Need help regarding cancer guy

Hi. I am new to this forum. I have been reading a lot on this board about cancer guys and boy they are difficult. I have been dating this cancer guy for about 10 months. He is running hot and cold the usual. But more cold lately. I need to know if we are compatible. Any advise is greatly appreciated. I know I will have some more questions later. Here are our charts. I didn't know the birth time for either of us. I got the info on astro.com. I don't know if they are the most accurate. TIA.

His:
Sun Cancer 6??52'38 in house 10 direct
Moon Sagittarius 21??53'47 in house 4 direct
Mercury Gemini 15??25'17 in house 9 direct
Venus Taurus 21??33'33 in house 9 direct
Mars Sagittarius 2??19'08 in house 3 retrograde
Jupiter Virgo 28??00'25 in house 1 direct
Saturn Taurus 6??34'51 in house 8 direct
Uranus Libra 0??04'28 in house 1 direct
Neptune Scorpio 26??20'19 in house 3 retrograde
Pluto Virgo 22??35'21 in house 1 direct
True Node Pisces 24??31'22 in house 7 retrograde

House positions (Placidus)
Ascendant Virgo 21??38'41
2nd House Libra 17??37'43
3rd House Scorpio 17??43'44
Imum Coeli Sagittarius 20??37'17
5th House Capricorn 23??42'37
6th House Aquarius 24??27'30
Descendant Pisces 21??38'41
8th House Aries 17??37'43
9th House Taurus 17??43'44
Medium Coeli Gemini 20??37'17
11th House Cancer 23??42'37
12th House Leo 24??27'30

Mine:
Sun Gemini 18??23'10 in house 10 direct
Moon Libra 25??07'04 in house 2 direct
Mercury Gemini 15??29'10 in house 10 direct
Venus Cancer 3??47'35 in house 10 direct
Mars Virgo 20??58'05 in house 1 direct
Jupiter Gemini 11??01'37 in house 9 direct
Saturn Pisces 16??55'47 in house 7 direct
Uranus Virgo 10??54'24 in house 12 direct
Neptune Scorpio 17??50'54 in house 3 retrograde
Pluto Virgo 13??44'25 in house 12 direct
True Node Gemini 13??49'45 in house 10 direct

Ascendant Virgo 16??39'29
2nd House Libra 9??12'47
3rd House Scorpio 7??53'48
Imum Coeli Sagittarius 12??49'44
5th House Capricorn 19??26'48
6th House Aquarius 21??01'04
Descendant Pisces 16??39'29
8th House Aries 9??12'47
9th House Taurus 7??53'48
Medium Coeli Gemini 12??49'44
11th House Cancer 19??26'48
12th House Leo 21??01'04

I know 10 months have been quite some time but he travels a lot so I don't see him that much. And we've had some misunderstandings and there is not much communication between us. He doesn't talk much. He wants to know everything about me but reveals nothing about him. He is very secretive and needs a looooot of space.

^^^Lmao...grab his dick, hahaha.

Posted by gemigirl
I know 10 months have been quite some time but he travels a lot so I don't see him that much. And we've had some misunderstandings and there is not much communication between us. He doesn't talk much. He wants to know everything about me but reveals nothing about him. He is very secretive and needs a looooot of space.

Maybe he's hiding something. *shrugs*

Thanks IWIN32. We have been having sex the whole time. I just feel he is so clamped up and hiding in his shell. He is so afraid to show his feelings. In the beginning of our relationship like the first 2 months he was totally different. We went out to dinner a lot, saw him a lot more. He was more open. He even told me 'I want to be with you forever' again that was in the beginning. But now he sees me a lot less, talks less and just seems withdrawn. And we don't go out or do anything anymore. Two days ago he told me "I don't cry, I am not sensitive. I dress like a man, act like a man". But I now he is very sensitive, he is lying about that. Do you think he might be falling in love with me and that's why he is acting so different now? How do I open up to him more? In what way? Does this mean I should tell him that I love him? I actually do and would like him to know, but I am way to scared he will totally hide in his shell if I do.

The thing is I give him all the space he needs. As a matter of fact he is the leader in this relationship. He is always the first one to call or text. I never do, since he travels and works a lot and I don't want to bother him. I am not dominant or aggressive at all. He actually controlls this relationship. I am really quiet shy around him, it's strange I've never felt this way before.

my sister is a gemini and my brother is a cancer like myself. needless to say they really didn't get along growing up and never really saw eye to eye. I don't think that these two signs are compatible because of personality differences but this is just astrology! follow your heart! If they "run cold" don't take it personal it's just the way we are. sometimes he may need time to himself or he just has a lot on his plate at the moment. Just don't pressure him into anything they hate that! Also be yourself because they can spot fake a mile away and it turns them off. You will know it he is into you or not so don't overthink it. Hope this helped.

I am a cancerian and if i run cold i am not interested my heart is chasing something else / yes we need space but when a cancerian is into you BELIEVE ME they are there by your side / we don't play games we are passionate and live in a fantasy of love and "FEELING".. thats why we hurt easily! we are cold when we are switched off from you and its incredibly hard to switch us back on (getting out of our shell)! 😢 He wants to know everything about you so he can paint his fantasy in his mind! he reveals nothing because he needs to deeply trust your heart! once he trusts he is yours!

i have just started officially seeing a looovely crabman. i resisted but resistance was futile. the main reason being that unlike other men i've dated, the crab says what he means and means what he says and i have absolutely no doubt about his feelings which is based more on his actions than his words....i have trouble believing words.

i was at his with my daughter last week and he was really quiet. my daughter noticed too and we spent the entire evening trying to drag out of him the reason for it. personally, i was getting worried cos it unsettles me when there's a change like that in a man's behaviour when you're dating them.

anyhow, he insisted he just felt a bit deflated that day. couldn't really describe it. the following day he had trouble with his mobile and so didn't call as he usually does which unsettled me even more. when i did get hold of him he sounded so relieved. he said that after he'd been a little quiet the night before, he was worried that i would take it personally that he wasn't able to get in touch. he'd obsessively been trying to sort his phone out so that he could make sure i knew he was fine and that we were fine.

running hot and cold is a different thing altogether and signals something else going on beneath the surface.

i lived with a crab years ago too and there was none of the hot/cold going on...it was hot all along and when it turned cold, it was over.