Please shed a little light on a cancerians behaviour

I'm confused.... very confused....

So u guys have all seen my story..... my tears... my hopelessness.....

And i went ahead and told him that I love him etc.

This is sort of the response I got.

I'm 2 scared of all the drama etc that goes with you and a relationship. But we can sometimes see each other. Maybe twice a week for years. I find you incredible sexy and miss the closeness that goes with us. But you are never allowed to see anyone else or be involved with anyone else in anyway ever.

What the hell kind of response is that.... like he doesn't want me....He broke up with me.... but I am never allowed to see anyone else ever.... makes me feel like actually going on a date this weekend.

Posted by kalin
So his FWB deal is: exclusive sex twice a week no strings attached

its more then alots of people are getting, lol

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Posted by Pandora101

Posted by kalin
So his FWB deal is: exclusive sex twice a week no strings attached

its more then alots of people are getting, lol

OP must be that hot 😆

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Lol

Can cancerians do fwb...and closeness for years like he mentions....With someone they once lived?

Absolutely. I did it.

He thinks you are crazy but he would still hit it.

Posted by BlackMamba
lol he doesn't want you, but doesn't want anybody else with you

what a pig. sexxy tho

U find that sexy

We can definitely do FWB for years!!

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Posted by Arielle83
I get what he's saying.

He wants to be with you, but you have issues in relationships.

I don't know what those are, but it's something you do that makes him unable to commit.

Are u possessive? Clingy? Demanding? Obsessive? Insecure? Controlling? Etc.

That's for you to figure out.

He can have a sexual relationship with you, because his desire hasn't turned off; however, he can't get passed that because "of all the drama that goes with you and relationships."

I´d have to agree.

I think this is the exact same situation (or close to) I was in with a cancer man. It took me a long time to understand it, to understand what drama I bring to the table. Me, I´m extreme. Never really knew how much, although all my friends for all of my life have been telling me, but I always used to think, that they wee being pussies! 😄
But now, after having had some sort of relationship (not a relationship-relationship) for almost 4 years, I FINALLY get it.
I lost him because of this.

You are very much allowed to take a long hard look at yourself and your life and what you want out of it - if you want to try and change and be the woman, he wants, or if you´re not up for that task. And you are also very much allowed to chose going after a relationship with somebody else, if that is what you want. This is a hard decision, so really think about it, is my advice.

I hate you. You're possibly the worst poster on crab board. everything you write i just want to scratch my face off

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LOL! Knuckleheads are irritating.

Posted by BlackMamba

Posted by thinktoomuch

Posted by Arielle83
I get what he's saying.

He wants to be with you, but you have issues in relationships.

I don't know what those are, but it's something you do that makes him unable to commit.

Are u possessive? Clingy? Demanding? Obsessive? Insecure? Controlling? Etc.

That's for you to figure out.

He can have a sexual relationship with you, because his desire hasn't turned off; however, he can't get passed that because "of all the drama that goes with you and relationships."

I´d have to agree.

I think this is the exact same situation (or close to) I was in with a cancer man. It took me a long time to understand it, to understand what drama I bring to the table. Me, I´m extreme. Never really knew how much, although all my friends for all of my life have been telling me, but I always used to think, that they wee being pussies! 😄
But now, after having had some sort of relationship (not a relationship-relationship) for almost 4 years, I FINALLY get it.
I lost him because of this.

You are very much allowed to take a long hard look at yourself and your life and what you want out of it - if you want to try and change and be the woman, he wants, or if you´re not up for that task. And you are also very much allowed to chose going after a relationship with somebody else, if that is what you want. This is a hard decision, so really think about it, is my advice.

I hate you. You're possibly the worst poster on crab board. everything you write i just want to scratch my face off

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I'm peeing my pants lol'ing

OP, he's breaking your heart. Just let it finish being broken and move on. Here's why:

Nerd science alert: Women generally cannot have sex and not develop feelings. Our hormones pump out oxytocin (Mushy I love you) and dopamine (Hot damn that was good!) when we have sex. Women get hit with a shit ton of oxy, men get hit with a shit ton of dopa. You'll keep being in love, and he'll keep like having sex.

Wow what an asshat!

You give him your declaration of love and his response is to offer up a fwb, where YOU are expected to remain exclusive. Notice HE never agreed to be exclusive with you in return.

So basically he wants to keep you on a shelf and take you down from time to time to play with you in between playing with his OTHER toys.

This is bs. You need to tell him that shit won't fly. Plenty of men would love to be in a relationship with you and if he isn't one of them he can't have his cake and eat it too.

Fuck him. You deserve better!!

Posted by cappygirl11
I'm 2 scared of all the drama etc that goes with you and a relationship. But we can sometimes see each other. Maybe twice a week for years. I find you incredible sexy and miss the closeness that goes with us. But you are never allowed to see anyone else or be involved with anyone else in anyway ever.

So much bullshit, unbelievable how women fall for it.

He disses you by saying he doesn't want a relationship with you then he pours just a little sugar so you overlook this and keep dropping your panties.

Unless you are dating Christian Grey..just stop. And if you are dating Christian Grey..well if that's how you roll, power to you.

Also, the "Drama" thing is something you need to address with yourself.

Ok what I said was actually a summary of a 3 page message.....
He also said he is scared of getting hurt.... i have done it to many times.

Actually I never hurt him.... He hurts himself.... He over analyses what is been said and done. Saying no I can't see you this weekend....doesn't mean I have a second or third person lined up to be seeing that weekend... I means I got family issues etc.... He was take it a heart breaking rejection and sulk. Question any plans he is making for the both of us means I'm not trusting him and he needs to sulk.

Maybe I should list the positives:

3 months ago he ended our 4 year relationship and was so angry he said don't ever call me or contact me again.... now he is the one finding excuses to contact me.

1 month ago he wasn't sure if he would ever see me again....now he wants to see me...

A few weeks ago he was all iron fisted....now he is talking about being scared of getting hurt....

"A fortnight ago I had no army. A year ago I had no dragons."

Let's see what happens in 2 weeks