cancer man and his emotions? i dun understand it..

I am a Leo woman dating cancer man for almost 3 years.We love each other so much within those years.All of our fris say we have the perfect relationship and I am devoted to marry him one day.But since last month I think our relationship is at risk.Before me n my bf live together. But since last month we have to live apart because he has to be with his parents n has to moved to Asia.I did follow him n we are in the same country and same city but we just don't live together.the thing is one day i was bored and nothing to do so i checked both of our emails.I used to check them coz we live together for so long.While m checking his emails I accidently deleted one of his important mail and I went to trash to take it back.There I found emails that he send with his coworker from part time job in US.We are college students btw. I just transfer to attend college in this Asian country coz of him.In emails I found that he made a lunch box for that girl n also he is calling her,u are such a sweetheart sweet girl etc and their emails were really flirty.i ask his best fri abt whether he know that girl.I found msg from her on his ph once but he said she is an old supervisor of him. So I believe him.i think he lied to me so I ask him when he call whether he has another girl and he said yes and let's break up and hang up.I was so confused so I called him again n again n apologize to him.he told me not to call him and hang up.the next day I called he didn't answer. So I just leave it alone for awhile and after five days he text me.he said hello blah blah.he didn't say abt our argument so I just leave it.until then our relationship ststus on FB hasn't change but he did change his email password.after three days of texting he left msg online that he is scared of me and dun ever call him again and that he trusted me and I used that just because he found out that I ask his best fri abt tht girl.he said u dun have to send emails to all my friends. I said I only ask his best friend because he is my best friend too.I was angry, I think I didn't do anything wrong.So I called him and we argue and after awhile we told each other what are we gonna do and I said let's not break up. At first he refuse for once and say OK.after that he sent msgs to me every night.But his msg wasn't like before. He didn't call me sweetheart and baby like he used to he just say you and I. So I was confused. One day we met outside with our fris and he acted like usual.so I thought we r ok.

But when he send msg to me he acted like stranger.just two days ago he started saying good night baby again.before he only say good night. Since then he started saying good night baby but he still using u and I on other msgs.oh wait I told him to let's meet one day before he started calling me baby again and he said I am sorry I dun think I can go out.I ask him whether he dun want to meet me he said no its just too complicated at home.he only text me every night he didn't call me. I am really confused. Are we going to be ok? Or is he just doing it because he want me to get tired and break up with him? or is he just thinking of wht to do with me?If you cancer people knows how cancer man emotion works please help me.

to understand a cancer mans emotions ....
you would need to do a few things

-start at the cancer forum
-click add new topic
-write your title out...and instead of dun..use don't
-then begin writing your question with punctuation added and some paragraphs.

if you do this...all will be revealed

Lol I use dun instead of don't because I have to write so long and not enough space. I just change them back to make it short. You can see that I add an extra comment because my question wasn't enough with given words.Sorry about that. I thought someone would help but you just make fun of me.thz for reading anyway.

Posted by chanalice75
Lol I use dun instead of don't because I have to write so long and not enough space. I just change them back to make it short. You can see that I add an extra comment because my question wasn't enough with given words.Sorry about that. I thought someone would help but you just make fun of me.thz for reading anyway.

Im not making fun of you or your problem.
I'm letting you know that people will not read your wall of text...its too hard on the eyes.

Ok.thanks then ^_^ btw what are your view on this problems? Actually I really love him so much and I want to be ok. If you have any idea.please share with me.

Im sorry you are going through this. Ive been with my cancer 3 years too. You seem like a sweet person. You really didn't mean to find those emails. He should be apologizing to you. He is hiding right now. Hiding from you & the situation & the possible circumstances. Yes, He claims he trusted you......but You really trusted him too ! He's using reverse psychology. Don't accept that from him.

This is what you should do if you are arguing with a cancer man: Stop & Do Nothing ! Sit back & have a glass of Lemonade. You don't have time nor energy to waste arguing. Because you are a powerful strong Leo woman. Wear your confidence like armor & don't chase him. And whatever happens don't be afraid to lose him.

But for now step back...He's upset & has to lick his wounds. He got caught ! I do honestly believe he genuinely loves you because Cancer men "freak-out" over a girl they care about....if you wasn't special he wouldn't care what you thought about him. But overall, only YOU should decide what's the next step in the relationship, not him. You was innocent.

Basically you should be a mountain.... immovable!!!! Let these men see your strength. No matter how he behaves You remain beautiful and confident. His moods should never conduct your feelings

@Jynja
Thanks for editing. Actually I am using my Ph to post this question because the internet connection in this country wasn't very good so I couldn't used my computer to post this.
About your questions
- the day i call him and argue he kinda explain things to me.he said that girl always bring lunch for him and he make one to return that favour. I did asked him why you lie to me and he said he doesn't want me to misunderstand and that's why.actually.I also found out on emails that he did go meet her before we left the country and she gave him ride to home when they come back from work.I always has to go to school that time so I didn't know about that. So I am still not sure what's going on.
-He didn't exactly apologize to me yet but he said she is just a coworker.
-I am not very sure but if possible even if he did something wrong, I just wanted to forgive him and stay like before because the relationship we had is just too precious for me and I really love him so much.

But now what happening is he is angry at me and acting like its my fault because I told our best friend about this.I did say sorry.you can ask me more about what else you want to know.thanks a million. ^_^

@Rapunzel
Thanks for your encouragement.Even though you say that I am really afraid to loose him.I really do love him more then anything. I try to be loyal to him.

Actually he don't even like me talking with my guy friends so I avoid that ever since we are together. Also I am sophomore when I was in college in US but since I moved to Asia to be with him I had to give up my college credits and start from freshman second semester.I did change my life alot just for him.

And ever since he told me to break up,I had been crying almost everyday.I cry when I wake up cry when he acted unfriendly when he text me...etc.I am always too emotional that I don't know how to do with myself.

I wanted to talk to him about everything and ask him what he want to do with me but I don't want to ruin the little time that he send msg to me with arguments. I really don't know what to do. !_!

I understand. Just cry it out. Release all the hurt. Crying is the best thing to do right now. I see you love him greatly. I would never convince anyone to walk away thats not ready to.
Just don't worry about him leaving....He's not going anywhere far.

@ aurora
I think it was like ya whatever you sau i did i did.

@Rapunzel
Thanks again.since you say he is not going far is that mean there is a chance for us to be ok again? If so what should I do.

^^^^Yes. All the advice you need is in what Sneaky just said.

I do not think he's leaving you & I don't think that other girl is a big deal. Try to not over think this situation. Over-thinking can lead to Overreacting which can lead to relational destruction.

Once you've pulled your thoughts & emotions together follow Sneaky's instructions.

Posted by chanalice75
@Rapunzel
Thanks for your encouragement.Even though you say that I am really afraid to loose him.I really do love him more then anything. I try to be loyal to him.

Actually he don't even like me talking with my guy friends so I avoid that ever since we are together. Also I am sophomore when I was in college in US but since I moved to Asia to be with him I had to give up my college credits and start from freshman second semester.I did change my life alot just for him.


And ever since he told me to break up,I had been crying almost everyday.I cry when I wake up cry when he acted unfriendly when he text me...etc.I am always too emotional that I don't know how to do with myself.



I wanted to talk to him about everything and ask him what he want to do with me but I don't want to ruin the little time that he send msg to me with arguments. I really don't know what to do. !_!

Big mistake, you should always think about yourself first and other people second (unless you have children) You lost college credits because of him and for what? sounds like you might lose him too! Don't make this mistake again.

Pull yourself back together and focus, if you keep going like this you're going to fail your classes and lose a lot more! Distance yourself a little and take some time to think so you can get a better perspective and don't do anything impulsive. Think before you act.