how do u change a cancer males perception of you!

Well... im so confused with this cancer guy. som people no my story of us being best friends then sleeping with each other then hearing later about a girlfriend.. to sum it up. We speak every day. But my attitude changed once he told me about this girlfriend. issue. I admit. I havent been acting like my normal sweet self. Im not affectionate to him, acted kinda distance towards him when we went out. Fir two reasons. One -i really wasnt that into him two-he had a girlfriend. He tells me this all the time . im not the same sweet peraon i use to be, i take everything seriously etc. Another BIG mistake that I look back on is one day during the beging of our lil fling he spent the nite at my house, I kinda made him go to the store and put up my air conditioner... Tht was six months ago and to this day he s till calls me a bad host. WTF.

In my defense it was extremly hot, I forgot to go food shopping and I believe that there shouldnt be a problem with a man doing a lil house work.. i mean I said thank You.

NEWAY now I really like him. Like I want him to Be my Man. But I know that he views me differently. He now views me as Just his best friend.. the crazy bitch. but

Well asking him to do house chores for you, in addition to going to the store for you probably makes him feel like he is being trapped. Like you are trying to ask him to be a domestic husband type figure for you and he wasn't "feeling" it.

You can change his perception of you by just being yourself and don't "try" to do anything to make an "unreal" relationship seem real. He is telling you he has a woman-BIG RED FLAG! If you want to quit being in the friends zone, quit pretending you don't care aobut YOUR feelings. He is aware you want more from him but you continue to buy into his "second class" woman.

Put your foot down and don't accept second class treatment from him. You want to be #1, you want to be treated as #1 or you don't want it. Quit torturing yourself. Cancer men are very sensitive. He is aware of what you want, your feelings and what he has to do to keep things moving and not on a temporary basis either. YOU have to just admit to yourself that he is not giving you what you want right now.

Constantly throwing up another woman is not helping the situation. He might see bringing up this other woman as "competition" to keep you trying and trying to accomplish nothing.
Step back away from this man and let him decide what he wants from you. Quit pretending and acting like your feelings aren't involved. Just tell him that YOU cannot handle it!

I wonder if this is a cancer man's trait... forgetting they have a woman at home.

I dated a cancer guy for bout 3 months... he seemed great... enjoyed spending time with him.. even considered taking it to a committed relationship. When he started thinking and feeling thats where i was going... we go out to dinner... and i hear...

"Let me tell you the story behind George"... i was like.. WAH?? i know the story behind George.. he said.. no not really.. I'm married.. WTF— He was smart in taking me to dinner to tell me cuz i swear he woulda received a black eye. I asked him DIRECTLY 3 times while we were dating.. if he had a woman...cuz i had a gut feeling that something wasn't right and each time he told me no. Then NOW.... after my time time and heart was invested.. he tells me he's married... Not getting divorced... not separated.. living happy marriage.... Needless to say.... i fell of the face of the earth...

so for you and your man to be best friends... you don't find it a little odd that you didn't know he had a girlfriend until he chose to tell you.... manipulative... shady... dirty... playa.. whatever you wanna call it.. that's what that sounds like to me. Total disregard of your feelings.. same thing mine did me. let get this chick diggin me and then when it gets too serious.. lets drop a bomb...

so as sensitive as cancer men are said to be... it's easy for them to have amnesia

Thank You imacancer...
he got some good stuff three times.. who needs food..
Neway Ive been kinda iging for the past week. not really returning phone calls getting off the phone quik. And hes like wat up homie I miss u. He plays the safe "homie" card. but I really that he wants something more he just thinks ima biotch because of the way ive been treating him. But I really feel like this would work. i just dont know how to pursue this. Im afraid of getting to close to him because hes a man whore and he has a girlfriend.
and they say that when a cancer male really wants a woman he buys her gifts and gives her stuff and will give her nething...
HELP>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>..

ok retract that statement i made a mistake... i am so not a man lol. i meant to say that hes a man that LOVES women. like most men.lol but. you guys gave me some good advice . i just dont know how to press him. i dont know if i should just call it quits wit him for good like my coworker said( he likes me though and is married and is a cancer ...go figure ) or if i should tell how i feel over the phone. or in person... i kinda think i know the answer. i just really want him to see who the real me is. when i feel burnt/hurt i kinda give off this mean,biotch, renegade attitude and i think that plus my distance mad him fall backn from me relationship wise... I had him n i blew it damn....i guess u dnt know wat u have till its not there nemore...