aquarius vs cancer

Lol @madamedescruffsalot.
@aqua--- sorry love bug. You need to let him go. As far away as possible. He told you from the beginning that he wasn't sure about you and if that would have been me I would have dropped his sorry butt and moved on. Take a good look at this situation from your mom's eyes. Would she want you being treated this way by some douche? No? You deserve to find a guy who wants to commit to you darling.

I'm sorry to hear that you're having a difficult time, I having my own shitty time with a cancer male. I'm a sag female. I can emphatize on how you're feeling.. It's like he talks to you for a bit and then disappears and it goes on and on... If you want to talk about your relationship status, they will either change the subject or say "i don't know" or just simply give you vague confusing answers that don't answer your questions..

I've posted in this site recently asking for advice from people too.. However, I've decided on my own that I'll do whatever it takes to get him back but there's a time frame. It is better to try and know that you've tried rather than give it up totally and regretting it later. Go big or go home sweetheart. I'm here if you need someone to talk to. This is the time people need other people for support. I know it's hard. But the decision is yours _?'?

I know of someone with the opposite (so a Gemini Sun and Cancer Moon) and I definitely think he is quite similar with the hot-cold behaviours too.. I think it's because the "cancer" in them wants the security, comfort, etc but the Gemini in them wants fun, excitement and freedom. That I think is the trouble with people who have very opposite signs as their sun and moon. I would think it would be much, much better for you to just move on completely from this. I mean, it's most likely not your fault that he is behaving like this and I think having this constant up-down drama does no good for your self-esteem nor anything else.. & relying on someone to be there for you in the long term (either as a friend or as a partner) who is very unstable in themselves and doesn't know what they want is almost certainly a recipe for disaster.. would you really want to be constantly on guard wondering if/when he will suddenly leave?

It is up to you what you decide, as only you know exactly what he is like but ultimately, in the long run, I think it would be best for you to move on, even if in the short-term, it feels like a bad choice.

Hope that helps.

@claro, i strongly disagree with you about cancers not being confrontational...the cancers i know are very clear...BUT you are right about THEIR ON TIME, and NOT BEING SURE of what they want.

they are very clear about what they want...when they've figured it out...till then it is hell...

Thank you all for your comments. I understand when you say that I should just move on... But I strongly believe that he is different because he is a cancer. I know that he doesn't know what he wants right now. but when he does he is an amazing man. I want that man in my life.

He said from the beginning that he didn't want to be with me because of a situation with me, him and his best friend. (it was not a cheating situation) he told me long ago that he has forgiven me and has cut his friend out of his life (on his own terms, i never asked him to do this).

i saw him last night and he expressed that he really needs this time to figure out what he wants to do next in his career. he hates his job and i see how unhappy he is. he also said that he's taking this time to reevaluate us. he said that i make him happy but i also frustrate him (with my pushing and questions).

saggibabe - thank you! you said it perfectly... It is better to try and know that you've tried rather than give it up totally and regret it later. i'm not ready to give up yet.
unfortunately, "trying" means doing absolutely nothing since he wants his "space".

I've also read that crabs like to do the chasing and not be chased. is this true?

what is up with all of the references to "butter" with cancers?

I'm a cancer sun gemini moon and my ex is aqua sun scorp moon, similar dynamics... however the relationship you describe is like mine with my ex but the other way round.. He was the one needing the space, etc.. Maybe its just a guy thing and nothing to do with astrology?

Thank you Claro! That was some nice insight from a cancer perspective (:

Aquas and cancers make the perfect, steamy match, especially aqua men and cancer women. Hang in there! I've been patiently waiting for my cancer for well over a year and things are starting to look up for us.

Posted by japansbestkeptsecret
Aquas and cancers make the perfect, steamy match, especially aqua men and cancer women. Hang in there! I've been patiently waiting for my cancer for well over a year and things are starting to look up for us.

its been almost 6 months for us 😢

it just saw my cancer at a party. we live in a small town but i had NO idea he'd be there! i went with my friends and he went with his. i thought, even thought we're on a break/I'm giving him space I should at least say HI. so I did. and he said HI back and then it got SO awkward. (maybe I'm to blame here for not knowing how to act) but he ended up jumping into a conversation with someone else. I had one more interaction with him throughout the night - I complimented him on the music he chose to play and we talked briefly about the party - nothing positive or negative just brief. then we avoided each other the rest of the night.

i know that it's only been two days into this whole "break with space" but i think i expected more.
and what do i do now?? do i text him and acknowledge the awkwardness!? do i leave him alone? what the heck is he thinking right now??

i've read that cancers want to be reassured that you care for them. i don't want him to think that i'm moving on!

Just be as patient and as open s you can be

This is a case of holding on and investing in a man who told you from the beginning that he doesn't want something serious. You push things. He goes along for awhile and I'm sure he have developed feelings for you. But those feelings are not enough. This is a relationship that never found solid ground. The real question is how long are you going to invest in a relationship that isn't going anywhere. I'm sorry to say but you should have walked away from this when he told you "this is never going anywhere." You kind of set yourself up for this back & forth by playing with a man whose not in love with you and fully committed to you. Get out and move on. You're not only wasting your time on this, you're losing out on pursuing other better options. If you allow yourself, you can love again. Just don't go along with a man whose not ready or going to commit to you.