Can cancer men be trusted—? PLEASE HELP

I am a cancer woman in a relationship with a cancer man. We been together for some time now and it's really hard for me to trust and believe everything that he says, and here is the reason why: The first month into the relationship I was approached and threatened by an ex- girlfriend of his, who came at me with a bat and told me to leave him alone. Now from what him and everyone else tells me that is his ex and she is type of female who doesn't want him to be with anyone else, she's trying to get back with him,and she feels that I am in the way. Now there was another occasion where she knew I was at his place so she decided to come by to his house and somehow she got into the house (till this day I still do not know how she got in). So while my boyfriend and I were in his room I heard footsteps and it was her, she came in with scissors in her hand trying to attack me. Now thank God when she came in my boyfriend was at the door and I was on the other side of the room so as soon as she tried to come toward me he held her back. It was a really big situation where even his family got involved because they do not like this girl and they know she is nothing but trouble. But honestly I feel because she works at his aunts restaraunt she feel there could possibly still be a chance to be with him again. And my boyfriend feels that she cannot come between us, but I am bit skeptical about that. So anyway from that day I was told she went to jail and from what my boyfriend told me she had six months because of what happened and she had some other warrants. Now come to find out she's out, and he didn't tell me. And now when I am around him something just doesn't feel right, it's like I have a feeling about something and don't quit know what it is, so I always find myself questioning him all the time and it's like no matter how much he tries to explain I just cannot believe him.

Another thing is he's always on this website Mochalounge where you can meet people (by the way that is how we met) and I feel that now we are together I don't understand what is the sense of him still going on there. His profile still indicates that he is single and I notice he is still adding people onto his friend list and the other day he wrote down a number and it's from one of the girls from the site. I asked him about it and he tells me she is an old friend, and she called him and gave him her new number (the number he wrote down. I asked why does he go on there, he says he goes on there to chat and to look at profiles, rate, and sign the guestbooks of other females. He asked me if I think he should take it off and at the time I didn't tell him, I asked him to put my picture along with his on the site and change his relationship status from single to in a relationship and he said he would. Since then he still has not done anything about it. See it's so hard for me to believe what he says; I would like to be in this relationship but at the same time I don't want to feel like I have to always ask him questions and always have that funny feeling, like he's lying or cheating. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!

When Cancer's do things..like cheat, they are usually very very sneaky about it,,,,seems to me he might be trying to tell you something, we are NOT known for being direct.

If there is anyone out there who can help me out on this one, I would greatly appreciate it. I need help badly.

Whoa!!! What a situation! I'll give you my insight/opinion/advice in a moment.

OMG that is a lot of drama you're dealing with.

Okay, here I go

You situation sounds similar to the way mine use to be with my cancer buddy. Yes, he informed me of his other female friends(aka bed buddies) but he was still trying to be intimate with me until he saw that I just .... hahaha as he would put "different". Also, last summer the word got around that he and I were getting close, this made him really nervous because he didn't want me to get hurt ... okay, why would I get hurt if I was just a "platonic friend"—? The whole situation was just becoming too sticky for me -- I don't like living life with "smoke and mirrors" ... I'm just too upfront.

Like most young men (regardless of the zodiac sign) they want to "have their cake and eat as much of it as possible" 😉

My advice to you is to have a serious discussion with him concern your relationship and where it going from here. Afterwards, if he's still giving you the run around then start making yourself less available to him ... if he thinks you are always going to be there then he's going to feel you'll except whatever he does -- now I'm sure you don't want him to develope that mentality towards you. You don't have to start communicating with him, but just distance yourself.

Now about this woman ... she sounds like a complete and total NUTCASE. He didn't even tell you when she was released— Oh misscancer7 that sounds a little shady -- this woman tried to physically harm and she isn't above doing it again. The way is acting isn't making him look too good right ;( It was that same when I was trying to get advice about my cancer buddy, the way I describe things didn't make him look too good --then I realized that the whole situation wasn't a good one to be in.

Trust me, a REAL talk is needed

Good luck, keep me posted 🙂

I also found out that after all that she is still calling him and trying to argue with him. Today I asked him to promise me that he does not call her and he did. I just hope and pray that this does not mess things up between us.

And it's getting really difficult for me because I'm falling for this guy and being a cancer woman I have the tendency of allowing my emotions and feelings to take over me. So I am afraid that I may get hurt, but at the same time I want to trust that he will do right by me. Please if there is anyone else who can help. Please advise.

Not from what I've experienced.

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