People comparing everyone to themselves. Why?

Hello,

I would like to ask what you think about people comparing others to themselves?

I am 27 years old and i am just finishing my studies. Its not my fault that I study so long- but I have gained a lot of experience, i participated in many workshops, internships, stages, students works, organisations and competitions during my educational experience.

I am a person who is open minded, and i have never compared anyone to myself because I know that people have their own rhytm, noone must be the best in everything at ONCE.

So i treated people, my friends equally, when someone won some competition i was so proud, when someone had problems i was listening giving advices.

But when I turned 25 everything changed.

I knew that I had to study 2 years more to complete my master degree. It was a time that my friends, people that i relied on finished their studies completly and were new at the job market, starting to be professionals.

I was still a student but working part time, freelance, doing money at internships.

So for me it was ok. but some of them not.

I am ambitious and I wanted to gain experience but it was time people were 'getting me down'. Some of them were jealous that I wwas still a student but gaining money, but some of them were telling me I was disorganised, I must learn more. I must do this and this. its a faux pas to study so long because I should have graduated when they graduated and so one.

I felt pressure of them and started to question myself and my career.

Of course they were graduate students with As or Bs at the diploma.

Usually there were girls that were telling me how to behave, that i needed do be like that or like that.

I cut contact with those people because i didnt want to be overwhelmed.

Right now I finish my studies, i am abroad on an exchange but also started working at an office connected to my careef profile.

Only few of my friends know it. I dont want to tell people about that because now i know that they would come back saying- oo you did organise, that is nice.

I have heard a phrase like this so many times. Like they would be better or judging me as kings or queens.

And i would like to ask You all.

Am i too paranoied? Should i come back to those people?

Were they telling e the truth but it was me who didnt want to accept it?

Why they were telling me that?

I am an Aries Woman, maybe its because of that.

Thank you and wainting for the answers.

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sorry i don't really understand what's this all about 😕

Posted by AerialView
sorry i don't really understand what's this all about 😕

She studied for too long and other people graduated before her and now they're looking down their noses at her because she's still studying.

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Posted by AerialView
sorry i don't really understand what's this all about 😕

She studied for too long and other people graduated before her and now they're looking down their noses at her because she's still studying.

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They were too stupid to know advanced degree

takes longer, or attempted humblebrag /

validation?

Your referring to these judgmental assholes as 'friends'. They aren't.

You need to be more brutal and cut out the dead weight for good. Don't let their empty flattery fool you.

And i would like to ask You all.

Am i too paranoied? Should i come back to those people?

Were they telling e the truth but it was me who didnt want to accept it?

Why they were telling me that?

I am an Aries Woman, maybe its because of that.

Thank you and wainting for the answers.

Gurl stop. You know what you are doing and it doesn't matter what anyone else says or does. Stay on your path - to them it's the path less traveled - but it is the right path for you. Reach your goals, smile, and be nice for they do not understand ... no, you don't have to go back to those people - most likely they will circle around again at some point. I mean with your sort of staying away have any of them contacted you? No - and it doesn't matter. Keep people in your life that are unconditional and lose all else. Fact of life. Lose the toxic and move forward with what works. As people grow up and get into the real world, their attitudes change, good or bad or a combo, get funky, whatever. That's them. Stick to you and what you know and your goals and where you are going. It is truly all that matters in the end. Your Aries and Capricorn is driving you there so just smile and wave along the way. Caoi~

thank you all for the comments.

i really apprieciate that and sorry for my philosophical thougths.