faux pas?

Um, okay here's the thing. I have this male cancer friend who is a total man-slut (well, not really, but he tries to be), but he's a very close friend of mine who I used to date (I've talked about him before on the boards). Anyway, he's always got some semi-but-not-really girlfriend in the background, which normally is a fact I could care less about, but tonight a line was crossed between the cancer and myself. I don't know whether it was because I am still upset about my breakup with the leo, or the rather large amount of alcohol we consumed, or what, but we fooled around, and I'm really not sure how I'm going to feel about this tomorrow morning. We probably would have done more than just fooled around if his roomate hadn't burst through the door at the most inopportune of moments. I don't know, it's like all the chemistry between us that we had been denying or ignoring just sort of took off once alcohol was involved. Well, duh. lol. I mean, that's the obvious reason, but...he really didn't seem to be all about the nookie with me, he was very sweet and romantic and all that jazz. I so don't think I can handle being dicked around by someone I care about right now. I'm very afraid of what's going to happen in the following days...will he call me? Will it be weird when he calls me? Is this going to be a regular occurance? Have I made a huge mistake?

its only a mistake if u look at it that way.

I will agree with ci7. Anything in life is how we perceive it to be. Change your thoughts and you will change your world. You have another option to view it as an experience to learn from. How do you FEEL? If it felt good to you than it was probably right for you. If you have doubt and it does not "feel" good, then it is not right for you. Us humans were given "feelings" as an inner guidence system. They help direct us on the choices that we make. Learn to trust those feelings.

Remeber, you are now a student in the school room of life. You will be presented with many life opportunities to learn from. Make sure you learn from each one so that you do not have to repeat it again....and if one should need to repeat, that is okay too. There are no mistakes, only lessons to be learned.

i definitly couldnt have said it better myself.

Freebird,
You are definitely a light worker! Yes?

thanks freebird. I like your philosophical take on everything. I guess only time will tell whether it was a mistake or not. He called me tonight after I got off work and he sort of pissed me off because he pretty much acted like nothing happened. And I asked him if he'd seen his (pseudo) girlfriend and he said they went shopping and went to lunch and blah blah blah today. I acted like it didn't affect me at all, but I was pretty much thinking "you're still the same pig you always were". I don't know. I think I'm not going to call him at all and I'll let him come to me if he really wants to pursue anything. Yet, I don't think I want (or could have) a relationship with him, he's too much of a flirt, he flirts with everyone. He's a barista, so I guess he thinks that gives him license to be a flirt. Whatever. lol.

cj, the thing is, I'm not sure how I see it. He's weird, he can be very sweet and polite and gentlemanly for about ten minutes, and then he's cranky and not polite and not gentlemanly, even rude (here, let me tell you all about the girl I did it with the other night right where you're sitting, and then I'll be all up on ya). Which is a tendency I'm noticing in a lot of cancers. Multiple personalities, that is. lol. And of course I say all of this only with love. But really, what IS that??

Consistency, consistency would be nice.

Phoenix,

You are right, "consistency, consistency would be nice." Yes it would but.......who is really consistent? I'm not sure that we are created that way. We are about change and there is no consistency in change. "The only thing that is consistent is change."

What can be learned here is to appreciate the difference between him and you. Accept that and if you can not accept it, why stay involved? It may be time to move on and try on another shoe.

I wish you the best through this experience...what is really cool is that you will definately learn more about yourself because of this and that is always a very, very good thing. 🙂

Freebird

I just do not understand americans here we call it receational sex. Its just something you do.

I'm coming over your way......here I come!!!!!!!

Oh, I forgot one thing....JT, what do I need to bring?

YOURSELF

fly out of the u.s. to gatwick take the gatwick express to london victoria take the exspress to canterbury. you go into the west station of st dunstons walk north, st dunston becomes whitstable road go to 24 whitstable road ask for me.

ok

Hi Star,

Thank you for the compliment. What is a "light worker"?

I suppose if it entails flipping the switch and the light comes on then, yep...I am very good at that. 🙂

You are very kind, Star

JT,

How long will it take me to get there? Is this subway transportation? I have never been out of the USA. Can you believe that? I am always up for an adventure or two.

I know not were you live. But its 7 hours from new york to gatwick by plain then in england if you get the express its 45 min into london by train if you get the train that stops every little burg its two hours then about hour in a half to canterbury the walk to the flat from the station is five min.

Freebird , Starr, if you come this weekend you can meet my friend old jake. Old Jake is an american who has lived here for 15 years. He is from the west he is 60 his wife is english she is 39 they have two little girls who are smashing. The one will confide in you that her father speaks funny. They live in maidinstone. Its down by leads castle he tells everyone he is going home to the U.S. quite soon he is feedup with the english. He also tells everone he will leave his wife for a young woman. If you get a bit of whisky in him he will think about any subject you ask him to think about anything but his answer is always the same after a couple hours of deep thought he says I don't know.

Freebird , Starr, if you come this weekend you can meet my friend old jake. Old Jake is an american who has lived here for 15 years. He is from the west he is 60 his wife is english she is 39 they have two little girls who are smashing. The one will confide in you that her father speaks funny. They live in maidinstone. Its down by leads castle he tells everyone he is going home to the U.S. quite soon he is feedup with the english. He also tells everone he will leave his wife for a young woman. If you get a bit of whisky in him he will think about any subject you ask him to think about anything but his answer is always the same after a couple hours of deep thought he says I don't know.