Are the "good looking girls" the loneliest ones?

Ok so I think it's a given that guys don't care if their friends are lookers or not, but I've started seeing a different pattern with girls and it's pretty sad.

I've seen this A LOT but I will specifically bring up two cases here.

So there's one girl I've known since I was a kid, she's a cancer/libra rising/pisces moon (all I can remember from her chart), and she's literally the sweeeeeeetest person. She's so nice to everyone and just a genuinly kind hearted person. But for some reason people have envied her for as long as I know (if she wasn't my best friend I'd probably envy her really bad too, but after so many years I'm used to her getting all the attention haha). People always talk shit behind her back and try and put her down (people = girls) and it's just so completely unfounded. She's very lonely and not many girls wants to be her friend, she only has me and one other person. Like , people see her and they don't even wanna give her a chance although she's incredibly funny and caring and just a good friend overall. It seems to me she has accepted this fact and that she genuinly believes she's just not "likeable". This was when I started thinking "It must actually suck being so damn attractive, no one wants to befriend you."

My other example appeared recently at work. This scorpio rising/scorpio sun woman started at my work. She's slender, blonde and has a great sense of style . To most people she seems a bit shy but being a scorpio myself I just know she likes her privacy. She's very nice and tries to join in on conversations and stuff, but the girls always shut her out. The guys at work drool over her but the girls just try and freeze her out all the time. Whenever the girls decide to go for drink afterwards, everyone gets invited except her. It's actually ridiculous. When people walk in groups from work to the buss stop, she always walks alone. Sometimes I join her and that's how I've discovered how nice she is. She really makes an effort to be nice to the girls but all they do is try to find flaws with her that just aren't there..

That being said, I've always hated how "average" I look but now I can't imagine how bad it gets for really attractive girls, I mean you guys get both harassed by men all the time AND treated badly by jealous girls. Any thoughts to why this is?

I don't feel very attractive. Girls are not bitchy to me they are nice to me . But I do get harassed but i don't think that is to do with your looks.

Most guys are obv nice to though. I do think attractiveness is in the eye though. Everyone is attractive in their own way 🙂

No.

Attractive girls do not have it worse.

The ones that struggle just fail to acquire the tools to deal with it properly.

Posted by stardustscorpio
Ok so I think it's a given that guys don't care if their friends are lookers or not, but I've started seeing a different pattern with girls and it's pretty sad.

I've seen this A LOT but I will specifically bring up two cases here.

So there's one girl I've known since I was a kid, she's a cancer/libra rising/pisces moon (all I can remember from her chart), and she's literally the sweeeeeeetest person. She's so nice to everyone and just a genuinly kind hearted person. But for some reason people have envied her for as long as I know (if she wasn't my best friend I'd probably envy her really bad too, but after so many years I'm used to her getting all the attention haha). People always talk shit behind her back and try and put her down (people = girls) and it's just so completely unfounded. She's very lonely and not many girls wants to be her friend, she only has me and one other person. Like , people see her and they don't even wanna give her a chance although she's incredibly funny and caring and just a good friend overall. It seems to me she has accepted this fact and that she genuinly believes she's just not "likeable". This was when I started thinking "It must actually suck being so damn attractive, no one wants to befriend you."

My other example appeared recently at work. This scorpio rising/scorpio sun woman started at my work. She's slender, blonde and has a great sense of style . To most people she seems a bit shy but being a scorpio myself I just know she likes her privacy. She's very nice and tries to join in on conversations and stuff, but the girls always shut her out. The guys at work drool over her but the girls just try and freeze her out all the time. Whenever the girls decide to go for drink afterwards, everyone gets invited except her. It's actually ridiculous. When people walk in groups from work to the buss stop, she always walks alone. Sometimes I join her and that's how I've discovered how nice she is. She really makes an effort to be nice to the girls but all they do is try to find flaws with her that just aren't there..

That being said, I've always hated how "average" I look but now I can't imagine how bad it gets for really attractive girls, I mean you guys get both harassed by men all the time AND treated badly by jealous girls. Any thoughts to why this is?

I've been through this before. I don't really know what to say. I'm just thankful for being able to be alone. Thanks Cap moon and 12th house! Just continue to be nice to her. She appreciates it, even if she doesn't express it. I thank you on her behalf.

Posted by xghy
Being attractive doesn't equate being likeable. You have to master your own gift/talent/skill.

Work with what you have and know how to use it -that goes for attractive people.

People are attracted to what they are attracted to.......it might not make sense ...or be logical ...

People like what they like. There is not formula to being likeable 🙂

Generally, better looking people have better lives. It is the exception that is otherwise.

"Loneliness" is just a mentality.

This can happen for many reasons...envy, contempt etc

Maybe these women are too nice or too coy.

Even though that can be endearing, it can work against them especially if they are in bad company.

There is lots of fish in the sea as along as they stop fishing in the same pond

Posted by TheTinMan

Posted by stardustscorpio
Ok so I think it's a given that guys don't care if their friends are lookers or not, but I've started seeing a different pattern with girls and it's pretty sad.

I've seen this A LOT but I will specifically bring up two cases here.

So there's one girl I've known since I was a kid, she's a cancer/libra rising/pisces moon (all I can remember from her chart), and she's literally the sweeeeeeetest person. She's so nice to everyone and just a genuinly kind hearted person. But for some reason people have envied her for as long as I know (if she wasn't my best friend I'd probably envy her really bad too, but after so many years I'm used to her getting all the attention haha). People always talk shit behind her back and try and put her down (people = girls) and it's just so completely unfounded. She's very lonely and not many girls wants to be her friend, she only has me and one other person. Like , people see her and they don't even wanna give her a chance although she's incredibly funny and caring and just a good friend overall. It seems to me she has accepted this fact and that she genuinly believes she's just not "likeable". This was when I started thinking "It must actually suck being so damn attractive, no one wants to befriend you."

My other example appeared recently at work. This scorpio rising/scorpio sun woman started at my work. She's slender, blonde and has a great sense of style . To most people she seems a bit shy but being a scorpio myself I just know she likes her privacy. She's very nice and tries to join in on conversations and stuff, but the girls always shut her out. The guys at work drool over her but the girls just try and freeze her out all the time. Whenever the girls decide to go for drink afterwards, everyone gets invited except her. It's actually ridiculous. When people walk in groups from work to the buss stop, she always walks alone. Sometimes I join her and that's how I've discovered how nice she is. She really makes an effort to be nice to the girls but all they do is try to find flaws with her that just aren't there..

That being said, I've always hated how "average" I look but now I can't imagine how bad it gets for really attractive girls, I mean you guys get both harassed by men all the time AND treated badly by jealous girls. Any thoughts to why this is?

goddamn you got that shit right. as an attractive dude no one wants to befriend me. but I'm good with the hand full of my Pisces besties.

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Yay, Pisces BFF's!

Yea because the good girls have standards or are hoes the ugly girls hold on to what they have because they never know when they'll get it again! As shallow as that sounds??‍♀️ People always do cancers like that because they can't understand how someone can be so careless about being friendly and seem nonchalant when really we notice everything going on. and attractiveness can be intimidating to those who don't believe in the power of their own beauty!