@britneybabe26
11 Years500+ PostsGemini
he came back
Posted by kalin
Haha what did he say in the text?
He didn't mention anything about my last text just Hey princess how have you been
Posted by kalin
Haha what did he say in the text?He didn't mention anything about my last text just Hey princess how have you been
I guess he's still interested lol
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Lol
I read all (okay half) of the comments about your last post. I think that's fully (some) male Crab behavior (and I will get crucified for saying so and not being one myself). He wasn't ready to talk, and now he is. He didn't mention your text because he could have been uncomfortable about it or you, or his feelings for you - in some - any - way.
All I can say is this. I have been talking to a guy on and off for eight months. I took it very seriously in the beginning when he wasn't so quick to reply to me. One day he told me he didn't understand why people got upset when he didn't immediately respond. Sometimes, he said, he liked to think about his response, sometimes he was busy, and just because someone chose to send him a message didn't even mean he read it immediately and he didn't feel it obligated him to respond. Of course, he always responded to me, but not always immediately. Technology has made us all feel like everything has to happen in an instant, and he doesn't agree with that. (I know there are days I don't, either!! He just articulated it.)
Now, a few things have happened in the past few months and we couldn't talk. So recently, it's improving, but sometimes I send him something and he doesn't respond but sends a Snapchat pic or video instead.
Some Crabs are just on their own timetable. I don't take it personally anymore. I just go do my thing. At first it was hard. Now I think it was a great lesson. He wasn't *making* me feel any particular way, I was *choosing* to feel a certain way.
Don't assume anything is wrong. If he doesn't want to talk to you and he's any kind of decent Crab, he will be honest and let you know that. I think that several day's silence from some Crab males doesn't mean anything negative.
Posted by GalOnTheCusp
I read all (okay half) of the comments about your last post. I think that's fully (some) male Crab behavior (and I will get crucified for saying so and not being one myself). He wasn't ready to talk, and now he is. He didn't mention your text because he could have been uncomfortable about it or you, or his feelings for you - in some - any - way.All I can say is this. I have been talking to a guy on and off for eight months. I took it very seriously in the beginning when he wasn't so quick to reply to me. One day he told me he didn't understand why people got upset when he didn't immediately respond. Sometimes, he said, he liked to think about his response, sometimes he was busy, and just because someone chose to send him a message didn't even mean he read it immediately and he didn't feel it obligated him to respond. Of course, he always responded to me, but not always immediately. Technology has made us all feel like everything has to happen in an instant, and he doesn't agree with that. (I know there are days I don't, either!! He just articulated it.)
Now, a few things have happened in the past few months and we couldn't talk. So recently, it's improving, but sometimes I send him something and he doesn't respond but sends a Snapchat pic or video instead.
Some Crabs are just on their own timetable. I don't take it personally anymore. I just go do my thing. At first it was hard. Now I think it was a great lesson. He wasn't *making* me feel any particular way, I was *choosing* to feel a certain way.
Don't assume anything is wrong. If he doesn't want to talk to you and he's any kind of decent Crab, he will be honest and let you know that. I think that several day's silence from some Crab males doesn't mean anything negative.
Beautiful advice. :-) thank you
britney,
The thing is.. he wasn't your boyfriend. Everybody don't like to move fast but it looks like you have a plan to get revenge on what he did.
His text are not implying anything just *hey princess* - come on. Well atleast you heard from him.
Our problem is,we are assuming anything. We are hoping for what is obvious and what is not obvious instead of confronting a person to get an answer 😢.
If you are afraid to ask him , well, it's not going to work. They key is communication. Healthy communication. Lead.
Posted by kalin
Do you still want him?
Yes
Posted by Arielle83
"Plan to get revenge on him for what he did"?What fucked up and immature advice.
I never said I wanted revenge... I replied just a bit later.
Posted by M143
britney,The thing is.. he wasn't your boyfriend. Everybody don't like to move fast but it looks like you have a plan to get revenge on what he did.
His text are not implying anything just *hey princess* - come on. Well atleast you heard from him.Our problem is,we are assuming anything. We are hoping for what is obvious and what is not obvious instead of confronting a person to get an answer 😢.
If you are afraid to ask him , well, it's not going to work. They key is communication. Healthy communication. Lead.
Revenge? No I want the guy. I like him. I'm just not sure of this Is only sex for him. I was nice and myself when I replied. And yes I know he's not my boyfriend.
Britney, so you replied to him already? what did you say?
Posted by M143
britney,The thing is.. he wasn't your boyfriend. Everybody don't like to move fast but it looks like you have a plan to get revenge on what he did.
His text are not implying anything just *hey princess* - come on. Well atleast you heard from him.Our problem is,we are assuming anything. We are hoping for what is obvious and what is not obvious instead of confronting a person to get an answer 😢.
If you are afraid to ask him , well, it's not going to work. They key is communication. Healthy communication. Lead.
This is definitely true. Communication is key. Just stay true to yourself and don't be so hung up on him. This is honestly what I find sad in the beginning fases of relationships with some people. Is that they can put out the fire, fun and passion, by making it so awkward. If you like someone, why don't you just let them be themselves, text you, call you, flirt with you, say nice things, wanting to see you. It's not nice to restrain yourself and to wait for someone else to acknowledge your feelings.
I love telling people how I feel about them. That I like them, that I love spending time with them, to be touchy-feely with them, to send them cute notes or anything. And to see that others have this suspicious look on their face or action is just a passion-killer.
I already told you he will react this way. That he will send you a message, but will not go along with or even dismiss your flirty behavior. If you're passionate, don't expect it will get any better. The cold water will put out the fire in you. It's a turn off. For now it is mysterious, but trust me, it will be frustrating if you'll try to flirt with him and you'll only get a 'Ah, sweet' or 'M'kay, thank you'.
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Omg this is so true..you are my Gemini sister. I want that! Fun excitement... To be able to actually flirt with him and not having this subdued awkwardness. Its really odd .Are all Cancers like that?
Posted by Pandora101
Britney, so you replied to him already? what did you say?
Yes I replied in a very friendly way. Told him how I'm doing and that I'm very busy. It was very friendly..like nothing had happened. No flirting at all lol
Posted by M143
britney,The thing is.. he wasn't your boyfriend. Everybody don't like to move fast but it looks like you have a plan to get revenge on what he did.
His text are not implying anything just *hey princess* - come on. Well atleast you heard from him.Our problem is,we are assuming anything. We are hoping for what is obvious and what is not obvious instead of confronting a person to get an answer 😢.
If you are afraid to ask him , well, it's not going to work. They key is communication. Healthy communication. Lead.
This is definitely true. Communication is key. Just stay true to yourself and don't be so hung up on him. This is honestly what I find sad in the beginning fases of relationships with some people. Is that they can put out the fire, fun and passion, by making it so awkward. If you like someone, why don't you just let them be themselves, text you, call you, flirt with you, say nice things, wanting to see you. It's not nice to restrain yourself and to wait for someone else to acknowledge your feelings.
I love telling people how I feel about them. That I like them, that I love spending time with them, to be touchy-feely with them, to send them cute notes or anything. And to see that others have this suspicious look on their face or action is just a passion-killer.
I already told you he will react this way. That he will send you a message, but will not go along with or even dismiss your flirty behavior. If you're passionate, don't expect it will get any better. The cold water will put out the fire in you. It's a turn off. For now it is mysterious, but trust me, it will be frustrating if you'll try to flirt with him and you'll only get a 'Ah, sweet' or 'M'kay, thank you'.
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BTW I am excited he replied but like you said I'm not anywhere excited as I've been before. I'm more neutral now. This week gave me a lot of thinking as well, and soooo much emotion. So whatever will be , will be. I'm OK with that and him. Its just I really want to be flirty and he's basically telling me to calm down hahahahaha
Posted by thinktoomuch
What do you mean "he came back"?? Was he ever yours to be gone from? And was he ever infact gone? He just didn´t reply.I think you´re gonna have a difficult time dating a guy like this, when you are who you are. And that´s not saying anything bad about you at all, but when things matter so much to one person and then hardly not for the other, it´s very difficult to be together..
But good luck to you still.
I know he's not mine but I thought he's gone for good or lost interest. Didn't mean it to sound like that :-p
I'm not obsessive..I was just confused before...besides I don't know yet what exactly he wants from me so of course I'm not putting my life on hold for him. I'm just having fun right now.
Mines is back and it's ackward smh. I just need to get a grip
Posted by Shaniajam
Mines is back and it's ackward smh. I just need to get a grip
Really? I'm happy mine texted haha
Girls, sounds really funny about "mine is back" 🙂 I mean we all as if got lost puppies back... me not yet actually - mine gone for good for now 😄
Hahahahaha
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So update for anyone who cares....He actually sent a text today and liked my photo on social media after being silent for a week! No I didn't reply yet and I'm not going to that fast.
Don't know what he's thinking..