LeoGirlSal
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Cancer men and sudden distance
My dear
I had same experience recently,
How many days is he gone silent.
I had same experience recently,
How many days is he gone silent.
Me Libra: Ummm something is up with my bf, he seems a little distant lately...
Bf Cancer: Distant? We talk every day, What are you talking about? You are "loca" **changes subject**
I let him be for a while, I let some calls go to voicemail, I ignore him a little and then I get my bf back š
Bf Cancer: Distant? We talk every day, What are you talking about? You are "loca" **changes subject**
I let him be for a while, I let some calls go to voicemail, I ignore him a little and then I get my bf back š
I had to learn with him, they are tricky because they get in these moods and seem distant but they also need reassurance so you cannot right out ignore them, they get offended so I am my usual loving self but if I am on the phone with him I would make sure I end te conversation first, I get busy, and if we are together and he is distant then I bring out a book and relax, I walk by him grab his face, tell him I love him and then I say I am going to take a long shower and read a little and let him be, that always works not only with Cancers but any guy, they do need some space sometimes and they don't even know why, I learned not to take it personal :-)
Good advice^^^^
What i find that works is that they need a woman thats sure of herself. I tried being nice & sweet on my crab for a little while & the results were temporary. They need a woman that will show her love AND confidence. When I started being straight up & telling him what I will & will not put up with, he stopped. He respects me greatly. He's careful how he treats me now. He likes that my personality is fun, sexy, mysterious, feisty, & tender when I need to be. But most of all he likes that I am independent.
The moment you stop walking on eggshells & stop being mentally afraid of his next moves he will start to change for the better. The second you see that YOU are the catch HE will see it too. Your whole presence will start to draw him in. HIS improvement starts with how you see yourself. He will only put you through what ever you allow. They need to see you are a loving, beautiful, strong woman that knows what she deserves! My crab of 3 years personally told me to remain confident at all times & I do just that š
Good luck.
What i find that works is that they need a woman thats sure of herself. I tried being nice & sweet on my crab for a little while & the results were temporary. They need a woman that will show her love AND confidence. When I started being straight up & telling him what I will & will not put up with, he stopped. He respects me greatly. He's careful how he treats me now. He likes that my personality is fun, sexy, mysterious, feisty, & tender when I need to be. But most of all he likes that I am independent.
The moment you stop walking on eggshells & stop being mentally afraid of his next moves he will start to change for the better. The second you see that YOU are the catch HE will see it too. Your whole presence will start to draw him in. HIS improvement starts with how you see yourself. He will only put you through what ever you allow. They need to see you are a loving, beautiful, strong woman that knows what she deserves! My crab of 3 years personally told me to remain confident at all times & I do just that š
Good luck.
Posted by Rapunzel
Good advice^^^^
What i find that works is that they need a woman thats sure of herself. I tried being nice & sweet on my crab for a little while & the results were temporary. They need a woman that will show her love AND confidence. When I started being straight up & telling him what I will & will not put up with, he stopped. He respects me greatly. He's careful how he treats me now. He likes that my personality is fun, sexy, mysterious, feisty, & tender when I need to be. But most of all he likes that I am independent.
The moment you stop walking on eggshells & stop being mentally afraid of his next moves he will start to change for the better. The second you see that YOU are the catch HE will see it too. Your whole presence will start to draw him in. HIS improvement starts with how you see yourself. He will only put you through what ever you allow. They need to see you are a loving, beautiful, strong woman that knows what she deserves! My crab of 3 years personally told me to remain confident at all times & I do just that š
Good luck.
Wow Rapunzel that really helps a lot and helped me see things far clearer š
Thank you so much
http://www.aphroditeastrology.com/2012/06/disappearing-reappearing-man-what-to-do.html?commentPage=8<BR>
Check out this site, Roscoe...it will explain why he vanished.
Check out this site, Roscoe...it will explain why he vanished.
This is just an eye-opener. I've been with my cancer bf on/off for over two years He became distant the last year and I made the mistake to try everything possible to get his attention. I was doing everything for him: organizing dates, festivals, concerts, being always there when he called me to see him.I became too available for him. Anyway, recently I found out he had been lying to me on several things ( I am not sure if he cheated, but he denies it) mostly business trips he did but instead he went out with friends. So we broke up briefly, but being also a cancer I felt that true love always forgives so I took him back and kept on taking care of him and being always available for him. He started to make his own decisions about our relationship like I was painted on the wall. At that point I had enough of devoted all my time and energy to him so I kind of broke up with him over text message... he just replied " whatever" and its been two weeks and haven't heard from him. He told me many times he loved me and wanted to have a family with me but I am just happy to see that now I can focus to spend all these time I have on me. I miss him and I love him but I also love my self and hopefully he will appreciate that and stop taking me for granted before I find someone else.
your cancer men are probably reacting to something mean you said to them recently, and they dont want to hear anything more like it!
*done
sorry, ive just realized im repeating myself...coo.coo!
sorry, ive just realized im repeating myself...coo.coo!
Posted by lichiiI know this was 4 years ago, but what ended up happening?
This is just an eye-opener. I've been with my cancer bf on/off for over two years He became distant the last year and I made the mistake to try everything possible to get his attention. I was doing everything for him: organizing dates, festivals, concerts, being always there when he called me to see him.I became too available for him. Anyway, recently I found out he had been lying to me on several things ( I am not sure if he cheated, but he denies it) mostly business trips he did but instead he went out with friends. So we broke up briefly, but being also a cancer I felt that true love always forgives so I took him back and kept on taking care of him and being always available for him. He started to make his own decisions about our relationship like I was painted on the wall. At that point I had enough of devoted all my time and energy to him so I kind of broke up with him over text message... he just replied " whatever" and its been two weeks and haven't heard from him. He told me many times he loved me and wanted to have a family with me but I am just happy to see that now I can focus to spend all these time I have on me. I miss him and I love him but I also love my self and hopefully he will appreciate that and stop taking me for granted before I find someone else.
I've done that before. I know this is going to sound weird. But usually it's 2 things with you:
1.) You said some dumb shit, and now I need a break from you. (Leo's are prone to say some really stupid and unwarranted shit)
2.) I'm just tired of people. I get like that sometimes where I'm just tired of....... people. I want to be alone. Don't know why, but I just do. As I get older, I feel like I need less and less alone time. But I still need it regularly.
1.) You said some dumb shit, and now I need a break from you. (Leo's are prone to say some really stupid and unwarranted shit)
2.) I'm just tired of people. I get like that sometimes where I'm just tired of....... people. I want to be alone. Don't know why, but I just do. As I get older, I feel like I need less and less alone time. But I still need it regularly.
Hey mr cancer,
If I may Iāve got a question...
My cancer got distant after I have witnessed another woman telling him off, I think she was his previous gf...he wasnāt honest with her...was too nice didnāt know how to break up with her...and when she saw us together she got Of course upset and swore at him.
Anyways after that he explained it to me however he also distanced himself from
Me..I have treated him amazing and he told me he spent a memorable night with me and it meant a lot...
Longs story short after him giving me silent treatment I send him another message 1 week later asking his whether I deserve a silent treatment..he responded:āno you donātā so I said ...why are you subjecting me to one then?
He said:āplease donāt take it like that as itās not the case at allā
What does that mean?
I told him I have planted a seed, put my effort in and the flower did not come out.
He said I know you did and it wasnāt wasted.
Maybe it wasnāt in the sun...
I asked him whether he wants me to disappear forever and he answered:ānoā
I asked him:āare you in love with somebody else?ā He answeredā Iām not in love with anybody else at allā
Iām confused...after that silence again..
He will not even open my messages..I stopped texting completely.
Why is he acting this way? What has happened?
I love this man so much I cannot even describe. I am Venus in Scorpio...I feel to the core of my soul...heās Venus in cancer with mars in Scorpio. I feel we are destined to be together...what can I do?
Please advise.
Iāve noticed heās gone off the social media too and goes on WhatsApp only couple of times a day....
thank you xx
If I may Iāve got a question...
My cancer got distant after I have witnessed another woman telling him off, I think she was his previous gf...he wasnāt honest with her...was too nice didnāt know how to break up with her...and when she saw us together she got Of course upset and swore at him.
Anyways after that he explained it to me however he also distanced himself from
Me..I have treated him amazing and he told me he spent a memorable night with me and it meant a lot...
Longs story short after him giving me silent treatment I send him another message 1 week later asking his whether I deserve a silent treatment..he responded:āno you donātā so I said ...why are you subjecting me to one then?
He said:āplease donāt take it like that as itās not the case at allā
What does that mean?
I told him I have planted a seed, put my effort in and the flower did not come out.
He said I know you did and it wasnāt wasted.
Maybe it wasnāt in the sun...
I asked him whether he wants me to disappear forever and he answered:ānoā
I asked him:āare you in love with somebody else?ā He answeredā Iām not in love with anybody else at allā
Iām confused...after that silence again..
He will not even open my messages..I stopped texting completely.
Why is he acting this way? What has happened?
I love this man so much I cannot even describe. I am Venus in Scorpio...I feel to the core of my soul...heās Venus in cancer with mars in Scorpio. I feel we are destined to be together...what can I do?
Please advise.
Iāve noticed heās gone off the social media too and goes on WhatsApp only couple of times a day....
thank you xx
Posted by Libra_inlove
Hey mr cancer,
If I may Iāve got a question...
My cancer got distant after I have witnessed another woman telling him off, I think she was his previous gf...he wasnāt honest with her...was too nice didnāt know how to break up with her...and when she saw us together she got Of course upset and swore at him.
Anyways after that he explained it to me however he also distanced himself from
Me..I have treated him amazing and he told me he spent a memorable night with me and it meant a lot...
Longs story short after him giving me silent treatment I send him another message 1 week later asking his whether I deserve a silent treatment..he responded:āno you donātā so I said ...why are you subjecting me to one then?
He said:āplease donāt take it like that as itās not the case at allā
What does that mean?
I told him I have planted a seed, put my effort in and the flower did not come out.
He said I know you did and it wasnāt wasted.
Maybe it wasnāt in the sun...
I asked him whether he wants me to disappear forever and he answered:ānoā
I asked him:āare you in love with somebody else?ā He answeredā Iām not in love with anybody else at allā
Iām confused...after that silence again..
He will not even open my messages..I stopped texting completely.
Why is he acting this way? What has happened?
I love this man so much I cannot even describe. I am Venus in Scorpio...I feel to the core of my soul...heās Venus in cancer with mars in Scorpio. I feel we are destined to be together...what can I do?
Please advise.
Iāve noticed heās gone off the social media too and goes on WhatsApp only couple of times a day....
thank you xx
You bumped a 7 year old thread. That was bumped 3 years ago.
Posted by LeoGirlSal
Hey everyone,
I've been reading a lot of your topics and i need some advice. I'm a leo and I've been with my cancer boyfriend on and off for almost a year now. Just 3 months ago he told me he loved me and we haven't been "off" since then, it was great, we talked every night and he was constantly close to clingy and showering me with attention. A few weeks ago he suddenly became super distant, hasnt told me he loves me and just seemingly doesn't even want to talk. I told him i wanted to understand what was wrong he just said he needed space and i told him i completely understand, but then he keeps calling and then disappearing daily, one minute he's here the next he's distant, i'm really confused and i don't get what i'm supposed to do, i automatically have become bored and putting my guard up... I love him, but i don't know what he's doing and i feel emotionally drained!
Welcome to the club girly, havenāt talked to my Cancer in 2 and a half weeks now š³š
I have been duped. Ignore my messages
Posted by 123Pices
My dear
I had same experience recently,
How many days is he gone silent.
Never mind...another retarded woman with āone minute he's here the next he's distantā Counting minutes between texts.š¤¦āāļø
If I may Iāve got a question...
My cancer got distant after I have witnessed another woman telling him off, I think she was his previous gf...he wasnāt honest with her...was too nice didnāt know how to break up with her...and when she saw us together she got Of course upset and swore at him.
Anyways after that he explained it to me however he also distanced himself from
Me..I have treated him amazing and he told me he spent a memorable night with me and it meant a lot...
Longs story short after him giving me silent treatment I send him another message 1 week later asking his whether I deserve a silent treatment..he responded:āno you donātā so I said ...why are you subjecting me to one then?
He said:āplease donāt take it like that as itās not the case at allā
What does that mean?
I told him I have planted a seed, put my effort in and the flower did not come out.
He said I know you did and it wasnāt wasted.
Maybe it wasnāt in the sun...
I asked him whether he wants me to disappear forever and he answered:ānoā
I asked him:āare you in love with somebody else?ā He answeredā Iām not in love with anybody else at allā
Iām confused...after that silence again..
He will not even open my messages..I stopped texting completely.
Why is he acting this way? What has happened?
I love this man so much I cannot even describe. I am Venus in Scorpio...I feel to the core of my soul...heās Venus in cancer with mars in Scorpio. I feel we are destined to be together...what can I do?
Please advise.
Iāve noticed heās gone off the social media too and goes on WhatsApp only couple of times a day....
thank you xx
You bumped a 7 year old thread. That was bumped 3 years ago
Hi Nikki,
I know i did, I was just tying my luck to see whether someone would help me out and put me out of my mysery....just an act of desperation really...š
Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by Libra_inlove
Hey mr cancer,
If I may Iāve got a question...
My cancer got distant after I have witnessed another woman telling him off, I think she was his previous gf...he wasnāt honest with her...was too nice didnāt know how to break up with her...and when she saw us together she got Of course upset and swore at him.
Anyways after that he explained it to me however he also distanced himself from
Me..I have treated him amazing and he told me he spent a memorable night with me and it meant a lot...
Longs story short after him giving me silent treatment I send him another message 1 week later asking his whether I deserve a silent treatment..he responded:āno you donātā so I said ...why are you subjecting me to one then?
He said:āplease donāt take it like that as itās not the case at allā
What does that mean?
I told him I have planted a seed, put my effort in and the flower did not come out.
He said I know you did and it wasnāt wasted.
Maybe it wasnāt in the sun...
I asked him whether he wants me to disappear forever and he answered:ānoā
I asked him:āare you in love with somebody else?ā He answeredā Iām not in love with anybody else at allā
Iām confused...after that silence again..
He will not even open my messages..I stopped texting completely.
Why is he acting this way? What has happened?
I love this man so much I cannot even describe. I am Venus in Scorpio...I feel to the core of my soul...heās Venus in cancer with mars in Scorpio. I feel we are destined to be together...what can I do?
Please advise.
Iāve noticed heās gone off the social media too and goes on WhatsApp only couple of times a day....
thank you xx
I think the other woman was someone he has more commitment to than he does to you (she's his actual girlfriend, probably), and he's lying about it.click to expand
Do you think he could be so hearless?
Iāve done some checks on her...(Venus and mercury in Scorpio lol) and I do not think she is his girlfriend...it looks like they had something possibly but she appears to be single. They are neighbours and she lives across the street from him..he said he didnāt want her to throw a scene as she would make a drama and all neighbours would be having fun....she wasnāt even his type...
I think he probably used her in the past and she was not happy as he was trying to smooth things over and slowly distancing..
Should I contact him again or is it better to leave him alone until he comes back?
Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by Libra_inlovePosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by Libra_inlove
Hey mr cancer,
If I may Iāve got a question...
My cancer got distant after I have witnessed another woman telling him off, I think she was his previous gf...he wasnāt honest with her...was too nice didnāt know how to break up with her...and when she saw us together she got Of course upset and swore at him.
Anyways after that he explained it to me however he also distanced himself from
Me..I have treated him amazing and he told me he spent a memorable night with me and it meant a lot...
Longs story short after him giving me silent treatment I send him another message 1 week later asking his whether I deserve a silent treatment..he responded:āno you donātā so I said ...why are you subjecting me to one then?
He said:āplease donāt take it like that as itās not the case at allā
What does that mean?
I told him I have planted a seed, put my effort in and the flower did not come out.
He said I know you did and it wasnāt wasted.
Maybe it wasnāt in the sun...
I asked him whether he wants me to disappear forever and he answered:ānoā
I asked him:āare you in love with somebody else?ā He answeredā Iām not in love with anybody else at allā
Iām confused...after that silence again..
He will not even open my messages..I stopped texting completely.
Why is he acting this way? What has happened?
I love this man so much I cannot even describe. I am Venus in Scorpio...I feel to the core of my soul...heās Venus in cancer with mars in Scorpio. I feel we are destined to be together...what can I do?
Please advise.
Iāve noticed heās gone off the social media too and goes on WhatsApp only couple of times a day....
thank you xx
I think the other woman was someone he has more commitment to than he does to you (she's his actual girlfriend, probably), and he's lying about it.
Do you think he could be so hearless?
Iāve done some checks on her...(Venus and mercury in Scorpio lol) and I do not think she is his girlfriend...it looks like they had something possibly but she appears to be single. They are neighbours and she lives across the street from him..he said he didnāt want her to throw a scene as she would make a drama and all neighbours would be having fun....she wasnāt even his type...
I think he probably used her in the past and she was not happy as he was trying to smooth things over and slowly distancing..
Should I contact him again or is it better to leave him alone until he comes back?
Sorry I missed this!
I don't know him, but yes, people are that heartless on a regular basis. Would you be cool with it if you found out that he did use her and she's mad? Do you want to be with a guy who uses women? Do you want to be used next?click to expand
You are totally right and you made a great point...Iām sad as I love him so much...but like you said...if heās not worth it then i should move on...
He told me he doesnāt want me to leave forever, he just need some shell time.
Itās not fair on me for sure. I told him we are meant to be together and he said:āok and then Iām sure it will be when the time is rightā
This is how heās stringing me along..
Iām sad because I donāt fall in love easily...it took me 14 years to let someone new one in...
And I made a mistake...Iām disappointed with myself š
Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by Libra_inlovePosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by Libra_inlovePosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by Libra_inlove
Hey mr cancer,
If I may Iāve got a question...
My cancer got distant after I have witnessed another woman telling him off, I think she was his previous gf...he wasnāt honest with her...was too nice didnāt know how to break up with her...and when she saw us together she got Of course upset and swore at him.
Anyways after that he explained it to me however he also distanced himself from
Me..I have treated him amazing and he told me he spent a memorable night with me and it meant a lot...
Longs story short after him giving me silent treatment I send him another message 1 week later asking his whether I deserve a silent treatment..he responded:āno you donātā so I said ...why are you subjecting me to one then?
He said:āplease donāt take it like that as itās not the case at allā
What does that mean?
I told him I have planted a seed, put my effort in and the flower did not come out.
He said I know you did and it wasnāt wasted.
Maybe it wasnāt in the sun...
I asked him whether he wants me to disappear forever and he answered:ānoā
I asked him:āare you in love with somebody else?ā He answeredā Iām not in love with anybody else at allā
Iām confused...after that silence again..
He will not even open my messages..I stopped texting completely.
Why is he acting this way? What has happened?
I love this man so much I cannot even describe. I am Venus in Scorpio...I feel to the core of my soul...heās Venus in cancer with mars in Scorpio. I feel we are destined to be together...what can I do?
Please advise.
Iāve noticed heās gone off the social media too and goes on WhatsApp only couple of times a day....
thank you xx
I think the other woman was someone he has more commitment to than he does to you (she's his actual girlfriend, probably), and he's lying about it.
Do you think he could be so hearless?
Iāve done some checks on her...(Venus and mercury in Scorpio lol) and I do not think she is his girlfriend...it looks like they had something possibly but she appears to be single. They are neighbours and she lives across the street from him..he said he didnāt want her to throw a scene as she would make a drama and all neighbours would be having fun....she wasnāt even his type...
I think he probably used her in the past and she was not happy as he was trying to smooth things over and slowly distancing..
Should I contact him again or is it better to leave him alone until he comes back?
Sorry I missed this!
I don't know him, but yes, people are that heartless on a regular basis. Would you be cool with it if you found out that he did use her and she's mad? Do you want to be with a guy who uses women? Do you want to be used next?
You are totally right and you made a great point...Iām sad as I love him so much...but like you said...if heās not worth it then i should move on...
He told me he doesnāt want me to leave forever, he just need some shell time.
Itās not fair on me for sure. I told him we are meant to be together and he said:āok and then Iām sure it will be when the time is rightā
This is how heās stringing me along..
Iām sad because I donāt fall in love easily...it took me 14 years to let someone new one in...
And I made a mistake...Iām disappointed with myself š
Just don't do anything stupid. Keep your eyes open and see what happens. If he's lying it will become clear. If he's not, don't let some internet asshole ruin your relationship. š
Thank you so much for being so kind..
See my Venus is in Scorpio and his mars in Scorpio too, my intuition is telling me heās playing some testing games with me but i do feel there is chemistry and feelings even though heās hiding it...see heās a cancer stellium sun, moon, mercury, Venus...all in cancer. Cancers have a good heart hence itās so hard for me to understand he would be a heartless bastard... I think due to being hurt in the past and having financial instability heās insecure and therefore his shell is very hard...
š I might be totally out of my mind but I love him so much even though he treats me so badly...but when I ask him why heās giving me silent treatment? As I donāt think I deserve it..he says:ā no you donātā
āPleSe donāt take it like that as itās not the case.ā
See I donāt understand this at all..so what is it? Why when we finally get closer together he does 10 steps back?click to expand
Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by Libra_inlovePosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by Libra_inlovePosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by Libra_inlovePosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by Libra_inlove
Hey mr cancer,
If I may Iāve got a question...
My cancer got distant after I have witnessed another woman telling him off, I think she was his previous gf...he wasnāt honest with her...was too nice didnāt know how to break up with her...and when she saw us together she got Of course upset and swore at him.
Anyways after that he explained it to me however he also distanced himself from
Me..I have treated him amazing and he told me he spent a memorable night with me and it meant a lot...
Longs story short after him giving me silent treatment I send him another message 1 week later asking his whether I deserve a silent treatment..he responded:āno you donātā so I said ...why are you subjecting me to one then?
He said:āplease donāt take it like that as itās not the case at allā
What does that mean?
I told him I have planted a seed, put my effort in and the flower did not come out.
He said I know you did and it wasnāt wasted.
Maybe it wasnāt in the sun...
I asked him whether he wants me to disappear forever and he answered:ānoā
I asked him:āare you in love with somebody else?ā He answeredā Iām not in love with anybody else at allā
Iām confused...after that silence again..
He will not even open my messages..I stopped texting completely.
Why is he acting this way? What has happened?
I love this man so much I cannot even describe. I am Venus in Scorpio...I feel to the core of my soul...heās Venus in cancer with mars in Scorpio. I feel we are destined to be together...what can I do?
Please advise.
Iāve noticed heās gone off the social media too and goes on WhatsApp only couple of times a day....
thank you xx
I think the other woman was someone he has more commitment to than he does to you (she's his actual girlfriend, probably), and he's lying about it.
Do you think he could be so hearless?
Iāve done some checks on her...(Venus and mercury in Scorpio lol) and I do not think she is his girlfriend...it looks like they had something possibly but she appears to be single. They are neighbours and she lives across the street from him..he said he didnāt want her to throw a scene as she would make a drama and all neighbours would be having fun....she wasnāt even his type...
I think he probably used her in the past and she was not happy as he was trying to smooth things over and slowly distancing..
Should I contact him again or is it better to leave him alone until he comes back?
Sorry I missed this!
I don't know him, but yes, people are that heartless on a regular basis. Would you be cool with it if you found out that he did use her and she's mad? Do you want to be with a guy who uses women? Do you want to be used next?
You are totally right and you made a great point...Iām sad as I love him so much...but like you said...if heās not worth it then i should move on...
He told me he doesnāt want me to leave forever, he just need some shell time.
Itās not fair on me for sure. I told him we are meant to be together and he said:āok and then Iām sure it will be when the time is rightā
This is how heās stringing me along..
Iām sad because I donāt fall in love easily...it took me 14 years to let someone new one in...
And I made a mistake...Iām disappointed with myself š
Just don't do anything stupid. Keep your eyes open and see what happens. If he's lying it will become clear. If he's not, don't let some internet asshole ruin your relationship. š
Thank you so much for being so kind..
See my Venus is in Scorpio and his mars in Scorpio too, my intuition is telling me heās playing some testing games with me but i do feel there is chemistry and feelings even though heās hiding it...see heās a cancer stellium sun, moon, mercury, Venus...all in cancer. Cancers have a good heart hence itās so hard for me to understand he would be a heartless bastard... I think due to being hurt in the past and having financial instability heās insecure and therefore his shell is very hard...
š I might be totally out of my mind but I love him so much even though he treats me so badly...but when I ask him why heās giving me silent treatment? As I donāt think I deserve it..he says:ā no you donātā
āPleSe donāt take it like that as itās not the case.ā
See I donāt understand this at all..so what is it? Why when we finally get closer together he does 10 steps back?
You're welcome. I'm working on being less of a bitch. It's going okay, mostly. š
You just said that he treats you so badly. Why would you want to be with someone like that?click to expand
You are most definitely not a Cookie Monster as you are lovely!
Yes, I know I consider him not contacting me as treating me badly, however if I do message him I will receive a response back....see the problem is I want his love so badly as despise all this hard shell I do believe he is a lovely, soft and caring person, he is just afraid of getting hurt as he told me...so Iām
Taking into consideration heās been hurt before and heās trying to overcome these obstacles...do I seem perhaps
Too needy? If I want him
To message me daily and I want to see him more often? I donāt know...i am trying to be considerate towards his feelings and just hoping it will get better however I donāt want to be contacting him first all the time and one of my friends who is a cancerian male told me to let him come me, but I guess my insecurities are kicking in...š„ŗ
I want to give him space however at the same time I donāt want him to think I have vanished...
What do you think is the right approach?
Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by Libra_inlovePosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by Libra_inlovePosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by Libra_inlovePosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by Libra_inlovePosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by Libra_inlove
Hey mr cancer,
If I may Iāve got a question...
My cancer got distant after I have witnessed another woman telling him off, I think she was his previous gf...he wasnāt honest with her...was too nice didnāt know how to break up with her...and when she saw us together she got Of course upset and swore at him.
Anyways after that he explained it to me however he also distanced himself from
Me..I have treated him amazing and he told me he spent a memorable night with me and it meant a lot...
Longs story short after him giving me silent treatment I send him another message 1 week later asking his whether I deserve a silent treatment..he responded:āno you donātā so I said ...why are you subjecting me to one then?
He said:āplease donāt take it like that as itās not the case at allā
What does that mean?
I told him I have planted a seed, put my effort in and the flower did not come out.
He said I know you did and it wasnāt wasted.
Maybe it wasnāt in the sun...
I asked him whether he wants me to disappear forever and he answered:ānoā
I asked him:āare you in love with somebody else?ā He answeredā Iām not in love with anybody else at allā
Iām confused...after that silence again..
He will not even open my messages..I stopped texting completely.
Why is he acting this way? What has happened?
I love this man so much I cannot even describe. I am Venus in Scorpio...I feel to the core of my soul...heās Venus in cancer with mars in Scorpio. I feel we are destined to be together...what can I do?
Please advise.
Iāve noticed heās gone off the social media too and goes on WhatsApp only couple of times a day....
thank you xx
I think the other woman was someone he has more commitment to than he does to you (she's his actual girlfriend, probably), and he's lying about it.
Do you think he could be so hearless?
Iāve done some checks on her...(Venus and mercury in Scorpio lol) and I do not think she is his girlfriend...it looks like they had something possibly but she appears to be single. They are neighbours and she lives across the street from him..he said he didnāt want her to throw a scene as she would make a drama and all neighbours would be having fun....she wasnāt even his type...
I think he probably used her in the past and she was not happy as he was trying to smooth things over and slowly distancing..
Should I contact him again or is it better to leave him alone until he comes back?
Sorry I missed this!
I don't know him, but yes, people are that heartless on a regular basis. Would you be cool with it if you found out that he did use her and she's mad? Do you want to be with a guy who uses women? Do you want to be used next?
You are totally right and you made a great point...Iām sad as I love him so much...but like you said...if heās not worth it then i should move on...
He told me he doesnāt want me to leave forever, he just need some shell time.
Itās not fair on me for sure. I told him we are meant to be together and he said:āok and then Iām sure it will be when the time is rightā
This is how heās stringing me along..
Iām sad because I donāt fall in love easily...it took me 14 years to let someone new one in...
And I made a mistake...Iām disappointed with myself š
Just don't do anything stupid. Keep your eyes open and see what happens. If he's lying it will become clear. If he's not, don't let some internet asshole ruin your relationship. š
Thank you so much for being so kind..
See my Venus is in Scorpio and his mars in Scorpio too, my intuition is telling me heās playing some testing games with me but i do feel there is chemistry and feelings even though heās hiding it...see heās a cancer stellium sun, moon, mercury, Venus...all in cancer. Cancers have a good heart hence itās so hard for me to understand he would be a heartless bastard... I think due to being hurt in the past and having financial instability heās insecure and therefore his shell is very hard...
š I might be totally out of my mind but I love him so much even though he treats me so badly...but when I ask him why heās giving me silent treatment? As I donāt think I deserve it..he says:ā no you donātā
āPleSe donāt take it like that as itās not the case.ā
See I donāt understand this at all..so what is it? Why when we finally get closer together he does 10 steps back?
You're welcome. I'm working on being less of a bitch. It's going okay, mostly. š
You just said that he treats you so badly. Why would you want to be with someone like that?
You are most definitely not a Cookie Monster as you are lovely!
Yes, I know I consider him not contacting me as treating me badly, however if I do message him I will receive a response back....see the problem is I want his love so badly as despise all this hard shell I do believe he is a lovely, soft and caring person, he is just afraid of getting hurt as he told me...so Iām
Taking into consideration heās been hurt before and heās trying to overcome these obstacles...do I seem perhaps
Too needy? If I want him
To message me daily and I want to see him more often? I donāt know...i am trying to be considerate towards his feelings and just hoping it will get better however I donāt want to be contacting him first all the time and one of my friends who is a cancerian male told me to let him come me, but I guess my insecurities are kicking in...š„ŗ
I want to give him space however at the same time I donāt want him to think I have vanished...
What do you think is the right approach?
Is that too needy? Not if those are your needs, but it might be too needy or too fast for him, and you have to respect that or chase him away. All of that is a completely different matter from whether or not he's a good person.
I'm a clinger in the beginning of relationships, which is not good, and so my advice sucks on this topic. If you want some good advice, you should start your own thread in the Cancer forum, but prepare your anus. They will tell you like it is and how you are screwing up. šclick to expand
My dear,
Thank you very much for taking your time to always respond to me. To be honest I have made threads in the past and no one has ever responded to me. Or if someone did it was not to the point or clear enough...
You know Iām a clinger or acting needy only if Iām not getting straight forward answers, if I donāt know where i stand. I need to get rid off this habit as I can see how bad it is...plus itās wasting too much of my energy!
Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by Libra_inlovePosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by Libra_inlovePosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by Libra_inlovePosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by Libra_inlovePosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by Libra_inlovePosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by Libra_inlove
Hey mr cancer,
If I may Iāve got a question...
My cancer got distant after I have witnessed another woman telling him off, I think she was his previous gf...he wasnāt honest with her...was too nice didnāt know how to break up with her...and when she saw us together she got Of course upset and swore at him.
Anyways after that he explained it to me however he also distanced himself from
Me..I have treated him amazing and he told me he spent a memorable night with me and it meant a lot...
Longs story short after him giving me silent treatment I send him another message 1 week later asking his whether I deserve a silent treatment..he responded:āno you donātā so I said ...why are you subjecting me to one then?
He said:āplease donāt take it like that as itās not the case at allā
What does that mean?
I told him I have planted a seed, put my effort in and the flower did not come out.
He said I know you did and it wasnāt wasted.
Maybe it wasnāt in the sun...
I asked him whether he wants me to disappear forever and he answered:ānoā
I asked him:āare you in love with somebody else?ā He answeredā Iām not in love with anybody else at allā
Iām confused...after that silence again..
He will not even open my messages..I stopped texting completely.
Why is he acting this way? What has happened?
I love this man so much I cannot even describe. I am Venus in Scorpio...I feel to the core of my soul...heās Venus in cancer with mars in Scorpio. I feel we are destined to be together...what can I do?
Please advise.
Iāve noticed heās gone off the social media too and goes on WhatsApp only couple of times a day....
thank you xx
I think the other woman was someone he has more commitment to than he does to you (she's his actual girlfriend, probably), and he's lying about it.
Do you think he could be so hearless?
Iāve done some checks on her...(Venus and mercury in Scorpio lol) and I do not think she is his girlfriend...it looks like they had something possibly but she appears to be single. They are neighbours and she lives across the street from him..he said he didnāt want her to throw a scene as she would make a drama and all neighbours would be having fun....she wasnāt even his type...
I think he probably used her in the past and she was not happy as he was trying to smooth things over and slowly distancing..
Should I contact him again or is it better to leave him alone until he comes back?
Sorry I missed this!
I don't know him, but yes, people are that heartless on a regular basis. Would you be cool with it if you found out that he did use her and she's mad? Do you want to be with a guy who uses women? Do you want to be used next?
You are totally right and you made a great point...Iām sad as I love him so much...but like you said...if heās not worth it then i should move on...
He told me he doesnāt want me to leave forever, he just need some shell time.
Itās not fair on me for sure. I told him we are meant to be together and he said:āok and then Iām sure it will be when the time is rightā
This is how heās stringing me along..
Iām sad because I donāt fall in love easily...it took me 14 years to let someone new one in...
And I made a mistake...Iām disappointed with myself š
Just don't do anything stupid. Keep your eyes open and see what happens. If he's lying it will become clear. If he's not, don't let some internet asshole ruin your relationship. š
Thank you so much for being so kind..
See my Venus is in Scorpio and his mars in Scorpio too, my intuition is telling me heās playing some testing games with me but i do feel there is chemistry and feelings even though heās hiding it...see heās a cancer stellium sun, moon, mercury, Venus...all in cancer. Cancers have a good heart hence itās so hard for me to understand he would be a heartless bastard... I think due to being hurt in the past and having financial instability heās insecure and therefore his shell is very hard...
š I might be totally out of my mind but I love him so much even though he treats me so badly...but when I ask him why heās giving me silent treatment? As I donāt think I deserve it..he says:ā no you donātā
āPleSe donāt take it like that as itās not the case.ā
See I donāt understand this at all..so what is it? Why when we finally get closer together he does 10 steps back?
You're welcome. I'm working on being less of a bitch. It's going okay, mostly. š
You just said that he treats you so badly. Why would you want to be with someone like that?
You are most definitely not a Cookie Monster as you are lovely!
Yes, I know I consider him not contacting me as treating me badly, however if I do message him I will receive a response back....see the problem is I want his love so badly as despise all this hard shell I do believe he is a lovely, soft and caring person, he is just afraid of getting hurt as he told me...so Iām
Taking into consideration heās been hurt before and heās trying to overcome these obstacles...do I seem perhaps
Too needy? If I want him
To message me daily and I want to see him more often? I donāt know...i am trying to be considerate towards his feelings and just hoping it will get better however I donāt want to be contacting him first all the time and one of my friends who is a cancerian male told me to let him come me, but I guess my insecurities are kicking in...š„ŗ
I want to give him space however at the same time I donāt want him to think I have vanished...
What do you think is the right approach?
Is that too needy? Not if those are your needs, but it might be too needy or too fast for him, and you have to respect that or chase him away. All of that is a completely different matter from whether or not he's a good person.
I'm a clinger in the beginning of relationships, which is not good, and so my advice sucks on this topic. If you want some good advice, you should start your own thread in the Cancer forum, but prepare your anus. They will tell you like it is and how you are screwing up. š
My dear,
Thank you very much for taking your time to always respond to me. To be honest I have made threads in the past and no one has ever responded to me. Or if someone did it was not to the point or clear enough...
You know Iām a clinger or acting needy only if Iām not getting straight forward answers, if I donāt know where i stand. I need to get rid off this habit as I can see how bad it is...plus itās wasting too much of my energy!
Yes, you have to get a handle on the feelings, because they overrun logic. Also, if you have very strong feelings for someone you haven't been dating seriously for a while, that probably means you're projecting forward, imagining things about them that you don't actually know yet. I'm guessing. Not blaming. Frankly, I didn't have to learn to figure this out because I met someone who coaxed me along until I could trust him, and then I was fine. That was luck, I guess.click to expand
Yes I am completely ruled by my feelings I have to admit and even though I am an air sign I have too much water and fire in my chart leo/Scorpio 50/50...my only air is in my sun sign so I guess that is the reason why I forget to use my logic šš„ŗ
This cancer guy is the only man who made me feel since I was a teenager...I know! Quite pathetic...I will be honest with you I am
Actually married, temporarily, as my kids are small and I canāt bear to see them losing their dad...I think this is one of the reason why my cancer guy is reluctant to open up and also he was hurt very badly in his last relationship which ended only about 3 years ago. He told
Me heās afraid of getting hurt. And I understand that however I was absolutely honest with him since day 1 and he wanted to go ahead as he said he likes me so much. Now when he made me feel like my world has literally shifted to a different dimension he has decided itās not the right time and he pulled away. He is financially insecure so thatās another burden I think for him....anyways as you can see my life is a mess. I should have never allowed him to get into my feelings...I have easily resisted for years various men...he was the only one who made me feel, heās not even a typical good looking type if you know what I mean
I see and I understand.
I will have to make serious changes if I want him to open up, right? You know I did have this feeling...I am glad you have pointed it out. And I appreciate it, I did tell my cancer that I want stability with him but heās avoiding to answer that question and saying:āit will happen when the time is rightā I thought he mean when itās right for him but I guess you are right...heās more referring when Iām going to be available. Nevermind, it will happen as I canāt stay in this marriage my husband is an Aries and itās a nightmare lol...
I feel the cancer and i is meant to be and if itās meant to be I should have trust in the universe and see how things develop. Life sucks š„ŗš³
By the way...do you think I should not contact him first anymore?
I will have to make serious changes if I want him to open up, right? You know I did have this feeling...I am glad you have pointed it out. And I appreciate it, I did tell my cancer that I want stability with him but heās avoiding to answer that question and saying:āit will happen when the time is rightā I thought he mean when itās right for him but I guess you are right...heās more referring when Iām going to be available. Nevermind, it will happen as I canāt stay in this marriage my husband is an Aries and itās a nightmare lol...
I feel the cancer and i is meant to be and if itās meant to be I should have trust in the universe and see how things develop. Life sucks š„ŗš³
By the way...do you think I should not contact him first anymore?
Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by Libra_inlove
I see and I understand.
I will have to make serious changes if I want him to open up, right? You know I did have this feeling...I am glad you have pointed it out. And I appreciate it, I did tell my cancer that I want stability with him but heās avoiding to answer that question and saying:āit will happen when the time is rightā I thought he mean when itās right for him but I guess you are right...heās more referring when Iām going to be available. Nevermind, it will happen as I canāt stay in this marriage my husband is an Aries and itās a nightmare lol...
I feel the cancer and i is meant to be and if itās meant to be I should have trust in the universe and see how things develop. Life sucks š„ŗš³
By the way...do you think I should not contact him first anymore?
You should stop seeing him and trying to get with him and being jealous over other women in his life until you get a divorce and get your head on straight or fix your marriage if that's even possible. It sounds like it isn't. He might need an apology too or a slap upside the head from someone else. I dunno. This is real life, not a movie. Consequences from this shit are HARSH.click to expand
Darling, consequences are harsh I know, but at the end of the day we have only 1 life to live at this lifetime...I know what you mean but my marriage was way broken before I even knew this cancer guy, it was just my insecurity and stupidity that I remained I understand that, but what can I say...I should have listened to my mother! My husband deliberately kept me at home to gain power over me and made sure I donāt think too much of myself as I fully depend on him financially. My daughter goes to full time school next September so Iām already preparing my CV so I can start looking for a job and security and then tadaaaaa Iām free to do as I please and donāt have to be scared if I have money to pay the bills. You know all my personal planets are my 4th house so I need stability in order to feel secure. I thought I can start over with the cancer but who knows..
I will not contact him anymore as you said, itās for the better for him too as every time we get closer he goes into his shell and pushes me away and then I am
Suffering inside like a 12 year old teenager even thought Iām 40! š thank you for all your advices.
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