Cancer Lady
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Crabs are right to cut people off
She hasn't responded but I'm sure when she needs my help or advice on something she's reappear but I've moved on and unlike last time I won't be returning.
Posted by Gem20ReduxNo it's not bias because if we disappear on you it's because of something YOU did, so yes that would mean you deserve it.
If a crab disappears from you, "you deserve it." A tad biased is it not? Some crabs are just kiddy with emotion and can't hand different people who they can't relate to. Case closed here. Time to move on everyone.
Yeah when I cut someone off completely it's done forever, I don't know sometimes years may make say hi to someone again, but I feel then the Scorpio moon takes over and the Taurus rising and is like "yeah right, bye."
Posted by dewiklaessen1991Whelp she's a Virgo and it's the case with her.Posted by Cancer Lady
She hasn't responded but I'm sure when she needs my help or advice on something she's reappear but I've moved on and unlike last time I won't be returning.
that doesn't sound like a Virgo at all you don't have to see eachother to be good friends I have a best friend that I often see and as friends you should be there for eachother I let now hear from myself then others do and I understand you but maybe she needs someone who understands get emotionally you have friends where you can have fun with friends you talk with etc. I always give advice that's more a Virgo thing to do then ask to be honest and I'm honest about the fact that I can give others better advice then myself @Cancer ladyclick to expand
Posted by Gem20ReduxOnly a dummy would result to insults to prove a point and astrology in of itself is bias if you want to get technical. So why are you even here?Posted by Cancer LadyYou might be the dumbest person on here... Not kidding at all. By you inferring the aforementioned you just proved my entire point. That statement was biased af.Posted by Gem20ReduxNo it's not bias because if we disappear on you it's because of something YOU did, so yes that would mean you deserve it.
If a crab disappears from you, "you deserve it." A tad biased is it not? Some crabs are just kiddy with emotion and can't hand different people who they can't relate to. Case closed here. Time to move on everyone.click to expand
Posted by dewiklaessen1991lol no not you, I went back and quoted who I was referring too.Posted by Cancer Lady
Only a dummy would result to insults to prove a point and astrology in of itself is bias if you want to get technical. So why are you even here?
who are you talking to? You mean me you post a topic I see it so I reply to it 😄click to expand
lol yep no one wants to hear negativity all the time especially when you're fronting like everything is cool but then once the convo gets going, the truth starts coming out about how miserable you really are. I don't mind being there and a shoulder to lean on but I'm not going to condone that being the only purpose I serve and it not be reciprocated.
The problem with cutting people off is that they keep coming back... If there was a way to cut people off and have them happily leave.......
So she text me today talking about she needed to finish some things before contacting me, ummmm what? You mean now you have something you want to tell me and want my input about per usual. What about what I want to talk about and might have needed her advice or input on? I haven't responded to her yet and if I feel like doing so I will but if I don't then I just don't.
Tired of being taken advantage of.
Tired of being taken advantage of.
Posted by rabidtalkerI found that a "you're dead to me!" works great on the most persistent ones.
The problem with cutting people off is that they keep coming back... If there was a way to cut people off and have them happily leave.......
Posted by Cancer LadyHave you communicated this to her?
So she text me today talking about she needed to finish some things before contacting me, ummmm what? You mean now you have something you want to tell me and want my input about per usual. What about what I want to talk about and might have needed her advice or input on? I haven't responded to her yet and if I feel like doing so I will but if I don't then I just don't.
Tired of being taken advantage of.
I had a cancer friend who would act like everything was okay between us and then out of nowhere she came at me with a, b, and c. Only problem was a, b, and c happened over a year ago. Pretty ridiculous of her to bottle it all up inside.
Posted by Arielle83Exactly! I've confronted her about things in the past and you can't reason with a person who refuses to see the error in her ways and refuse to care how it effects other people. All said person will do is make excuses and it'll turn into a bunch of back and forth mumbo jumbo that's not even worth putting energy into. As I stated I knew she would pop back up when she wanted to tell me something and get my advice, she pretty much admitted she waited until some things fell in place to contact me. So basically she feels no need to contact me until it is beneficial for her which is not a friendship.
It's the whole thing of wanting the relationship to cease and desist ASAP.
We don't want anything to do with you. You dead to us. We don't owe u. If you aren't self aware that's your problem.
Plus there's no real point telling a self involved person they suck to you, because they'll just argue.
Ive confronted a few fire sign ex friends and told them I'm done with them, and guess who turned out to be my new stalker?
One Aries ex friend kept all my clothes she borrowed. Another tried to fuck my bf at the time.
You can't reason with crazy, so you just fuck off.
I'm not a box of cereal you eat and put back in the closet until you want it again, I messaged her and wanted to communicate with her but she ignored me until it was something she wanted to talk about and discuss. Now she expects me to respond to what SHE wants while she ignored my communication. So I've decided I'm not responding to her and yes now she is dead to me and I don't owe her anything. If she valued our friendship I wouldn't have to tell her how to be a friend, either you're a friend or you're not and she's not my friend and I've accepted it.
What's the rest of her chart look like? Give us something to work with and analyze
Okay so Virgo reached out to me again and admitted she took a long time to reply back to me but she didn't apologize and not only that she is asking me to recommend some skin care products for her? lol is she really serious? Like I can't believe she's hitting me up asking me for something. I don't know if I'm going to reply to her or not but she's all happy things are going well with this guy so I am happy for her in that regard but dang I just don't want to feel like I'm being used and there's no way for her to understand that because she would have to change who she is and that's not something she can do nor is it anything I would ask her to do.
I just want her to be genuine and a part of me feels like she is in her own way, so I have to decide if it's enough for me.
I just want her to be genuine and a part of me feels like she is in her own way, so I have to decide if it's enough for me.
lol well I will admit I don't like confrontation so yes I would rather make my decision on my own and just follow through on that decision whatever it may be, it is what it is. No one makes you accept our actions, you are free to stir clear of Cancers it's your choice to make if you don't like how we operate.
AGG Now that you mentioned that I think you're right. I think the skin care thing was just a way to ensure that I would have a reason to reply back to her. I do enjoy her until she becomes super negative and it seems I'm only of use to her when she needs something but then again we Crabs are nurturing and givers so it's kind of hard for people to not become dependent on us because we make things so safe for them to do so.
I'm going to reply back to her but next week, I still need time to myself and come to the understandings of how our relationship dynamic is going to be and decide once and for all if I can accept the good & the bad.
AGG Now that you mentioned that I think you're right. I think the skin care thing was just a way to ensure that I would have a reason to reply back to her. I do enjoy her until she becomes super negative and it seems I'm only of use to her when she needs something but then again we Crabs are nurturing and givers so it's kind of hard for people to not become dependent on us because we make things so safe for them to do so.
I'm going to reply back to her but next week, I still need time to myself and come to the understandings of how our relationship dynamic is going to be and decide once and for all if I can accept the good & the bad.
Hi Cancer Lady,
I hope you don't mind my input, but I've been friends with a Virgo female for more than 20 years and she behaves similar to your friend. When she acts like that I listen, but there's a great deal of space before we connect again whether by phone or in person. I've come to realize that's just her personality and leave it at that.
If you value her friendship just let her know how her behavior makes you feel, but instead of appealing to her emotionally, be rational.
I hope things work out. â™'ï¸
I hope you don't mind my input, but I've been friends with a Virgo female for more than 20 years and she behaves similar to your friend. When she acts like that I listen, but there's a great deal of space before we connect again whether by phone or in person. I've come to realize that's just her personality and leave it at that.
If you value her friendship just let her know how her behavior makes you feel, but instead of appealing to her emotionally, be rational.
I hope things work out. â™'ï¸
Posted by dewiklaessen1991LoLPosted by Cancer Lady
Only a dummy would result to insults to prove a point and astrology in of itself is bias if you want to get technical. So why are you even here?
who are you talking to? You mean me you post a topic I see it so I reply to it 😄click to expand
The OP was silly... it doesn't mean you deserve it.
It just means you don't get along.
Posted by AquaCancerMoonYeah I actually decided to respond to her however I'm not in the same space I was before. I'm not avoiding her persay but she's no longer a priority, so when I feel like talking to her I will otherwise I won't. I understand and have accepted she's unable to be there for me in the capacity I need her too and that's fine but that also means I'm not going to be fully invested in the friendship either. I can tell that she has realized I've pulled back but that's just the way it is at least I'm not going to completely cut her off this time but she is not my friend.
Hi Cancer Lady,
I hope you don't mind my input, but I've been friends with a Virgo female for more than 20 years and she behaves similar to your friend. When she acts like that I listen, but there's a great deal of space before we connect again whether by phone or in person. I've come to realize that's just her personality and leave it at that.
If you value her friendship just let her know how her behavior makes you feel, but instead of appealing to her emotionally, be rational.
I hope things work out. ��'ï¸
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