cancer male totally confusing

Okay,

Here's the deal...Im a cancer girl and this cancer guy has been interested in me for a while now. He works with me. He would always flirt around and say he wanted to go out with me...tell people your my boyfriend, etc. Then 2 weeks ago, he drove me home one night after we were drinking. He stayed the night, we made out but no sex. Then he called me that day, texted and called every other day that week. Then said he was going to come in and see me the next weekend at work when he didn't have to work. He came in really late. I was really drunk and kind of a little too into him maybe. He drove me home. The next day he was a little different with me but still acting kind of interested. Then we had previously made plans for him to come over Sunday night. So Sunday he called and we set a time. He came over. We made out a couple of times that night. He acted a little funny about things cause im not yet divorced, hes graduating soon and might be moving, etc. Said he wasn't sure if he wanted to commit to anything. I said hanging out was not really a committment and he said it kind of was. So he leaves that night, gives me a hug and a kiss goodnight ( a good kiss). Then hasn't called me since. It's wed. now. I sent him a text on tues. and he responded somewhat generically. Then tonight he came into work when i got off with some people, totally flirted with another girl there and paid me not a lot of attention. Then he told his friend in front of me I was too good for him...which is not true at all. Then he left without saying goodbye or anything. So my question is...is he interested still or is he trying to blow me off in a kind way? Just want to know if anyone can help.
Thanks

Sleeping Beauty,

I have been on this board on and off trying to figure out the confusing behavior that Cancer men display. Our situations are similar in a way due to the fact that my Cancer interest and I work together also. Our flirting has been going on for over three years now, and nothing has beared any fruit till now. In my situation, the caveat, is this guy happens to be my boss, and that is a huge taboo. In terms of the behavior, he has this tendency to be cute and playful when the mood strikes him, then cold and standoffish within the same timeframe. He would show me so much attention and flirt with me. The next day, he goes into his office, no good morning, are you alive? He keeps his door shut, then when he decides to come out, he converses with everyone and alienates me completely. He will flirt with the other female in our fiice in front of me, and be very secretive. The hot and cold behavior concerns and hurts me. I, too, and very into him. When he displays such behavior, I pull back and ignore him. I feel that I am too special, smart, and caring to put up witth childishness. As much as it hurts, I vowed to be strong, still be nice to him and just live my life. People who act this way , in my opinion are confused, and unsure of themselves. My advice to you, would be to love yourself, and others with naturally appreciate you for who you are. I would like to appeal to othere on this board for advice and thoughts on our stoires too. I wish much happiness and luck.

I think he's not sure yet what he wants from you - he's "dumping you" without actually dumping you.... that way if he changes his mind later there's nothing to "take back" because he never actually told you he didn't want to be with you.
All of the cancer guys on this board have said if they're just plain not interested they will flat out say so because they have nothing to lose and don't care. So he seems to think there might be something to lose if he says it flat out.

i think he backs off and acts cold because he is scared of his emotions ,when he ignores you and backs off again ,just ignore him,let him come to you ,im talking from experience

i think he backs off and acts cold because he is scared of his emotions ,when he ignores you and backs off again ,just ignore him,let him come to you ,im talking from experience

I will agree to this....He does not actually want you to know how much he really likes you and YES, it is a male Cancer characteristic trait. The men don't want YOU to know how much they really like you, so they distance themselves. You actually have to show him with YOUR actions that if he wants to be with you, OK, if not that is OK too, give him the freedom to and the right to chose you. If he doesn't want you, life goes on with or without him.

Thanks everyone...I think you are right. He sent me a text on Thanksgiving day wishing me a Happy Thanksgiving. This was right after I posted this. It's like he's still wanting to keep me interested but I still don't know how he feels for sure. It is so confusing!

wow i thought i was the only one that was in the same situation. I work with my cancer guy and he does the same thing. i would just leave him alone...and make him come back to you. although it gets to be a little upsetting the way he acts sometimes, i also think it's adorable how he is...and i know he care about me. just take it all positively and don't get mad at him for it, otherwise he backs away even more. yes they are confusing, but to me it's a challenge and there is something that is so sexy about the way things are between us.

I had an experience once with a Cancer man and it was just so difficult to understand his mood swings, he always seemed to be too busy for me. Well now I've met yet another Cancerian and I like him so much. He can be sweet and he just confessed that he's falling for me in a big way. He's coming to see me hopefully in a few months as we don't live in the same country, and I'm excited about him. He does constantly ask if I miss him which I do but I keep thinking that he's not sure of my feelings for him and I don't wanna stifle him and I'm just not wanting to spoil things with him. I really truly care VERY much for him. He says he doesn't wanna put any labels on our relationship until after we've met if at all. I just am terrified it'll turn out like the cancer guy I met years ago. They're just confusing though, lol.

Maddy, I will advise you to move on and leave him alone. Will he come back? Sure as long as you let him come back but sometimes it can take a long time and sometimes he comes back at shorter periods. Let him do all the pursuing. If he really wants you, he will pursue at all times. I would not allow no texting me back but then again, I don't put myself in that texting position. I don't txt men at all. I don't call either. I will call BACK if he leaves me a msg to call but no because I see the number in the phone. Don't make it easy for him let him work for you a bit. You have to understand some men are after your heart only and once you give in freely without being a little challenging, they will bounce.

After reading these posts I get the idea that Cancer men must go after females in the work place. I've gotten myself tangled up in a mess with my Cancer boss. He totally swept me (Aquarius) off my feet and now my mind and heart are totally screwed up because of it. When he's good, he's VERY GOOD, when he's bad, he makes me feel like I don't exist or he's too busy. and this can change from moment to moment. We've only had sex once (rushed) but "messed around" many times. I feel pathetic and desparate when he ignores me and I hate that. Once he said something that offended me and I told him we were done but remained friendly. He called me and apologized profusely, we talked on the phone for an hour (which he hates to do). Anyway, this kind of relationship makes me feel like a needy mess and my head says forget it but I don't really want to end it. I could really use some insight and advice, please HELP

Posted by msnotaclue
After reading these posts I get the idea that Cancer men must go after females in the work place. I've gotten myself tangled up in a mess with my Cancer boss. He totally swept me (Aquarius) off my feet and now my mind and heart are totally screwed up because of it. When he's good, he's VERY GOOD, when he's bad, he makes me feel like I don't exist or he's too busy. and this can change from moment to moment. We've only had sex once (rushed) but "messed around" many times. I feel pathetic and desparate when he ignores me and I hate that. Once he said something that offended me and I told him we were done but remained friendly. He called me and apologized profusely, we talked on the phone for an hour (which he hates to do). Anyway, this kind of relationship makes me feel like a needy mess and my head says forget it but I don't really want to end it. I could really use some insight and advice, please HELP

Outside of the bedroom nothing much is going on with these 2 signs, I'm an Aquarius and I have never felt emotionally connected with Cancer males and there bipolar behavior will drive you nuts and on some type of anti-depressant. I would encourage you to move on, he will never give you the mental stimulation and validation you need outside of the bedroom.

Posted by msnotaclue
After reading these posts I get the idea that Cancer men must go after females in the work place. I've gotten myself tangled up in a mess with my Cancer boss. He totally swept me (Aquarius) off my feet and now my mind and heart are totally screwed up because of it. When he's good, he's VERY GOOD, when he's bad, he makes me feel like I don't exist or he's too busy. and this can change from moment to moment. We've only had sex once (rushed) but "messed around" many times. I feel pathetic and desparate when he ignores me and I hate that. Once he said something that offended me and I told him we were done but remained friendly. He called me and apologized profusely, we talked on the phone for an hour (which he hates to do). Anyway, this kind of relationship makes me feel like a needy mess and my head says forget it but I don't really want to end it. I could really use some insight and advice, please HELP

I don't know why you think we go after females in the work place, I try to avoid that, never mix business with pleasure you know.

I also tend be a non-verbal communicator, if you're not picking up my hints, then we're not connecting, and then of course you will probably be confused. I don't know if he's the same way or not.

Us cancers LOVE Funny people, and people that are very bold,and straight forward. If you like him, say so. Dont appear easy and overbearing, its a quick turnoff in the courtship process!

i dont know he may be scared that he like her and get out of school and then move and mite be afraid of lossing her

hiiii....its quite relieving to know dat all cancer men r like dat. well, I am a Gemini female in love with cancer(sun) guy. I am really confused related his moods. No doubt he is a very good friend of mine and i really didn't know when i started fallin for him. Basically there is one thng that we don't meet frequently . he lives in another town

Its almost 9 months back i told him dat i like him n all. Actually he infact first showed me signals dat he also likes but i was the first who told him. After hearing dis he was lyk —dats really nice you told me..we should give some more time to each other. Lets see where we land up??..this was the thing he said to me. Actually at that he had a break up so it was pretty obvious that no one can get into a relationship jst aftr break up. We were very good friends n i was quite aware of his relationship. Then for few months he used to call me up smetyms i used to call him up. Sending messages to each other( miss u, luv u n all)..everything was goin good.

Then aftr one day he suddenly stopped messaging, no calls. Infact when i call him he doesn't respond n when i ask him he is lyk — i am very moody??.(Thank God he accepts it atleast)..now he doesn't tk my call dat frequently. Its almost 15 days i haven't talked to him also nw its lyk only i call him up. His moods really confuse me. I have no idea what he is upto. Basically what i have observed cancer ppl feel what they want to feel. Sometyms i feel lyk he is testing me by ignoring me.i really don't understand frequent changes in moods..although m a Gemini girl n ppl say we have changes in personality but i don't think so i m madly in love with him for the past two years.
All the cancerians out there plzz help me out as to what i should do n how i can understand him better...plzzzzz

ohh it's so confusing LOL i am reading this to learn more