Annoyed/confused

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Aquaneverletgo
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Ok first lets start off as I don't know anything about astrology but I would like some input in this situation, I was with this cancer woman for 2 years, everything happened so fast and we got married, as an aqua I would say that I was a little aloof and distant but I always appreciated every single detail from her and on my own way I got to show how much I loved her, lots of things past between us and she saw a weird thing of me on Craigslist and then she thought I was gay (which I'm not) I have had lots of girls and also have been straight all my life, well she has told everyone that I'm gay and she started dating this Scorpio (ugly by the way lol) guy that doesn't give a dime for her, we have a child together and that's the only that keep us from being distant, we got a divorced and on my part I didn't want to see her anymore because I still have feelings for her but I also have wont let her step on me anymore, she didn't wan to sign unless she was present every time I see my son, which leads is to have time as a family but at the end it all comes back to reality. I can see that she's feeling lonely like she has never been but she won't let go of the past. Yesterday we went out for my kid and when we came back to my place things got a little emotional and we got to the point that we almost had sex, Untill she told me that it was just that, that's when I stopped and I said well then no thank you. My question is this: why does she text me every time I stop calling her or texting back? Her mind games are that she uses the baby to get my attention again. I'm just tired of it and confused at the same time. I don't know what can I do to stop all this madness, I really hope someone can answer to this. Btw she's on this website too and if you pm me i can send you the details about her frustrated relationship with her new "friend" thank you.
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LIb4Life
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I don't know the full story, but why a wife would put out a rumor that her husband is gay is beyond me unless she was looking for a way out in the first place. I do not know your age's, but saying something as detrimental as that, sounds very immature. I will tell you this though....a lack of appreciation and respect can be a sad end to many wonderful relationships. You both seem to still love each other and you both seem very stubborn. You all have a beautiful child and since you apparently still love each other, pride needs to be set aside and the right thing needs to be done. I would never tell you to rekindle a relationship for sake of your child because we all know that never works, but seeing that you still apparently love each other, let the baby motivate you both to forgive and try to make your marriage work again. The true mark of maturity is when someone hurts you, but instead of hurting them back, you try to understand their situation. This applies to the both of you.
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Aquaneverletgo
@Aquaneverletgo
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Posted by LIb4Life
I don't know the full story, but why a wife would put out a rumor that her husband is gay is beyond me unless she was looking for a way out in the first place. I do not know your age's, but saying something as detrimental as that, sounds very immature. I will tell you this though....a lack of appreciation and respect can be a sad end to many wonderful relationships. You both seem to still love each other and you both seem very stubborn. You all have a beautiful child and since you apparently still love each other, pride needs to be set aside and the right thing needs to be done. I would never tell you to rekindle a relationship for sake of your child because we all know that never works, but seeing that you still apparently love each other, let the baby motivate you both to forgive and try to make your marriage work again. The true mark of maturity is when someone hurts you, but instead of hurting them back, you try to understand their situation. This applies to the both of you.

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I've tried so many things for the last three months, doing things that she likes but she keep putting on her mind that she won't get back at me, (her mom has a lot to do with this) she keeps on bringing the past and say that because of that she can't get back to me or trust me, btw I'm 31 and she's 26
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Aquaneverletgo
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I'm confused most of all because idk where I'm standing on, she have said that she doesn't want anything with me so I leave it at that, but when I pull away she find ways to to get my attention, my son is only a year old so obviously I can't ask him how he his so i need to keep communication between us. And annoyed because she keep on wanting to hang out like if we were a family and act like everything it's ok when is not. I want to live a normal life and leave the negative on the past for our own good. But when we reach that point there's always something, like I said I've tried my best but there's a wall that she has put between us and I won't climb on it just to find out that there's an abyss on the other side
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"we got a divorced and on my part I didn't want to see her anymore because I still have feelings for her but I also have wont let her step on me anymore, she didn't want to sign unless she was present every time I see my son, which leads is to have time as a family but at the end it all comes back to reality."

You didn't mention who initiated the divorce.
You also didn't mention why she insisted on being present when you wanted to see your son.

More facts, man.

But you did state you didn't want to see her anymore. Do you think that "maybe" she picked up on that?
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Aquaneverletgo
@Aquaneverletgo
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She did a dirty move on me that I won't discuss on here, but even tho that happened I did forgive her, everything was fixed by an attorney, she asked me for the divorce (because of her mom again) and I did stated that i didnt want to see her anymore on the mutual agreement but she didn't want to sign the divorce then, and I was like; wait you want the divorce but then you want to keep on doing all of this even if we have all this many issues between us, and even if I tried not to see her she insist to to do it that way, she still wants to do the things we used to do together when we were a couple, that's what makes me confused, but what happened yesterday is what threw me off, because I never expected that since I've never tried to have sex with her since that's not all what I want from her, again what should I do or say to stop all of this once and for all, without risking the fact of seeing my son like have had till now?
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Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
Posted by Aquaneverletgo
I do but, I'm more serious about someone who's willing to listen or help that someone who's just judging the feelings or the actions of somebody else without knowing the whole story from start to end.



You do this in EVERY thread you start. You don't hear what you want to hear and you hide your posts or run away.

Step back and look at YOUR actions for a minute.
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Aquas. Except for a few, they seem to be the most pig-headed of the fixed signs.
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Aquaneverletgo
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I don't, and to tell you the truth yes I've done many wrong things on the past but as time has come I've changed for my own good and the ones around me, especially my loved ones, including my kids and family, I hear out whoever is willing to say something positive and not just negative thoughts, I appreciate every input here, which also have helped me comprehend many wrong on my past, btw I'm a foreigner in case you haven't noticed so that's why my bad English and different thoughts, since we come from a different culture.
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Aquaneverletgo
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Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
Ok. According to your post, she initiated through an attorney.
But what remains is why she insists on being present when you meet the child...



That's something that i still don't understand, I asked her and she just said that is because our son is a handful and she knows that I need help with him, I have a 6 years old son that was just as wild as my one year and she knows this obviously, but I think is just because she just wants to spend time together since every time we do she seems to enjoy herself, And if I say that I'm just picking him up alone she will make up stories about; we already have plans, he's asleep or I'll let you know. It's really hard for me for me to just to seeing him alone. Bc she wants to be there every time :/
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Aquaneverletgo
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I have believe me, but she keeps on denial of not letting me seeing him on my own, if I agreed to that on the divorce is just because I told her, If you need to be happy and give me to give you all freedom I will then, but all I ask is to see my son without you being there, that's when she didn't like that and said no, that's what confused me, especially yesterday because she said that she hasn't being with anybody on the intimate part but she has tried to move on by seeing other guys, who's doesn't show the attention that she wants/needs. And if I have found out things is because she gives me clues or adds me or deletes me from social networks, which I have keep closed to evade all the drama.