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Hi,

I've been looking all around for information to know more about the cancer man, still I find it hard to understand what happen in my situation with a cancer man. So, I was dating him for 3 months (we were exclusively) , and I felt some reservations from him (I though it's alight, since he broke up at the beginning of the year) but said nothing. I kept on showing him my feelings (complimenting, public affection, gifts, talking about our families, tell him when I need his help, making him feel like a man etc.). He also showed affection (invited me to see his friends, home mates, telling me about his plans, gifts etc.). In the end, because I felt him distant while he had 3 weeks trip (but I thought he just needs space because he was in holiday), I left him a message (when he got back) saying that I think I've made a mistake to believe he was ready for a relationship with me, to which he replay I'm right to believe that, his feelings aren't strong enough for me and that he wants our relationship to stop. Obviously, I asked him why, if I've done something wrong and he replied that there is nothing I could have done for our relationship to end different, he doesn't have the same feelings as in the past for the people. I keep on asking why am I not the one to help him rediscover those feelings, he's replay was I don't think matters of heart can be explain. Still, I didn't want to accept his out of my life so I propose him a benefits relationship (because I though most of the men want one), I bagged him to give me another try to show him how much of a man I consider him and he said no(for the reason that he's not comfortable doing so, he feels is wrong). After a few days, I text him back (because I though he went in holiday with a girl that he presented me as a friend, but I found out later that he didn't) saying how hurt I am but that I wish him well (because I couldn't understand why would he date me if he would have her), one of them was 'And I feel broken, broken because I feel I've been lied to, broken because I feel I've been used like I have no feelings, broken because I thought you knew me enough to value who I am' and that is still hard for me to accept he's out of my life. He just gave me seen, so a few hours later the same day I text him 'Now, I can sympathise with you, when you said you don't have the same feelings as in the past for people because I feel you don't even care to alienate my pain for you think it's best. Here's for you, for you thought me that I need to become selfish.' He saw it and then blocked my number, no replay or anything. I am still think if my last message hurt him. And after few days I left him a message on fb, saying that I'm thinking of him and I realised it must be hard for him having the break up. Also, I said to him that all the things he told me I feel it's just him holding him back form discovering and experiencing more in life because his wounds are yet to heal, and I remind him about our first date (I asked him to look for me in the park, but he didn't trust me I was there, until he found me) because he took the risk and adventured to find me. And that I wish and hope I could be by his side. Yet, I don't know if he saw it because I deleted after few hours, but he blocked me on fb too. I'm initially thinking that he wants to break free ('cause he's planning for a year trip) and that he'll reach back to me when he's ready.

What do you feel, cancer man?

I can answer this as simply as possible because outside of your emotions, the answer is really simple. I'm not a Cancer. I'm a Virgo, but it's still obvious if you step away from your emotions. On his trip he had been passionate with another person, and realized that he couldn't care for you as much as he thought he did. So he broke up with you.

Afterwards, you chased him further pushing him away because he rejected you and you sacrificed your self respect for your feelings. So he respected your actions less for not knowing your own value. I'm not comfortable going into further details publicly, but you could set up your messages on this website if you'd like to discuss this further.

What I would like to say for future reference is never sacrifice your self respect for any man or potential partner in your life. If you do not value yourself, why would anyone else—