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Posted by LunarMaiden
IC, are you saying you never planned for a seduction? You are pulling my leg aren't you? LOLNo, what I am saying is if I am interested in a girl I don't decide I will have sex with her on the 5th date for example. I let things take their natural course. I will however do my best to make the environment comfortable and enjoyable for her to get her into the happy place in her head. 😛
LMAO Happy place eh? So you don't find delayed gratification to be wise nor a turn on?
I am saying I am ok if it comes on the 2nd date or the 14th, as long as I like a girl we are good, I won't push her for anything.
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I'm glad you won't push, so if I say, "I know we are strongly attracted to each other but I don't feel comfortable going all the way just yet." You will respect that and not accuse me of playing games?
And let me ask you about your self control, if you are not ready for sex and she is, what do you do?
Posted by Sola
heheh, you're getting bashed. Its so cute.
IC is surrounded by women. It's like an angry orgy. 😛
Posted by Claro de Luna
Sick can be another word for awesome in the uk.
It's the same in the US and I wasn't sure which one she meant actually.
This thread is about to be a freak fest in T-minus 3...2...1
i've just deleted my profile from that online "dating" site where people are looking for fuckbuddies (i mean long term relationships), lol. Im sacking that idea as a place to meet someone. Its more fun here in DXP!
you've never been a woman. the rest of us have. our viewpoints are from the perspective of being female. you are a man. it's not a matter of being archaic. societies standards have always fallen in your favor, not ours. we're just acknowledging that the double standard exists which you seem unable to do. it's really easy for you as a man to say that the double standards don't exist just because you personally have never held those opinions. however, you're not every man in the world. and more men than not look down on women who have the morals of a man. just because you like more loose women and think that sex is all casual and fun and games and no one is judged doesn't make that the reality for the majority of women. you've never been on the bitch end of the double standard so you're opinion is really worthless as far as telling women how men react to them. you've never been in that position because you've always been a man.
it would be like a white person trying to tell a black person that racism doesn't exist. ultimately, that is a clueless opinion and the person who explains their viewpoints would be ultimately worthless compared to the every day experience that a black person has had to deal with.
Omg this!
Posted by Sola
heheh, you're getting bashed. Its so cute.IC is surrounded by women. It's like an angry orgy. 😛
He's the last of the male cancerians it seems. They all went *poof*. 🙂
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I fear he may go poof soon too. Ah well they are sensitive souls.
I'm glad you won't push, so if I say, "I know we are strongly attracted to each other but I don't feel comfortable going all the way just yet." You will respect that and not accuse me of playing games?
This is reasonable, if she is honest like that I would have no problems and most certainly not accuse her of manipulation. I have an issue with women who expect me to read their minds or string me along for 10 dates to get an ego boost and then say no. However I am clever enough usually to spot women like that and cut them out early.
Posted by LunarMaiden
And let me ask you about your self control, if you are not ready for sex and she is, what do you do?click to expand
I don't know what the hell you're talkin' about, I was born ready lady 😛. I wouldn't go out with a girl unless I found some characteristic attractive about her in the first place so I don't use sex as a test.
Posted by Sola
heheh, you're getting bashed. Its so cute.IC is surrounded by women. It's like an angry orgy. 😛
He's the last of the male cancerians it seems. They all went *poof*. 🙂
I fear he may go poof soon too. Ah well they are sensitive souls.
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LOL, I am not going to run away over a debate on an online forum. A debate which was reasonably stimulating really 😛.
Posted by Sola
Well he text me yesterday. He said he was having a night out, and he hasnt been in touch because he assumed that when i said i ws getting bad vibes from him, it meant that i didnt want to see him again.You told a cancer male you're getting bad vibes from him and then you have the nerve to tell everyone here that HE is judging you. wow just wow, I think my head might explode reading all the bullshit posted here. I have to give credit to you for winding everyone up here with a series of half truths and late disclosures.
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I think this thread is crazy...
I am so impressed incandescentcancer has argued his point for so long. I agree 1000%
Wow.. ladies
Posted by Sola
heheh, you're getting bashed. Its so cute.IC is surrounded by women. It's like an angry orgy. 😛
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ooohhh, orgies are interesting, angry or not 😛
yeah, in the end we have all given a pretty decent 2cents to the thread..thanks guys 🙂
Posted by LeoVirgoGirl
@Maiden
Agree w you 100% if Sola was looking for a sugardady. She should have posted as such then IC advice would not have worked but yours would.
My post was cut off, I had more. Oh well.
Listen, just before this thread dies out. I know it was only the 2nd date, but i was/am soooo into the guy. I dont care that he isnt typically my type, rich, dressed in designer clothes etc..i wanted to be close in that way that is only possible sexually. I loved every frikin minute of it..i wanted to cry and i wanted him to sleep over the whole night, i almost cried when he left. NOT because im desperate, needy, clingy..that was what i wanted to/hoped to get from it, and i did. What happened ultimately is that he didnt get the same out of it. Hence he became a coldhearted prick. I will think about this for a good few weeks/months to come, meanwhile im already at the back of his mind or gone completely. Dont you just love lifes little lessons?
Posted by Sola
Listen, just before this thread dies out. I know it was only the 2nd date, but i was/am soooo into the guy. I dont care that he isnt typically my type, rich, dressed in designer clothes etc..i wanted to be close in that way that is only possible sexually. I loved every frikin minute of it..i wanted to cry and i wanted him to sleep over the whole night, i almost cried when he left. NOT because im desperate, needy, clingy..that was what i wanted to/hoped to get from it, and i did. What happened ultimately is that he didnt get the same out of it. Hence he became a coldhearted prick. I will think about this for a good few weeks/months to come, meanwhile im already at the back of his mind or gone completely. Dont you just love lifes little lessons?
Yeah, I can rest my case now.
Well this thread has certainly been entertaining.
Looking forward to the next battle IC.
Peace and hair grease.
Posted by Sola
yeah, in the end we have all given a pretty decent 2cents to the thread..thanks guys 🙂
Hope you learned your lesson and will stop being a dipshit about these things.
hes 32 and im 30..tooo old for this crap!
Seriously? How disappointing. 😢
I get so turned off when a guy behaves in such a manner around this age range. Screams "manchild." Like hell I want to do anything with that. Not even fwb. I start seeing signs of a manchild and I take the hell off.
Posted by Sola
Listen, just before this thread dies out. I know it was only the 2nd date, but i was/am soooo into the guy. I dont care that he isnt typically my type, rich, dressed in designer clothes etc..i wanted to be close in that way that is only possible sexually. I loved every frikin minute of it..i wanted to cry and i wanted him to sleep over the whole night, i almost cried when he left. NOT because im desperate, needy, clingy..that was what i wanted to/hoped to get from it, and i did. What happened ultimately is that he didnt get the same out of it. Hence he became a coldhearted prick. I will think about this for a good few weeks/months to come, meanwhile im already at the back of his mind or gone completely. Dont you just love lifes little lessons?
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I know but I can never say whether someone means it as a compliment or pejoratively 😛.