Leo female in a very long distance relationship with Aries male.

Help I am obsessed. I started talking to an Aries male a little over 2 months ago. Never dated an Aries before so I had no idea what I was in for. This man is everything I could of asked for intelligent, driven, socially conscious, fun, sexy, and open minded. Like I created him in a lab just for me. Only felt this strong once before with a sag who I've always considered to be the love of my life. When that entI was wrecked and I carried a torch for well over a decade. Problem is we are separated by an ocean. I know I should give him up but I just can't force myself to do it.

He lives Scotland and I in the US. Realistically it's not a relationship that has any real future.

Posted by Ladi1975
He lives Scotland and I in the US. Realistically it's not a relationship that has any real future.

And that's exactly why you should not tease yourself. Especially if neither one of you are willing to make the move to live closer together.

I think about this everyday but I'm like a moth to a flame. I do things that are not like me. I'm a night owl and I find my myself going to bed early because I can't wait to get his "good morning beautiful" text.

Posted by Ladi1975
He lives Scotland and I in the US. Realistically it's not a relationship that has any real future.

Distance has nothing to do with it. If you love each other, you can make it happen.

...why do Leo women do this shit to themselves?

I barely know 2 who DON'T do this. All the others end up being statistics in tormenting themselves and creating shit tons of unnecessary drama.

One, it's been TWO months and you're "obsessed." Why is this? I get the honeymoon thing, but you're a little too fixated on a guy you actually do not know all that well.

Two, it's an entirely different country. Has HE even brought up making this a LTR? Do you realize how difficult these are, especially when you have an international barrier going on? You even know this isn't logical, yet you're letting your stupid fuck emotions dictate what you should do.

Real talk- real life is not a fairy tale. You can chase after it all you want, but two months in is a bit dramatic in determining this is someone who you want to "date."

Get your head out of your ass and think a little more logically about this. It sucks when you find someone so far away that you click with so well, but before you dive in, all naive and shit, think realistically about this. Long term, you know it won't pan out well so why are you about to make this messy and ruin it all? Sadly, in these cases, the guy tends to string the girl along. She's the one willing to make all the ridiculous sacrifices in order to make it work. Things get ugly real fast when this happens.

Been there, done that with a LTR overseas. Usually doesn't pan out for the best, dear.

This reminds me of my friend who just recently tried this garbage after emailing some guy for like 5 months. From the way she spoke of him, he didn't seem like he was entirely on board, but she refused to see it that way because she "translated" a lot of things said in email as actual romantic interest. She flies across the world on an expensive trip to come see him. I don't think that settled with him well, but he had no problem fucking her.

Her bubble was burst when he wasn't all romantic like she perceived him to be and she never really heard from him after she left. It took a hard lesson for her to finally understand what I'd been warning her about all along.

Some women just refuse to see logic when they think they've found the man of their dreams...

OH yeh Rocky is right, us Leo girls get obsessy based on not much sometimes and it's a real hard lesson to learn.
Too much heart not enough head spaceness... gotta be tough gotta be strong gotta try and detach a little and try and step back a bit from our emotional instincts... it's nice to be 'in love' or to have someone on your mind all hours of the day but every time i come out of the fog I remember who I am again and it's never quite as dire as you think 🙂
It's also a lot of energy really exhausting in some ways so you have to be tough on love and tougher on yourself by extension cos we really are all Love- we are made of it, Leo girls are cuddle bunnies made of gooey Love-crumbs stuck together with Love caramel and wrapped in love candy lol

Just stay in touch with him if that's what you want, but maybe when you meet someone wonderful in your immediate area you'll see it's not just one person- there are plenty of lovely guys out there who'll be able to pick you up for a nice date or actually visit you at work and stuff like that- us Leo girls like a man who is around, you know 😉

Posted by wagtail
OH yeh Rocky is right, us Leo girls get obsessy based on not much sometimes and it's a real hard lesson to learn.
Too much heart not enough head spaceness... gotta be tough gotta be strong gotta try and detach a little and try and step back a bit from our emotional instincts... it's nice to be 'in love' or to have someone on your mind all hours of the day but every time i come out of the fog I remember who I am again and it's never quite as dire as you think 🙂
It's also a lot of energy really exhausting in some ways so you have to be tough on love and tougher on yourself by extension cos we really are all Love- we are made of it, Leo girls are cuddle bunnies made of gooey Love-crumbs stuck together with Love caramel and wrapped in love candy lol

Just stay in touch with him if that's what you want, but maybe when you meet someone wonderful in your immediate area you'll see it's not just one person- there are plenty of lovely guys out there who'll be able to pick you up for a nice date or actually visit you at work and stuff like that- us Leo girls like a man who is around, you know 😉

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Posted by MooninLeoo
Just my 2 fucking cents

If you truly love each other, distance doesn't matter. I am from Western Europe and my husband is from the US, we are already married and live together but we were in a long distance relationship for 2 fucking years before that. It is possible to make it happen, tens of thousands of couples do this every year.

As for Aries & Leo relationships, I love 'em. But honestly it is much better if it's an Aries woman & Leo man and not vice versa. In an Aries woman & Leo man relationship the Aries woman becomes submissive and let's the Leo be the King he deserves to be. But in a Leo woman & Aries man relationship the Aries man would never be submissive because that would make him feel like he was a cuckold. The Leo woman needs constant attention and compliments and the Aries man is busy chasing is dreams so this kind of relationship is less likely to work.

You are an exception, not the rule.

The OP is not someone who you feed the meager stats to. She will cling on to that shit and use it as a reason to proceed forward when she KNOWS she likely shouldn't.

I'm all for taking chances and whatever if you want to go for it. But when it comes to these women, you just...don't encourage that shit. The OP hasn't even elaborated much about where HIS interest stands, which is a little concerning. It's all on her side and not much about him in particular. You cannot encourage her blindly like that. It's a really foolish thing to do when giving advice- giving bad advice without knowing more about the situation.

The black and white of it all- based on "It's been only two months and I'm ready to dedicate my life to some guy overseas, but won't tell you where he stands" no, she should not proceed forward. Not with how obsessive and psychotic Leo women get in dating.

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by MooninLeoo
Just my 2 fucking cents

If you truly love each other, distance doesn't matter. I am from Western Europe and my husband is from the US, we are already married and live together but we were in a long distance relationship for 2 fucking years before that. It is possible to make it happen, tens of thousands of couples do this every year.

As for Aries & Leo relationships, I love 'em. But honestly it is much better if it's an Aries woman & Leo man and not vice versa. In an Aries woman & Leo man relationship the Aries woman becomes submissive and let's the Leo be the King he deserves to be. But in a Leo woman & Aries man relationship the Aries man would never be submissive because that would make him feel like he was a cuckold. The Leo woman needs constant attention and compliments and the Aries man is busy chasing is dreams so this kind of relationship is less likely to work.

You are an exception, not the rule.

The OP is not someone who you feed the meager stats to. She will cling on to that shit and use it as a reason to proceed forward when she KNOWS she likely shouldn't.

I'm all for taking chances and whatever if you want to go for it. But when it comes to these women, you just...don't encourage that shit. The OP hasn't even elaborated much about where HIS interest stands, which is a little concerning. It's all on her side and not much about him in particular. You cannot encourage her blindly like that. It's a really foolish thing to do when giving advice- giving bad advice without knowing more about the situation.

The black and white of it all- based on "It's been only two months and I'm ready to dedicate my life to some guy overseas, but won't tell you where he stands" no, she should not proceed forward. Not with how obsessive and psychotic Leo women get in dating.

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Thanks for the big slap of reality.

Posted by Ladi1975
Thanks for the big slap of reality.

Care to share where this guy stands? Is he down for a ltr? Has he said anything that would indicate his interest? You could get better insight if you were to give more details, you know.

All we know about this dude is he sends you texts.

Also, your username has "1975" in it. Does this mean you're 40?

Posted by MooninLeoo
I did not encourage the OP to do anything. The OP is (hopefully) a responsible, adult woman and she can decide what's best for her without blindly following an 'advice' from the internet. I just shared my story because to me it seemed like the OP already gave up him because of the distance. Long distance relationships are not for everyone and not easy but also not impossible, it takes a lot of dedication, faith, and patience but it CAN be done. So if they feel like it's worth it and both of them are committed (not now but maybe later) then why not go for it? 🙂

Because "Leo women."

I've seen how too many function. This is gonna end up messy no matter what way you paint it, tbh. I've known quite a few, and when listening to them and their thought process when dating- wow. Makes MY brain want to splode. I can't imagine anyone making sane decisions when your thought processes run like that.

The other kicker is she's already going into this "I shouldn't because of this and that" but she wants to. You get some sort of "this is going to be ruined because of x" in a Leo woman's mind, they will fixate on that and tend up self sabotaging. If she's a more mature and mellow Leo chick (I wonder, based on her "obsession" comment), this shouldn't be an issue. She's already placed a seed of doubt in her mind on her own. That's just gonna fester. :/

She can chase it if she wants. I agree, you never know and hooray if it were to work out. But that takes a LOT of commitment and time and both have to be honest and on board. When you're solely communicating via text, behind a screen, it's so easy to live the fantasy and not live up to the reality of it all.

Based on patterns I've observed with many, the overall answer to her situation is "meh." Not saying avoid it because omg bad things will happen, just... it's gonna get messy as fuck with a fixed sign involved. I can't imagine one tolerating a ldr with all the dramatic tendencies and paranoia going on in their heads.

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Posted by Ladi1975
Thanks for the big slap of reality.

Care to share where this guy stands? Is he down for a ltr? Has he said anything that would indicate his interest? You could get better insight if you were to give more details, you know.

All we know about this dude is he sends you texts.

Also, your username has "1975" in it. Does this mean you're 40?

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We text every day and skype call/vid every chance we get. We both curse the fact we are not in the same time zone. When I'm just ending my work day he is getting ready to head to bed. He has practically gone without sleep on a few occasions because of the time difference.
He says he has been in love before but not like this. We both feel that we are perfect for each other. We have the same convictions and desires. We both do corny things that make us feel closer like me trying a hard cider (his drink of choice). He teased me about this asked me if I did it to feel closer to him and then the next day he sends me a pick of him drinking the same Angry Orchard brand (not his usual mind you).
He has talked about coming to visit later this year maybe during the summer. We have not talked about long term and who might make the big sacrifice. We are both very close to our families and friends.

Posted by Ladi1975

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by Ladi1975
Thanks for the big slap of reality.

Care to share where this guy stands? Is he down for a ltr? Has he said anything that would indicate his interest? You could get better insight if you were to give more details, you know.

All we know about this dude is he sends you texts.

Also, your username has "1975" in it. Does this mean you're 40?

We text every day and skype call/vid every chance we get. We both curse the fact we are not in the same time zone. When I'm just ending my work day he is getting ready to head to bed. He has practically gone without sleep on a few occasions because of the time difference.
He says he has been in love before but not like this. We both feel that we are perfect for each other. We have the same convictions and desires. We both do corny things that make us feel closer like me trying a hard cider (his drink of choice). He teased me about this asked me if I did it to feel closer to him and then the next day he sends me a pick of him drinking the same Angry Orchard brand (not his usual mind you).
He has talked about coming to visit later this year maybe during the summer. We have not talked about long term and who might make the big sacrifice. We are both very close to our families and friends.

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You might want to wait on any major deciding until you meet, then. You two are sucked up in the honeymoon phase. It's like a drug atm. Pace it out, but you should likely wait until you see each other in person.

Something else to consider, like I said, is that you came here, already having doubts and are clearly seeking validation from the internet if you should proceed. If you knew this was a sure thing, you wouldn't be consulting a forum on it. What are your doubts? This is also why I said don't bother- you're going to have some doubt in your mind and that tiny stuff festers with ldrs since they take a lot more work than usual ltrs.

PS- Angry Orchard is the shit. Especially the cinnamon flavor. Omg.

I hear ya girl, I been LDR with an Aries for two Months as well.. He's in Canada I'm in the US. It's rough..and hard to trust. Have you met him yet? I haven't met mine yet..😢

Posted by Zetarose
I hear ya girl, I been LDR with an Aries for two Months as well.. He's in Canada I'm in the US. It's rough..and hard to trust. Have you met him yet? I haven't met mine yet..😢

We haven't met yet but it looks like we will this August (for my birthday).
I don't know how people manage to do LDR. Everytime we skype or he sends me a selfie I get this over welming urge to hug and kiss him and then I get sad because I can't. •

Posted by Ladi1975

Posted by Zetarose
I hear ya girl, I been LDR with an Aries for two Months as well.. He's in Canada I'm in the US. It's rough..and hard to trust. Have you met him yet? I haven't met mine yet..😢

We haven't met yet but it looks like we will this August (for my birthday).
I don't know how people manage to do LDR. Everytime we skype or he sends me a selfie I get this over welming urge to hug and kiss him and then I get sad because I can't. •

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We haven't even Skyped yet... It's a complicated situation- we are both in relationships already ; JUST FOR THE KIDS. .. So there's a lot of extra difficult factors with us.. It's sucks

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Posted by Zetarose
I hear ya girl, I been LDR with an Aries for two Months as well.. He's in Canada I'm in the US. It's rough..and hard to trust. Have you met him yet? I haven't met mine yet..😢

We haven't met yet but it looks like we will this August (for my birthday).
I don't know how people manage to do LDR. Everytime we skype or he sends me a selfie I get this over welming urge to hug and kiss him and then I get sad because I can't. •

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Wishing hard for your hopes and dreams to land safe in his arms :-)