My red angel: Last chapter

Hi all

So last wednesday i finally saw her. I went wich the train to Utrecht and i stepped out. I saw her walking and i thought : this is now or never. So i asked her her name. she asked me why i ask. Then i finally told her that i have been in love with her for almost a year and i really want to know who she was...

Her face became red, and she told me she allready had a boyfriend. i almost wanted to cry but i kept strong. so i said something like "okay", and she walked away.

So ... i have been waiting for almost a year for someone to say she allready has a boyfriend....

I feel sad....,also a but more adult, since i have stopped having my obsession for a red girl ...

Not necessarily, Solitas .. it's possible, like you said, that she didn't already have a boyfriend and it just frightened her .. women love to be told that they are loved, especially by someone who has been this way for a long time. He's obviously not stalker her, or she would have been aware of it, so it poses no threat to her.

She might sit back and be smiling about it .. "someone loves me"

You never know .. she might start to give him little smiles on the train now. He's not being forceful, aggressive .. just a pouring of love from the soul and then he backs off and doesn't press the issue.

I would probably have a good reaction to that .. it wasn't arrogant .. it was soulfull.

"I had a good plan of attack and I almost succeeded .. When waging battle you must understand the route to victory"

I'd be more terrified of the above .. then I would a man innocently pouring his heart out. I wouldn't be in fear of my life.

Additionally, once she sees him on the train again, she will see that he is no threat to her .. however, if he had treated her as though waging battle of victory .. I know, I would run the other way as fast as my feet would carry me.

So, you never know .. this may be the beginning of a wonderful thing.

Solitas, sorry but i don't care about finding the right tactics to approach her. i was straight-forward and she wasn't scared. Well i can imagine how it would feel to have a perfect stranger before you telling you he /she loves you. Whatever she wanted to say she said it ... i'm fine with that and i now know where i stand. I'm glad she killed my obsesion for her.

And for what P-angel say's : she's right. maybe she was just a bit shocked ... and it still could turn out good when i see her again. I'm not counting on it, thou..

Boy .. women actually love a gentle man. To approach her this way, was probably the best of all. Had you come out forcefully, with aggression .. she would likely have then thought you might harm her. She's been riding the train with you all this time and now, once she sees you sitting there, peacefully, she'll begin to understand that you are just a man who loves her, with all honesty .. she won't see you as a player because you aren't cockely eye-balling her which leaves a woman to think you're a woman-eater.

You're just there, sitting on the train, minding your own business .. in love with her. She'll melt now everytime she sees you because she'll know that what you told her is sincere, and meant to bring her happiness, instead of self-centered adoration.

Watch .. you'll see .. women love kind and gentle men because they know that they will be tender with thier feelings. I'm getting the feeling that your obesssion is over and now it's going to turn into a real and true love of two hearts.

🙂

Definitely agree with solitas777. I would be completely uncomfortable which would make me say I had a boyfriend (even if I didn't) and turn someone down. And then run my ass out of there!

This isn't just a random woman that he did this to .. I think that is something that is not understood here. They have riding the train together for a year. Perhaps, for this year she hasn't talked to him, or paid attention to him .. but, certainly, people are aware of their surroundings, are they not?

Now, she'll see him sitting quietly in his seat and come to realize that she hasn't seen him anywhere else, so he's not stalking her. Yes, if a man just approached a woman out of nowhere .. that would be scarry. She's seen him for a year.

Are you all saying that A YEAR is too soon for a man to approach somebody?

I just don't see it that way .. Solitas said, "Take your time to turn the dimmer light switch so it shines bright and beautiful." Boy did just that. Now as she rides the train, she will see him sitting there, not making a fuss, not following her anywhere.

To have a complete stranger walk up and do that would be creepy .. this isn't a complete stranger .. this is a man who shares transportation with her and has done so for a year .. I'm really not comprehending how this amount of time would constitute a woman freaking out. He doesn't follow her .. just shares a ride.

A year is not long enough?

He said she wasn't scard .. he felt this .. she wasn't frightened.

You wanna know why?

Because he wasn't a complete stranger!


I'm not getting it .. could someone please explain as to why it is believed that she SHOULD now be freaked out, running, thinking she's been stalked, when in reality, she didn't have that reaction at all?

My god ... Solitas... not to be harmfull but i don't care how you think about my approach. I,ve been waiting for almost a year to tell her this !!!. everytime i saw her i was too shy to even talk to her. Now i did and ok the outcome was negative.

About your friends... f*ck they're reaction ... the red head was a Dutch girl ! Nothing compares to a Dutchie 🙂

She must have known i wasn't a stalker because i'm sure she have noticed me several times. Also, ... if i would have wanted to attakc her .. ... way to go to pick the wrong place.. in the middle of thousands of pedestrians and camera's .....

I don't think the scary thing is him coming up to her, it is him telling her that he has loved her for a year and she had never spoken to him or met him (seeing him on a train does not count).

I agree cancer~leo~cusper...

I would feel kind of uneasy too.