You guys are soooo fake!

Ok...I'll prolly get myself in trouble, here, but I have to get this off my voluptuous chest!

Now, I love all aries...you guys are fun, smart, direct and honest. You have good hearts, you always try to please the one's you love (my favoritist trait). You're great in bed, good w/ fixing things, challenging and a pain in my rear (which I enjoy as much as the other traits). I'm dating an aries, so believe me when I say how much i love you guys.

But here's the thing...I don't understand how you can throw your independence in the face of others, and yet still allow others to control you. It's like you would rather have someone to steer you in the right direction (loving guidance) instead of living your own life on your own terms...making your own decisions.

I've always heard that deep down, Aries wants to change for the better (we all do), but y don't you? You guys would rather stick with what you know than venture off to the unknown...and why...because you're too scared of failure. Doesn't make sense to me. You guys have SOOOO much going for you, you are never afraid to dive in and take risks, so why is change so hard for you? you might as well be one of the fixed signs LOL!

I'm not generalizing all Aries, and yes, i'm speaking based on my experiences with my bf AND my sister...but some insight would be nice!

I do agree with Aprilbaby, on the fact that the name of the thread doesn't make sense with the content.

Fake? Nawwwww.

Actually, what is written in here seems completely opposite from the Aries I know. They don't normally sit back and let themselves be driven by someone else. It's normally their rules that must be enforced in situations. But, your dating a Ram, so you probably know more than me. But, I definitely don't see where they are fake. Confused, perhaps; shallow at times, maybe - as are we all - but, not fake.

thanks for your response, AB...I hope I didn't offend you, and i truly am looking for insight. i'm not saying that you guys don't go through what everyone else goes through. also, i agree that i need to make changes w/in myself in order to help my bf and sister. however, you have to admit that when you are going through your own changes, and are having a rough time, it does effect those that are close to you, not matter what decision you make.

when i say fake, i mean say one thing and do the other. e.g., my bf is contemplating a decision that could have a negative influence on him, yet he's still contemplating doing what needs to be done. i'm all for doing what needs to be done, and i obviously can't tell him what to do, all i can do is support him. But there are other options that might be better for him, and it seems that he's trying to take the easy way out.

i am very sympathetic to the issues my sister and bf are enduring, however, when the stress they feel is being taken out on me, it's hard to sympathize. both of them have a way of giving off this buck you attitude, it makes it hard for me to be around them. of course i don't take it personally, however, that is prolly why most people aren't sympathetic.

finally, i'm not generalizing all aries...i know that everyone's human. it just so happnes that the two people i'm referencing are both aries...therefore, i wanted an aries advice. Thanks AB...i hope you'll write more.

"If an ARies chooses you to help with something, make a decision etc... then feel very honoured. It's hard for us to pass off anything to someone else."

As a leo, i do feel extremely honored to have my bf lean on me, however, sometimes that leaning can become stifling. It's one thing to allow me to take the lead, it another to use me as your crutch. that's what both my sister and bf are doing right now.

i understand that if you are able to do so, you should help those in need. but when it's straining on you, when you are being taken advantage of, that's when it's hard.

"Also, if your bf has a difficult decision to make, it's not that he's being fake, he just has something that isn't as easy to decide on." That is true, you're right.

my bf is about to loose his apartment. he knows that he has a place to stay w/ me, but i don't want him living with me. i can't rely on him to pay half the bills (due to his financial history), and our relationship hasn't been the most stable, i'm not ready to live with him or any man, for that matter.

this is a hard decision for me to make. i'm so used to being there when he's in a jam. but the thing is, people are ALWAYS pulling him out of the things he carelessly get's himself into. his life isn't the best right now, and i've been doing my best to be there for him. i can only imagine his stress. but he, himself, has said that he needs to walk through the mud on his own in order to find his way, up. i just hope he does. he's an amazing person and deserves the best. i hate to see him so down, and there's nothing i can do.

Aloha All...
read the thread, figured I'd add my 2 cents.
aries are naturally considered the babies/kids of the zodiac.
you can always compare an aries to acting like an infant sometimes.
needing to be in the bussom of a woman, non-sexual way, of course...hehe.
we aries always think out loud and hope for feedback from our peers.

I just smoked a big bowl of maui wowie.....heeheehee.
so if sounds dumb...forgettabouttit.....

aloha.
mauicountry

LMAO...thanks for the advice, MC...hopefully by now, you are not under the influence of some maui wowie (even though you did give some sound advice earlier)!

How's it going w/ the Leo?