Need an Opinion Please

How do you really know if a Cancer male cares for you? How do you know if it's more than just sex? The chemistry is so strong I can't keep my hands off him. Everything I read about a Cancer Male has been very true...the shell and soft underneath. Or is that just a man thing? He is soooo moody, hard to read. Acts like he can't wait to see me or talk to me....then...he is soooo distant, kinda cold. Been seeing him for 8 months, but he travels, don't get to see him very much. We always see each other when he is home. How do I know...I am falling for him and need some advise. Any test I can use to see or know how he feels. Would love to hear everyone's opinion, especially you men.

Thanks

Here I am. I am a cancer male. I know myself, that I test the waters, and make sure it is safe to "come out to play". We cancers, get our hearts broken so easily, that we must feel safe, secure and above all TRUST, which is sacred to us. The ultimate. If I am intimate with someone, and want to see and spend time with them, talk to them, then I am very interested. But before I I let my emotions go any furthur, I have to make sure I am safe with the person, I trust them, and that they won't hurt me. It's all about security. If all these elements are in place, you will REALLY see a cancer shine! Sex will be the greatest, you will have a loyal and trustworthy friend, full of comfort and love. I hope this has helped. Just remember TRUST is the key word. Good luck!

Thanks, I always listen to good advise from everyone then make my own decesions. I think TRUST is important to everyone, both male and female. It's really about if the person is worth taking the chance on, taking the RISK. Down deep we never know how it will turn out. When I am with someone, give them my time, over a period of months. I'M INTERESTED! Then comes the feelings, I care for them, get attached to the person and get scared! I've been involved before and got very hurt. If I thought he didn't really care for me and it was just all about sex...I would run now instead of later. How do you know? What are the signs?

Not exactly what you were looking for but I'm
going to ask anyway. This is my test if you want to answer
.
Where does he live(state)?
Have you been to his house?
Have you met his friends?
Have you met his family memebers?

I ask for all good reasons.

Okay, I will try to answer...some are not just yes and no answers.

1. We live in the same town, known him for years, there was always something about him that I was very attacted to him but he was married, not now, 2 months til the DIVORCE. He is and has been in the Military reserve for many years...since 9-11 he has been gone a lot. But I see him when he comes home...I have to share him with his children...which is fine for me...I wouldn't think much of him if he didn't spend time with them.

2. He lost his house to the ex-wife...so he is gonna have to buy another when he is here and more stable with his time. No reason to have one if he's not here all the time.

3. yes met several of his friends he works with....also we live in a small town...the gossip is out about us.

4. Yes met the kids...older one is friends with mine...but the children are still very upset about the divorce and we are trying to keep a low profile if ya know what I mean. Don't want to upset them...will take time for them to adjust...the older one has always liked me. Not met his Mom or bothers yet.When he is home, I see him and then he spends the rest of his time with the kids.

Problem now...I am afraid to trust him, I have feelings for him and afraid I'll get hurt. trying to keep things a secret until every thing is over...makes me feel funny...like I am doing something wrong. Is that normal...or am I over-reacting. I want to trust him, he seems genuine about me, but cause he's gone all the time and we can't let too many people know til he is DIVORCED...I get this weird feeling cause I want to be around his family. Who knows? Maybe he has other women where he is...just doesn't seem like the type though. But you never know?

Sorry, didn't mean to write so much...I get carried away sometimes!

Thanks,
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