Cancer Scorpio relationship Help!!

So....I fell madly in love with a Scorpio guy about 5months ago. For the first month that we dated everything was so intense and passionate and every second apart made our feelings stronger. He spoke about marriage and how he could tell that I am the one for him and all that Jazz. This is a really long story so brace yourself!

Anyway, his work contract finished shortly after we started dating and he ran out of money and basically I have been paying for everything for the last 5months like petrol, food, his cigarettes, money for him to go drinking with his friends, buying his family xmas prezzies!! like everything!!! but within the last few months we just started arguing and arguing all the time. If I was like 15mins late meeting him then he'd get pissed off and angry at me. Anyway, then we decided to move in together which I have paid for entirely, biggest mistake eveeerrr!!!!! Anyway after 4 months of sitting on his fat ass he has a job now. After two days of working there he decided that it was time we broke up! How convenient that he has been living off me for so long n now hew has his own money he wants to leave! None of his friends no that it is me that was paying for everything n while he was bitching to them about how moody and insecure I am, I was paying for him to shout his friends at the pub! Whenever we argue he tells me how much his family n friends hate me coz I'm so horrible, and a nutter! He told his sister that I smashed one of her wine glasses one night when we had an argument n failed to mention how he held a full glass of red wine above my head a mm away from tipping it all over me! I feel so used and betrayed as I've only ever tried to make him happy. He got head rubs and back massages everyday that I saw him. He used to stay up all night talking to his ex on msn n if I ever got cranky then I was some headcase who was completely insecure! Apparently nobody in the world has treated him as badly as I have treated him.

I didn't even mind spending the money, it's the fact that he expected it right up until the end n never said thank you. If he wanted something he would wake me up in the middle of the night to get it, and take my bank card.

The worst of it is that he left on Friday night and hasn't contacted me since, and I really just want to see him again. I can't stop thinking about him even though he has been a complete bastard to me over the last couple of months.

How can I get him out of my head—!!!!!

Killa I feel for you, I know your self esteem is damn near in the gutter over this man, sorry to hear he used you this way but gosh were was all your boundaries, it's like you had zero to no boundaries at all and just let this man walk all over you. I wonder why you felt like you had to pay to keep this particular man or is this a habit you have with all men you date? I'm not surprised he lost respect for you, you really were not showing him that you had love and respect for yourself. I'm not sure why anyone would want someone like him back but I understand how easy it is to get emotionally attached to abusive loser type men, our bodies and minds get addicted to them and we crave being in these kind of unhealthy relationships. I encourage you to sit back and heal or you will find yourself in another similiar situation getting used and emotionally abused again. Please keep your money to yourself, don't ever pay for a relationship, pay for love, you will never feel cherished and adored behaving like that.

Thank god he's gone and since he didn't work for 4 months maybe you can carry the loser on your taxes to get some of your money back....good riddance to the assclown

4 months?! don't invite such users into your life, he's not your son he's supposed to be your lover. men like that will only come if you let them in, you should definitely take some time out for you and reassess your standards. use some of that money you were spending on him for some new clothes, get some cute underwear. spoil yourself! forget about that guy and whatever you do, don't over think why he did the things he did. for any man to be completely be okay with having his woman, or anyone who isn't him, take care of him in such a way is no man! he most definitely can not, and will not treat you like a woman. he's a spoiled, inconsiderate manchild! Be happy that lazy bastard decided to leave, it's a blessing. just make sure you learn from the experience...

oh and... delete his number... make it so there is no trace of his existence in your life! and remember, he's a dick

Thanks girlies, that helps a heaps. I think it is so true that when a relationship ends with a scorpio it certainly scorns you, or has me, anyway. I feel so used and worthless but I guess time is a healer, as they say. I guess in one way i should feel lucky that I found out early what he's like and willing to do in a relationship. Tiki, i completely understand what you're saying, I've always been a very generous person, not just with money but as a person, but my past partners have been similar and not willing to take too much so there was always a good balance. But yes, I guess that's not the best way to be. I didn't realise there were people in the world who are just willing to take, take, n keep taking without any thought. I think what really bothers me is that he has always said he has never been in a relationship like this, implying that I am the problem, so I should brace myself for dying a lonely old woman? lol It would make me feel a lot better to think that he is lying and just trying to hurt me. Thank you so much!!! A friend and I have booked flights to Melbourne so I'm just going to try to have the best time now. I can't let him keep on dragging me down.

Thanks!! 🙂