mcaesar69
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Posted by mcaesar69I think she likes you. Just not the most. So she's keeping her options open in case something she wants MORE comes along.. (Which will probably be no good for her btw) Brutally honest I know, but it's the truth sometimes. Do you give her attention? We like to feel wanted by a man. So if you lay it on us (not too much, we don't like that either) just a little more and she pushes away, she's not interested and yes, your friend zoned. But even THAT can change with time. Our attraction to man can vary depending on our mood..!
So I've been talking to this girl for a few months now, it's only been the past 2-3 months that we've been talking much more regularly. However absolutely confused and not sure if I've been super friend zoned or there is some interest there...
1. She has opened up to me about a lot of personal stuff, her life, career etc. I assume this is good however more often then not it leads to relationships and she always says she's looking for the right guy, she rejected some guy and regrets it (like years ago), which makes me think ok friend zone :/
2. At parties, I've caught her staring at me or having a look at what I'm doing or who I'm with. And when she comes over she gets very close - almost invading my personal space a bit. I didn't pay much attention to it cause alcohol but maybe something of a signal there
3. We share common interests, activities and have had similar upbringings so we've been able to chat about that quite a lot but again just background, not much to read into there apart from being in similar situations
But yeah just kinda not sure if I'm being friend zoned or maybe she's feeling it out or interested. I mean I heard Aries are direct but she is not the direct type at all so I'm in all sorts of confusion. Thoughts guys??


Posted by mcaesar69Lol, same sun, moon and mercury with my ex. So here is my take.
To my knowledge, she doesn't have heavy water placements,
Her moon is in Gemini (which is my Sun), Mercury is Aries, Venus is in Taurus and Mars also in Aries.
When you mention she might have done it to test me? What's the reaction you'd look for in that situation. I guess for me i'm cautious of revealing my position too quick, I feel like Aries love the chase as much as a Gem so i'm trying to slowly reveal more, but she has started to become a lot more open with me so I return in kind. I'm letting her set the pace.
And again, when you say, 'Just because I'll tell you all about my past relationships doesn't mean you should assume you're friend zoned.' - what would you mean by this. Are Aries normally selective with the information they let people know, as a Gem i'll be very open with conversation.
No, I haven;t asked her to hang out as in just us two, she recently asked me to go an an event which she will be at. But that's like a party thing, not a one-on-one type of thing.

Posted by ariesx3You're right. I think I used the wrong term with "submissive". More like you respect her, listen to what she's got to say. Aries women don't like push-overs, but definitely likes feeling wanted. It's like it's alright for her to feel jealous, but you don't. Well, I think it's fine if you do get jealous from time to time, but be cute about it. Never make her feel suffocated. So be prepared to learn to balance making her feel that she's you're priority and that you're well grounded and sure about yourself as well. When my ex was out with friends, I don't text her too much only replying when she texts me. But when she does, I reply right away. I think mercury in aries doesn't like waiting. Lol!Posted by adikted0916This is pretty much all you need to know! Although, if I may, I wouldn't want a guy to act "submissive". I can't speak for all aries women, but I think we just want someone that acts as our equal; challenges us, but at the same time looks up to us.Posted by mcaesar69Lol, same sun, moon and mercury with my ex. So here is my take.
To my knowledge, she doesn't have heavy water placements,
Her moon is in Gemini (which is my Sun), Mercury is Aries, Venus is in Taurus and Mars also in Aries.
When you mention she might have done it to test me? What's the reaction you'd look for in that situation. I guess for me i'm cautious of revealing my position too quick, I feel like Aries love the chase as much as a Gem so i'm trying to slowly reveal more, but she has started to become a lot more open with me so I return in kind. I'm letting her set the pace.
And again, when you say, 'Just because I'll tell you all about my past relationships doesn't mean you should assume you're friend zoned.' - what would you mean by this. Are Aries normally selective with the information they let people know, as a Gem i'll be very open with conversation.
No, I haven;t asked her to hang out as in just us two, she recently asked me to go an an event which she will be at. But that's like a party thing, not a one-on-one type of thing.
With her moon in gemini, she likes to talk A LOT. It doesn't matter the topic, as long as you can keep up with her, and make her interested with the topics you guys are talking about you're good. Also show that you're interested to what she says like asking follow-up questions, remembering the details of what she said then bringing that up to show that you are listening and not just hearing what she says. So don't get turned off if you feel friendzoned because she talks about her ex or such. In fact, go ahead and also talk about your fun, funny moments with your exes too. As long as she's talking to you about a lot of stuff, even opening topics to discuss, she's definitely interested. But if she's replying just to have a reply, that you have the need to always come up with something to talk with her, then she's not interested at all. If I were you, read about something that really interests you, and have an fun, animated talk with her about it. If she finds it uninteresting then move on to another topic or you can make it apply to her life. Just display how knowledgeable you are with a lot of sense of humor, and you're almost guaranteed to win her heart.
If you don't have her number, try to get it. I'm not sure, but my ex played hard to get with me. Sometimes I have to make a lot of bold moves as well. I even went to join a singing competition once, and she was there to watch. Afterwards, I treated her with some friends with the cash prize. Lol! If you're timid, she might get bored.
Just be careful of mind games. And even if she does, just stand your ground. If you can't handle it anymore, back off a little, like showing her you're losing interest in her or something. Lol! NEVER give her one-word replies, she'll get bored and blow your chances. Just be confident about yourself, show you're interested but also not quite.
With her sun and mars in Aries, find exciting things to do together. Go out to fun and stimulating activities with just the two of you or with friends. It'll take a bit of time for her to commit though. It also took my ex almost 5mos just to "try" having a commitment with me, then we lasted for almost 4yrs, just short of 1month. Lol! Don't be afraid to flirt with her, it makes her feel wanted. If she gets interested, she would find a way to initiate something. But hold a bit something back, so she would want more.
If you do win her heart, it's important not to be too possessive or jealous. If she wants to hang out with her friends then let her, if she invites you then go with her. But also, be prepared for her jealousy. It's like she chose you, so she would expect you to have her as your number 1. It's like you should be submissive to her but also hold your ground and not become a push-over. Really complicated, right? So I wish you luck 😄
And it's really not complicated if you're the right guy for the job 🙂 Remember thatclick to expand

Posted by mcaesar69I'm not really sure about aries women with venus in taurus, since my ex has hers in pisces so she would give someone sooo many chances until they get fed up.
I guess my only concern is what happens when they become too comfortable? I feel like you only get one chance at an aries but not sure if you get them being overly friendly, telling you random things, whether you lose your chance cause they do like the mystery of it all.
As in, when do you know it's progressed past that stage where it's only friends. I feel like i'm treading that fine line at the moment. Some signs you can get away with being friends first, I don't see that in Aries haha

Posted by mcaesar69Lol! I understand what you mean. Telling you that she's got a lot of options to choose from. And implying that she's keeping her options open. I've got sag rising and leo venus so I got really competitive to win her.
Hmmm kind of caught in that regard, as much as i'd like to let her know in some explicit terms i'm interested and lets see where this goes. She's told me many times that alot of guys get crushes on her, I don't want myself to be lumped into that category as in 'just another guy with a crush'. So i'm biding my time, continuing the banter. Ties in to what I said before, the flip side is whether or not being friends and stuff could lead to something more.
Hard to tell with this Aries girl, I know she wants something to happen (as in relationship), but of course picky. And considering every man and his dog has had a crush on her, if I reveal that too soon I don't think i'd be able to stand out from the crowd.
May need to compliment a bit more, ive been trying to go hot and cold with the banter. As in, playfully making fun of her but also being serious and talking about serious topics. Thank god i'm a gemini and can be versatile haha BUT you're absolutely right, I have 0 clue whether her attempts at saying 'friend' all the time etc., are just mind games, cause i've called her out on a few things. Half in jest, half serious. And she lowers her guard a bit so I take that as being good. But she's very stubborn, hard shell to crack haha

Posted by mcaesar69I have all of the same aspets as this girl! Weird... Be direct that you are into her.
To my knowledge, she doesn't have heavy water placements,
Her moon is in Gemini (which is my Sun), Mercury is Aries, Venus is in Taurus and Mars also in Aries.
When you mention she might have done it to test me? What's the reaction you'd look for in that situation. I guess for me i'm cautious of revealing my position too quick, I feel like Aries love the chase as much as a Gem so i'm trying to slowly reveal more, but she has started to become a lot more open with me so I return in kind. I'm letting her set the pace.
And again, when you say, 'Just because I'll tell you all about my past relationships doesn't mean you should assume you're friend zoned.' - what would you mean by this. Are Aries normally selective with the information they let people know, as a Gem i'll be very open with conversation.
No, I haven;t asked her to hang out as in just us two, she recently asked me to go an an event which she will be at. But that's like a party thing, not a one-on-one type of thing.

Posted by ariesx3Yep, I agree.
Hmmm. I don’t know if this is the case for all aries women, but I can definitely change my mind about a guy - most often against my own will. Let’s just get to it… When I get to know a new guy, I either see him as a potential friend, or as someone I want to bang. If I just want to have sex with him, I’ll be very direct about it and just get right to it. It has happened that I’ve developed feelings after.
If I, however, just see him as a potential friend, feelings will sooner or later start to develop for either me or him (or both of us). That honestly never fails. But even if I develop feelings, I will continue to act as a friend for a while; wouldn’t want to blow my cover. So I have developed feelings for someone, even though I just saw him as a friend at the beginning. The reason I started to get feelings for him, was because he started to pursue me, and that got me noticing him as well. The thing is, if he doesn’t do anything about it, I will just continue to see him as a friend, or think that he just wants to be friends.
In a boyfriend, we want both a friend and a lover. So it’s not bad to start as friends, as long as you make your move sooner or later.
And yes, tell her that you’re interested. If that’s too scary, ask her to do something instead. And compliment her and flirt with her, yes!
How long have you two been talking? In that time, have you seen a change in how she dresses/how much make-up she puts on, etc?

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1. She has opened up to me about a lot of personal stuff, her life, career etc. I assume this is good however more often then not it leads to relationships and she always says she's looking for the right guy, she rejected some guy and regrets it (like years ago), which makes me think ok friend zone :/
2. At parties, I've caught her staring at me or having a look at what I'm doing or who I'm with. And when she comes over she gets very close - almost invading my personal space a bit. I didn't pay much attention to it cause alcohol but maybe something of a signal there
3. We share common interests, activities and have had similar upbringings so we've been able to chat about that quite a lot but again just background, not much to read into there apart from being in similar situations
But yeah just kinda not sure if I'm being friend zoned or maybe she's feeling it out or interested. I mean I heard Aries are direct but she is not the direct type at all so I'm in all sorts of confusion. Thoughts guys??