@MissM
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Cancer's how do you act when someone is annoyed or angry at you?
How Cancer Reacts When Someone Is Annoyed or Angry
Cancers tend to respond with sensitivity and a desire to resolve conflict peacefully. They may withdraw to protect their feelings or try to understand the other person's perspective. Their approach is often nurturing and empathetic, aiming to restore harmony rather than escalate the situation.
Depends on who that person is to me.
If it's a SO, one of my children, a colleague, a close friend I will try to figure out what has triggered it and whether it's warranted. If it is I'll try to make it right. If it isn't I will assume that they are just having a rough day and that it doesn't have anything to do with me. If we are close I will try to get them to talk about what is bothering them, otherwise I'll just leave them alone.
If I don't know you well, or you aren't someone that really has any importance in my life I will avoid you, if it's consistent I will eventually just forget you exist.
Do you ever get defensive about it? Its someone I've been out maybe 6 dates with we we usually talk every few days.
It depends what are you angry/annoyed about?
Depends, in particular of your moon and mercury signs I think. I generally don't want to hurt anyone and I'll try to make peace with you. Even to the expenses of contradicting myself. However if what I did was conscious and I genuinely thought was the right thing I'll stick with my position. But again, I think that a lot of this is also my gemini moon and leo merc talking.
Well he moved away recently and didn't tell me he would be in town until saturday which was when he was in town then he said he made plans with a friend, didn't bother asking what i was up to or anything then phoned me at 8pm that night after he was done with his friend and I just thought it was rude, like I was just going to be sitting around waiting for him and like I was some last option when I said that he got annoyed at me and I didn't bother replying to his txt cause I had, had a few drinks and knew I may say something I would regret and I still haven't bothered responding. I get where he is coming from not knowing how long he would be with his friend but he didn't even ask me to do anything or say he wanted to see me. He's actually a gemini with cancer moon and merc in Taurus. He is quite sensitive... although he hints that I am..
Posted by Arielle83
Ya you are.You chose to wait around.
He didn't tell you to.
I don't ditch my friends just because someone expects to be more important than them.
It's kind of controlling.
I didn't wait around that was the point. I went out with friends...
Posted by Arielle83
Ya you are.You chose to wait around.
He didn't tell you to.
I don't ditch my friends just because someone expects to be more important than them.
It's kind of controlling.
I didn't wait around that was the point. I went out with friends...
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So he didn't get to see me because he didn't plan ahead and treated me like a last minute option, the fact is i was going to stay in but I felt like shit that I didn't think he wanted to see me so I thought well i'm not staying in, then he txt'd me but I was out with friends but I wouldn't have gone anyway just out of annoyance that someone thinks I'm waiting around for them
Posted by Arielle83
Ya you are.You chose to wait around.
He didn't tell you to.
I don't ditch my friends just because someone expects to be more important than them.
It's kind of controlling.
I didn't wait around that was the point. I went out with friends...
Ok so you both went out with friends, but you think it's rude he called you at 8pm?
Why didn't you call him then?
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I thought it was rude he came to town without telling me or asking my plans which in my opinion means he didn't really give a shit if he saw me or not, I said I don't like being someones last option and then he got annoyed at me and then I didn't bother replying to him
Yeah I was just curious as to if many cancer people get defensive like that but maybe not
Posted by MissM
Well he moved away recently and didn't tell me he would be in town until saturday which was when he was in town then he said he made plans with a friend, didn't bother asking what i was up to or anything then phoned me at 8pm that night after he was done with his friend and I just thought it was rude, like I was just going to be sitting around waiting for him and like I was some last option when I said that he got annoyed at me and I didn't bother replying to his txt cause I had, had a few drinks and knew I may say something I would regret and I still haven't bothered responding. I get where he is coming from not knowing how long he would be with his friend but he didn't even ask me to do anything or say he wanted to see me. He's actually a gemini with cancer moon and merc in Taurus. He is quite sensitive... although he hints that I am..Funny! I'm a Cancer with Taurus moon and merc in Gemini. ?
So when people are mad at me i usually start off by staying away and give them some space to cool off.
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Yeah i can understand giving someone space but i think its more the fact he got defensive about it which annoyed me. Like didn't sympathize with where i was coming from.
How long do you usually give people to cool down?
Posted by MissM
Yeah I was just curious as to if many cancer people get defensive like that but maybe not
What's his mercury?
Posted by MissM
Yeah I was just curious as to if many cancer people get defensive like that but maybe notWhat's his mercury?
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Merc in Taurus
Mars in Pisces
Venus in Aries
Posted by MissM
Yeah I was just curious as to if many cancer people get defensive like that but maybe notWhat's his mercury?
Merc in Taurus
Mars in Pisces
Venus in Aries
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Oh well @taurusinshania is a Taurus maybe she can help you understand how he communicates and acted the way he did as for his cancer moon that's a really emotional being and he'd likely take offense to any little thing you say or do and dwell on it for far to long
Posted by MissM
Yeah I was just curious as to if many cancer people get defensive like that but maybe notWhat's his mercury?
Merc in Taurus
Mars in Pisces
Venus in Aries
Oh well @taurusinshania is a Taurus maybe she can help you understand how he communicates and acted the way he did as for his cancer moon that's a really emotional being and he'd likely take offense to any little thing you say or do and dwell on it for far to long
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Yeah i can tell he's quite sensitive and it usually comes off a little bit passive aggressive. I think he hides his emotions well but he also over thinks which i think is his gemini sun. It like he over thinks then gets grumpy about stuff... I over think being a gemini but i'm not good at grudge holding i rather just talk it out
Nine times out of ten I don't care how others react to me. You gotta have a really good valid point in order for me to rethink my ways and sometimes even then I remain stubborn.
Posted by MissM
Yeah I was just curious as to if many cancer people get defensive like that but maybe notWhat's his mercury?
Merc in Taurus
Mars in Pisces
Venus in Aries
Oh well @taurusinshania is a Taurus maybe she can help you understand how he communicates and acted the way he did as for his cancer moon that's a really emotional being and he'd likely take offense to any little thing you say or do and dwell on it for far to long
Yeah i can tell he's quite sensitive and it usually comes off a little bit passive aggressive. I think he hides his emotions well but he also over thinks which i think is his gemini sun. It like he over thinks then gets grumpy about stuff... I over think being a gemini but i'm not good at grudge holding i rather just talk it out
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Cancers are pretty good at holding grudges if he feels you’ve slighted him in the past that cancer moon will hold on to it forever being that the moon dictates how you feel & he’s got the most emotional sign as his planet. But I find Taurus people to be easy to communicate and reciptive to feedback and what you have to say.
They act normal.
You find out two days later they are mad at that thing from 2 days ago,
So if they're irritated, wait a few days, the issue will arise.
But if he's a mature cancer he'll simply tell you if you ask him. Most will hold it in and let it bother them for sometime before they tell you though
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Cancer's how do you act when someone is annoyed or angry at you? When someone confronts you with behavior they don't like how do you react?