Any Cancer girls dating a Capricorn man?

I need to know what the deal is with this dude. Is he playing games, testing me or is simply not interested? Please read.

We met in July and have yet to have been on a date. He says that he would go if I bring up something but never initiates anything. We only speak mostly during the week and hardly ever on the weekends. Maybe once every Sunday. I talk to him briefly almost everyday through text (maybe ask a question or 2 here and there). I go over there once a week at night when he gets home. He seems to be busy coaching, working and helping his sisters out with his nieces as well as taking care of his son so I try to be patient and not hound him so I don't ask him about his business. I let things flow but he doesn't say much about where his head is with me. I always initiate most of the convos. He will every now and then text me. He told me that he likes for the lady to be the aggressor and then he will take over. Last week he called me and told me to stop only talking to him in the mornings and after sch (10pm) so I managed to try to contact him in between time as well. He is responsive sometimes, sometimes he is not. I don't get him. If he isn't interested, why won't he just be upfront about his intentions (he said he didn't know where he was at with me, he is just going with things and he doesn't know what he wants). I don't believe him. From all the things that I have read, Caps know what they want. So is this dude playing with me or what? Also, Are caps ones to use people for sex or anything like that? We slept together and I didn't come over there for 2 weeks. He texted me and asked me when I was coming to see him so I guess it wasn't just about that.(this was about a month ago)

FACTS: I will say that when I tell him I want to see him, MOST of the time.. he will call me to come over there. He told me he is selective of who he lets come over. He is hardly ever at home. To be honest, I am not feeling this hot and cold behavior. Any advice?

What I want to do is stop contact because I am thinking that he is either using me, testing me or playing games. Please help.

Another note, I mentioned to him that I wanted to cut my hair and he didn't ask me.. he told me I was NOT going to cut my hair or we would have a problem. Um, controlling?? What was all that about. He is very blunt when he speaks but I don't take it personal. I like him he makes me laugh and we are good together whenever we are together. I enjoy his company. Also, he is affectionate. Tells me to come closer etc. I was thinking "o my, this has turned into a s*x thing", something I didn't want. ok now I am done! lol

Posted by Cancer87
Another note, I mentioned to him that I wanted to cut my hair and he didn't ask me.. he told me I was NOT going to cut my hair or we would have a problem. Um, controlling?? lol

If you are in the "courting" process before the dating even begins, and he is already telling you what you are and are not allowed to do—?

Uh, yeah.

It's called madness, and that is what you will end up with if you allow someone to control your life.

Ok thanks for your opinions. He is not getting all my attention and I think that is his deal on the whole "I need to contact him more" so to speak. He does seem to be controlling and that is not good at all. I have a life too and had one before him so oh well. I don't give him too much of my energy and as long as I am the "aggressor" I will do things on my own terms so saying that... this is a dead end.

Thanks you all!

@ScorpioFish: He has a sarcastic dry humor that I personally think is funny. I am not one to be controlled by anyone. I see how far he takes it but all in all. Yeah, he is not running -ish over here 🙂

No Initiating dates

Initiating most of the convos....Not good, he should be demonstrating INTEREST in YOU by attempting to KNOW WHO YOU ARE...If he's not doing that then (he's just not that into you)

No initiating contact of any kind? Does he initiate contact such as Facebook or emailing or text messaging? Just curious if he's even making an initiative of any kind with you.

If he's not doing the predominant amount of initiating contact and he's DOING his part of the courting/wooing/mating dance then yeah he's just not that into you.

The lady be the aggressor is CODE FOR I'M A LAZY BASTARD, no but seriously it's code for LAZY, he's not going to chase you, you have to chase him and notice something else...HE HASN'T PICKED UP ON CHASING YOU YET, he's DONE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING but let you do all the wooing and courting and relationship stuff....WHOOOOPEEEE SO MUCH FUN isn't it? NOT

Not only is he NOT taking the LEAD, he's actually STOPPED you from chasing him the mornings and the afternoons, LMAO...What a total assclown (sorry but I just can't hold back on this one LOL)

He says he doesn't know what he wants...Listen if a man don't know what he wants THEN HE DOESN'T WANT WHAT HE ALREADY HAS...he doesn't want you (not now and probably not ever) Still waiting on him to take the LEAD...FAIL he won't do it

When you go over to his place does he make an EFFORT to pick you up as to allow you some breathing time to relax or does he just assume you're okay with driving and allow you to use up your gas and energy driving to his place? What's the trade off, is he putting gas in your car, does he say thanks for coming over, does he cook a great meal and have great conversation. What exactly are you getting from this ONE day? Especially if he's not making an effort.

If he's doing just the MINIMUM then again (sorry to say) he's just not that into you, least not to make an active effort to demonstrate you are on his mind consistently enough to ATTEMPT to make plans to connect with you.

Fact is....You have to chase him and then he has to DECIDE if he wants to be bothered with you, if he wants to be bothered with you he'll respond, if he doesn't want to be bothered he won't respond....Wow he really is DOING A GREAT JOB AT LEADING YOU...He's leading you right down the path of NOWHERE, zip code desperationville.

Not only should you stop contact, DELETE HIS NUMBER AND FORGET HIM....Don't ever initiate contact with him ever ever again.

You've done your part and now let him DEMONSTRATE to you if he's ever going to do his part...I wouldn't crack a knuckle trying to contact this guy.

He's not that into you and if he is and I'm absolutely wrong about him then let him "PROVE IT" let him LEAD like he said he would until then move on to someone who will appreciate you and appreciate the effort you make to be connected with him.

typo...and he's NOT DOING his part of the courting/wooing/mating

i'm a cap sun, moon, mercury and i can guarantee you that is not cap behavior. if we like you we'll be shy until we know it's worth going after and then we try not to waste time. i myself am having issues with a cancer girl and was wondering if you could give me some input.

i've got so much capricorn in me that it's hard to understand her. cap sun, cap moon, cap mercury, cap saturn, venus in aquarius, mars in taurus. any my rising is pieces which i think gets to her..

she's cancer sun, cancer moon, cancer venus, taurus mars.

we're both college kids but since we first started talking..the first thing i did on accident, because i was afraid at the time, i asked her if our talking is going somewhere, dumb mistake. our friendship is that we're really close and know almost everything about eachother, she even tells me family stuff that she tells noone else. but 6 months after first talking and being friends with eachother, i tried to get closer and then we started having fights. our fights would be bad, the first time it was my mistake..i said we should have a break from being friends. then 1 week later we were fine again. we've already fought a lot like a couple basically..and we care for eachother a lot. also, the first 6 months she was at a different school, long distance. so after we were at the same school, since about january. our fights only happen because i had never been in a relationship and at the time i just really wanted one badly. i wanted the security. so i try for a relationship in december, then a few times in the summer, and then even last month. Everytime it was me getting frustrated cuz it would seem to me like everything made sense. She even sat me down one day and said she knows how she felt in her last relationship, and she just doesn't feel like that. But she doesn't want to lose me as a friend. Everytime though, we've been getting closer and closer and now its like she does weird things to get my attention. I help her and try to take care of her but she doesn't let me until it gets really bad and then i become stubborn and she lets me help her. I just don't get it though..do you think this's going somewhere or does she really just want to be friends? Im still so confused because she's never told me anything straight up. I could talk forever but any insight is appreciated. After the last time i asked for a relationship i was like this is unfair to me and ended our friendship on the spot. 2 weeks later we're getting close again

Lol how could u not like him controlling you?
I would be ok with it. As a cancer yourself
Wouldnt u like that too?

Because most of the time we're indecisive and I would
Love someome to be in charge. XP

But yea... I think u are his bootycall :/

Capricorns can be quite a ride. They are some tough cookies to crack. I have a Capricorn friend who pretty much tells me what I should be doing and if I get emotional, he simply tells me to "cut it out"! LOL. I love it that he is so calm and direct but it also drives me nuts because it never phases him. I can tell him to never call me again and he knows I'm just going through my "emotional thing" and he will just text or call later or the next day. They are funny people but behind that exterior they do have passion. They will always keep their word. Caps and Cancers have the best chemistry because for the most part we are such opposites. It's like soft meets hard. The interactions will be hilarious. Don't sweat it.

P.S. Aside from astrology though, if a guy isn't making a move, let him be. Tough lesson to learn for some of us.

Sorry I have been away for so long. I left the guy alone. Deleted his number etc. He has contacted me.

But I will still respond

tiki33: I was intiating alot and he would contact me every blue moon. As far as me calling him, he was indicating that he wanted me to contact more than just the mornings and evenings. He didn't tell me to stop contacting him In his words "you are going to stop ONLY contacting me in the morns and evenings. When I asked him what was he talking about..he said you only contact me in the morns and after sch. So he was demanding that I contact him more. Yes, still an asswhole but we ended up having words after that because I wasn't doing what he wanted. I told him hell I have a freaking life. Had one before you and will have one after you. Of course he didn't like that but o well. As far as him picking me up, he tried to come to my home a couple of times but I personally would rather or perfer to come to his house. (I don't like guys to come to my house unless I am absolutely sure that we have something of substance).

@Cancerianbaby669: Yes I like control. Not like that though. I am all about the traditional roles but you have to be a great leader if you want me to follow. I may seem gullible and everything but I know when to walk away. I hate this about me but it takes sooo long for me to analyze things. read - over read - make excuses etc... UNTIL I GET IT. Then I am a total 360... I am slow at everything when it comes to my emotions.

All in all, everything has stopped. I have come to my senses. I am good and have moved on from this. I woke up and noticed that this is someone who I can absolutely not deal with on a sober mind so why the hell am I even wasting my damn time. He came at a turning point and I admit I was emotionally unstable/open.

BUT I AM WOKE AND FREE NOW PEOPLE LOL
Thanks for the insight guys