@Cancan26
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Exactly doesn't get much clearer than that, people are only confused because they never notice how they treat us and when we treat them the same they don't understand why. Like We're practically a mirror pay attention.
Posted by Ellygant
I don't disagree. But there can be some variance. Namely when a Cancer's fear overrides their confidence and that creates contradiction. I've seen it in my crab friends and in my most recent crab ex. When y'all are living in that unshakable cancerian determination tho, no one can touch you or bring you down.People also take for granted the hard exterior of Cancers. For some it's difficult to see the sensitive side that is a reaction to someone being dismissive or demanding of them. And I think that's the number one way most of the people that come looking for advice fail. They demand of crabs. #1 way to get yo ass iced out lol.
I think it confuses people when we can go from being warm affectionate almost to the point of being needy to ICE COLD.. And I myself have a Scorpio moon so I do things in extremes there is no
ease up a little bit.. Either I'm all in or all out...
Posted by CrabNextDoor
Exactly doesn't get much clearer than that, people are only confused because they never notice how they treat us and when we treat them the same they don't understand why. Like We're practically a mirror pay attention.
I do feel like that... As Elly said they kind of take for granted that the affection, friendship, Love or whatever will be there at the time their ready....no ...
I mirror people.. I gave what was given so to speak ...
Posted by SentimentalCrabby
Simple! I relate to what you said
🤗 I'm glad to know I'm not alone 🙂
Posted by Cancan26
Posted by CrabNextDoor
Exactly doesn't get much clearer than that, people are only confused because they never notice how they treat us and when we treat them the same they don't understand why. Like We're practically a mirror pay attention.
I do feel like that... As Elly said they kind of take for granted that the affection, friendship, Love or whatever will be there at the time their ready....no ...
I mirror people.. I gave what was given so to speak ...
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But what about when you crabbies are the ones saying you need space, you act cold, you give the cold shoulder and not because of anything anyone else did?
i've had it happen so i know it does happen. I get the mirroring thing, but tbh y'all hate when others do that right back to you, but you cant see your own actions that lead up to this situation and tbh that fustrates the hell out of me sometimes.
Posted by justagirl
Posted by Cancan26
Posted by CrabNextDoor
Exactly doesn't get much clearer than that, people are only confused because they never notice how they treat us and when we treat them the same they don't understand why. Like We're practically a mirror pay attention.
I do feel like that... As Elly said they kind of take for granted that the affection, friendship, Love or whatever will be there at the time their ready....no ...
I mirror people.. I gave what was given so to speak ...
But what about when you crabbies are the ones saying you need space, you act cold, you give the cold shoulder and not because of anything anyone else did?
i've had it happen so i know it does happen. I get the mirroring thing, but tbh y'all hate when others do that right back to you, but you cant see your own actions that lead up to this situation and tbh that fustrates the hell out of me sometimes.
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Honestly I try hard to not to do hurtful things to others especially people I care about... When I withdraw if I care enough about you, you will know why... Not saying I haven't ever just acted out.. I'm just lucky enough that the ones that truly loved or cared about me never held it against me 🙂 I hopes that makes sense.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
I must say when I was younger I let go of alot of friendships due to perceived injury.Now I'm more mature. I think things through. I don't allow emotions to dictate as MUCH when responding to individuals
When ppl complain about me I ignore it. When I want to complain about them. I ignore it
Don't sweat the small stuff
I wish I could go back and fix lots of friendships
I let them go too easily
But yes I mirror like a motherfuker. I don't know how else to be.
But even then I'm changing that as well
What has mirroring got me
Nothing. It's not a solution to the hurt of the perceived injury
So if I mirror I'll try to only mirror ppl I gives two fuks about
But not ppl who matter
I think that if I I learned to let go... There would be no need to mirror honestly
If someone doesn't care enough about you to take your feelings into account let that shit go.
If some doesn't treat you the way you treat them let that shit go lol
But as for the rest of it
..your right no one should sweat the small stuff 😄
Posted by Cancan26
Posted by justagirl
Posted by Cancan26
Posted by CrabNextDoor
Exactly doesn't get much clearer than that, people are only confused because they never notice how they treat us and when we treat them the same they don't understand why. Like We're practically a mirror pay attention.
I do feel like that... As Elly said they kind of take for granted that the affection, friendship, Love or whatever will be there at the time their ready....no ...
I mirror people.. I gave what was given so to speak ...
But what about when you crabbies are the ones saying you need space, you act cold, you give the cold shoulder and not because of anything anyone else did?
i've had it happen so i know it does happen. I get the mirroring thing, but tbh y'all hate when others do that right back to you, but you cant see your own actions that lead up to this situation and tbh that fustrates the hell out of me sometimes.
Honestly I try hard to not to do hurtful things to others especially people I care about... When I withdraw if I care enough about you, you will know why... Not saying I haven't ever just acted out.. I'm just lucky enough that the ones that truly loved or cared about me never held it against me 🙂 I hopes that makes sense.
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it does 🙂
Posted by bumboklatt
You're rightI think cardinal signs in general are the most simple.
Mood swings can be difficult for some to handle. Maybe that's why
Cardinal signs are def the most simple 😄 and I mean that in a good way 😄
Posted by justagirl
Posted by Cancan26
Posted by CrabNextDoor
Exactly doesn't get much clearer than that, people are only confused because they never notice how they treat us and when we treat them the same they don't understand why. Like We're practically a mirror pay attention.
I do feel like that... As Elly said they kind of take for granted that the affection, friendship, Love or whatever will be there at the time their ready....no ...
I mirror people.. I gave what was given so to speak ...
But what about when you crabbies are the ones saying you need space, you act cold, you give the cold shoulder and not because of anything anyone else did?
i've had it happen so i know it does happen. I get the mirroring thing, but tbh y'all hate when others do that right back to you, but you cant see your own actions that lead up to this situation and tbh that fustrates the hell out of me sometimes.
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So to speak sometimes I don't need space I just fear annoying someone or being to clingy because it's what I am accustomed to always hearing. Now I do get moody and Act cold when I feel I have no one there for me but I guess some cancers are cold or others signs simply from we have been subjected to. And I myself personally feel that 'my actions' thus far shouldn't have led me to the Situations I have been in I'm truly understanding of EVERYTHING but I know ok cancers aren't the same and I respect your
Posted by CrabNextDoor
Posted by justagirl
Posted by Cancan26
Posted by CrabNextDoor
Exactly doesn't get much clearer than that, people are only confused because they never notice how they treat us and when we treat them the same they don't understand why. Like We're practically a mirror pay attention.
I do feel like that... As Elly said they kind of take for granted that the affection, friendship, Love or whatever will be there at the time their ready....no ...
I mirror people.. I gave what was given so to speak ...
But what about when you crabbies are the ones saying you need space, you act cold, you give the cold shoulder and not because of anything anyone else did?
i've had it happen so i know it does happen. I get the mirroring thing, but tbh y'all hate when others do that right back to you, but you cant see your own actions that lead up to this situation and tbh that fustrates the hell out of me sometimes.
So to speak sometimes I don't need space I just fear annoying someone or being to clingy because it's what I am accustomed to always hearing. Now I do get moody and Act cold when I feel I have no one there for me but I guess some cancers are cold or others signs simply from we have been subjected to. And I myself personally feel that 'my actions' thus far shouldn't have led me to the Situations I have been in I'm truly understanding of EVERYTHING but I know ok cancers aren't the same and I respect your
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I relate!! Especially the feeling like I annoy or too needy/clingy lolol which as an aqua even think I might be needy is funny in itself. Hmmm some things to ponder.
Posted by Cancan26
Posted by Ellygant
I don't disagree. But there can be some variance. Namely when a Cancer's fear overrides their confidence and that creates contradiction. I've seen it in my crab friends and in my most recent crab ex. When y'all are living in that unshakable cancerian determination tho, no one can touch you or bring you down.People also take for granted the hard exterior of Cancers. For some it's difficult to see the sensitive side that is a reaction to someone being dismissive or demanding of them. And I think that's the number one way most of the people that come looking for advice fail. They demand of crabs. #1 way to get yo ass iced out lol.
I think it confuses people when we can go from being warm affectionate almost to the point of being needy to ICE COLD.. And I myself have a Scorpio moon so I do things in extremes there is no
ease up a little bit.. Either I'm all in or all out...
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All in or all out. Yeap. That's how one of my best friends (cap) describes me and her mother, also a crab.
Well its impossible to understand emotional people, because thoughts and emotions are very often just a momental expression, so you might be bitchy right now and a sweetheart 20 min later. People just gotta come up with appropriate Communication strategies for each mood swings. Thats all.
Sometimes you need a hug, sometimes you need to be left alone. thats all.
Posted by Cancan26
I know the other 11 signs and astrology in general describes us as complex... But I think I'm very simpleI treat you how you how you treat me?
Examples
If you give me the cold shoulder... I give it back...
If you ask for space... I give you space
If act aloof I assume your uniterested And be aloof back...
—?
Posted by MissGemmi
Cancers can hurt others too you know? What I read constantly is how some of you keep on rambling on how you mirror others when they give you the cold shoulder. Have you ever stood still by the fact that people try to make you see how you've hurt them but you go all into the defensive. Once they give up on trying to make you see what hurt them and take steps back you mirror them back or act oblivious to what caused the hurt. Acting like a victim.Like really? Why do you let others do all the emotional work for you? Being direct, tell you how they feel, trying to talk, and when they feel like they are talking to a wall and give up you pride yourself in being simple and just mirroring the other persons actions. No it's not simple. It's manipulative. Show people your own personality in truly making the other person feel like you care instead of mirroring.
Alot of us are VERY direct in how we feel
..people don't listen... I gave what was given... It's not a hard concept(I'm not trying to be mean here and if this doesn't apply to you can simply disregard)
IT REALLY IS JUST THAT SIMPLE... if you want respect give it. If you Want love.. Give it... No one sign...not geminis or cancers or anybody else should explain how they feel about something more than once. Straight up.
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I know the other 11 signs and astrology in general describes us as complex... But I think I'm very simple
I treat you how you how you treat me?
Examples
If you give me the cold shoulder... I give it back...
If you ask for space... I give you space
If act aloof I assume your uniterested And be aloof back...
Why do people. Act as this is a big mystery?
Other cancers do you feel like your actions are complex or more simple?