I'm a Libra woman, confused by an Aries Man :( (Page 2)

UPDATE:

He finally contacted me! The other night we got together and it was amazing. I was glad we were able to talk more and fix the miscommunication.
This is really true about Aries men (even some of my Aries friends told me) that they would disappear sometimes not bc they were running away from something but needed the space. And i guess those 3 weeks wasn't that long for him since he could hardly tell the which days now since he works long periods of hours at the hospital. And I totally understand that.
But the important thing we talked about is how much he still cares about me and how much he misses me. We would try to communicate better and would love to take this to next level - meaning relationship! He said that he didn't have this kind of great connection with anybody but me and didn't want to lose me.
I wasn't wrong about what I was feeling after all. I knew I would still hear from him and still cares about me. And I am glad we were given another chance to make things better.

Thanks for all the comments/advices even they were positive or negative.. I still appreciate it.
and thanks to Lyse... you were right... 3 weeks to him is like 3 days. He didn't even realize it was that long.

I’m glad he contacted you!
That’s wassup.

However, I’d have to say be careful on constantly allowing him access to your cookie jar. Remember I also said these men need a challenge to stay stimulated ESPECIALLY in the dating stages. You are not home free, and you need to make sure he does not get comfortable or these little disappearing spells will be the least of your worries. Whenever he tries to get sex and the two of you are not official you need to make him work, and wonder if he’ll ever get it again. Don’t give him boyfriend privileges or a boyfriend comfort level if he has not made that move yet. I had an Aries recite these words specifically

“If I don’t end up with you as my girlfriend, then I’ll probably be single forever.”
“I love you, and when it’s all said and done I want you by my side.”
Guess what? I fell for the words, and ignored the actions going on around them. I was down for him 100% when he didn’t have a pot to piss in, sure losing me hurt him but not because he was ready to give me what I want, it hurt him because he could no longer get what HE wanted. Be careful. When a man has not made you his, you are always walking a thin rope and you don’t know where the chips will fall especially if the physical lines have already be crossed. MAKE HIM WORK!

Right? I'm wondering what the fuck kind of Aries that they're talking about.

When we're into someone, we're into someone. None of this several weeks of MIA.

My money's on this dude using her as a sidepiece, tbh.

Agreed. It does fall under the category of "he's not that into you" if he allows so much time to pass. When a dude is into you, you know with no doubts.

Once I experienced it, it's like omg they aren't kidding. You KNOW. And when they suddenly change and become distant? The game has changed and they are no longer as interested as they once were. Women seem to cling on when this happens because interest was initially there. They cannot fathom that it is now gone because omg, it was going so well!!! It must be her that did something because SHE has no reason to want to drop him, and his behavior changed, so omg either she screwed up or it's some made up, deep seated reason that he disappeared. Oh he's "busy." He's "scared." He's "testing."

Bitch no. Stop wasting your time.

When my ex up and disappeared for TWO weeks, I knew what was happening. The contact used to be 50/50 and he initiated quite often. Then it started shifting toward me initiating most contact and he'd become distant. I noticed and for curiosity's sake, didn't get in touch to see what would happen.

That's when two weeks happened. I had my answers of what was really going down. The relationship ended when we talked about it because he did the typical Libra rush in really fast and then run away.

...And this is a RELATIONSHIP. These silly bitches deal with this in casual DATING and think they need to cling the fuck on.

No, honey, no. You just look pathetic trying to keep a dude, who wasn't even committed to you, around.

Women just need to focus on spending more energy on dudes that are more "here I am, I want to be with you, and here's my actions to back it up," and less "here I am, let me see what I can get from you with as little effort as possible, followed by a bunch of empty, flowery words to keep you on the hook."

We see more of the latter here on DXP and we need to see more of the former.

We also need LESS stupid bitches here promoting women stick around for the latter and stick around for the former.

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Posted by rachel32
I do understand the Aries sometimes disappear and do need their space. But how much time would they need? I haven't heard from him in like 3 weeks now. seems so long. i have a feeling i might still hear from him just don't know when and it is so hard to be hurting right now. the longer i don't talk to him and see him, the more i miss him.

WHO told you this??

Whoever said it is full of shit. Unless you're clingy and suffocating, Aries don't give a shit. They aren't like Libras who need tons o space when they have their epiphanies about who they're seeing. They aren't like water signs who pick and choose which mood they feel like being that day, hence needing space.

Aries don't "disappear" or "need space" with people who they are into. Whoever told you this is an asshole trying to give you answers that you want to hear.

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Yup. Rockyroad is correct. Someone is lying to you. I have a Libra moon and I still don't need "time" or "space"

Correction, she's in LUST.