help with cancer woman gf of 2 yrs (Page 2)

Thanks for all ur help. I never cheated never will. I will thoroughly read ur reply. i also figured that i could also be frustrating her with my tactics lol

@starchild

How about u stop with ur poetic bullshit ?

Posted by sasukexx18
@starchild

How about u stop with ur poetic bullshit ?

How about you start. You mad?

Posted by StarChild63

Posted by sasukexx18
@starchild

How about u stop with ur poetic bullshit ?

How about you start. You mad?

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U mad son ?

How did this exam go dude.
Cancer male btw.
What's ur update on situation now

Posted by alfabutt
How did this exam go dude.
Cancer male btw.
What's ur update on situation now

I was mad, didnt text her but replied whenever she did...

She got really sad cause i wasnt txting her anything, i took a complete 360 turn for abt 2 days.... I made a mistake .. And today i asked her if she is upset with me i was waiting wholee day for her to get free, i went toilet for 5 mins in that time she came and went probably thinking i dont wanna talk ....

Fuckk.. I waited whole day still couldnt get to talk to her, she said she was upset but isnt now , also no more emojis in txt from her side ..

Man she must be frustrated cause im the one being unpredictable now :/

I wish to erase all these dumb problems and love her sooo much 😢 .. Im so sad right now 😢 she is the last person in this planet i would want to hurt 😢

She trusted me and i failed her, im ashamed of myself, how will she believe anything i say now ? _—

You failed her? What do u mean uve done nothing wrong dude ur trying ur best to understand ur trying everything. The only thing u have done wrong is try too hard. Sometimes the hardest things require the easiest answers. Don't go all sad dude ur still so young nd a long life ahead I could say maybe she's not worth the trouble that it's putting ur mind in.if I was you I wouldn't apologies and just text to say I'm giving you space that u need and that ul wait but won't be around forever and in the meantime get the thoughts of u failing out of your head and instead fill ur head with going out with friends or spending time on things u wanna do. Go for drives nd if u don't drive learn to. Just keep that mind busy. She seems to be putting u through a lot and ur still in ur teens it's not right because if it carries on and u do move on you will have this impression of all girls being the same. Just take a back seat bro were all here to guide u because most of us have been through similar situations. Chin up fella.

Posted by alfabutt
You failed her? What do u mean uve done nothing wrong dude ur trying ur best to understand ur trying everything. The only thing u have done wrong is try too hard. Sometimes the hardest things require the easiest answers. Don't go all sad dude ur still so young nd a long life ahead I could say maybe she's not worth the trouble that it's putting ur mind in.if I was you I wouldn't apologies and just text to say I'm giving you space that u need and that ul wait but won't be around forever and in the meantime get the thoughts of u failing out of your head and instead fill ur head with going out with friends or spending time on things u wanna do. Go for drives nd if u don't drive learn to. Just keep that mind busy. She seems to be putting u through a lot and ur still in ur teens it's not right because if it carries on and u do move on you will have this impression of all girls being the same. Just take a back seat bro were all here to guide u because most of us have been through similar situations. Chin up fella.

im currently stuck at home cause of exams, i go to gym regularly, workout, hang out with friends, do things i love (learn new stuff every few days ). Thank you for this

Stop being a asshole and learn to love her. You might be too young to know what that is. Cancers don't like assholes or people that seem unstable. I know they are unstable and unpredictable but not in their love or personality. That's the difference. I bet even tho your girl is moody she never really made you feel like she didn't love you. Does that make sense? Is it true? Cancers are happy go lucky peace makers and they don't mind being evil little shits or they don't mind dealing with the same from other people but you have to communicate clearly so they won't be confused. They HATE feeling confused about what you want or what you don't want. If you keep confusing her she will decide to stop letting you confuse her and will shut you out so she can go back to being stable. They like to be organized but are disorganized in their own way. It's hard to explain. You get it? Looks like your past the point of her shitting you out so now you need to do nothing but communicate straight to her. Make sure she's not confused. Say what you mean and mean what you say without being a ass. So she can trust that what you are saying is real tell her why you came off as confusing-because of her moodiness and isolation and cancer ways-and you weren't confused about what you want you were trying to do everything to get her with different tactics and you were reacting to her confusing ways. Tell her how much you love her. Tell her everything you tell us. And when you tell her be straight up and honest. Don't feel vulnerable for it then say some stupid shit you don't mean because your not comfortable with telling her. You need to be tere for her. Find out what make her happy sad aloof scared violent all that. Open up and let her see the same from you. When you hold her touch her gently rub on her back or leg when you talk to her. Brush her hair out her face. They are motherly and do this naturally for others but when you treat them fatherly they melt. Protect her provide for her make her feel secure. When you make love to her whisper how much you love her in her ear hold her gently and take it slow then show those strong emotions you got for her then wild out on her ass and be her "daddy". Take her out. Open doors. Compliment her on her beauty. Try your best to make her laugh. She will then know for sure that you love her and will stop doing the shitty things about cancers because she won't be confused anymore.

You come off as defensive and explosive and cancers can be the same way so this combination will explode in both your faces and you both will be in crazy dangerous love but sad and angry and confused.....or the cancer will learn that you bring out the bad side of her and she will start feeling like a monster and not her happy go lucky self so eventually she will stop reacting to your defensive explosions and will occupy herself with things that make her happy. While you will be defensive explosive and pissed off because she won't battle with you anymore she'll just hide all parts of herself from you. So you need to work on that. If you both really love each other and you have a good job and money and security then give her a baby. Nah kidding your too young for that.

Don't take a back seat. She will see that as you being evil and unpredictable and then aloof and not caring which way your relationship goes. Plus if she's fed up she will drift away. You need to be proactive about this and shut your ego out before it destroys anything you have left with her.

Kids kids kids this old fart is gonna lay it down. For the thousandth time texting is so detachable for an emotional connection. Especially during a tiff or rift in a connection. Conversation with voice tone to understand and better yet even face to face. Random quick ones like "Hi" or "miss you" "I'm in the bathroom get me a Crown and 7 please" are ok but resolving or working on a relationship? Phone convo or face to face. Do not text. Nobody watched that Key And Peele sketch about texting?

Posted by kissmygrits
Kids kids kids this old fart is gonna lay it down. For the thousandth time texting is so detachable for an emotional connection. Especially during a tiff or rift in a connection. Conversation with voice tone to understand and better yet even face to face. Random quick ones like "Hi" or "miss you" "I'm in the bathroom get me a Crown and 7 please" are ok but resolving or working on a relationship? Phone convo or face to face. Do not text. Nobody watched that Key And Peele sketch about texting?

EXACTLY WHAT I KEEP TELLING THEM! They won't learn. By doing all that you are telling the cancer that you don't want closeness and face to face or intimate connections.

Thanks alot guys _—

@starchild

I did everything just the way u adviced to do before even reading ur msg _—

She is both happyy and ope. with me now. its been going great now, i cleared up everything with her _— yeah i need to work on my ego

@kissmygrits

Yeah i know what u mean, believe me i know, couldnt talk on phone with her that time. thanks