Has anyone successfully gotten a Cancer man to com

My cancer man is great a communicating when it comes to fluff conversations, but when it comes to matters of the heart Mums the word. It's one word answers. Its almost like something is physically restricting the words form coming out of his mouth.
How are we supposed to grow and get to know each other? We've been dating for a lil over a year (im a cancer too, but Im alot more open to talk). We been exclusive for 2 months. But we're moving at snail speed in getting to know each other. What can i do to make him feel comfortable with me?

Help!

Hi Melly,

I have a dear friend who is a cancer male. We've known each other for 5 years now.. and it wasn't until the last year or so, after the break-up between he and his fiance, that we've become closer. I don't think it's an issue of whether or not he's a cancer-- because the general stereotype is that Cancer men are very commitment oriented.

I would say for you, you just need time. Only time can tell whether this relationship is worth having. A year, is not a long time in relation to the rest of your life (unless you're over 80 or have a terminal illness).

At any rate, there's not much you can do to help him be more comfortable with you out side of giving him his space-- and let him "grow" in to you on his own. In the meantime, ask yourself these questions: how long is too long? How fast would YOU like to go? Where do you draw the line in terms of your comfort levels? I know a relationship should be about two people becoming one-- and learning to live with each other-- but in the beginning stages of the relationship (like you are) -- it helps to use time to decifer whether this person is good for YOU. It's a lot easier to find a person who's personality/attitude/behavior are things that you enjoy and can live with-- than to hope for a person to change...

good luck.