Help!

I have been seeing a cancer male off and on for about a year and a half. I asked him last week about getting together and he told me no he wasn't interested this time. He has a girl friend but he has for the entire time, he just doesn't seem to care about it. Anyway he said no then he sends me a message to get together this friday night. So we did. Now he won't talk to me. He won't take any of my messages he deletes my emails and everything. What is going on in his mind? What did I do to deserve this? I feel very used; It seems like he wants his cake and eat it too. Too me he is being a player and is out to get what he can get and doesn't really care about me or this girl. Anybody have any ideas?

I don't know if I'll be much help. So first and for most , I'll say I totally simpathize with you. And feel like reading these cancer traits that people write about, that I'm listening to a recording of my relationships and my own heart. I'm a taurus that has been through 3 cancers-acutally on my third. I feel compelled to ask where you live-as I feel like I'm looking in a mirror of my very own situation.
Part of me wants to tell you he's is being a player. And the part that know's cancers, knows that part of him really does care about you. Because cancers always care to some extent about everyone they have been with, and do not forget and mostly will always return to loves and what was safe. Feeling like I'm in your situation, and have been burned extremely by him already, I'm being careful and have asked him to choose. It's me or her. IF he can't then it's his loss not mine. Honestly it's his loss not yours. I'm getting older and I'm ready to settle, but not for someone who will treat me that kind of lack of respect. Good luck hope I helped. And trust me, I've started over so many times, I'd rather be a nun then start over again. But I wait on his choice, and hope to stand strong. Again good luck.

I meant to add,you've done nothing to deserve the way he's treating you.
That I've put pressure on my significant other
to stop talking to his... "other woman". So that could be something
similar that's happening to him. That he wants to still keep in
contact with you, but that he's getting pressure not too. I have to
say as women in general we all deserve that respect. As you should tell
him what you want from him. If it's a relationship, tell him. If
it's this casual thing, then tell him that-but that you dont' expcet to
get treated as he has been treating you if he expects talk to you
when he wants to. Cancers don't like pressure, but you don't deserve
to be treated like this either. If he really cares for you, he'll talk to you
about this. If he doesn't he's not worth your time.Again good luck.