I know this is the million dollar question, Why do Cancer men ghost you?

I have just got out of a 5 year relationship and started hanging out with this Cancer man, I am an Aries. First of all, the last thing that I wanted was to get involved with anyone, as my previous relationship was unhealthy. But, I could not resist this cancer man, how I confided in, I trust him, I am totally at awe of him. He has really got into my head, The last month I started letting my guard down. He told me about a month in he is not good at relationships. but then as time went on and I tell him how I am feeling, and worried about his whole thought on relationship, he says not to worry. Anyway, we are hanging out more, being more open and things are growing between us, I feel, I am convinced he was feeling it to.

On Thursday evening I was showing him some things in my phone and he was reading some messages to a friend, and they were about him, I did not show him the messages, she text when he was looking at pictures and opened up her messages. Anyway, he asked me why I was sounding so tough, like I don't really have feelings for him. Well, he shouldn't of read any messages, however, I just got out of a horrible relationship. I am soo damn afraid of getting hurt. The messages weren't bad or negative about him, just that I don't want to get hurt. But, I could tell he felt hurt that I was meaning I didn't care for him much. Not the case.

So, new years eve, we were together and I was at his house, and could not fall asleep. It was 3:30 am , so I went home. He had to leave his house at 7:00 am for a flight and I did not want to wake him up. I got about 10 minutes down the road and he texted, you leave? I explained how I couldn't sleep. Went home and the morning he text me, "I can't believe you cant sleep at my place, did I snore, is my bed uncomfortable" I called him and said no, and that I regretted leaving, because, I didn't get to see him off and I don't want to have regrets so early in the new year and that I was sorry. He literally will not talk to me since. I text him twice, once was, are you mad and just not wanting to talk, to which no reply, last night I said that I hope he is having fun and I am thinking about him and I miss him, his response, was this: okay cool. I am just confused as, was he playing me and not really liked me and just easy out, or did I really hurt him.. And what can I do to get things back on track. I mean, I am an aries and would like to think I am tough and nobody will hurt me again, but, really, I am just a girl that wants this big all consuming fairytale love. Did I blow it?

Also, we live in a small area, everyone knows everyone. He hasn't had any girlfriends that I know of, but one. I don't think he gets real serious about anyone. He says that he has a hard time being in relationships, and feels that he is selfish. So, IDK what that has to play into it, other than , maybe he isn't that into me and wants out. and this is his chance? But he also says that I am perfect (LOL< HARDLY) and I am so good to him and he likes me and misses me when we aren't together. Has wanting to spend all time with me. CONFUSED

I am not playing games, I could not sleep. I laid there until 3:30 am, I only live a few miles away, I figured it would be better than waking him up.

Posted by WarAngel

After reading the original post: you hurt the guy's feelings. Stop trying to make amends. Let him cool off for a couple of weeks and then nudge him gently to guage his interest.

Just know he's already not good at relationships and you might be seeing why that is now.

This can go either way, but for now back off, he knows you feel remorse but don't lose your dignity.

Thank you for the advise, I really need it. It was not my intention to hurt him, I just didn't think that it would. And I dont want to lose my dignity by pestering him. I hope he comes around. ❤️

Let me find out Aries is really scary thou



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Deadass, let me find out

Next time leave a cute note by his besides table signed with xoxo so he knows you didn’t desert him without a second thought.

So literally he got back in to town and first stop was to see me. We were both really happy to see each other and when I asked him if he was mad or upset about me leaving and he was surprised, like he had no idea why I would think that. LOL>. So guess that just goes to show that I put to much thought and worry into it, when he was just busy. Made my stomach flip on my own. Whewww,, Thanks for all the advice. Specially to leave him a note if I ever need to leave. So, I guess we are back on and this is one happy Ram 😉

Lol i sense a bit of gaslighting going on. 🚩🚩🚩

They do what they do. They dont think about it much and they're not going to go back. Its weird.