Another Cancer male/Taurus female story

I am totally in love with someone I met through my job. I work at a hotel and
he's been guesting with us for about a year now. From the first moment I met
him, there was a spark between us and I tried to deny it, but could never get him
off my mind. I ended up quitting the job but still thought of him. I am married
but separated and was still with my husband when I first met him so that's why I
was afraid to approach him in any way. I ended up going back to the job and he
was really happy to see me. Recently I started living here (too long a story to
explain)and I decided to send him an email. At first it was just a friendly
email but then I decided to take a chance and basically offer myself to him. To
make a long story short, we are now lovers and even though he has a girlfriend
and he knows I'm still married, we have the most incredible connection. I have
never felt this way for someone before . I really think I am in love with him. He is a Cancer and I'm a Taurus and there's a 10 year gap between us; him 28, me 38. I've always been attracted to Scorpios and he is my first Cancer. We get along really well as friends and he's the one who called me his friend first. I know I'm going to get hell from everyone because he has a gf, but we try to just not care about that. When we're together, it's just us. No one matters and the sex is incredible. I thought Scorpios and Pisces males were good, but I think Cancers win hands down. Anyway, I also recently found out that after I had quit, he'd been asking about me, so I know he has feelings for me. I just need some advice on how to proceed with this. Thanks.

OMG! Be prepared to get bashed!

I'm ashamed that you're a taurus.

lol wow too interesting. Seems like the Cancer guys get what they want when they want it and ...the T Girls are the ones to give it to them. I would say the whole being in other relationships is the worst of it all, but to each his own. As a woman, person, grown up Im a little irked that people do sleep around, but personally...why bother to throw insults...Im in too positive of a place to bash it although i dont condone it.

sounds like a good test MsPi. I'll ditto that.

""I know I'm going to get hell from everyone because he has a gf, but we try to just not care about that.""


haha!


i can't believe i just dignified you w/ a response

""You don't.

This entire thing is about sex. I mean DUH! Any guy would be asking where did the hot sex go, if it walked out the door. Don't read more into it.

Don't start making it all emotional now, just own it. It was - what it was. ""


lol! for true.

"you are someone who wants to make Taurus look sleezy like you, and make all cancers sound like super large heavy duty whores! We may be large flirts, but we are not large whores."

Second that!

It's not because of a sign...not because he's a cancer..but he's a guy...10 yrs gap...what does he really wants from u?? It's PUREly "SEX"...and pure LUST...
You're still married and he has a girlfriend... should u think more matured to know the difference...?
Not simply put any blame totally on u..since that guy also could be the one to be blame here...well anyway...we all want to see where this kind of relationship will be on next...let us know if it's going to work out later...

I AM SORRY TO BE READING ALL THIS, BUT AS FAR AS I KNOW A CANCER DOESN'T LIKE A WOMAN THAT GIVES HERSELF TO HIM, UNLESS IT IS ONLY SEX!!!!!!!!!!THEY LIKE TO CHASE YOU AND PUT YOU ON A PEDESTAL, THEY ARE JEALOUS AND POSSESSIVE AND THEY WANT YOU FOR THEMSELVES ONLY(WHICH IS WHY I LOVE THEM)THEY ALSO SHOW YOU THAT THEY CARE AND THEY ARE SO LOVELY WHEN THEY ARE NEEDY AND THEY SULK(I WONDER IF HE HAS SHOWN YOU ANY OF THESE BEAUTIFUL TREATS)!!!!!CANCERS ARE TOO RESPONSABLE AND DOWN TO EARTH TO BE DOING THIS DO NOT PUT ANY HEART OR EMOTIONS IN THIS OR DON'T MAKE A BIG DEAL OUT OF IT!!!
VERY CURIOUS TO FIND OUT HOW THIS WILL TURN OUT TO BE......

Each to their own, at least he was honest with you (which is more than the Gem I dated who had a gf was!). Have the two of you spoken about the future and what it holds for you? Personally I think the majority of the guilt lies with him, he's the one that's attached, as in her first post she says she's separated from her husband.

It's your choice at the end of the day, but always be aware that this could go tits up, so's to speak.

''It's your choice at the end of the day, but always be aware that this could go tits up, so's to speak.''

It is YOUR life. You do what you feel is right and ignore the rest of the insecure, jealous women on here. They envy you because you managed to hook yourself a Cancer. Its a 2 way street. He is interested in you too.

His girlfriend is obviously not enough for him or not the pne he wants to spend his life with. He is holding onto her because she is just a familiar security blanket. If he loved her -he would have committed properly and married her. But he hasnt. He wouldnt be pursuing you if he was in love with his girlfriend.

We cant choose who we fall in love with.

Age isnt a factor for love anyway (Unless he is under age). Only 10 years difference.

Go for it. I bet the sex is amazing!

lol yall are crazy. She didnt say anything about love, she said a connection, and while I dont doubt they have a connection (situated somewhere about the mid-region of the body) i do doubt that its anything remotely close to love.

We can't help who we fall in lust with, but love has always and will always be a choice. When people stop romanticizing heavy breathing and pelvic thrusts we may all just find that love is so much more than the trivial physical pursuit and instant gratification that sex and a little ego stroking attention has to offer.

She DID mention Love. Her first sentence ''I am totally in love with someone I met through my job.''

They are BOTH consenting, fully grown Adults. Who is to judge what is 'right' and 'wrong'? People should quit playing 'holier than thou'. I'm sure everyone here has skeletons in their closets.

If it all goes haywire - they will HAVE to take responsibility over their actions.

Actually before we slept together, I did ask him why he doesn't he leave his gf and he said it's because she's good with his daughter. Also, since he's in the Army, he travels a lot. He doesn't see much of her. He sees me more than her. I think he told me one time he hadn't seen her for 8 months! He married young, like me, and is divorced. (His ex tried to destroy his life.) I asked him if he was sleeping with other women and he said he wasn't the type to do that. I want to believe that he's being honest with me and I have trusted him. Now I'm not above dumping him if I find that he has been sleeping with other women. I know I'm gonna get bashed for that too. I know he doesn't love his gf because every time she calls him, he gets annoyed. But him being Cancer I think he's just afraid to let go of that security blanket. I'm willing to wait for him because I'm saving my money to get a divorce lawyer so I'll be free and clear and for the most part he is. We're not looking to get married, we've already discussed this. He wants the freedom to come and go the same as me. We just want to love each other and be there for each other as lovers and friends.

"I'm willing to wait for him because I'm saving my money to get a divorce lawyer so I'll be free and clear and for the most part he is. We're not looking to get married, we've already discussed this."

This situation has nothing to do with Zodiac signs, its crazy that you don't realize that he's only probably after you because you are married/taken and falling into his trap, some guys or girls love the fact that they are able to seduce someone who's already taken, I bet when you get a divorce and become single, he's going to back away and be on to the next, I mean if he really cared for you/love or not, he would have been called it quits with his gf, security blanket my a**. What goes around comes back on around, your both cheaters. Its sad that your so old and still get tricked by men, I thought wisdom came with age, hmmmm I guess not.

?I really think I am in love with him.?
?We get along really well as friends and he's the one who called me his friend first.?

That's your biggest problem, you are turning his small actions into something big.

?He married young, like me, and is divorced. (His ex tried to destroy his life.)?

Well that should tell you something from his past he has issues with relationships, I bet it's the other way around he tried to destroyed his Ex life.

?I asked him if he was sleeping with other women and he said he wasn't the type to do that.?

Heeeeeeeeeeeeelllllllooooooooo, any brain cells in there. HOW CAN HE NOT BE THAT TYPE, HE CHEATED ON HIS GIRLFRIEND, (YOU'RE THE OTHER WOMAN) I SEE WHAT THIS GUY IS DOING, HE'S TARGETING FEMALES WHO ARE FARTHEST FROM BEING BRIGHT - SOMEONE WHO EASILY FALL FOR HIS LIES. TRY CUTTING OUT THE SEX FOR AWHILE AND SEE IF HE'S STILL INTERESTING IN YOU, THAT CONNECTION YOUR TALKING ABOUT PROBABLY WILL FADE QUICKLY. I'M GUESSING IN HIS EYES ITS JUST ANOTHER EXPERIENCE AND IN YOURS YOU SEEM TO HAVE FALLEN HARD FOR HIM.

Greetings crazy people,

I log in and check out the boards here daily and it never ceases to amaze me how b.i.t.c.h.y so many of you can be. Who are you to pass judgement? Remember like your mothers (should have) told you; if you have nothing kind to say, say nothing at all.

Furthermore, what is with the hostility and cyber bullying? Do you have to launch a personal attack whenever you do not happen to agree with someone else's comments/opinions/questions/choices? And some of you get so personally offended if a negative thing is said about your particular astrological sign....truly bizarre.

And one last comment....spellcheck....please for the love of all things good, use it!

''I'm willing to wait for him because I'm saving my money to get a divorce lawyer so I'll be free and clear and for the most part he is. We're not looking to get married, we've already discussed this. He wants the freedom to come and go the same as me.''

Youre willing to wait for him... wait for what exactly? Youve stated that he doesnt want to get married.

From what Ive read, he is NOT ready for commitment. Maybe he was hurt in the past. He obviously wanted excited when he found you which he is not getting from his current gf.

You need to find out WHAT HE WANTS.

Nothing seems certain here. It is SO easy to fall for a Cancer male. They are very charming. EXTREMELY articulate. They know exactly what theyre doing. Grand manipulators.

Just be careful how you tread....

Excuse me Aqua, 38 ain't old! Okay so it seems that everyone agrees this guy is a loser and is not the one for me. So, tell me, how the hell do I approach this subject with him? He's a Cancer like I said and every time I try to bring this subject about him leaving his gf, he shuts down and withdraws from me. I find myself just ready to walk away but I have known this man for over a year and I want to develop a relationship with him. I know most of you agree that he's a cheater and will probably do the same to me if we were together. The thing is when there is no sex, we do talk as friends and get along just fine. It's not all about the sex. Actually, I have been withholding sex for almost 3 weeks now to test him and so far he has not pressured me into it. I don't know if that means anything, but someone out there needs to explain this behavior to me. I was married to the same man for 16 years and have limited experience dealing with relationships. And you're right maybe I am naive, but am not dumb. I open my heart to people because I feel I can help them in the long run. Maybe to you it seems I'm not the brightest bulb in the bunch, but I'm a giver and I guess some men take advantage of that. That's why I am here, for advice. So maybe you relationship experts can steer me the right way and help me understand what I am feeling and what this man is up to.

How long has he been with his gf?

He withdraws because he DOESNT want to leave his gf. She is just a gf, not a fiance or wife.

Maybe he thinks youre sleeping with other men too....

He wants to stay with the gf because he Trusts her and knows that she wont cheat or leave him (ie his safety blanket).

Put yourself in his shoes. Do you keep the safety blanket (the gf) or do you move to new pastures and risk losing the security?

"Excuse me Aqua, 38 ain't old!"

^^^Whatever you say, I didn't mean to offend you. I'm Just Speaking from experience and I am only going by what you are posting and it doesn't seem like this guy is that truthfully into you like you think, if you meant that much to him, he wouldn't hesitate/withdraw when it comes to ending the relationship with his gf, it seems like your just taking little things and trying to sugar coat them, I am sure he cares for you as a friend, but this just one of those situations, where a person knows the outcome before it happens, but would rather experience the disaster anyways. Its good you are a giver and help others & blah,blah, but some ppl know that beforehand and will take advantage of you. I am truly sorry about anything that I wrote that offended you, because I've been in love/lust with a Liar/Cheater before and didn't want to face the truth, but its easier to face the truth sooner than later. I mean Good Luck With Whatever Choice You Make =)

He's been with the gf for about 7 months. About the same time that I separated from my husband. I am treading very lightly in this, trust me. I'm backing away from it as much as possible but it's hard when I see him because I get that warm and fuzzy feeling and just fall deeper into it. I hate feeling this way because I know I'm setting myself up to get hurt. Right now I'm trying to make sense of this whole mess that's my life and he's been there to help me through it. In a way, he's my security blanket and all I want is to be his security blanket. I was really depressed for a couple of months and he basically told me to snap out of it. Which I have, but now I find myself wanting to pay him back for what he's done for me but he won't accept anything. Not even gifts. And I don't want this relationship to be based on sex so I haven't slept with him like I mentioned before. In the beginning we were hot and heavy now it's just platonic and that's fine with me. But, now because of the bond we created, because face it we have been lovers and that's not ever going to change, I want to be more than friends and you're probably right, he's not ready for that type of relationship. But I feel that he does want more but is afraid of getting hurt. So how do I get him to open up to me and tell me what he wants?

Thank you, Aqua. That's why I am here to get advice from people who have been there. And you're right, I do see the outcome of this but just need to learn something from it. I always say there are no mistakes in life, just lessons. This may be one of my hardest lessons to learn, but I feel I have to see it to the end. I have been taken advantage of for many years from someone who should have not, my soon to be ex-husband. And, I feel this relationship will help me grow and teach me something about myself. In a way, I'm trying to strengthen myself through someone like him in the hopes that I can someday say to him or guys like him,"I am more deserving of you and you don't deserve me, so take a hike." Unfortunately, I'm not there yet and find myself constantly running to him or emailing him with stupid things. I'm not ready to learn yet I guess.

Hello there Prestonsgrl4vr....I am not a Cancer male; however, I am a woman. This situation doesn't sound the healthiest for you. Instead of focusing on what he wants and his needs, try focusing on YOU.

Ask yourself a few questions about what you really are looking for outside of the bedroom with him. Write it down on paper. The pros/cons of being with this man. Be honest with yourself too.

If after all that you still feel like it is worth pursuing, stand your ground and tell him what YOU WANT from him in this situation. If he can't at least meet you half way or go full force then at least you know where you stand.

You sound more emotionally vested that him at this time, at least based on what you wrote. As a Cancer, although I am emotional and sentimental I do know how to put on the suit of armor when needed/wanted (withdrawal/avoidance tactics).

Do not look for an answer from him. You answer those questions you have for yourself and then talk to him about what you have come up with. He will either take the hint an make an effort at leaving his GF (for whatever reasons) and try to make something happen with you or leave you alone completely because he realizes he can't or is unwilling to fulfill your needs. Either way at this point you have nothing to lose. It would be a WIN/WIN situation for you either outcome. Best of luck girlfriend!

Just a thought - Life is short so don't waste your time!

We make them cry who care for us.
We cry for those who NEVER care for us.
And we care for those who will NEVER cry for us.
This is the truth of life, it's strange but true.
Once you realize this, it's never too late to change.

Yeah despite my negative approach to your question at first, which was wrong of me, you honestly seem like a nice lady, My mother is a Taurus and I've dated many Cancer Sign Guys. Well I don't know about you, but when a relationship has ended for me, It takes me sometime to heal and get my mind right, I just hope your not trying to find a quick fix for your situation, by falling in love with the first guy who shows you a little attention, to forget your husband, I'm not saying forget this new guy, but just don't be so vulnerable, theres nothing wrong with friendship, I just hope you use your brain, because feelings can be deceiving.

First of all, if you post something like this, of course there will be people who have an opinion about it. It's immature and manipulative to say that someone who disagrees with this situation is a bully. If you are allowed to say your piece and someone else states an opposite opinion, that is not bullying. Bullying would be if we told people who bring these kinds of questions here to GO AWAY.

NOW - I do not need to state my opinion on the "other woman" situation - I've stated it many times and it's futile trying to have a discussion with someone who only wants to hear what THEY want to hear. however, I will say this - what kind of connection do you really have if you've known this man for over a year and he's only been with his girlfriend for 7 months? If there was such a connection then why didn't you two start this BEFORE he decided to date this girl? Please read the writing on the wall : he is only looking for sex; he probably has a couple other girls in different areas he travels to that he tells the exact same story.

If you don't want to listen and call me a bully or whatever else you [or anyone] wants to call me just because you don't like what I have to say then that is your option. But it is what it is.....

Xangelfish to answer your question, I was still with my soon to be ex when I first met him as I stated. I never cheated on my soon to be ex and wasn't about to do it then. That's why I fought the feelings. The connection I'm referring to is a soul mate connection. We are so much alike, it's scary. He's had most of the same experiences I've had and childhood I had. His father wasn't around much growing up and mine was just basically emotionally distant and might as well have not been around. We swap a lot of horror stories about past relationships and have a lot of the same views on basic life issues. We don't act fake around each other, we don't put each other down and we feel comfortable around each other. I know most of you have the opinion that he is after sex but I don't understand why we can still talk as friends and like I said I haven't had sex with him in about 3 weeks, so that's not the issue with him. How long can a Cancer man go without sex is my question?

Let me clarify. To simply disagree and state your opinion is not bullying. What I was referring to was the personal attacks directed at the OP through these quotes:

you are someone who wants to make Taurus look sleezy like you, and make all cancers sound like super large heavy duty just like mes! We may be large flirts, but we are not large just like mes. We're tiny just like mes, you dam loser...

you are not the brightest crayon in the box

DUUUUUHHHHHHHH, DIMWIT the FAKIE!

Heeeeeeeeeeeeelllllllooooooooo, any brain cells in there.

I don't think it is necessary to insult a person and their intelligence on these boards. Discussion and even disagreement is the point....at least be civil about it.

crab23, I think 2 or 3 of the verbally abusive quotes I referred to are yours.

Also, by reading a few of her posts on these boards, I believe xangelfishx to be much more civil than you give her credit. (then Angel would've ate you ALIVE, woman!!!)

Please.

Well for the most part I plan to stay out of this - I have enough stress going on in my own life....

Bijou - came across that way to me, but if you didn't mean it that way... it's all good.

amewzed - I wasn't purely refering to your comments, but ones in general talking about the OP being bashed - it's a topic many people have very strong opinions on, including myself. And while some of it may be a little harsher than is necessary, a lot of the tension on this board comes from the exact same people who call everyone else..ph lets see... bullies, haters, jealous bitches... whatever the terminology... infact being the ones who go around stomping all over other people and their opinions. Some people [like crab23] have simply gotten tired of it and stopped playing nice.

I REALLY have to agree one the crayons comment... I mean honestly how can you believe someone who says he "isn't that type" when he's doing exactly that with you?? Maybe it's not stupid, maybe it's just a blind desire to see the situation as one wants.... but seriously, it's a bold face lie when he tells the woman he's cheating on his girlfriend with that he's not the type to cheat... connection or no connection they are both cheating.

and if I'M calling the guy a liar there's some solid ground there because I'm the LAST person on all of DXP [ask anyone] to say anything negative about a cancer.

"a lot of the tension on this board comes from the exact same people who call everyone else..ph lets see... bullies, haters, jealous bitches... whatever the terminology... infact being the ones who go around stomping all over other people and their opinions. Some people [like crab23] have simply gotten tired of it and stopped playing nice."

this explains a lot! out of topics but i'm just getting tired of some people who kept on saying some women who have the same thought or and opinions on this matter are so "insecure and jealous" because the other women can get a CANCER man! What about if a cancer women get a scorpio man for example...(uh sorry for other scorps) will they get jealous? will they get insecure @ being a b***h for that?

Prestonsgrl4vr - I agree on what Hotgal78 mentioned above...come to think about it...despite the marriage problem that you have right now, you deserve to be with someone who worthy of your love and caring and attention.. not with someone who you know that will take any advantage on you even if it's going to make you learn the lesson the HARD way. And as a woman.. you need to feel worthy of yourselves because you are... (just my 2.7 cents)

"I do see the outcome of this but just need to learn something from it. I always say there are no mistakes in life, just lessons. This may be one of my hardest lessons to learn, but I feel I have to see it to the end. I have been taken advantage of for many years from someone who should have not, my soon to be ex-husband. And, I feel this relationship will help me grow and teach me something about myself. In a way, I'm trying to strengthen myself through someone like him in the hopes that I can someday say to him or guys like him,"I am more deserving of you and you don't deserve me, so take a hike." Unfortunately, I'm not there yet and find myself constantly running to him or emailing him with stupid things. I'm not ready to learn yet I guess."

**my post above for u Prestonsgrl4vr is based on what you've posted before**

Adding another point...if you think u can learn something from this guy to strengthen you life or make you become stronger woman..i'm worried if it is going to make u degrading yourself later. (hope it helps - speaking from my own experience)

''I don't think it is necessary to insult a person and their intelligence on these boards. Discussion and even disagreement is the point....at least be civil about it.''

Most of the people on here are in a 'clique'. Theyre like sheep with no minds of their own and are lost without a shepherd. This type of herd behaviour, sadly, exists in our society.

They have not been taught how to be civil because they come from lower class backgrounds. They need lessons in social etiquette.

''Whatever it is, if she is in love with this man and as is he, then they are both doing their other lovers a favor... It is a clear message that they and their lovers are not meant to be together because if their loves were true and powerful, it would have prevailed this fornication.''

Exactly!

And most people who claim they are on the moral high ground and are berating others, are usually people who are guilty themselves or are afraid it may happen to them.

You can take the girl out of the slums, but you cannot take the slums out of the girl.

Now, now, ladies let's be civil here. I didn't mean anyone to get in an uproar with this subject. Listen, I think you all have helped me see the light about this guy. I'm trying to distance myself from him and for the most part he hasn't tried to contact me, so I guess what some were saying that he was just after the sex is true. It's hurting like hell right now because I allowed myself to feel for someone so deep and he used me that way. I've never known love and I guess any guy that gives me attention, I fall for too hard. I'm asking myself now, how could I be so stupid. He's being deployed to Iraq in June and is looking to move back to FL, so that's the end of that. I've erased all his emails and his email addy and am trying to just wipe out anything that reminds me of him. I just wish I was wrong about this because it's just breaking my heart and I can't stop crying.

CombatingMyGeminiSister - "Although i am appalled by this situation and it's pretty poor judgement in her part"

I can agree with you on this part..no one denies her feeling on the guy..it's merely poor judgement and i don't condone on what she did also...

Scorpion sting - STFU! not everyone on here just because we on some sort of having agreement on the same topic can be called "clique"..and lady...take a very good look of yourself in the MIRROR... i dont even think that you came from a higher class either. Should higher class people join this forum to get some insights??

This is not going anywhere..why can't u just being nice to some people and they will try to take you very seriously on this board... no need to keep up saying everyone so insecure and jealous because someone here are getting with a cancer guy especially...learn social etiquette yourself if you want people to accept you as you are...keep up making us here on this board looking like a stupid people... eventually Sting...others can see who the real u sooner or later...

scorpion sting - keep in mind that you do not know a single one of us personally. You have no standing to say who does and does not have a cancer man, is or is not jealous, and you certainly have no grounds to call anyone low class. I've known people like you my whole life....you're not fooling anyone with your confidant better than erveryone else act.

ahhhh....Jack...... I needed that... 🙂

Uhh....thanks Crab!
But no Jack for me...😉😉

Thank Crab!!!

''scorpion sting - keep in mind that you do not know a single one of us personally. You have no standing to say who does and does not have a cancer man, is or is not jealous, and you certainly have no grounds to call anyone low class. I've known people like you my whole life....you're not fooling anyone with your confidant better than erveryone else act.''

Angelfish. 3 words for you. Pot. Kettle. Black.


P.S. And how do YOU know I havent got a Cancer man? Who actually knows ANYONE here? You're stating the obvious therefore your comment lacks intelligent content.

WOW!.....shit happens to people and sometimes we get caught up quicker than we realize.
There's no need to pass judgment on anyone....its rather ironic my 3 girlfriends who are all Taurus' cheat all the time and two of them are married.

Truthfully I thought it was a Taurus trait..... I think it has to do with being selfish because they really really are. I didn't say this to insult anyone but life is what it is.

Scorpion sting, I don't pretend to be strong and confidant - as you yourself have pointed out. So knock off the BS.

Second - everyone here knows you don't have a cancer man because you put your whole story out on the boards for everyone to see.

And one last thing - yes there actually are people here who know each other.

If you are not sure where you stand test to see. Most men like the chase. Having fun is one thing but when you are getting attached to the guy you need to get some answers before you go to the next step. You have to make sure he is on the same page. Don't ask questions they normally avoid direct confrontations. Actions speaks louder than words. Cancer men and most men if they want you or are secretly claiming you don't want you with someone else. Maybe you should keep your options open and see other people. Don't be his one and only when he has another. You have made it too easy for him to have is cake and eat it too. If you don't want to see others then don't always be available when he wants to spend time with you. You will find out real soon how much he wants you. Men like a challenge even when they are married. A woman who has confidence and knows what she wants and will not seattle for less without being demanding. Know what you want.

An empty wagon makes a lot of noise. When a person needs attention and to vent they get it the best way they know how. A person who is mean and full of harsh remarks usually is miserable and misery loves company. It is best to not reply to them if they insist on being rude. Then they will be talking to themselves. Don't let them draw you into their hatefulness. Every one is entitled to their opinion you don't have to accept it nor respond.

Don't cry about it. Look at the bright side now you know what you have been missing. It helped you feel good after a 16 year marriage that went bad. You learned something I hope. Nothing is guranteed that is why you are getting a divorce it did not last. Get the most out of it and try to enjoy it for what it is. Love is a choice and people change their minds but it does not mean that they did not love you.

I still love a guy from my childhood. Every time I see him I feel the same the connection is the same. We have chosen to not do anything about but I still love him.

By the way his being deployed does not mean he did not love you. Maybe his career is keeping him from getting tied down. My brother is gone most to the time and it took a tole on his marriage. They are getting a divorce because of it. Maybe this guy first marriage did not work because he was always gone. Also Men don't jump back into marriage that quick. Cancer men don't get over a failed love affair to easy. He may be avoiding it.

Libra it is most certainly not a taurus trait to cheat.


I think Kel said it most intelligently....reread his/her response