach him with reminisence from the last time you met, no apologies etc.
I would go for a happy positive laidback text. No backtracking 😉

Let me do the aries thing and dare you!
Firgure out something you wanna write to him and do it within the next 24 hours :p

You can post ur suggestions here if u feel like it.

I don't know him, you do.
But I honestly don't think waiting is the best thing to do..as we aries rush on.. Ofc. there is no guarantee he will answer now either, but if you don't you might never know.
I don't want you to miss that opportunity because you were afraid to scare him off by seeming "clingy"
It's all the things we didn't do that we regret the most,
act now.

And you said u had sent him messages that u think might not have gone through?
Are these sent after the "It's ok babe, no worries etc"
May I ask what u wrote?
Did the two of you communicate in other ways? (sms, email,phone calls, fb messenger, snap etc)
Some ways might feel more relaxed and be more easier to reply to aswell..

my main point here is to understand how aries men are and how possibly they behave towards women. now it is obviously up to me to realize it whether i'm wrong or right. i'm trying to get opinions from different people. and thank you very much for all honest answers. now even if we were in non exclusive relationship but seeing each other and being intimate, that doesn't matter either. I think most women are in the same situation as me.
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fyi...i am actually a successful business woman. you might not know the whole story behind all this. but it is not about my low self esteem, it is about what i feel towards this man. and it is crazy that me being a libra is so attracted and gravitated to this aries man. and i have never been with aries before.
if you must know, i am a strong woman who got out of a 16 long hell marriage due to my abusive ex husband. now, no need to be judging me based on my story even i may sound trashy or low self esteem woman.

Posted by Arielle83
Why didn't you just go to the hotel, watch porn, get stoned and check out the mini bar?

Was there a pool?

If the guy is paying, but eating lunch with his roomie's mommy, why not take advantage of the hotel.

+1

I was wondering the same thing, tbh haha. Bish, there's sex to be had and a free room. Why turn around after all that travel?? haha

Posted by rachel32
fyi...i am actually a successful business woman. you might not know the whole story behind all this. but it is not about my low self esteem, it is about what i feel towards this man. and it is crazy that me being a libra is so attracted and gravitated to this aries man. and i have never been with aries before.
if you must know, i am a strong woman who got out of a 16 long hell marriage due to my abusive ex husband. now, no need to be judging me based on my story even i may sound trashy or low self esteem woman.

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Wait, wait, wait. Sixteen? As in 16 YEARS?

Didn't you just say you were 34 in the Aries forum?? You got married at 18?

THAT explains SO much. You're essentially an 18 year old girl dating right now. You got out of an abusive relationship, so yes your esteem is total shit. It's clear as day in your posts, considering your responses. You're apologizing for something you shouldn't be apologizing for. You're taking blame for something you didn't do wrong. He gets upset and you place blame on yourself.

Woman, you are a beaten wife and your actions are continuing to prove that with all this fretting after you put your foot down. You're SCARED to stand up for yourself, for fuck's sake.

You're clinging on to a FUCK BUDDY situation because your vag caught feelings and he's clearly not on the same page as you. Yet you make excuses and think that because the chemistry is strong, you should be clinging on to this notion, much like an 18 year old GIRL would.

Woman, take some effing down time and find yourself. The Libra/Aries attraction is a strong one, but it doesn't always mean it's meant to be. Especially if you have to force it, which is what you're doing.

You need to free your mind of all those years of emotional abuse. Alone. Not while dating and tormenting yourself with your shitty doormat behavior.

Ok,
now I understand the length between contact if he is a doctor.
Then I can understand if he feels overwhelmed with work and love.

Often asking for things back that you have left at their place etc. seem like a final thing, like " I know where this is going, i meed my stuff back".
Although it seems like a great excuse to make contact, it sends the wrong signal..i have actually attempted this in a undefined relation like yours..well..it didn't take 😢 and i felt I had spoiled my last card.
I was just too proud to say it like it was, mainly because I thought it would push him away. He kept contact every now and then, but by that time we had both realised its not what we thougt it would be.

Maybe saying Hey babe, I wanna see you soon etc. send a wrong signal aswell..on a physical level.
You mentioned that the two of you were in agreent it was the best sex ever..let's take it up a noch..yes! Feelings.

Do you have feelings for him? Genuine? Or just interest or fear of losing him.
I would vocalize those feelings to him..no beating around the bush
Don't need to come across needy or clingy for the mere fact u express how you feel.
Aries love being appreciated, appeal to his ego.

Maybe something like this:

Hi, I must admit I never thougt I'd care so much about you as I do.
I think you are amazing (his name) ! Just thought you should know : )

There is no question in there tho..so no followup is needed which can be bad..but then again it can feel relaxed.
And he that way he can get back to you in his own time, while those words grow in his mind and maybe even contact u in the weekend saying hi, any plans saturday? :p

Rocky i give up, i'm going to start calling you the God mother of DXP.lol.
People give their insight and it's up to the OP to decide on what she wants to do.
You just made a valid point, clearly she's going to do what she wants. I gave her run down of both sides to play this.
I personally wouldn't waste my breath popping off unless i know the guy cares, if he doesn't give a damn or if i'm not sure if he care i wouldn't waste my time or my excellent arguing skills. lol

If were to find myself in a hooking up situation with a guy and he disappeared of course I’d want answers, and would probably come here for validation. Don’t know why I just would. I’m a Libra too so I understand that we have the tendency to weigh the situation from all angles before going with our first thought, I’m sure you first thought told you he was just looking to hook up and now it’s over. Harsh but that’s reality. You’re a social butterfly, well established like you said surely he can be replaced. No worries. And This time, I’m going to quote my girl BusyEyes, don’t sleep with the next guy before being exclusive unless your prepared for these odds to possibly happen again.

Posted by Lyse
Rocky i give up, i'm going to start calling you the God mother of DXP.lol.
People give their insight and it's up to the OP to decide on what she wants to do.
You just made a valid point, clearly she's going to do what she wants. I gave her run down of both sides to play this.
I personally wouldn't waste my breath popping off unless i know the guy cares, if he doesn't give a damn or if i'm not sure if he care i wouldn't waste my time or my excellent arguing skills. lol

I didn't see what she wrote before hiding it.

There's no need to "pop off" about any of this, but if she wants answers about his bs mia thing, then she has every right to confront him about it. It doesn't have to be all crazy, it can be civil and a simple question. She could even lightly bring it up that she hasn't heard from him in some time and tease about how he's been mia. Whatever.

The big thing is that there's no guarantee that she'll get the answers she NEEDS.

But honestly, when you're not even serious with a guy, and he decides to up and disappear, the writing is on the wall. She's all caught up because of lack of dating experience, and he's been a rebound for her out of her recently ended marriage.

She can do as she pleases, but she's lost the right to come back here at a future date and continue to complain if things go south even further.

I also like the point that Taurus chick brought up- the whole story behind the roommate bit was strange, but then what was even stranger is that he's meeting up for lunch with his roommates mom? That's just weird, sorry. Especially combined with the hotel scenario. I've been with guys who had roommates. My coming over wasn't an issue, and none were meeting up with eachothers' parents to have lunch. It begs the question if he has a girlfriend/wife and he's playing this chick?

UPDATE:

He finally contacted me! The other night we got together and it was amazing. I was glad we were able to talk more and fix the miscommunication.
This is really true about Aries men (even some of my Aries friends told me) that they would disappear sometimes not bc they were running away from something but needed the space. And i guess those 3 weeks wasn't that long for him since he could hardly tell the which days now since he works long periods of hours at the hospital. And I totally understand that.
But the important thing we talked about is how much he still cares about me and how much he misses me. We would try to communicate better and would love to take this to next level - meaning relationship! He said that he didn't have this kind of great connection with anybody but me and didn't want to lose me.
I wasn't wrong about what I was feeling after all. I knew I would still hear from him and still cares about me. And I am glad we were given another chance to make things better.

Thanks for the advice, Bexi.....