six4six
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interested and pulling away?
Anything? I'm all ears...
Not going anywhere... Yes I have a lot of fixed placements, no your words won’t go in one ear and out the other
She probably was interested of you and is assuming you are a player and party animal from your vegas story and the mark on your neck...most women might think this but definitely a cancer as we value security stability and loyalty....shes probably going into insecure mode....that means she doesnt trust you and ignites the crabby emotions.
Be gentle and sincere in your approaches to her to help win her back, she probably doesnt know what to think of you at this point...but cancers like "safety"
Be gentle and sincere in your approaches to her to help win her back, she probably doesnt know what to think of you at this point...but cancers like "safety"
Posted by MoonyEYES88
She probably was interested of you and is assuming you are a player and party animal from your vegas story and the mark on your neck...most women might think this but definitely a cancer as we value security stability and loyalty....shes probably going into insecure mode....that means she doesnt trust you and ignites the crabby emotions.
Be gentle and sincere in your approaches to her to help win her back, she probably doesnt know what to think of you at this point...but cancers like "safety"
Thank you for the response. I can certainly appreciate and understand how could she feel that way. I don’t think I’m a band person for going to Vegas, and I wish she would open up more so we could actually go into deeper conversations so she could actually realize there is nothing to fear in me going out to party every once in a while, or the fact that I love Miami scares her. I get she has a sensitive nature but if she doesn’t get to know me for me then she’ll only have a perspective rapped in fear and not a whole picture of who I am as a genuinely good human being. Things go so slow and she doesn’t talk a whole lot so it’s all very confusing.
As of right now I’m leaning towards going full no contact but i want to take a couple days of reflection and meditation before I make any kind of decision. Astrology or not, her being interested in my friend or not (he would tell me if she tried anything) it’s discomforting that her brain would even go there. What if we’re in a relationship and get into a big fight, where would her brain go then?
If I did go jo contact she would know exactly why and if she wants to reach out to me I’d be happy to hear her out. But again, I’ve made no concrete decision yet and am going to take all the comments here and friends input and my own reflection.
Although I’m not a sun Scorpio o relate very much to the stages of Scorpio and I’m very close to the transition to the Phoenix so I want to make sure I’m
Doing things with a clear and level head.
More comments welcome!!
This Vegas trip more than likely made her overthink what you were doing there.. like if you slept around and were a general party animal that’d be a turn off. I get men need their guys nights but cancerians need security beforehand when courting someone.
Cancers walk sideways, I don’t think she’ll ever confront you head on about her feelings, plus she’s earth dominant it sounds like.. if she ever does confront you expect to be waiting awhile. Maybe look for a fire dominant cancer, even a fire moon/merc would help if you want someone that’s not going to expect you to pull answers out of them. Honestly? I’d leave it be and move on.
Cancers walk sideways, I don’t think she’ll ever confront you head on about her feelings, plus she’s earth dominant it sounds like.. if she ever does confront you expect to be waiting awhile. Maybe look for a fire dominant cancer, even a fire moon/merc would help if you want someone that’s not going to expect you to pull answers out of them. Honestly? I’d leave it be and move on.
Lol it’s funny to me that you say cancers move slow. But she’s dropping mad hints wanting to go out with you.
Your response? Crickets.
But your fine talking about your Vegas partying. Smh your confused. Only one moving slow here is you. Like glacier slow pre global warming.
Your response? Crickets.
But your fine talking about your Vegas partying. Smh your confused. Only one moving slow here is you. Like glacier slow pre global warming.
FYI I’m Venus in Taurus and if a dude flirts with me but doesn’t make a move I write him off long before a month passes.
Posted by haunt
This Vegas trip more than likely made her overthink what you were doing there.. like if you slept around and were a general party animal that’d be a turn off. I get men need their guys nights but cancerians need security beforehand when courting someone.
Cancers walk sideways, I don’t think she’ll ever confront you head on about her feelings, plus she’s earth dominant it sounds like.. if she ever does confront you expect to be waiting awhile. Maybe look for a fire dominant cancer, even a fire moon/merc would help if you want someone that’s not going to expect you to pull answers out of them. Honestly? I’d leave it be and move on.
I was thinking the same thing about some fire placements. I’ve dated quite a few Leo Venus or mars they’re always easy to understand.
So is that what it is..do some cancers or at least the more earthy ones expect me to pull teeth. I’m flexible but I need to know what I’m working with.
Posted by LadyNeptune
Lol it’s funny to me that you say cancers move slow. But she’s dropping mad hints wanting to go out with you.
Your response? Crickets.
But your fine talking about your Vegas partying. Smh your confused. Only one moving slow here is you. Like glacier slow pre global warming.
Do you care to elaborate? She drops hints but doesn’t speak words. Which confuses me so I don’t know how to interpret. Like I’ve mentioned I’m used to air signs and Leo Venus/mar. I’m naturally aggressive but I noticed that I scared her in the beginning so I slowed wayyy down intentionally.
Your right, there’s been at least two different times that I should’ve just gone for it. But she didotn seem phased by it and would even blush when it was obvious things were going very slow.
You’re right I am confused. This isn’t he first time she ka done something like the acting not interested either. The second time she gave me a massage I said “ooh another Miranda massage” and she did the masssage and said “okay” in a cold tone as if she didn’t enjoy giving me the massage. Hard to explain through text but o knew that she was trying to play cover up. I’m just not used to this level of passivisity(real word?)
The other thing that throws me off is only once has she ever smiled or looked excited to see me. Every other time she seems very unbothered by seeing me. So it sets a weird tone from the beginning until I get things moving a little bit. I don’t want to be insensitive if she’s shy or anxious.
Posted by six4sixPosted by MoonyEYES88
I get she has a sensitive nature but if she doesn’t get to know me for me then she’ll only have a perspective rapped in fear and not a whole picture of who I am as a genuinely good human being. Things go so slow and she doesn’t talk a whole lot so it’s all very confusing.
As of right now I’m leaning towards going full no contact but i want to take a couple days of reflection and meditation before I make any kind of decision. Astrology or not, her being interested in my friend or not (he would tell me if she tried anything) it’s discomforting that her brain would even go there. What if we’re in a relationship and get into a big fight, where would her brain go then?
If I did go jo contact she would know exactly why and if she wants to reach out to me I’d be happy to hear her out.
My dear...you are going about this all wrong....im sorry if this sounds blunt and no offense but she is a woman, she has lots of options and choices .....she has already formed an opinion about you based on your vegas trip and mark on the neck...this is what she knows about you, if you want her to know more outside of that stuff YOU are going to have to do the leg work to show her who you are, she doesnt have any need to further investigate if shes already made an opinion about you....
...also if you are in a relationship and get into a big fight then you are in a relationships and get into a big fight....she may try harder to understand at that point but you may never make it there if you dont win her into a relationship first....being in a relationship is not the same as being interested in something, theres no investment at this point from her at all and its easy to walk away this early, if you like her show her what makes you different from the other men. no contact this early will confirm that you are an unsafe choice and she''ll be glad with her choice to walk away. men pursue women they likeclick to expand
Posted by MoonyEYES88Posted by six4sixPosted by MoonyEYES88
I get she has a sensitive nature but if she doesn’t get to know me for me then she’ll only have a perspective rapped in fear and not a whole picture of who I am as a genuinely good human being. Things go so slow and she doesn’t talk a whole lot so it’s all very confusing.
As of right now I’m leaning towards going full no contact but i want to take a couple days of reflection and meditation before I make any kind of decision. Astrology or not, her being interested in my friend or not (he would tell me if she tried anything) it’s discomforting that her brain would even go there. What if we’re in a relationship and get into a big fight, where would her brain go then?
If I did go jo contact she would know exactly why and if she wants to reach out to me I’d be happy to hear her out.
My dear...you are going about this all wrong....im sorry if this sounds blunt and no offense but she is a woman, she has lots of options and choices .....she has already formed an opinion about you based on your vegas trip and mark on the neck...this is what she knows about you, if you want her to know more outside of that stuff YOU are going to have to do the leg work to show her who you are, she doesnt have any need to further investigate if shes already made an opinion about you....
...also if you are in a relationship and get into a big fight then you are in a relationships and get into a big fight....she may try harder to understand at that point but you may never make it there if you dont win her into a relationship first....being in a relationship is not the same as being interested in something, theres no investment at this point from her at all and its easy to walk away this early, if you like her show her what makes you different from the other men. no contact this early will confirm that you are an unsafe choice and she''ll be glad with her choice to walk away. men pursue women they like
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Thank you for this. No offense taken. I think this is exactly what I needed to hear. I need to go to bed but please know I’ll be thinking about these words in the mornong and will have some follow up questions to ask tomorrow.
Happy cappy full moon everyone!
Posted by MoonyEYES88Posted by six4sixPosted by MoonyEYES88
I get she has a sensitive nature but if she doesn’t get to know me for me then she’ll only have a perspective rapped in fear and not a whole picture of who I am as a genuinely good human being. Things go so slow and she doesn’t talk a whole lot so it’s all very confusing.
As of right now I’m leaning towards going full no contact but i want to take a couple days of reflection and meditation before I make any kind of decision. Astrology or not, her being interested in my friend or not (he would tell me if she tried anything) it’s discomforting that her brain would even go there. What if we’re in a relationship and get into a big fight, where would her brain go then?
If I did go jo contact she would know exactly why and if she wants to reach out to me I’d be happy to hear her out.
My dear...you are going about this all wrong....im sorry if this sounds blunt and no offense but she is a woman, she has lots of options and choices .....she has already formed an opinion about you based on your vegas trip and mark on the neck...this is what she knows about you ... men pursue women they like
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Yes I realize I’m sending mixed signals on who I am and what I want. It’s funny you mention the last part. Normally when I like a woman I get this sexual hunger in every cell of my body to consume and devour her entire being. I don’t get that appetite feeling with this girl. That doesn’t mean o don’t like her it’s just a much different, sweet subtle feeling with her.
I can sense a sensual erotic side to her a couple layers down I just don’t want to break/damage her, there is nothing cool and aloof about me behind closed doors but I’ll worry about that when we get there. It would be dumb to go no contact right now especially because I’ve caused part of the confusion. I’ll update after I see her next.
Posted by GC06
“As a triple scorpio I need depth and security. I’m very determined to date a Cancer”
In cancer women you will find plenty of emotional depth, but idk about security.
That part doesn’t come until a relationship/commitment has been agreed apon.
Most people don’t exactly have the patience for cancers, or so I’ve read. Maybe you should stick to Libras and Gemini.
I don’t want a Gemini or a Libra
You already seem to know where you went wrong, and it sounds like you're correct in thinking so. You can't wait with a Cancer girl. If you feel the possibility is there for something in the moment you have to act on it because she will probably be feeling it herself. Cancers feel emotions very strongly but can hide it, icy cold, man. In my experience, they're the girls who, if you miss your mark, you wont get it again and if they grace you with another shot it wont be as enthusiastic as before ever again.
I suggest you put your mind to rest and move on, it sounds like you're going in circles in your thoughts over a missed opportunity and regret. Accept it and move on.
I suggest you put your mind to rest and move on, it sounds like you're going in circles in your thoughts over a missed opportunity and regret. Accept it and move on.
Posted by moontide
You already seem to know where you went wrong, and it sounds like you're correct in thinking so. You can't wait with a Cancer girl. If you feel the possibility is there for something in the moment you have to act on it because she will probably be feeling it herself. Cancers feel emotions very strongly but can hide it, icy cold, man. In my experience they're the girls who, if you miss your mark, you wont get it again, and if they grace you with another shot, it wont be as enthusiastic as before ever again.
I suggest you put your mind to rest and move on, it sounds like you're going in circles in your thoughts over a missed opportunity and regret. Accept it and move on.
You saw my placements. I think, a lot. Lol
It’s been a misunderstanding and miscommunication. I need to give this an honest go without the bullshit in the middle. Will update soon.
We Cancers are overthinkers and like making assumptions (that's me at least) so without talking to you and seeing/hearing/knowing those details about you may have turned her off from making assumptions in her head. It's good to be slow with a Cancer but be aggressive from time to time, I think. I personally have had experiences when the guy's too nice and a bit slow with making moves and I end up friend zoning them. It's good to have a bit off aggressiveness from time to time.
Posted by _wtf_Posted by six4six
...then she start asking about a friend of mine..a friend I know she's not actually interested in so why would she do that? To hurt me? To see if I could maintain my cool face and not break? To see if I would get jealous?
I acted like nothing bothered me but I died. I couldn't stop thinking, "wtf is she doing, why is she asking about him, why is she acting like this, you're not fooling me I know you're interested"
Awww! You really like her! I think you're spot on with your analysis. She's thinking she's dropped enough hints that she wants you to ask her out and you go and share your Vegas story and she sees the red mark on your neck and now she thinks you're a player. Of course, she's going to go cold- she's hurt and that's why she declined your beer offer. Her asking about your friend is most likely to save face that she's not interested in you, but she really is. lololol
Be gentle with her, be sincere and show a bit of vulnerability. Tell her you like her and explain the red mark.click to expand
yea this whole thing has turned into a misunderstanding. Definitely mutual feelings, just need to get over this little speed bump.
Posted by allyouneedisloveandwine
We Cancers are overthinkers and like making assumptions (that's me at least) so without talking to you and seeing/hearing/knowing those details about you may have turned her off from making assumptions in her head. It's good to be slow with a Cancer but be aggressive from time to time, I think. I personally have had experiences when the guy's too nice and a bit slow with making moves and I end up friend zoning them. It's good to have a bit off aggressiveness from time to time.
I get it. Maybe I didn't explain the situation that well, I wrote it while I was in my feelings and maybe a bit dramatic. I haven't "not" been aggressive. Flirting is there (she doesn't talk a lot but its there) physical touch is there, she blushes a lot and has this sweet yet awkward vibe about her. None of that has been the problem and I'm 0% in the friend zone. It's just the asking out that has took some time. In the moment the saying no to my offer to get a drink and then asking about a friend really hurt and it threw me off, but I've learned that that is a way that cancers push people away to test/protect themselves so okay it is what it is, our communication style s are a little different but no biggie. I appreciate the feedback
Why not try asking her about herself? Find out what she enjoys, what she likes, what she listens to, what her hobbies are. Surprise her with some thoughtful whatever (flowers, trinket, date) that shows you paid attention to HER interests. Try talking to her about deeper things, see if she responds. You goofed with the Vegas trip bragging because she's seeing you as a player. Find ways to change her mind and see a deeper view of you. THAT'S what will likely catch her attention. If she was shallow enough to give a shit about your fun party trips or your money or possessions then she'd be a shallow basic bitch, but it sounds like those things don't interest her.
Posted by MoonArtist
Why not try asking her about herself? Find out what she enjoys, what she likes, what she listens to, what her hobbies are. Surprise her with some thoughtful whatever (flowers, trinket, date) that shows you paid attention to HER interests. Try talking to her about deeper things, see if she responds. You goofed with the Vegas trip bragging because she's seeing you as a player. Find ways to change her mind and see a deeper view of you. THAT'S what will likely catch her attention. If she was shallow enough to give a shit about your fun party trips or your money or possessions then she'd be a shallow basic bitch, but it sounds like those things don't interest her.
Woah, you’re like a true true cancer lol. Just curious what’s your mars/Venus?
I have a little bit. Our first conversation we talked about music but we didn’t go very deep into it. I can talk music for hours so that’s good idea to do that again. When I asked about what she does on her free time she said she’s kind of a home body and spends time with her sisters sometimes. This might sound kinda weird but that to me was kinda strange because no one does nothing all day so I felt like she didn’t want to share with me. When I asked if she still lives at home with her parents or with roommates she didn’t give me a clear answer so again I thought maybe she was hiding something or maybe she didn’t want to admit she still lives at home idk.
Yes I realize the Vegas thing was stupid. Maybe subconsciously I brought it up to see how she’d react, if she seemed interested I know okay she’s not as innocent as she seems and maybe she’s just not that into me. She didn’t care for the story lol which tells me she’s not that type of girl.
When I was going to ask her out for a beer the plan was to go to the beach after and hang out under a near full moon, I LOVE hanging out at the beach in general but especially at night and I imagine she would too. I’ve actually tried to plan that once before. Thanks for your response and I’ll update after I see her 🙂
Posted by six4sixPosted by MoonArtist
Why not try asking her about herself? Find out what she enjoys, what she likes, what she listens to, what her hobbies are. Surprise her with some thoughtful whatever (flowers, trinket, date) that shows you paid attention to HER interests. Try talking to her about deeper things, see if she responds. You goofed with the Vegas trip bragging because she's seeing you as a player. Find ways to change her mind and see a deeper view of you. THAT'S what will likely catch her attention. If she was shallow enough to give a shit about your fun party trips or your money or possessions then she'd be a shallow basic bitch, but it sounds like those things don't interest her.
Woah, you’re like a true true cancer lol. Just curious what’s your mars/Venus?
I have a little bit. Our first conversation we talked about music but we didn’t go very deep into it. I can talk music for hours so that’s good idea to do that again. When I asked about what she does on her free time she said she’s kind of a home body and spends time with her sisters sometimes. This might sound kinda weird but that to me was kinda strange because no one does nothing all day so I felt like she didn’t want to share with me. When I asked if she still lives at home with her parents or with roommates she didn’t give me a clear answer so again I thought maybe she was hiding something or maybe she didn’t want to admit she still lives at home idk.
Yes I realize the Vegas thing was stupid. Maybe subconsciously I brought it up to see how she’d react, if she seemed interested I know okay she’s not as innocent as she seems and maybe she’s just not that into me. She didn’t care for the story lol which tells me she’s not that type of girl.
When I was going to ask her out for a beer the plan was to go to the beach after and hang out under a near full moon, I LOVE hanging out at the beach in general but especially at night and I imagine she would too. I’ve actually tried to plan that once before. Thanks for your response and I’ll update after I see her 🙂click to expand
lol Pretty much! The perks of being born during a solar eclipse. I'm aries mars and leo venus.....basically someone not to piss off or betray while also being a sex kitten. Ha!
Damn, she has her shell screwed on tight! If you're persistent she might open up and start talking. Cancers don't trust easy so maybe that's part of her reluctance to divulge much. As for the vegas trip, yeah, she's probably not that type of girl, but that doesn't mean she's not fun. I personally don't like vegas that much but that's because I'm not really into partying, getting shit faced and gambling...plus I don't like crowds. Since she spends time at home and with siblings she sounds like a homebody type (nothing wrong with that).
The beach was a good idea, actually, but maybe the bar thing reinforced her idea that you're a player or something. Maybe she'd rather do something like tacos and the beach, or some other restaurant.
I'm curious, what do you like about her or find interesting about her considering she doesn't talk much and you're having a hard time getting to know her?
Posted by MoonArtistPosted by six4sixPosted by MoonArtist
Why not try asking her about herself? Find out what she enjoys, what she likes, what she listens to, what her hobbies are. Surprise her with some thoughtful whatever (flowers, trinket, date) that shows you paid attention to HER interests. Try talking to her about deeper things, see if she responds. You goofed with the Vegas trip bragging because she's seeing you as a player. Find ways to change her mind and see a deeper view of you. THAT'S what will likely catch her attention. If she was shallow enough to give a shit about your fun party trips or your money or possessions then she'd be a shallow basic bitch, but it sounds like those things don't interest her.
Woah, you’re like a true true cancer lol. Just curious what’s your mars/Venus?
I have a little bit. Our first conversation we talked about music but we didn’t go very deep into it. I can talk music for hours so that’s good idea to do that again. When I asked about what she does on her free time she said she’s kind of a home body and spends time with her sisters sometimes. This might sound kinda weird but that to me was kinda strange because no one does nothing all day so I felt like she didn’t want to share with me. When I asked if she still lives at home with her parents or with roommates she didn’t give me a clear answer so again I thought maybe she was hiding something or maybe she didn’t want to admit she still lives at home idk.
Yes I realize the Vegas thing was stupid. Maybe subconsciously I brought it up to see how she’d react, if she seemed interested I know okay she’s not as innocent as she seems and maybe she’s just not that into me. She didn’t care for the story lol which tells me she’s not that type of girl.
When I was going to ask her out for a beer the plan was to go to the beach after and hang out under a near full moon, I LOVE hanging out at the beach in general but especially at night and I imagine she would too. I’ve actually tried to plan that once before. Thanks for your response and I’ll update after I see her 🙂
lol Pretty much! The perks of being born during a solar eclipse. I'm aries mars and leo venus.....basically someone not to piss off or betray while also being a sex kitten. Ha!
Damn, she has her shell screwed on tight! If you're persistent she might open up and start talking. Cancers don't trust easy so maybe that's part of her reluctance to divulge much. As for the vegas trip, yeah, she's probably not that type of girl, but that doesn't mean she's not fun. I personally don't like vegas that much but that's because I'm not really into partying, getting shit faced and gambling...plus I don't like crowds. Since she spends time at home and with siblings she sounds like a homebody type (nothing wrong with that).
The beach was a good idea, actually, but maybe the bar thing reinforced her idea that you're a player or something. Maybe she'd rather do something like tacos and the beach, or some other restaurant.
I'm curious, what do you like about her or find interesting about her considering she doesn't talk much and you're having a hard time getting to know her?click to expand
Haha! Leo Venus one of my favorites! And that Aries mars 😎 You sure know how to make an entrance, deciding to enter our physical plane during a solar eclipse haha.
I don’t think theres something wrong with it, I wouldn’t mind someone who prefers staying at home. Or maybe I want to assume there’s more there so if I find out I was right o don’t seem like a fool cuz I knew all along. I know one weekend she went somewhere Thursday - Sunday but she never brought it up.
Actually originally the beer thing she had brought up we were talking about craft beers and she had mentioned a brewery she had been to. Originally I wanted to go out with her then but I could’nt because something came up. She’s an ipa girl which is totally bad ass to me. I feel like a beer or two would help her come out of her shell a little bit especially if she does feel shy around me.
That’s a fair question. I can just FEEL it. Subtle tension, subtle attraction, subtle comfort. She’s very caring and nurturing. She just has that whole vibe. Physical touching, motherly, etc. When we do connect and even if I am doing the talking it’s like she has all her attention on me. Sometimes it seems like she’s in her head a little bit, but she’s genuinely interested in what I’m saying. She does seem to like to know my favorite whatever we’re talking about. Like everything I share something she’s the type of girl to be ready to have my favorite beer in her fridge when I come over lol.
I wouldn’t say I’ve dated a lot of party girls But they do tend to be a little more outgoing and unhibited. This girl seems to be the opposite of that:She has that whole kind nature blushes a lot when I say or do certain things or even make strong eye contact. I have a very leo ascendant laugh and it makes her blush. That’s the other thing. She’s funny, not tell me a joke funny but naturally flowing funny. And her laugh, ugh. Oh and she’s BEAUTIFUL. Not like stick out in the crowd beautiful - she probably wouldn’t feel comfortable with that anyways. She always has her hair in a bun and glasses but she SLAYS all other girls. I mean, if that’s how good she looks hair tied up with glasses, I can’t even imagine how bomb she looks all dolled up on a Saturday night. And with that reflection, I think I just crushed on her s little bit more haha.
Posted by six4sixPosted by MoonArtistPosted by six4sixPosted by MoonArtist
Why not try asking her about herself? Find out what she enjoys, what she likes, what she listens to, what her hobbies are. Surprise her with some thoughtful whatever (flowers, trinket, date) that shows you paid attention to HER interests. Try talking to her about deeper things, see if she responds. You goofed with the Vegas trip bragging because she's seeing you as a player. Find ways to change her mind and see a deeper view of you. THAT'S what will likely catch her attention. If she was shallow enough to give a shit about your fun party trips or your money or possessions then she'd be a shallow basic bitch, but it sounds like those things don't interest her.
Woah, you’re like a true true cancer lol. Just curious what’s your mars/Venus?
I have a little bit. Our first conversation we talked about music but we didn’t go very deep into it. I can talk music for hours so that’s good idea to do that again. When I asked about what she does on her free time she said she’s kind of a home body and spends time with her sisters sometimes. This might sound kinda weird but that to me was kinda strange because no one does nothing all day so I felt like she didn’t want to share with me. When I asked if she still lives at home with her parents or with roommates she didn’t give me a clear answer so again I thought maybe she was hiding something or maybe she didn’t want to admit she still lives at home idk.
Yes I realize the Vegas thing was stupid. Maybe subconsciously I brought it up to see how she’d react, if she seemed interested I know okay she’s not as innocent as she seems and maybe she’s just not that into me. She didn’t care for the story lol which tells me she’s not that type of girl.
When I was going to ask her out for a beer the plan was to go to the beach after and hang out under a near full moon, I LOVE hanging out at the beach in general but especially at night and I imagine she would too. I’ve actually tried to plan that once before. Thanks for your response and I’ll update after I see her 🙂
lol Pretty much! The perks of being born during a solar eclipse. I'm aries mars and leo venus.....basically someone not to piss off or betray while also being a sex kitten. Ha!
Damn, she has her shell screwed on tight! If you're persistent she might open up and start talking. Cancers don't trust easy so maybe that's part of her reluctance to divulge much. As for the vegas trip, yeah, she's probably not that type of girl, but that doesn't mean she's not fun. I personally don't like vegas that much but that's because I'm not really into partying, getting shit faced and gambling...plus I don't like crowds. Since she spends time at home and with siblings she sounds like a homebody type (nothing wrong with that).
The beach was a good idea, actually, but maybe the bar thing reinforced her idea that you're a player or something. Maybe she'd rather do something like tacos and the beach, or some other restaurant.
I'm curious, what do you like about her or find interesting about her considering she doesn't talk much and you're having a hard time getting to know her?
Haha! Leo Venus one of my favorites! And that Aries mars 😎 You sure know how to make an entrance, deciding to enter our physical plane during a solar eclipse haha.
I don’t think theres something wrong with it, I wouldn’t mind someone who prefers staying at home. Or maybe I want to assume there’s more there so if I find out I was right o don’t seem like a fool cuz I knew all along. I know one weekend she went somewhere Thursday - Sunday but she never brought it up.
Actually originally the beer thing she had brought up we were talking about craft beers and she had mentioned a brewery she had been to. Originally I wanted to go out with her then but I could’nt because something came up. She’s an ipa girl which is totally bad ass to me. I feel like a beer or two would help her come out of her shell a little bit especially if she does feel shy around me.
That’s a fair question. I can just FEEL it. Subtle tension, subtle attraction, subtle comfort. She’s very caring and nurturing. She just has that whole vibe. Physical touching, motherly, etc. When we do connect and even if I am doing the talking it’s like she has all her attention on me. Sometimes it seems like she’s in her head a little bit, but she’s genuinely interested in what I’m saying. She does seem to like to know my favorite whatever we’re talking about. Like everything I share something she’s the type of girl to be ready to have my favorite beer in her fridge when I come over lol.
I wouldn’t say I’ve dated a lot of party girls But they do tend to be a little more outgoing and unhibited. This girl seems to be the opposite of that:She has that whole kind nature blushes a lot when I say or do certain things or even make strong eye contact. I have a very leo ascendant laugh and it makes her blush. That’s the other thing. She’s funny, not tell me a joke funny but naturally flowing funny. And her laugh, ugh. Oh and she’s BEAUTIFUL. Not like stick out in the crowd beautiful - she probably wouldn’t feel comfortable with that anyways. She always has her hair in a bun and glasses but she SLAYS all other girls. I mean, if that’s how good she looks hair tied up with glasses, I can’t even imagine how bomb she looks all dolled up on a Saturday night. And with that reflection, I think I just crushed on her s little bit more haha.
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lol Yeah, I'm so ancient I've figured out how to tweak a few things when entering physical. My chart wheel has a lot of shapes going on in it.
If she likes craft beer then it sounds like she's not against drinking. It probably would make her come out of her shell more.
That has the basics down on what you like about her. Hopefully you get a chance to find out what else you like about her in more depth. I like a good mystery 😄
Quick update: saw cancer girl Thursday and we made plans for Saturday night. We went to the beach grabbed some food and hung out there for a while. Conversation was better than before but any time I’d make any kind of sexual joke or joke about any kind of reckless behavior or something she didn’t seem very amused :/ nothing necessarily wrong but I don’t feel like I can truly be myself .
Went back to my place after to watch a movie hung out there fooled around a bit and she ended up sleeping here last night. No sexy time. Woke up watched World Cup (congrats France) cooked her breakfast and hung out at pool for a little bit after. Overall it was a pretty good time but I feel like have to really censor myself and I can see that becoming a problem unless she starts to open up/lighten up more. Like everything I say that has anything to do with partying or staying out late or anything along those lines seems to bother her. I really like her but idk if I can walk on egg shells for many more dates. I’m not going to give up on my pursuit of dating a Cancer woman but this girl might not be the one.
I met a Gemini last week and we’ve been texting non stop and the communication flows so smoothly. We’re hanging out Tuesday ( even though I said I was done with gems) so I’ll see how that goes and me and cancer will make plans for later in the week. Hope everyone enjoyed their weekend 🙂
Went back to my place after to watch a movie hung out there fooled around a bit and she ended up sleeping here last night. No sexy time. Woke up watched World Cup (congrats France) cooked her breakfast and hung out at pool for a little bit after. Overall it was a pretty good time but I feel like have to really censor myself and I can see that becoming a problem unless she starts to open up/lighten up more. Like everything I say that has anything to do with partying or staying out late or anything along those lines seems to bother her. I really like her but idk if I can walk on egg shells for many more dates. I’m not going to give up on my pursuit of dating a Cancer woman but this girl might not be the one.
I met a Gemini last week and we’ve been texting non stop and the communication flows so smoothly. We’re hanging out Tuesday ( even though I said I was done with gems) so I’ll see how that goes and me and cancer will make plans for later in the week. Hope everyone enjoyed their weekend 🙂
I appreciate your response but:
There were no conversations about me bragging or talking about being with other women?
And I specifically made it a point to make it more about her and her interests than mine (as per the advice from this thread)
There were no conversations about me bragging or talking about being with other women?
And I specifically made it a point to make it more about her and her interests than mine (as per the advice from this thread)
I agree.
You should be able to be yourself
You should be able to be yourself
Posted by DMV
I agree.
You should be able to be yourself
It’s weird, in theory I’ve liked the idea of being a really conservative woman, but if this is what that would be like I don’t think it’s for me.
Posted by TheWeirdOnePosted by six4six
I appreciate your response but:
There were no conversations about me bragging or talking about being with other women?
And I specifically made it a point to make it more about her and her interests than mine (as per the advice from this thread)
You are not attempting to understand her, though coming here is showing your interest, to go deeper you need to be more attentive and do more for her and stay closer to home, be smothering but not the guy who is direct all the time, but be direct with feelings.
What is wrong? if you want a Cancer, you need to put feelings and emotion forward or bye bye.click to expand
Because you were with us? I didn’t go into detail what our conversations were at 2am laying in bed. Again I appreciate your help but you’re making an awful lot of assumptions my friend
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