My cancer boyfriend and I haven't spoken in 2 weeks - is he testing me or retreated to his shell? (Page 2)

Posted by boxcarmirnta
Slow and steady wins the race..with my case however.I did it all and he still wont talk to me..hes just fake nice to me in public.

I'm finally talking to mine again, but i'm not gonna get my hopes up. Gotta do me and my girls first. How long has yours been in his shell for?

A couple months. The longest. Hes very upset with me.

Posted by boxcarmirnta
Slow and steady wins the race..with my case however.I did it all and he still wont talk to me..hes just fake nice to me in public.

We also tend to be nice when we are never going to call someone back or not interested in them at all. WE sort of put ourselves in your place and think your feelings will be hurt if we are truthful to you. Based on a Cancer's niceness, you can never tell their motivation. I hold doors for women, let them go into elevators first etc. That's just purely good manners and occasionally I have had women completely misunderstand those gestures.

Posted by boxcarmirnta
A couple months. The longest. Hes very upset with me.

He is not going to come back, don't live in false hope.

Posted by incandescentcancer

Posted by boxcarmirnta
Slow and steady wins the race..with my case however.I did it all and he still wont talk to me..hes just fake nice to me in public.

We also tend to be nice when we are never going to call someone back or not interested in them at all. WE sort of put ourselves in your place and think your feelings will be hurt if we are truthful to you. Based on a Cancer's niceness, you can never tell their motivation. I hold doors for women, let them go into elevators first etc. That's just purely good manners and occasionally I have had women completely misunderstand those gestures.

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I'd rather the ugly truth any day lol! 😉

Posted by incandescentcancer

Posted by boxcarmirnta
A couple months. The longest. Hes very upset with me.

He is not going to come back, don't live in false hope.

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Oh, this makes me sad to hear. 😢
But I thought most Cancerians come back for one reason or another?

Posted by Jkats

Posted by incandescentcancer

Posted by boxcarmirnta
Slow and steady wins the race..with my case however.I did it all and he still wont talk to me..hes just fake nice to me in public.

We also tend to be nice when we are never going to call someone back or not interested in them at all. WE sort of put ourselves in your place and think your feelings will be hurt if we are truthful to you. Based on a Cancer's niceness, you can never tell their motivation. I hold doors for women, let them go into elevators first etc. That's just purely good manners and occasionally I have had women completely misunderstand those gestures.

I'd rather the ugly truth any day lol! 😉

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That's you, that's not us. Water signs will take false hope over hard logical truth, that's been my observation.

Posted by Jkats

Posted by incandescentcancer

Posted by boxcarmirnta
A couple months. The longest. Hes very upset with me.

He is not going to come back, don't live in false hope.

Oh, this makes me sad to hear. 😢
But I thought most Cancerians come back for one reason or another?

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Sure, 2 years from now one evening when he is reminiscing about 2015 he will remember her and maybe call her. That's the kind of thing we do, it's not really interest in you but the nostalgia of the moment we are trying to recapture. Cancers want their moments back, not you, you were just the prop.

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Posted by Jkats

Posted by incandescentcancer

Posted by boxcarmirnta
Slow and steady wins the race..with my case however.I did it all and he still wont talk to me..hes just fake nice to me in public.

We also tend to be nice when we are never going to call someone back or not interested in them at all. WE sort of put ourselves in your place and think your feelings will be hurt if we are truthful to you. Based on a Cancer's niceness, you can never tell their motivation. I hold doors for women, let them go into elevators first etc. That's just purely good manners and occasionally I have had women completely misunderstand those gestures.

I'd rather the ugly truth any day lol! 😉

That's you, that's not us. Water signs will take false hope over hard logical truth, that's been my observation.

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You Cancerians are SO complex!

Posted by incandescentcancer

Posted by Jkats

Posted by incandescentcancer

Posted by boxcarmirnta
A couple months. The longest. Hes very upset with me.

He is not going to come back, don't live in false hope.

Oh, this makes me sad to hear. 😢
But I thought most Cancerians come back for one reason or another?

Sure, 2 years from now one evening when he is reminiscing about 2015 he will remember her and maybe call her. That's the kind of thing we do, it's not really interest in you but the nostalgia of the moment we are trying to recapture. Cancers want their moments back, not you, you were just the prop.

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Ouch, that hurts! I feel bad for the recipient of these actions, because it may give them false hopes.

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Posted by incandescentcancer

Posted by Jkats

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Posted by boxcarmirnta
A couple months. The longest. Hes very upset with me.

He is not going to come back, don't live in false hope.

Oh, this makes me sad to hear. 😢
But I thought most Cancerians come back for one reason or another?

Sure, 2 years from now one evening when he is reminiscing about 2015 he will remember her and maybe call her. That's the kind of thing we do, it's not really interest in you but the nostalgia of the moment we are trying to recapture. Cancers want their moments back, not you, you were just the prop.

Ouch, that hurts! I feel bad for the recipient of these actions, because it may give them false hopes.

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You asked for the cold hard truth.

I'm not worried at all..i really just want my stuff back..and am waiting for him to be decent enough to give it to me. Hes holding onto it prolly to keep some connection open. But at this point the only thong that would make me go back to him is if he grew up stepped up to the plate and treated me with the respect and care I deserve.

Also if he EVER gave a shit about my feelings he wouldn't have put the wringer like he did...and he's still in love with ex, and would prolly go back to her after like 2years..so HEY!! There's always hope ladies..hahahaa 😛

*thing not thong..but perhaps if he wore a thong..i may return..🙂

Posted by boxcarmirnta
I'm not worried at all..i really just want my stuff back..and am waiting for him to be decent enough to give it to me. Hes holding onto it prolly to keep some connection open. But at this point the only thong that would make me go back to him is if he grew up stepped up to the plate and treated me with the respect and care I deserve.

Ahhh, you're the one whose ex is holding your stuff hostage. That said, it's almost certain that you did something that you're not telling us for which he is trying to get back at you.

Posted by boxcarmirnta
Also if he EVER gave a shit about my feelings he wouldn't have put the wringer like he did...and he's still in love with ex, and would prolly go back to her after like 2years..so HEY!! There's always hope ladies..hahahaa 😛

Things are never that one sided, you probably did something to piss him off too.

I already admitted what I did and apologized profusely...its no longer my problem.

Posted by boxcarmirnta
I already admitted what I did and apologized profusely...its no longer my problem.

LOL, just because you admitted fault doesn't mean he has to instantly forgive you. What kind of logic is that? He will get there when he gets there.

Instantly my ass ...ive done everything a person can do...and I'm a really loving caring compassionate person. He has issues he has to deal with that have nothing to do with me. He threw away the best thing he's ever gonna get. Everyone has flaws..we're human. He fucked up many times and I forgave him..but he's a hypocrite. There is nothing else I can do. And I want my stuff back.

Posted by boxcarmirnta
Instantly my ass ...ive done everything a person can do...and I'm a really loving caring compassionate person. He has issues he has to deal with that have nothing to do with me. He threw away the best thing he's ever gonna get. Everyone has flaws..we're human. He fucked up many times and I forgave him..but he's a hypocrite. There is nothing else I can do. And I want my stuff back.

If you read through what you wrote, you will realize that you come across as both pompous and bitter. "Best thing he's ever gonna get".....really? lol

I hope you get your stuff back. Fact is that both of you have issues, at the moment you aren't willing to see yours.

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Posted by boxcarmirnta
I already admitted what I did and apologized profusely...its no longer my problem.

LOL, just because you admitted fault doesn't mean he has to instantly forgive you. What kind of logic is that? He will get there when he gets there.

True, I did something really fucked and my scorpio didn't forgive me for two months!!!

I was on my knees so much those two months just to get him to look me in the eyes.

Damn scorpio punishment. He still brings it up!!!

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On your knees....exactly how I like my apologies to be give to me.....lol 😛

Posted by Jkats

Posted by incandescentcancer

Posted by boxcarmirnta
Slow and steady wins the race..with my case however.I did it all and he still wont talk to me..hes just fake nice to me in public.

We also tend to be nice when we are never going to call someone back or not interested in them at all. WE sort of put ourselves in your place and think your feelings will be hurt if we are truthful to you. Based on a Cancer's niceness, you can never tell their motivation. I hold doors for women, let them go into elevators first etc. That's just purely good manners and occasionally I have had women completely misunderstand those gestures.

I'd rather the ugly truth any day lol! 😉

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Jkats, your cancers actions/non-actions are telling you the ugly truth, you just wont listen 🙂

Posted by incandescentcancer

Posted by boxcarmirnta
Instantly my ass ...ive done everything a person can do...and I'm a really loving caring compassionate person. He has issues he has to deal with that have nothing to do with me. He threw away the best thing he's ever gonna get. Everyone has flaws..we're human. He fucked up many times and I forgave him..but he's a hypocrite. There is nothing else I can do. And I want my stuff back.

If you read through what you wrote, you will realize that you come across as both pompous and bitter. "Best thing he's ever gonna get".....really? lol

I hope you get your stuff back. Fact is that both of you have issues, at the moment you aren't willing to see yours.

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you dont know my story..only the tail end where I've reached my limit. And I'm glad I'm strong and have survived this bullshit cuz I dealt with a lot...and yes without a doubt I am the most loving forgiving person he'll ever find, he just doesn't appreciate it and its his loss. I'm proud to have finally moved past him.

Posted by thinktoomuch
... So what I wanted to say was: that behaviour is very confusing. Especially if one has already dated you and the nice things meant one thing. When you do them again as a friend, it gets very confusing, and so you get yourselves in these shitty, dramatic situations.

Thinktoomuch, I sincerely think your cancer is scared of you, because you are very probably mentally superior to him (very intelligent and articulate posts) and a bit too intensive (when it comes to him) maybe ha cannot handle it without feeling inferior or vulnerable...... maybe he cannot make sense of you, dont understand you and thinks you dont love him in a gentle loving manner, know what i mean? your razor-sharp intellect and intense actions may make him not adecvate?

lets assured, he will never have a girl like you...... and he knows it

Posted by Pandora101

Posted by thinktoomuch
... So what I wanted to say was: that behaviour is very confusing. Especially if one has already dated you and the nice things meant one thing. When you do them again as a friend, it gets very confusing, and so you get yourselves in these shitty, dramatic situations.

Thinktoomuch, I sincerely think your cancer is scared of you, because you are very probably mentally superior to him (very intelligent and articulate posts) and a bit too intensive (when it comes to him) maybe ha cannot handle it without feeling inferior or vulnerable...... maybe he cannot make sense of you, dont understand you and thinks you dont love him in a gentle loving manner, know what i mean? your razor-sharp intellect and intense actions may make him not adecvate?

lets assured, he will never have a girl like you...... and he knows it

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you know, next time he helps you balancing on steps by holding your hand, say with a wide sincere smile and sparkles in your eyes: it was very nice of you, I appreciate it, you deserve a kiss (but in a very feminine and mellow manner, and plant a kiss on his cheek, just a quick shy one........ like you are a reserved romantic, which you are, just you dont let this side of you come accross - our heads are messing with us, dont let them🙂 🙂