Need Help- Aries and Forgiveness

My Aries and I have been having troubles recently due to some inappropriate behavior on my part. We have talked about what happened and I apologized. I thought that things were good and yet it has been brought up a few more times. I do not feel that he has completely forgiven me. I want us to move on and assure him that it won't happen again. I really love and respect him and am certain it won't happen again. The flirting, on my part, was innocent and I had no idea that it would hurt him this much. What can I do and/or say to make things right between us??

I've noticed. However, he hasn't even gotten to the point of forgiveness. How do I get him there? I know that the forgetting will come when my actions have been consistent.

Thanks for the suggestion. I was thinking that too. Should I sit back and give him time to sort things out and let him contact me when he is ready? Or...should I continue to contact him and reassure him that I do want to be with him and work things out?

I have no clue what crime you commited in the Ram's mind that would cause him not to forgive you ... for they are indeed, the most forgiving of all the signs, generally speaking.

Their anger is in a teacup .... the explosives are tremendous, however, easily contained by themselves once this emotion has started to subside ... the ability to collect themself rapidly happens just as quickly as it has sprung out from within.

So, for him to not forgive you for something .. then this something must be fucking huge ... what did you do?

Just flirting isn't big enough ... something else took place, or perhaps it was because of your intentions.

I remember your story, wilson .... you are the person who because you had a bad 8-year relationship with someone else, you have erected a wall between you and Aries, and refuse to let him in for fear of getting hurt. And I also remember that your biggest beef with this man was the fact that when the two of you got together, you immediately took down your profile on a dating site and he did not ... and it was hurting your feelings that he continued to keep his profile open on this site.

At least, if my memory serves me correctly .. you are this person who has this posted history in dxp.

So, I have to ask you ..... when you say that you were flirting with somebody, was this due to him keeping his profile up and you were attempting to make him jealous of you so he would take his profile down?

If so .. that's not an innocent act, and a Ram won't take to something like this so readily.

They don't have to be the Only, but, they certainly HAVE to be the First.

P-Angel:

What do you mean by "They don't have to be the Only, but, they certainly HAVE to be the First."??

Yes, this is all correct. The profile issue resolved itself very quickly and we both moved on. The incident in question was on NYE. I drank more than my 110lb frame could handle. Hell, more than a 300lb frame could handle. That is NOT an excuse, I know! I don't remember most of the evening but he was quick to fill me in. He said that I acted as if he didn't exist and I was dancing with a friend of mine (female), a friend of his (male) and others that either of us knew.

In my past relationship, I had to fight so hard to get my bf's attention. He never complimented me and was constantly gawking at other women. I now find myself treating my Aries as if he was my old bf. My Aries has been nothing but respectful and attentive. I am just SO used to feeling as though I am in competition with every other woman that it's been hard for me to break that pattern. I think time and his consistency are going to be what helps me through this but I am affraid his patience will run thin and he will leave. I truly am sorry for my actions on NYE and I want to get past it and prove that it's NOT going to happen again. I just need to know how to communicate that to him. I have told him, many times, and he still doesn't believe me.

Some women do ask the man to marry them when they know he wants
to be married but she just needed to be sure first.
Some women also ask the man to marry her even when she doesn't know
how he feels about marriage. It's about love & how you feel about
the person.Some women do ask a man to marry them & they don't demand
marriage. Marriage isn't the thing that makes the relationship work,
the relationship itself needs to be good.Marriage is for those who
want to take the next step if marriage is for them.
Women also give men rings. I gave my aries baby a promise ring last year.

WE have some issues we both need to work on before I
will feel good about getting married,but when I do
decide to be married,I hope it will be with him.
Me & The Aries man I love have some things we need to
work on together & I hope that we can do it. Right
now,he's still the love of my life.

having a good relationship is worth working on if
both people want it to work & both try to make it
good together.Your love will go through many tests
& it will be tested no matter how good it is to
start with.Relationships have their problems as we
all know very well. Marriage won't fix problems in
a relationship,it can actually make them bigger &
much worse.I was married once & I see that now.
When 2 people are ready for marriage,then it might
work out well?

They forgive quickly, but they NEVER forget, and unfortunately that can result in things never being the same with them again.
And that can lead to YOU leaving.
Been there, done that, have a lot of regrets, but life goes on

Good Luck

If you flirt you will make them jealous within the Aries sign its mostly due to insecurity.

I suppose that fire signs tend to be insecure and have bouts of low self esteem although Aries outta recover fast but all of them are emotional and jealous. You cheat on a Sagittarius girl and she can go emo for a week or so don't so much as shift your eyes and you are in trouble these sign become jealous and then grow cold < and this is unnatural. I have witnessed many poor fire people that have lost faith gone cold and have no hope left. Sagittarians become sad clowns, Aries gone cold due to having been downtrodden by a lack of an availability of a fresh spirit and Leos wasted on the streets < estranged streetwalkers.

Its some kind of double standard with fire women they do whatever they want but become intensely jealous of their partners.

G Fox its possibe that you are riding on one gigantic mind trip you are procratinatng but besides this you and him are from the same baby bust gen x slacker why do i have to work??!! generation so anyway the two of you will already have tons in common all Gen X people regardless of whatever have lots of things in common regardless compare yourselves with the baby boomers.

"He said that I acted as if he didn't exist and I was dancing with a friend of mine (female), a friend of his (male) and others that either of us knew."


Wilson, there ^^ is the problem here. A Ram HAS to feel like they are first and foremost in your life. You can have other friends, there's really not a problem with dancing and hanging with other people, but, if this hanging with other people comes at the cost of an Aries feeling rejected, like they aren't the main part of your life, then they begin to doubt your sincerity.

This isn't a matter of him not wanting to forgive you wilson, like you drank the last pepsi when he wanted it, kind of thing .. to tear at the core of an Aries to make them feel UNimportant to you is tremendous to the Ram, and is normally what happens to make the Ice.

If he isn't first on your list of priorities .. then this offense is not pardonable, and soon after this, a Ram exists.


What should have taken place that night is that you are dancing with other people .. making goddam sure you didn't dance dirty with any of the men (ladies ok) .. and inbetween dances, you went to your man and filled him full of attention, maybe with really good rythym songs, mounted him and give him a clothed lap-dance or summat. Or, if that would have embarrassed him, then wrap your arms around his neck and passionately take him in a full lip-embrace ... summat .. anything.

But, NOT ignoring him while you gave all your attention to other people, wilson

"That's would be equivalent to him taking out a hammer and crushing your shell, Wilson, where you feel secure in shatters."


btw, I know your Sag .. I was just using that as an example of how serious this is to his sense of security.