How do you respond to Cancers emotions??

Lately my bestie been feeling down. Yea she's usually moody but snaps out of it a 1hr later.. But as of 2 weeks, she still the same. Now I'm always there for here. Hugs and affection. Telling her that everything is OK. But I feel like that's the usual virgo practical response.. I feel like I'm not in tune with her emotional core. I felt the same with my cancer ex.. How do you handle Cancer's emotions? Or am I tripping??

My best friend is a cancer, I'm a scorpio. I know her so well by now that I practically have a formula for how to cheer her up when she's down. Cancers are emotional and sensitive and when they sense they are being this way they retreat into their shell so not to bother anyone with their feelings. The main thing they need is to feel loved. And they need to feel like they are not being a nuisance or drag to anyone because of their emotions. And they need lots of reassurance that what they are feeling is normal and that they are actually special because they feel so deeply and that this time will past and help them be stronger in the end. But first, let her vent about what's wrong. Be a really good listener, don't respond unless asked a question, really let her reflect and work out her emotions. Then proceed will the love and reassurance talk. Then if she seems to be cheering up shower her with hugs and kisses to make her feel special. Be silly and make her laugh. Then finally…go have fun! Take her mind of it.

That's tough. I had a Cancer FF and later a BF. FF had NO negative moods at all which is supposed to be rare for a Cancer. When BF would feel down I'd work with him, he was an artist, and he'd come out of his lousy mood eventually. I used lots of touchies and understanding kindnesses.
I agree with the above poster. Be a good listener, but I'd add a hug or two. It makes most signs feel better.

I cannot emphasize enough to not just reassure her that "everything will be ok," reassure her that her emotions are normal and meaningful and and she's strong and smart enough to get thru whatever she's going through and that she can feel safe and not-judged when she reveals her feelings and emotions.

My teenage daughters are cancers. I don't even know ³

Hilarious. Me and my Virgo friend were just talking about this. Her husband is a Cancer too.

For me, when I'm down, I do not want to be positive. To be positive, I have to expel all my negative. Lol and someone telling me it'll be alright... Makes me feel slightly like my feelings are invalid and I'm being too much... But it depends, on how they say it I suppose lol

But I really need someone at first who will be negative with me lol like "yeah you're right! That's so stupid! ef that person"

Then once I'm ready, I need that optimism.

And then maybe the person who's gonna spell the lesson out to me or give it to me straight to help me learn.

I only get this low when things happen that I can't control like... A boyfriend dumps you .. Can't change feelings lol

But I retreat a lot. I'll respond to you to let you know I'm alive, but for the just part I want to be alone (or destructive) and that's just part of my process.

I feel like every time I get that low.. It's time for a change. Time to change my shell to make me stronger so I won't get hurt again and that's I retreat until I'm there. And come out only to vent.

So I guess what I'm saying.. You can respond however.. But we gotta make up our minds to get out of our funk.

all answers so far are superb

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Posted by Scorpico
My best friend is a cancer, I'm a scorpio. I know her so well by now that I practically have a formula for how to cheer her up when she's down. Cancers are emotional and sensitive and when they sense they are being this way they retreat into their shell so not to bother anyone with their feelings. The main thing they need is to feel loved. And they need to feel like they are not being a nuisance or drag to anyone because of their emotions. And they need lots of reassurance that what they are feeling is normal and that they are actually special because they feel so deeply and that this time will past and help them be stronger in the end. But first, let her vent about what's wrong. Be a really good listener, don't respond unless asked a question, really let her reflect and work out her emotions. Then proceed will the love and reassurance talk. Then if she seems to be cheering up shower her with hugs and kisses to make her feel special. Be silly and make her laugh. Then finally…go have fun! Take her mind of it.

hmm you're not so bad, so your'e a scorpio sun which bytch slaps that scorpio mooon


you're ok with me

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lol cool. ill admit the dark side of scorpio moon is pretty nightmarish.