Losing your virginity (Page 2)

I was sixteen he was twenty-two and a Sagittarius

Posted by LordComplexity

Posted by Teena
I don't specifically avoid it. I mean I don't go like "yes, I have to avoid this with this guy". That's not like my motto. But you're right. I'm the one who usually avoids it...always. I didn't feel like it with them or anyone who proposed me for marriage or a relationship till now. What makes me feel that way for someone is something I didn't figure out. Maybe I have trust issues. Maybe I need to trust the person enough to get there and that didn't happen. Maybe it's not them n maybe it's really me.

Shit, you have a person you're seeing? Since when? Get you some, shieeet.

Seriously tho. That seems kinda like a waste to me. You waited so long. At least it wasn't longer I suppose.

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No lol... where did it seem like that? I'm not seeing anyone. I doubt if I'll be here if/when I'm even "seeing" someone tbh.

I didn't wait nor am I waiting. It doesn't seem to me like that. Like I said, it's never been like I wanted to do something n I didn't. I just didn't feel like it...ever.

I am 20

I havent yet

Hopefully soon haha

Sag sun and pluto

everything else is cap

i'm a capricorn lost my virginity to a gemini at 15. sex was not good at all, he wasn't really sexual. i consider my real first experience with sex was with my second boyfriend who was a sagittarius but had a scorpio venus. a lot better

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Posted by Teena
No lol... where did it seem like that? I'm not seeing anyone. I doubt if I'll be here if/when I'm even "seeing" someone tbh.

I didn't wait nor am I waiting. It doesn't seem to me like that. Like I said, it's never been like I wanted to do something n I didn't. I just didn't feel like it...ever.

Oh you were referring to the fact of you being open to marriage and such now.

Personally I feel like in some sense I need a mate. I need a partner. Someone to be by my side that I can have ultimate loyalty and co-operation with. But I guess that's more due to a realization of the vast potential it brings and that without it I am vastly limited in comparison. Plus you know, mating urges and all that.

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I don't feel the need to have someone... but it sure would be nice to have someone n I know I'll settle at some point anyway. So it's ok. I'm not in a hurry.

Posted by SoulOfABird


I dont know if I ever been in love, since I never had a relationship. However I do currently like this one guy a lot ... but he's a music artist ?Since I dont know him personally can I call it love? I dont know since I dont know him personally but I know a lot about him, but one things for sure I do have feelings for him, and all that "mushy" stuff LOL and if I can imagine what being in love is, I can imagine being like this but maybe amplified twice as much if I was actually with him. Thing is, you're right that physical attraction is usually what rails people in. It's just in my ideal world I would be friends with him first and then slowly develop into lovers but that's just my fantasy it most likely wont happen in real life for me. Thing is just cause I think a guy is cute doesnt mean I would want to be with him. I may find him attractive but dont him to be my man if the vibes I get from him arent right or if he just has a personality I dont like. I don't care if he's the most drop dead gorgeous guy, if I dont like his personality Im not interested. A lot of my crushes on guys (which was maybe a few) maybe weren't seen as "goodlooking" to some in a conventional way but to me they were amd they had that 'something' about them that I find hard to find. So to me the guys I found attractive and the guys I wanted to be with are different. I dont think I can ever like a guy without envisioning having a future with him. Im not interested in dating a guy I cant imagine being forever with, weird but that's how it is for me. I wouldnt want to date for fun.

I do think me being an introvert has something to do with it. Also being shy too, so actually it's both. As because I like being in solitude serenity I like being alone I dont want to share my space with a guy I cant feel a strong connection with or dont feel comfortable around. I wouldnt want to share my space with a guy that doesn't understand me and someone I can imagine being with for the rest of my life. Also being shy doesnt help either, because most guys I like are not the type to approach me, and I sure as heck don't. Im even shy to make eye contact with them lol so I let it pass like the wind, just hoping and praying he will notice me?

Umm..lol! You don't have to be in a relationship to love a person.

Talking about the guy you like, you don't know him personally. Meaning you never talked to him? You might just be having an admiration for him...like this deep admiration.You might be in love with the idea you have of him in your head. That changes once you actually talk to him. You may or may not actually like him... you never know.

Wait! Why do you think being friends first n then morphing into lovers doesn't happen?? It totally could. That's what happens usually. You can ignore all the labels. The weird thing is, you're not even friends with the guy who you say you really like. See how this works?? It need not necessarily start there.

I don't find your dating concept weird or alien. That's how it works for me too. I don't date for fun. Nor did looks ever attract me. Only thing is I don't even get attracted to the guys I don't wanna be with. So they are not two different things for me. Also I think sharing space thing goes for people in general. We only wanna share it with people we like.

Lol!! When you say you like guys who are not the type to approach you, do you mean you like guys who aren't easy? Or just introverts?Because, if it's difficult guys you're going for, it may not be attraction. It might be the chase or just the idea of love or even validation you're looking for. You know kinda like this forbidden fruit syndrome.You might wanna be careful there.

Posted by Dreamyboy
Your 42 and you lost your v when you were 14 to a 13 yr old?? I always imagined the 70s and 80s having more respectable children who were good and studied hard ?

I lost mines when I was 15

Same here ? Bunch of hypocrites!

Posted by SoulOfABird

Posted by Teena

Posted by SoulOfABird


I dont know if I ever been in love, since I never had a relationship. However I do currently like this one guy a lot ... but he's a music artist ?Since I dont know him personally can I call it love? I dont know since I dont know him personally but I know a lot about him, but one things for sure I do have feelings for him, and all that "mushy" stuff LOL and if I can imagine what being in love is, I can imagine being like this but maybe amplified twice as much if I was actually with him. Thing is, you're right that physical attraction is usually what rails people in. It's just in my ideal world I would be friends with him first and then slowly develop into lovers but that's just my fantasy it most likely wont happen in real life for me. Thing is just cause I think a guy is cute doesnt mean I would want to be with him. I may find him attractive but dont him to be my man if the vibes I get from him arent right or if he just has a personality I dont like. I don't care if he's the most drop dead gorgeous guy, if I dont like his personality Im not interested. A lot of my crushes on guys (which was maybe a few) maybe weren't seen as "goodlooking" to some in a conventional way but to me they were amd they had that 'something' about them that I find hard to find. So to me the guys I found attractive and the guys I wanted to be with are different. I dont think I can ever like a guy without envisioning having a future with him. Im not interested in dating a guy I cant imagine being forever with, weird but that's how it is for me. I wouldnt want to date for fun.

I do think me being an introvert has something to do with it. Also being shy too, so actually it's both. As because I like being in solitude serenity I like being alone I dont want to share my space with a guy I cant feel a strong connection with or dont feel comfortable around. I wouldnt want to share my space with a guy that doesn't understand me and someone I can imagine being with for the rest of my life. Also being shy doesnt help either, because most guys I like are not the type to approach me, and I sure as heck don't. Im even shy to make eye contact with them lol so I let it pass like the wind, just hoping and praying he will notice me?

Umm..lol! You don't have to be in a relationship to love a person.

Talking about the guy you like, you don't know him personally. Meaning you never talked to him? You might just be having an admiration for him...like this deep admiration.You might be in love with the idea you have of him in your head. That changes once you actually talk to him. You may or may not actually like him... you never know.

Wait! Why do you think being friends first n then morphing into lovers doesn't happen?? It totally could. That's what happens usually. You can ignore all the labels. The weird thing is, you're not even friends with the guy who you say you really like. See how this works?? It need not necessarily start there.

I don't find your dating concept weird or alien. That's how it works for me too. I don't date for fun. Nor did looks ever attract me. Only thing is I don't even get attracted to the guys I don't wanna be with. So they are not two different things for me. Also I think sharing space thing goes for people in general. We only wanna share it with people we like.

Lol!! When you say you like guys who are not the type to approach you, do you mean you like guys who aren't easy? Or just introverts?Because, if it's difficult guys you're going for, it may not be attraction. It might be the chase or just the idea of love or even validation you're looking for. You know kinda like this forbidden fruit syndrome.You might wanna be careful there.

Wait you mean you dont have to be in a relationship with that person to be in love with them?

When I say "attractive" and "attraction" I mean two different things. Im not attracted to a guy I wouldnt want to be with. Attractive is more physical to me and can be seen, while attraction can't be seen, but it's felt.

Yes you're right, it may change if I met him in person. I acknowledge that. But I know more about him than how Americans know about Western Celebrities. I made a post on here about it, he is a Korean music artists and they interact with their fans a lot in the Korean music industry. Still Im sure there is much more I dont know about him, because again I never met him, but for me I think it's just an intuitive feeling. Like we have a lot in common amd have gone through similar things it's kind of surreal, and that really doesnt happen to me with anyone. I usually always feel like no one understands me, but I have a good intuition/feeling about him. Yeah I know he's just a celebrity but still ya know I like him a lot even if it's just as a person alone, I admire him.

When I say I usually like guys that dont approach me, I mean the type of guys I am usually attracted to are not the type to come up to me or notice me. I guess usually guys like that need a girl who will approach them. I definitely dont like the "chase" or the forbidden fruit thing, I just find that it kind of says something about them. If a guy comes up to me and goes "aye shawty what your number" ehh I dont like it. Lol It shows a guy who is a player, or just judging me by my physical appearance. Why would he like me for something I was just born with? He doesnt know I can be a horrible person. I just dont like guys like that. I dont like a guy just based on appearance, like the guy I like, I started to like him when I saw his personality more, I actually didnt even notice him at first. If I like a guy it's based on his vibe and feel also, definitely a plus if he's cute but vibe is most important and I wouldn't approach a guy just cause I thought he was cute.

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Yup. That's what I said. I don't think you really need labels to love someone.

Oh yeah. I remember that thread of yours. That's cool.How are you gonna go about this whole thing though? You know you definitely need to initiate if it's him right? He probably doesn't even know about your existence. Or does he? Do you want this to go somewhere or you just prefer admiring him from far?

I was 14, she was 14, and both of us were just dumb horny kids. I think it was the cool thing to do at the time. All of the kids from my generation wanted to be as adult as possible, as far from the truth that really was. Everyone just wanted lost virginity under their belt, and most of us came from neglectful parents anyway. We were more influenced by each other then our parents, which is our biggest flaw. This is why half of young adults are completely fucked mentally. This is amplified from living in an era of instant gratitude due to technology. I do believe there are good individuals from my generation that have the ability to progress humanity in positive ways though (thank God)

Anyway I'm a Leo sun, she is a Virgo sun, and both of us are Scorpio Pluto.

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Posted by sleepwalker
I'm 17 and I'm still a virgin. I'll probably die a virgin

Your day will come

I've had rships with three guys that were virgins, aged 19, 23 and 24

I was much too young at aged 16

Better to wait

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Posted by SoulOfABird

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Posted by SoulOfABird


I dont know if I ever been in love, since I never had a relationship. However I do currently like this one guy a lot ... but he's a music artist ?Since I dont know him personally can I call it love? I dont know since I dont know him personally but I know a lot about him, but one things for sure I do have feelings for him, and all that "mushy" stuff LOL and if I can imagine what being in love is, I can imagine being like this but maybe amplified twice as much if I was actually with him. Thing is, you're right that physical attraction is usually what rails people in. It's just in my ideal world I would be friends with him first and then slowly develop into lovers but that's just my fantasy it most likely wont happen in real life for me. Thing is just cause I think a guy is cute doesnt mean I would want to be with him. I may find him attractive but dont him to be my man if the vibes I get from him arent right or if he just has a personality I dont like. I don't care if he's the most drop dead gorgeous guy, if I dont like his personality Im not interested. A lot of my crushes on guys (which was maybe a few) maybe weren't seen as "goodlooking" to some in a conventional way but to me they were amd they had that 'something' about them that I find hard to find. So to me the guys I found attractive and the guys I wanted to be with are different. I dont think I can ever like a guy without envisioning having a future with him. Im not interested in dating a guy I cant imagine being forever with, weird but that's how it is for me. I wouldnt want to date for fun.

I do think me being an introvert has something to do with it. Also being shy too, so actually it's both. As because I like being in solitude serenity I like being alone I dont want to share my space with a guy I cant feel a strong connection with or dont feel comfortable around. I wouldnt want to share my space with a guy that doesn't understand me and someone I can imagine being with for the rest of my life. Also being shy doesnt help either, because most guys I like are not the type to approach me, and I sure as heck don't. Im even shy to make eye contact with them lol so I let it pass like the wind, just hoping and praying he will notice me?

Umm..lol! You don't have to be in a relationship to love a person.

Talking about the guy you like, you don't know him personally. Meaning you never talked to him? You might just be having an admiration for him...like this deep admiration.You might be in love with the idea you have of him in your head. That changes once you actually talk to him. You may or may not actually like him... you never know.

Wait! Why do you think being friends first n then morphing into lovers doesn't happen?? It totally could. That's what happens usually. You can ignore all the labels. The weird thing is, you're not even friends with the guy who you say you really like. See how this works?? It need not necessarily start there.

I don't find your dating concept weird or alien. That's how it works for me too. I don't date for fun. Nor did looks ever attract me. Only thing is I don't even get attracted to the guys I don't wanna be with. So they are not two different things for me. Also I think sharing space thing goes for people in general. We only wanna share it with people we like.

Lol!! When you say you like guys who are not the type to approach you, do you mean you like guys who aren't easy? Or just introverts?Because, if it's difficult guys you're going for, it may not be attraction. It might be the chase or just the idea of love or even validation you're looking for. You know kinda like this forbidden fruit syndrome.You might wanna be careful there.

Wait you mean you dont have to be in a relationship with that person to be in love with them?

When I say "attractive" and "attraction" I mean two different things. Im not attracted to a guy I wouldnt want to be with. Attractive is more physical to me and can be seen, while attraction can't be seen, but it's felt.

Yes you're right, it may change if I met him in person. I acknowledge that. But I know more about him than how Americans know about Western Celebrities. I made a post on here about it, he is a Korean music artists and they interact with their fans a lot in the Korean music industry. Still Im sure there is much more I dont know about him, because again I never met him, but for me I think it's just an intuitive feeling. Like we have a lot in common amd have gone through similar things it's kind of surreal, and that really doesnt happen to me with anyone. I usually always feel like no one understands me, but I have a good intuition/feeling about him. Yeah I know he's just a celebrity but still ya know I like him a lot even if it's just as a person alone, I admire him.

When I say I usually like guys that dont approach me, I mean the type of guys I am usually attracted to are not the type to come up to me or notice me. I guess usually guys like that need a girl who will approach them. I definitely dont like the "chase" or the forbidden fruit thing, I just find that it kind of says something about them. If a guy comes up to me and goes "aye shawty what your number" ehh I dont like it. Lol It shows a guy who is a player, or just judging me by my physical appearance. Why would he like me for something I was just born with? He doesnt know I can be a horrible person. I just dont like guys like that. I dont like a guy just based on appearance, like the guy I like, I started to like him when I saw his personality more, I actually didnt even notice him at first. If I like a guy it's based on his vibe and feel also, definitely a plus if he's cute but vibe is most important and I wouldn't approach a guy just cause I thought he was cute.

Yup. That's what I said. I don't think you really need labels to love someone.

Oh yeah. I remember that thread of yours. That's cool.How are you gonna go about this whole thing though? You know you definitely need to initiate if it's him right? He probably doesn't even know about your existence. Or does he? Do you want this to go somewhere or you just prefer admiring him from far?

He doesnt know I exist no ? I didnt expect anything out of it to happen for me it's just a fantasy, because chances of that happening are so unlikely. It's one in a million but you know it's nice to dream. But I do at least want him to know of my existence even if it's just as a fan. I mean I plan on moving and working in Korea cause I want to be a translator. I have been wanting this before I even liked him and want work there. I'll just for now at least try to write him a letter

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Yeah I saw Chris's suggestion about writing a letter after I posted. Letter does seem like a good idea. You need draw his attention with it though. I mean they be getting a lotta letters. What's the chance that he'll read yours? But yes, you gotta start somewhere.

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I dont know if I ever been in love, since I never had a relationship. However I do currently like this one guy a lot ... but he's a music artist ?Since I dont know him personally can I call it love? I dont know since I dont know him personally but I know a lot about him, but one things for sure I do have feelings for him, and all that "mushy" stuff LOL and if I can imagine what being in love is, I can imagine being like this but maybe amplified twice as much if I was actually with him. Thing is, you're right that physical attraction is usually what rails people in. It's just in my ideal world I would be friends with him first and then slowly develop into lovers but that's just my fantasy it most likely wont happen in real life for me. Thing is just cause I think a guy is cute doesnt mean I would want to be with him. I may find him attractive but dont him to be my man if the vibes I get from him arent right or if he just has a personality I dont like. I don't care if he's the most drop dead gorgeous guy, if I dont like his personality Im not interested. A lot of my crushes on guys (which was maybe a few) maybe weren't seen as "goodlooking" to some in a conventional way but to me they were amd they had that 'something' about them that I find hard to find. So to me the guys I found attractive and the guys I wanted to be with are different. I dont think I can ever like a guy without envisioning having a future with him. Im not interested in dating a guy I cant imagine being forever with, weird but that's how it is for me. I wouldnt want to date for fun.

I do think me being an introvert has something to do with it. Also being shy too, so actually it's both. As because I like being in solitude serenity I like being alone I dont want to share my space with a guy I cant feel a strong connection with or dont feel comfortable around. I wouldnt want to share my space with a guy that doesn't understand me and someone I can imagine being with for the rest of my life. Also being shy doesnt help either, because most guys I like are not the type to approach me, and I sure as heck don't. Im even shy to make eye contact with them lol so I let it pass like the wind, just hoping and praying he will notice me?

Umm..lol! You don't have to be in a relationship to love a person.

Talking about the guy you like, you don't know him personally. Meaning you never talked to him? You might just be having an admiration for him...like this deep admiration.You might be in love with the idea you have of him in your head. That changes once you actually talk to him. You may or may not actually like him... you never know.

Wait! Why do you think being friends first n then morphing into lovers doesn't happen?? It totally could. That's what happens usually. You can ignore all the labels. The weird thing is, you're not even friends with the guy who you say you really like. See how this works?? It need not necessarily start there.

I don't find your dating concept weird or alien. That's how it works for me too. I don't date for fun. Nor did looks ever attract me. Only thing is I don't even get attracted to the guys I don't wanna be with. So they are not two different things for me. Also I think sharing space thing goes for people in general. We only wanna share it with people we like.

Lol!! When you say you like guys who are not the type to approach you, do you mean you like guys who aren't easy? Or just introverts?Because, if it's difficult guys you're going for, it may not be attraction. It might be the chase or just the idea of love or even validation you're looking for. You know kinda like this forbidden fruit syndrome.You might wanna be careful there.

Wait you mean you dont have to be in a relationship with that person to be in love with them?

When I say "attractive" and "attraction" I mean two different things. Im not attracted to a guy I wouldnt want to be with. Attractive is more physical to me and can be seen, while attraction can't be seen, but it's felt.

Yes you're right, it may change if I met him in person. I acknowledge that. But I know more about him than how Americans know about Western Celebrities. I made a post on here about it, he is a Korean music artists and they interact with their fans a lot in the Korean music industry. Still Im sure there is much more I dont know about him, because again I never met him, but for me I think it's just an intuitive feeling. Like we have a lot in common amd have gone through similar things it's kind of surreal, and that really doesnt happen to me with anyone. I usually always feel like no one understands me, but I have a good intuition/feeling about him. Yeah I know he's just a celebrity but still ya know I like him a lot even if it's just as a person alone, I admire him.

When I say I usually like guys that dont approach me, I mean the type of guys I am usually attracted to are not the type to come up to me or notice me. I guess usually guys like that need a girl who will approach them. I definitely dont like the "chase" or the forbidden fruit thing, I just find that it kind of says something about them. If a guy comes up to me and goes "aye shawty what your number" ehh I dont like it. Lol It shows a guy who is a player, or just judging me by my physical appearance. Why would he like me for something I was just born with? He doesnt know I can be a horrible person. I just dont like guys like that. I dont like a guy just based on appearance, like the guy I like, I started to like him when I saw his personality more, I actually didnt even notice him at first. If I like a guy it's based on his vibe and feel also, definitely a plus if he's cute but vibe is most important and I wouldn't approach a guy just cause I thought he was cute.

Yup. That's what I said. I don't think you really need labels to love someone.

Oh yeah. I remember that thread of yours. That's cool.How are you gonna go about this whole thing though? You know you definitely need to initiate if it's him right? He probably doesn't even know about your existence. Or does he? Do you want this to go somewhere or you just prefer admiring him from far?

He doesnt know I exist no ? I didnt expect anything out of it to happen for me it's just a fantasy, because chances of that happening are so unlikely. It's one in a million but you know it's nice to dream. But I do at least want him to know of my existence even if it's just as a fan. I mean I plan on moving and working in Korea cause I want to be a translator. I have been wanting this before I even liked him and want work there. I'll just for now at least try to write him a letter

Yeah I saw Chris's suggestion about writing a letter after I posted. Letter does seem like a good idea. You need draw his attention with it though. I mean they be getting a lotta letters. What's the chance that he'll read yours? But yes, you gotta start somewhere.

Yeah but I wouldn't know how to make it stand out

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@ChrisxKodak Help!!?

I was 18 years old going on 19 and it was with an Aries man ?

My Sun sign is Taurus

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Posted by SassyKiwi
I'm still a virgin. If I happen to lose my virginity, that means I got married ?

For some reason ever since I was a kid the idea of dating to pass time never appealed to me. It only made sense to date if courtship was involved. Besides back in grade school dating meant sexually exploring like a nub. I even had some crazy friends who got knocked up by middle and high school. I find all that very sad.

As I got older and began getting more and more repulsed by the casual hook-up culture, I somehow started romanticizing the idea of being me and my future husband's firsts, each other's one and only. Super easy for me since I can't even begin to think of sexually getting involved with someone without emotionally and mentally falling for them. My uranus and saturn energy is very stubborn on this matter.

I have faith I'll find him.

I feel the exact same way! What sign and house is your Uranus and Saturn in?

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Uranus in Capricorn 3rd house

Saturn in Pisces 4th house

They're meh. My overall chart has significant Uranus and Saturn energy. But I'm fire dominant and Plutonian. Girl it's all that Aqua energy. I've come across plenty of Aqua suns and moons who are saving themselves until marriage.

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I'm still a virgin. If I happen to lose my virginity, that means I got married ?

For some reason ever since I was a kid the idea of dating to pass time never appealed to me. It only made sense to date if courtship was involved. Besides back in grade school dating meant sexually exploring like a nub. I even had some crazy friends who got knocked up by middle and high school. I find all that very sad.

As I got older and began getting more and more repulsed by the casual hook-up culture, I somehow started romanticizing the idea of being me and my future husband's firsts, each other's one and only. Super easy for me since I can't even begin to think of sexually getting involved with someone without emotionally and mentally falling for them. My uranus and saturn energy is very stubborn on this matter.

I have faith I'll find him.

I thought you were like with an older dude during college or something? Maybe that was someone else, but I swear you were with a divorcee. lol

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Looool I was never with a divorcee. I've had weird encounters. They are buried in a grave. I have blossomed into a wise lotus since ?

I was 16 in a 3 year relationship with my Gemini ex boyfriend