@Kodak
10 Years500+ Posts
That's a hard question to answer. I'm a Cancer Sun, Pisces Moon, Taurus Rising, Cancer Venus (love planet). Just thought I'd list my credentials 😉 lol. Personally, I look for someone who is deep. Superficiality turns me off completely. I study men for a while before I make my decision about if they'd work for me, but if I can't find anything deep about them, emotionally, it's a stone-cold no. Best friend boyfriend situations are preferred, because I want to be one and only, kind of have a desire to merge with whomever I love. Trust goes hand in hand with the depth I sense. If I can sense similar depth of feelings in a guy to mine, I'm already inclined to trust them because I'll know they're not wanting to get hurt by love either. There is no such thing as sex on first date for me, not even second or third. Sex is emotional first and physical second, and trust is everything. I'm especially attracted to men with morals, who treat me like a human being. As a Cancer, I tend to need a guy whose patient with me, and who is encouraging and supportive. Warmth and tender-treatment is one way to get me going, I love being needed. Compliments are only good if they're sincere, and often times have to be specific and even unique. A bland, "you look beautiful" isn't what I want to hear, it almost makes me want to vomit.
Hopefully this helps. Hard question to answer, we're good at reading people so, unfortunately, if you just aren't cutting it for some reason, there probably IS a reason, something as simple as a rude comment you made a month ago to a stranger or the way she seen you talk to your mother once when you didn't know it, but she'll never tell you. Don't push her, slow beginnings are essential to a relationship. That's because it's an emotional one she's seeking.
Humor is a nice bonus btw. Possessive partners (too a point) are hot 🙂 if I ever sense jealousy somewhere, i'd be smiling on the inside. A guy who is solid and steady, or easygoing is wanted, and one with a strong mind and willpower. I want to feel secure, and also even tempered men rub off on me, making me feel more even-tempered myself.
Reliable, funny is very important, music taste should be similar, creative, chill on the meds nobody wants to keep up with your drug induced ADHD convo, emotionally available, handyman skills, dimples, nice smile, honesty even when it hits below the belt.
That's what I have so far from my relationship trials.
Oh and a gentleman on nights of bar hopping.
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What does a cancer woman look for in a man? I see so many posts about cancer guys, I figure what's it like on the other side. lol