Terrified of the future?

So, I know I have been all MIA for about 6 weeks, but hey I have been a very busy gal: I officially have my BA, got rid of the confusing cancer man, and started dating an Aries. PLUS my son turns one in 2 days!

Anyways, I have known I would be starting an MA program for months now, it begins at the end of June, and yet when I think about it I have like panic attacks. I don't know if I am nervous about the work load or is the future is just a scary thought of uncertainty for me...

Does anyone else panic when they think too far ahead?

Good to hear you're progressing forward with the plans.
What did end up happening with the Cancer, if you don't mind me asking? (though maybe I shouldn't dig up the past) and where/how did you meet your new Aries?
🙂

Ok so Cancer guy just never became more clear. I thought after we decided to actually date and move forward it would be less confusing, but it wasn't. Every conversation, text, and email, left me trying to decode it. I finally told him that communicating with him was like trying to talk to a character from Alice in Wonderland: Nothing substantial is said, and you are left feeling like you took a bunch of drugs and fell down the damn rabbit hole, and well I cannot be in a relationship like that... too exhausting.

Anyway, my Aries went to my school until last week when he graduated with a degree in Biology. We went on our first date a little over a month ago, and it has been great. No confusion, complete openness and so much fun! He accepts my baggage and past, yet accepts me for who I am right now. I haven't had to decode anything and he makes sure I feel secure about everything. Plus we just super click. I have always heard Aries and Cancer don't mix, but I have never had anything run more smoothly before. I guess it is still new and has time to change but so far I have been left with my heart pounding and breathless.

Congratulations!

Thanks, but I am so scared!!

But things are going so well for you. Why be scared lol. You gon be just fine. Luck is clearly in your favor 🙂. Just take one day at a time. Get as much stuff done & focus on the day you are in. Plus you got support along the way. Sure it'll be tough, but the best things & rewards in life never come easy. But you will make it. Don't give up

Arietteheart nah, she just met a bad man period. I wouldn't blame it on the sign. She's stronger & happier now as we can see.

Congrats !!!!!!!! I love seeing fellow women get serious about education.Keep going ! Getting a masters is sweet if not sweeter than the bachelors.

Yeah ariette, I think it was mainly communication issues. I remember the story. Bottom line is, im glad she is happy. I don't like seeing my fellow Cancers upset. Don't ever be Scared of anything @That1Girl.

Posted by arietteheart2
Wow cancer man is even confusing for cancer woman. Good luck with aries man.

Not really, just that one. I have many cancer man in my life that I understand completely. The guy I a referring to before was a weird situation mixed with awful communication problems..

I don't know why the MA seems so scary, maybe it's a confidence issue

Naw, you just a lil nervous that's all lol. Once those A's start coming in, you will forget why you was so worried. If you got that 1st degree, you can surly get this second one. Have faith in yourself. That's what my grandma always tell me. You'll be fine

I have an MS, so I can't speak on the MA. However, I do know that grad school is 10x the work we did in undergrad. The work isn't hard... it's just the workload that can get overwhelming at times. But if you've made it THIS far, I know you'll be okay.

That all sounds good - well done

Posted by That1Girl
Ok so Cancer guy just never became more clear. I thought after we decided to actually date and move forward it would be less confusing, but it wasn't. Every conversation, text, and email, left me trying to decode it. I finally told him that communicating with him was like trying to talk to a character from Alice in Wonderland: Nothing substantial is said, and you are left feeling like you took a bunch of drugs and fell down the damn rabbit hole, and well I cannot be in a relationship like that... too exhausting.

Kudos to you for accurately reading the signs and moving on! One of the biggest mistakes women make in dating is hanging on to a man whose not as invested in the relationship as they are. Sure it makes sense to give it some time and see where things go. What I've found is that men who were single, ready to commit at least theoretically and were attracted to me were the ones who communicated regularly and put real effort into moving things forward. There were men who were somewhat interested I guess but they never put in the effort. It's hanging your hat on those guys that's the real problem here. Don't settle for men who aren't hot to trot for you. Rather, pick among the men who are. Confused men are too confusing and better left to their own devices cuz they're not going to make you happy. Good luck with the Aries!

how much stripping did you do for you ba?

Posted by PrettyQueenBee
I have an MS, so I can't speak on the MA. However, I do know that grad school is 10x the work we did in undergrad. The work isn't hard... it's just the workload that can get overwhelming at times. But if you've made it THIS far, I know you'll be okay.

I think I can handle a larger workload for some reason I have it in my mind that all of a sudden I am not going to understand anything anymore...

Posted by That1Girl
So, I know I have been all MIA for about 6 weeks, but hey I have been a very busy gal: I officially have my BA, got rid of the confusing cancer man, and started dating an Aries. PLUS my son turns one in 2 days!

Anyways, I have known I would be starting an MA program for months now, it begins at the end of June, and yet when I think about it I have like panic attacks. I don't know if I am nervous about the work load or is the future is just a scary thought of uncertainty for me...

Does anyone else panic when they think too far ahead?

First, congratulations!!!! My hats off to you. You got this down girl!!!!

Panicky over uncertain future even when it is scheduled? Yes. This is normal. But proceed anyway. Use fear to excel yourself forward.

Happy Birthday to your son!!!