Cancer Man Wants Me Obsessed?

Ive been friends with a cancer man for almost two years in the course of that time, he has tried to get with me make me his girlfriend but I always rejected him.

It wasn't until about a year ago that I began to see him as more and told him so. But according to him I always have an "episode" or what I like to call getting fed up with him and telling him I don't want to talk to him anymore. He usually freaks when this happens, runs off and always ALWAYS comes back.

Anyways to make a long story short, recently we haven't argued to the point where I basically tell him to get lost( I' m an Aquarius btw, its very easy for me to cut people off once angry).
Lately Ive told him Id like to be with him and he said he wants to give us a chance but that was almost two months ago.

Not to mention I found a condom wrapper on his dresser, to which he told me I hadn't cuffed him yet so he was doing him. WTF. I told him I wish I would have tried to be with someone else and he started crying I left soon after that and he came texting me.

And now he always asks me "Am I sprung?" over him. I tell him no he goes quiet. I've asked him why would he ask that he tells me "Why not try and have a life with someone if they are not sprung". Recently he asked me to go out of town with him to meet his friends and he asked me " Are you Obsessed with me?" and I told him no, he replied "I want you to be obsessed with me."

— This guy is driving me bat nuts. He says he wants me obsessed with him...But obviously sleeping with other girls. Says he wants to build a life with me... But wont enter into a relationship yet(Even though I've proven to be a good friend to him countless times).

I don't understand his actions...His emotions are something like the ocean, always in motion...changing, rotating and shifting. Could use some advice here.

He kinda sounds like one of those guys that wants you to want him, even though he doesn't want you.

He'll get over you. Eventually. Once it reaches the stalking part. Then its a very serious problem. He sounds young. And definitely aint ambitious enough to be thinking about you all the time. Did he fuck u or you fucked him yet? If not, it is best for both of you. We are very addictive, like a drug. But best you part ways. Busy yourself,girls night out. why should you care he has other women. I think he intrigues you. Or else you would have cut him lonnnnnnnng time ago.

He's waiting for you to say you obsess over him so that way hell feel safe to let his feeling show. Then when you say no he gives you a hint at what he was trying to tell you but he ain't bold enough to just say what the fuck is on his mind

I agree with starchild..He is probably obsessed with you that's why he keeps asking you. They're very indirecrt then again they are crabs and crabs move sideways lol

I'm interested in that part of a text "uns off and always ALWAYS comes back".
Cancerians, does it show that a man is obsessed himself?
Why are you always coming back, even if there is no commitment between them? Strange.

Not just necessarily obsessed because they come back..cancers cling they like what's familiar and secure they have a hard time letting go when sometimes it's best for them to do so

Posted by Stares
I'm interested in that part of a text "uns off and always ALWAYS comes back".
Cancerians, does it show that a man is obsessed himself?
Why are you always coming back, even if there is no commitment between them? Strange.

Hey stares we are opposites I'm cap sun cancer moon you're the first person I've came across 🙂

Posted by nonchalant2you
Not just necessarily obsessed because they come back..cancers cling they like what's familiar and secure they have a hard time letting go when sometimes it's best for them to do so

No

Posted by kissmygrits

Posted by nonchalant2you
Not just necessarily obsessed because they come back..cancers cling they like what's familiar and secure they have a hard time letting go when sometimes it's best for them to do so

No

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If you're not in an official relationship, then he's not cheating on you having sex with other women. What really wouldn't work for me if I were in your situation is dealing with a man who can't or won't make us official but feels at liberty to harass me and/or play games. A man either wants to be with you or your letting him yank your chain and waste your precious time and energy. If you were clear in what you wanted from him & set those boundaries, he may or may not have committed to you. But you'd win either way by knowing where you stand and making your decisions about whether to wait or not wait, be with or not be with him knowing the truth. It sounds like this relationship was never on solid ground. I wouldn't invest energy for very long in a man whose not committed to me. It's just too much effort to put in. And I'd rather save myself for a man who was willing to put in the effort and has his shit together.