estelita
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His texting style
Hah, good point. I care more about that we like each other than the texting. He would give me his phone to read conversations he has with his friends in a group whatsapp, so he is on his phone a lot. I guess I just haven;t seen him in a week, and the absence of texting makes me wonder if he likes me. if he does and just doesn't like ot text girls he doesn't know that well then I understand, but apparently when a guy likes someone he will text and initiate.. I have never dated a cancer, I feel cancer myself sometimes and am scared of rejection.
Leo and I split up, the last time I saw him was like 2 months ago. But leo and I only went on 4 dates, with this new guy we have been out more times than that and he wants a relationship, unlike Leo which is why we ended communication.
I would just like to understand cancer men, any insights are appreciated.
Posted by estelitaHi! I met a Cancerian man online back in July. He was smitten with me! He lived an hour and a half and he came to my home town to visit me (twice). We talked on the phone; not so much texting. This Cancerian is "funny". The Cancerian man I was talking to would talk to me for HOURS! He'd listen to how my day was and when I was done he'd ask, "What else? What do you want to talk about?" He made me feel "special". Needless to say I "tested" him by asking him if he would mow my back lawn. He agreed. I was trying to start my hand weeder and realized my oldest son had used regular gasoline instead of the one specifically made for this apparatus. Well, this Cancerian man wanted me to call my son and ask him "Who, what, when, where, why" I was so upset (like crying over spilled milk), I grabbed my lawn mower and mowed my own lawn. I had gone on vacation that month to California, so my Texas lawn was up to my ankles and I was having trouble pushing that damn lawnmower; but I did it. I walked into my house and the Cancerian man was on his cell informing his son he would be home "soon". I walked him to my door and asked him to take his Jack Daniels with him about three times. He left it behind. Needless to say I have NOT contacted hm since (I deleted his #).
Hello everyone,
I met a 25year old cancer guy (I am 26) and we are so affectionate with each other, he said he has never been so intimate with someone as with me, but we have not had sex yet. We were going on dates every other day for 2 weeks, initiated by both of us, but this past week we have been super busy with work.
The issue I have is with his texting. This past week it has mainly been me texting him first, but he always answers back quickly and with lots of emojis, saying he is busy but happy to talk to me. I honestly didn't think he liked me anymore because of this 'passivity' i suppose you could call it, but then on Monday he asked me out for dinner so we are meeting tomorrow. I texted him saying i was excited to see him on Friday and he answered saying he was excited to see me too with a smiley face.
Then yesterday he texted me asking how I am, I told him what I was up to etc etc, we had a small conversation and he said he was watching a tv show we both enjoy and we also started making plans for tomorrow. i told him to save the show to watch with me and answered a text of his about where we could meet tomorrow, and he didn't answer! I know there was no question that he could answer, but was i too direct about saying i could watch the tv show with him, as we haven't had sex nor been at eachothers places?
Can I ask him about his texting style when I see him or is this too direct? I don't mind not texting every day, but if it is because he is not too fond of me or because that is just his style , I would rather know. We are both very affectionate with each other, but quite sensitive and similar in our avoidance communication as well, even though we both talk a lot.
On his online profile one of the questions is 'would you ask someone out if you like them' and he replied no, then another question is 'how often do you like to communicate with someone you are dating' and he replied every 2 days but not every day. Is this normal for cancers?
Any insight is appreciated.
He is cancer with venus in cancer, and mars in taurus and moon unknown
I am taurus with venus in cancer, mars in cancer, moon in aries.
It doesn't sound to me as if he's interested in you. As far as I've known about Cancerian men, when they like you they "latch" on with their pincers. I think you should move on.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Okey, I am hearing different answers from you guys and I'm confused! Thank you for your answers, all are insightful nonetheless.
Out of curiosity how am I being clingy? We both have initiated dates, but he will randomly just stop texting me so I am usually the last person to text.
I think my venus and mars do make me cling and be very sensitive, so I restrain myself from texting him, luckily I have been very busy the past week so haven't been overthinking until today -_-
Out of curiosity how am I being clingy? We both have initiated dates, but he will randomly just stop texting me so I am usually the last person to text.
I think my venus and mars do make me cling and be very sensitive, so I restrain myself from texting him, luckily I have been very busy the past week so haven't been overthinking until today -_-
Thank you bittercupcake, are you cancer?
I don't get why you are keeping a score board on whom texts whom first.
You said it yourself, you guys are busy. That's it. Nothing more, or nothing less. It isn't like he isn't responding to you at all, and even if he wasn't immediately texting you back, he is busy. That's really it.
You said it yourself, you guys are busy. That's it. Nothing more, or nothing less. It isn't like he isn't responding to you at all, and even if he wasn't immediately texting you back, he is busy. That's really it.
Posted by Gob_ShiteI think you are right, insecure. That means he is the same though as he also has the same Venus? Not necessarily with me of course, considering he didn't answer my text -_-Posted by bittercupcake
I think the issue here is you're pushing for too much and your fear of being rejected is being projected as clingyness.
Sadly, it's genuine insecurity and paranoia from her Venus. Her sun and moon are merely amplifying her Venus in their own unique ways...
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Posted by DreamyboyWhat is murder mars?Posted by bittercupcakeIt's cuz she has murder Mars 🙊
Honestly, I don't understand how women can be so clingy, or why even texting should matter over presence...
This guy texts you, is affectionate, and goes out with you...yet his texting style is an issue?
Tell me again why that should even matter when he shows he's interested....click to expand
Posted by bittercupcakeCould you please explain, or provide a link or something so i can read about it? you seem to know more than i do about thisPosted by Gob_ShiteThe squaring aspect with her moon ... I didn't notice it until you pointed it out. No bueno with that Cancer venus/marsPosted by bittercupcake
I think the issue here is you're pushing for too much and your fear of being rejected is being projected as clingyness.
Sadly, it's genuine insecurity and paranoia from her Venus. Her sun and moon are merely amplifying her Venus in their own unique ways...
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Posted by Gob_ShiteHow?Posted by bittercupcakePosted by Gob_ShiteThe squaring aspect with her moon ... I didn't notice it until you pointed it out. No bueno with that Cancer venus/marsPosted by bittercupcake
I think the issue here is you're pushing for too much and your fear of being rejected is being projected as clingyness.
Sadly, it's genuine insecurity and paranoia from her Venus. Her sun and moon are merely amplifying her Venus in their own unique ways...
Yeah, it could get ugly, with that combination...
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If a cancer man really likes you, you’d know it. They pursue you and love the attention. They aren’t ones to not talk for days. The only time they don’t talk is if they are busy with something important like work or video games. But they still make an effort to talk when they are free.
You need to change the way your mind thinks. An abundance of texting/attention =/= affection.
Posted by pinkbird03We talk everyday, sometimes every other day. But not prolonged hours, just a simple how are you or random picture, no good morning or good night texts which is what i like... we only do those if we have been texting late at night. We live in a big city and we both had things going on every day like birthdays and work events, but I think i will just ask him tomorrow if this is the rate of communication that he likes, or if its because he is still deciding on me. waht do you think?
If a cancer man really likes you, you’d know it. They pursue you and love the attention. They aren’t ones to not talk for days. The only time they don’t talk is if they are busy with something important like work or video games. But they still make an effort to talk when they are free.
Posted by LadyNeptuneyou are right, i am overthinking. exhausted from work, early mornings, he hasn't texted me today
You need to change the way your mind thinks. An abundance of texting/attention =/= affection.
Posted by estelitaSo he was upfront from the beginning. Why is this suddenly a problem now? You knew what you were getting into.
On his online profile one of the questions is 'would you ask someone out if you like them' and he replied no, then another question is 'how often do you like to communicate with someone you are dating' and he replied every 2 days but not every day.
Posted by estelitaIs he making plans to see you again?Posted by LadyNeptuneyou are right, i am overthinking. exhausted from work, early mornings, he hasn't texted me today
You need to change the way your mind thinks. An abundance of texting/attention =/= affection.click to expand
Posted by estelitaPosted by pinkbird03We talk everyday, sometimes every other day. But not prolonged hours, just a simple how are you or random picture, no good morning or good night texts which is what i like... we only do those if we have been texting late at night. We live in a big city and we both had things going on every day like birthdays and work events, but I think i will just ask him tomorrow if this is the rate of communication that he likes, or if its because he is still deciding on me. waht do you think?
If a cancer man really likes you, you’d know it. They pursue you and love the attention. They aren’t ones to not talk for days. The only time they don’t talk is if they are busy with something important like work or video games. But they still make an effort to talk when they are free.click to expand
I think if you have to ask him that, he’s just not that interested in you unfortunately. I think you should instead ask him what he thinks about you and how he feels about you.
Posted by Gob_ShitePosted by estelitaPosted by bittercupcakeCould you please explain, or provide a link or something so i can read about it? you seem to know more than i do about thisPosted by Gob_ShiteThe squaring aspect with her moon ... I didn't notice it until you pointed it out. No bueno with that Cancer venus/marsPosted by bittercupcake
I think the issue here is you're pushing for too much and your fear of being rejected is being projected as clingyness.
Sadly, it's genuine insecurity and paranoia from her Venus. Her sun and moon are merely amplifying her Venus in their own unique ways...
Google 'astrological wheel' and settle on one that you can easily understand.
Each sign represents 30 degrees of the wheel. A square is 90 degrees (know as an aspect - once again, you can Google about this).
From the wheel, you will see that Aries (your moon) and Cancer (your Venus/Mars) are 90 degrees apart.
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Ok i will do that now, why is it bad that they are 90 degrees apart?
Posted by LadyNeptuneyes he asked if i was free on wednesday but i was busy, so we made plans for tomorrow. but i am just paranoid because he said he was watching our favourite tv show and i told him to wait to watch it with me and he never replied -_- we have not had sex or anything yet. Most time we have gone without speaking is 2 days but the first two weeks we saw each other a lot, i feel relapse this weekPosted by estelitaIs he making plans to see you again?Posted by LadyNeptuneyou are right, i am overthinking. exhausted from work, early mornings, he hasn't texted me today
You need to change the way your mind thinks. An abundance of texting/attention =/= affection.click to expand
Posted by Gob_ShitePosted by estelitaPosted by bittercupcakeCould you please explain, or provide a link or something so i can read about it? you seem to know more than i do about thisPosted by Gob_ShiteThe squaring aspect with her moon ... I didn't notice it until you pointed it out. No bueno with that Cancer venus/marsPosted by bittercupcake
I think the issue here is you're pushing for too much and your fear of being rejected is being projected as clingyness.
Sadly, it's genuine insecurity and paranoia from her Venus. Her sun and moon are merely amplifying her Venus in their own unique ways...
Google 'astrological wheel' and settle on one that you can easily understand.
Each sign represents 30 degrees of the wheel. A square is 90 degrees (know as an aspect - once again, you can Google about this).
From the wheel, you will see that Aries (your moon) and Cancer (your Venus/Mars) are 90 degrees apart.
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ah I see it says: Square (90 degrees, three signs apart): Inharmonious aspect causing tensions and obstacles for you to overcome. It forces you to choose between you conflicting inner needs and urges.
That is true, I get overwhelmed when someone is really needy and clingy, and I get bored easily in general. But at the same time i love affection, can be codependent, love the bond that one can form with just one other person.
Posted by Gob_ShitePosted by estelitaPosted by Gob_ShitePosted by estelitaPosted by bittercupcakeCould you please explain, or provide a link or something so i can read about it? you seem to know more than i do about thisPosted by Gob_ShiteThe squaring aspect with her moon ... I didn't notice it until you pointed it out. No bueno with that Cancer venus/marsPosted by bittercupcake
I think the issue here is you're pushing for too much and your fear of being rejected is being projected as clingyness.
Sadly, it's genuine insecurity and paranoia from her Venus. Her sun and moon are merely amplifying her Venus in their own unique ways...
Google 'astrological wheel' and settle on one that you can easily understand.
Each sign represents 30 degrees of the wheel. A square is 90 degrees (know as an aspect - once again, you can Google about this).
From the wheel, you will see that Aries (your moon) and Cancer (your Venus/Mars) are 90 degrees apart.
Ok i will do that now, why is it bad that they are 90 degrees apart?
It's just based on a universal astrological rule. Read more about aspects and you'll understand.
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Thank you very much for showing me this
Posted by bittercupcakeDon't you hear wedding bells?
Honestly, I don't understand how women can be so clingy, or why even texting should matter over presence...
This guy texts you, is affectionate, and goes out with you...yet his texting style is an issue?
Tell me again why that should even matter when he shows he's interested....
Posted by estelitaSo you guys have a date planned for tomorrow and you are here freaking out over nothing? girl get a grip on that moon of yours.Posted by LadyNeptuneyes he asked if i was free on wednesday but i was busy, so we made plans for tomorrow. but i am just paranoid because he said he was watching our favourite tv show and i told him to wait to watch it with me and he never replied -_- we have not had sex or anything yet. Most time we have gone without speaking is 2 days but the first two weeks we saw each other a lot, i feel relapse this weekPosted by estelitaIs he making plans to see you again?Posted by LadyNeptuneyou are right, i am overthinking. exhausted from work, early mornings, he hasn't texted me today
You need to change the way your mind thinks. An abundance of texting/attention =/= affection.click to expand
Posted by estelitaI'd rather have a guy whose super busy with minimal texts that is setting up dates then a dude who has all the time in the world to text me but never moves things forward. Js.Posted by LadyNeptuneyes he asked if i was free on wednesday but i was busy, so we made plans for tomorrow. but i am just paranoid because he said he was watching our favourite tv show and i told him to wait to watch it with me and he never replied -_- we have not had sex or anything yet. Most time we have gone without speaking is 2 days but the first two weeks we saw each other a lot, i feel relapse this weekPosted by estelitaIs he making plans to see you again?Posted by LadyNeptuneyou are right, i am overthinking. exhausted from work, early mornings, he hasn't texted me today
You need to change the way your mind thinks. An abundance of texting/attention =/= affection.click to expand
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UPDATE:
Saw him for dinner on Friday, we went to a really nice restaurant and he paid which was sweet. He said his friends know about me, and asked to see me the next day on Saturday. On Saturday we went out and it was soo nice, I said I feel happy around him and he said he feels happy with me, and was hugging me a ton. 🙂
I stayed the night at his, no sex though because it has only been 8 or so dates and quite rushed.
He said he doesn't like to text because he needs time to himself even though he is extroverted (I am introverted and he said that attracts him). The next day he texted me asking how I am which I was not expecting, he rarely initiates, and asked to see me this weekend. Yesterday I asked if he was free for dinner on Wednesday and he said he thinks he is but will confirm, and wished me luck for a big event I had today that I was preparing for. No contact today though, and in my part of the world it is Tuesday night. What do I do if he doesn't confirm?
Saw him for dinner on Friday, we went to a really nice restaurant and he paid which was sweet. He said his friends know about me, and asked to see me the next day on Saturday. On Saturday we went out and it was soo nice, I said I feel happy around him and he said he feels happy with me, and was hugging me a ton. 🙂
I stayed the night at his, no sex though because it has only been 8 or so dates and quite rushed.
He said he doesn't like to text because he needs time to himself even though he is extroverted (I am introverted and he said that attracts him). The next day he texted me asking how I am which I was not expecting, he rarely initiates, and asked to see me this weekend. Yesterday I asked if he was free for dinner on Wednesday and he said he thinks he is but will confirm, and wished me luck for a big event I had today that I was preparing for. No contact today though, and in my part of the world it is Tuesday night. What do I do if he doesn't confirm?
Ask him until wed lunch. Think what you would do if he was a normal friend (it helps with me to make the right call).
But please bear in mind: relationships are not about texting. It's part of it, but just an end to something. I had an ex that was crap at texting and we were together for six years.
But please bear in mind: relationships are not about texting. It's part of it, but just an end to something. I had an ex that was crap at texting and we were together for six years.
Ok thank you, that is good advice. I don't even like texting myself, but a goodnight text sometimes would be nice, but don't want to bother him either. Are you rubbish at texting too?
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