Last Saturday, the Cancer I'd been dating for 14 months, and I had another explosive argument (which often arises because things escalate so quickly). What started the argument was that asked me if everything was ok, and I said that I'd been feeling really depressed and low lately due to a lot of thing in my life (my mom has breast cancer, my childhood home was in a fire, and changes at work). I said that I haven't really felt comfortable talking to him about it because he threatens to break up every time we have a disagreement, and as a result, I have been having a hard time being myself and completely vulnerable around him. I also said it often seems that he doesn't like dealing with serious things. He immediately became defensive and thought I was accusing him of not being there for me. He then said this isn't where we should be after dating for 14 months, and said the fact that I haven't been able to talk openly with him is a serious issue as communication is the foundation of a relationship, without considering what about his behavior may have made me so reticent. Instead of responding with empathy for what I've been going through, he became immediately angry. When we were walking down the street, my emotions overcame me and I started to cry..his response was "are you really gonna do this right now?" I was in disbelief at his unfeeling response and said "fuck you" and walked away. A minute later I went back and he had already gone.
